Due in March 2017 - thread #3

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New thread for the March 2017 club!

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PRACTICE. In practice. Dammit #grammargeek

Yeah that's what i thought 😃 I've looked into it before i decided i was ok to ttc because the idea giving birth was freaking me out so much.

tutu I've just had my booking in appointment and been told I have to go under consultant for 3rd degree tear but it's only for an appointment after 20 weeks so nothing major. Although midwife said this particular consultant is all about c secions at the moment for some reason. I don't want a c section though unless I really had to.

neon my friend had her twins normally and did majority of labour without the epidural. By the time they got round to putting the epidural in she was ready to push so in hindsight probably didn't need it but they had to follow protocol. Nothing wrong with wanting a c section though if that's what you'd prefer. Like you say most twins end up being c section so may as well just prepare yourself for it anyway.

I had an epidural because I had high blood pressure at the end of my pregnancy. The not moving around didn't bother me once I didn't have a choice in the matter. Meant I could chill out and sleep while I waited to be fully dilated. was quite nice. Had to have forceps but only because dd was twisted funny in the end so I'd never have got her out anyway. I found my whole birth experience weirdly pleasant. The pain from.the tear was bad afterward but not unmanageable. Just difficult to get out of bed but that was it.

My booking in appointment was over so quickly. The midwives in my area are so disorganised. I never feel satisfied when when I have my appointments. Hoping to get my scan date soon as that's the most exciting part.

Dozy, I'm sure you'll be able to have the birth you want. When you say the baby was twisted was it the same as my nephew? He got stuck turning half way as he had been back to back so forceps were needed.
My midwifes aren't disorganised but all they did was my green notes, no blood pressure urine samples or bloods, I'm guessing they will do those at the hospital but I'm sure last time they were all done at the booking in appointment.

All they did were my green notes even. I really do need to proof read these posts the grammar, punctuation and spelling are terrible on some of mine!!

Oh my goodness it's 3.42 I thought it was morning. Off to bed I go...

Struggled to sleep properly too warm and couldn't get comfortable. Seem to wake feeling sick and it hangs around for a few hours.

Got woken up by drunk friends at 3 am AGAIN. Drunk people are really bloody annoying when you're sober

Tutu I think they should have done bp bloods and urine at booking in. You don't normally see a midwife at the 12 week scan part do u?

TuTu I'm not too sure but they said her head was turned to the side so I wouldn't be able to get her out. I didn't mind the forceps because my epidural was too strong so I couldn't feel anything which was also why I couldn't push but I could feel the doctor pulling her out.

tutu At my booking in appointment, the midwife just filled in loads of forms, but she did tell me to book an appointment with the practice nurse for bloods and urine, so I did that the next day.

PS They are supposed to take a urine sample at every midwife appt, in case you have a UTI but no obvious symptoms. And the bloods are important too. Could you call the midwife team to ask?

I had to pee on a stick at my midwife appointment, they tried to take bloods but my veins are too dodgy so I had to go to the local clinic.

Just waiting for an X-ray on my stupid foot!

I think I need to call and ask about the bloods for sure and I'm apprehensive about them not doing a urine sample as I am prone to UTIs (only in pregnancy) so I'll ask about that as well.
Super they always struggle to get blood out of me too so you can request to have it take out of the back of your hand, works a treat for me and doesn't make you feel as queazy.

I can't wait to give birth again, I think it was my favourite bit of pregnancy (that and wearing a maxi dress without Bridget Jones knickers), I think because pregnancy is 99% waiting but when you go into labour something is happening. I had a textbook labour and birth in the pool at my local hospital MLU. I have a 1st degree tear but that didn't require stitches and wasn't too painful and I was pushing the pram to my local cafe 48 hours later. I have it on good authority that I screamed like a banshee but I honestly can't remember the pain. I can remember my body pushing DD out, it was a really strange sensation. I also remember being really 'present' and holding back as she crowned so she came out slowly. I did try and hypnobirth but it all went out of the window with the gas and air.

I'm not sharing to gloat, I just want the FTM's to know that it's not all horrific! We had all sorts of feeding problems after the birth and I didn't bond straight away because I didn't truly believe I was going to end up with a healthy baby! All good now though and I have only just stopped feeding her since being preg

Neon the chances are you will need a c section anyway with twins, my friend was granted a c section for anxiety so you won't have a problem with twins

happygojo that's a really refreshing perspective thank you! I'm a ftm to be and I've only been fed horror stories so far!

I know FTM means "first time mum" here but it makes me think "female to male"

I read it like that too! Labour sounds scary but not scary enough to prompt anyone to jump ship completely, I hope!

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I'm dreading labour, I really want all the drugs but then I worry about epidurals because they take so long to wear off, don't they? And I feel like I'll just want to go home as soon as I can. I definitely DONT want a Caesarean if it can be helped, just a personal preference, know sometimes they can't be avoided. I need to do some reading I guess. My midwife reckons that often women with high BP have quicker labours which would be nice!

LRD Must be our feminist leanings I name changed for conception and pregnancy chat, but I can get rather ranty under my other username

I'm quite grateful that I'm not too worried about the labour at the moment! (Although I probably will as it gets closer!) I've been through hell with infertility and miscarriage and I'll swap the years of emotional pain for a few hours/days of physical pain any day.

Watch me eat my words when I have a horrific birth!!

I'd also much rather have a vaginal birth than a c section, the thought of having my belly sliced open and the recovery afterwards terrifies me, but I can completely understand the wanting things to be planned and under control aspect, especially when there's a good chance you'll end up with a c section anyway.

Labour itself doesn't worry me, it's the possibility of permanent injury and long term pain. I realise the chances of it are relatively low, but that's my fear.

I can cope with the pain of childbirth if it ends, basically!

Someone on here recommended I read Bump (sorry, can't remember who and I think the posts might be in the old thread) and I'm absolutely loving it!! Such a great book. I'm not quite finished but I'm nearly done and only got it yesterday, I just can't put it down :D. Don't get the kindle version though - I tried that first and it's unreadable, doesn't work at all!

It has definitely reassured me a little about labour but I'm not toooo worried about it anyway. I'd like to avoid an epidural if I can and I definitely don't want opiates but I'm trying not to plan ahead too much because I have hip problems and until I've seen the physio (same day as my scan - not long now!) I won't know for sure whether or not I can even have a vaginal delivery. I really hope I can but I'm not going to let myself get too upset if it turns out I need a section.

My only worry with a planned section is that they tend to book it in slightly early, is that right? So you don't go in to labour first? I want to grow my baby for as long as s/he needs and would worry about them coming 2 weeks early 'unnaturally'

I went into all with an open mind so I wouldn't be disappointed if things didn't go to plan so I think that's why I find experience positive. My epidural was taken out straight after birth and it didn't take long at all to wear off.

Tutu also your bp is important to get a baseline. Mine went up in pregnancy so it was useful to see that high bp isn't normal for me. It's back to normal again now so I'm hoping it stays that way this time around.