Thread #9 - TTC#1 grads thread - it's the final countdown

[PotatosMum]

Welcome to thread 9 of TTC#1 grads. Warning this thread moves fast!

Time is passing and our first few grads are nearly ready to pop! Nesting is in full swing and everyone is in awe of Bunch's epic organisation.

Anyone is welcome to join the journey regardless of stage, no TMI is TMI, no question is too silly, we're all in it together so just pop in and say hello

Team P - 8
Team B - 8
Team V - 7

August
11 Mor (Team Vanilla)
13 Bunch (Team Blue)
16 New (Team Vanilla)
27 Potato (Team Pink)
30 Pink (Team Pink)

September
1 Shelb (Team Pink)
2 Taz (Team Blue)
4 Nev (Team Blue)
8 DrWhy
12 Danni (Team Blue)
14 Soda (Team Vanilla)
28 Leonie (Team Blue)
29 Laurenrl (Team Pink)

October
3 Lisa (Team Vanilla)
6 Irregular (Team Pink)
8 Miley (Team Vanilla)
12 Indi (Team Pink)
13 Co5mo (Team Blue)
15 Planet (Team Pink)
23 Lillian (Team Pink)
26 Lara (Team Blue)
30 First

November
19 Canters (Team Blue)
20 Jam
25 Audrey (Stark) (Team Vanilla)
29 Elle

December
12 Feef

January 17
4 May
13 Ni (Team Vanilla)

February 17
15 Evergreen

Potato get them to commit to covering the costs of lost deposit if they delay any further. It will give you assurance you won't be out of pocket. I hate to say it but it sounds like they are intentionally delaying

So frustrating Potato. Do you think they are intentionally stalling?

Good news on your dad Bunch. Hope he's been ok this morning too. And fingers crossed Pip stays put a bit longer!

New~ that fall sounds painful. Are you ok now? I think a lazy day is perfectly acceptable!

Miley, I have baby brain too. Keep putting things away in the wrong place and then not being able to find them.

I'm 36 weeks today and baby is apparently the size of a cabbage patch doll. I think she has moved down a bit as well as she definite feels lower.

indi I am so pleased for you! Must be a huge weight off your mind. I feel so strongly that in 2016 women should have the choice.

bunch sorry your dad's been unwell again. And potato, bloody hell! You must be so fed up!

Thanks for all the kind words. pink I feel a bit better today thanks, had the day off work and had a long sleep! Will see how I get on, seeing the midwife next week so might have a chat with her about it.

Thanks canters, I agree we should definitely be able to have the choice over our bodies. I'm so relieved that she said I wasn't going to be forced in to anything. I've pretty much made my mind up on a c section but I'm not taking the decision lightly and definitely don't think it's the 'easier option'.

Potato I can't believe the shit you've been through with this house, I really hope they pull their finger out and you can move on Friday as planned!

Bunch good news about your dad, must have been worrying when you got the call he'd gone in again. Hopefully he'll be back on the mend again and pip can make an arrival once you're all settled.

Miley I noticed a bit of watery CM the other day thinking about it. Otherwise I just feel (sorry tmi) wetter than usual I too feel a bit brain farty today. I've also been living off left over sweets and cake from the baby shower so my child will be fuelled on sugar until the due date I imagine!

OH is having a bit of a nightmare. He's moving jobs to somewhere familiar to him and much, much closer to home. His old employer is being an absolute ball ache about it, trying to get him to pay back fees for a training course they insisted he went on and trying to cheat him out of holidays he's owed. He worked 3 bank holidays but instead of getting paid at triple rate, got double rate and a holiday back which is an option. They're now saying he isn't entitled to those 3 days holiday now it's really upset me how shit they're being with him. The general attitude of his old boss is absolutely disgusting and uncalled for. OH is the sweetest and has bent over backwards to help them over the past years.

Also, my cousin who lost her mother last week and who's baby was due yesterday has been told that they expect her to wait until next Friday to be induced if need be! Her mother's funeral is on the Thursday and she's obviously upset and stressed and wants her little girl here now. I really feel for her

indi I've told OH that we're eating healthier from now until baby is here as my sugar intake has been disgusting! Could murder for a bounty right now though.

canters glad you're feeling better today!

pink I'm so glad I'm not the only one. I feel so bloody thick at the minute, I couldn't actually remember the word 'bra' at the checkout at mothercare so just said 'boob things'. Bloody ridiculous. Also just remembered you asked if they were any good! I think she was great for measuring, but I'm really not keen on the cotton bras she suggested I buy. I like something with an underwire and a bit support, I feel like I'm 10 again and wearing a little vest. I know the slightly padded ones aren't recommended for breastfeeding feeding though eventhough they are nursing bras and unclip in the same fashion because they're supposedly uncomfortable for baby so I guess I'll just have to let my boobs have some a little bit too much freedom

Ah, Miley, your poor OH. Has he been there for a while? It must be frustrating because there's probably not a lot he can do about it - is it worth making a complaint to HR though? Won't necessarily help him, but might mean the boss can't behave that way to other people.

What a bastard Miley! That's so unfair for him to treat your OH like that. Can be file a complaint? Hope he can sort it out and get the money he's owed!
Once this cake and sweets are out the house I need to go cold turkey. It'll be hard becuase I've become dependent on sugar ( especially around the 3/4pm mark when I'm knackered) but otherwise I'm going to be the size of a house and the baby will be a 10lb-er

Hi all,

Dads back home and so are we. They think it was just muscle spasms but he did the right thing. He's off work until October but can drive from a week today. His prostectoctomy has been pushed back 3-6 months depending on results from an echo cardio gram when he gets it. Really sucks as its cancer and fuck waiting for it to spread but what else can he do?!
I've been in a foul mood all day totally caused by near constant Braxton Hicks and hideous watery cm having me run to the loo all the time to check my waters haven't gone. Ugh this bit sucks.

Miley I've been having it a long time, it always happens just after I pee, jus trough to make me think I've dribbled and always just after I leave the bathroom. Today is another level though. So sorry to hear that about your OH and cousin. What knobs.

Potato I can't believe it. What utter shits. I second the asking them to front the deposit costs.

lisa he's been there 3 years. He served his 3 year apprenticeship and 11 years time served at a powerstation which closed down and he was made redundant, but has been taken over by a new company and has been given the chance to go back there with all of his old colleagues etc plus it's 5 minutes from home. indi they're absolute gits. They offered to match his salary to keep him but he turned them down as the new job had too much to offer (more money, no more nightshifts etc) so they're making it difficult. I think they're doing it to pressure him into staying so he's going to get his union involved.

bunch it's good that your dad has been discharged but also shit he has to wait for his treatment now guess at least you don't have the operation weighing on your mind whilst in labour, but still...

Definitely mention it to the midwife if you are still anxious next week Canters.

Bunch, glad your dad is ok. I suppose it's a balancing act between the heart and the cancer treatment.

I'm stressing out about visitors around the time of birth. My OH's parents live about 2 hours away. They are talking about doing a charity event in September and staying with us (it's near here) which I'm not happy about - it could be anytime in September as it's not a fixed date, so if I go overdue baby won't have arrived yet and I'm not keen on having people stay with us when I could go into labour at any time. I want to be relaxed in my own home not worried my waters are going to break in front of people! Alternatively, depending on when in September it is, baby could be here but only a week or so old. I don't mind people coming for the day but don't really want people staying over when she is brand new. Am I being stupid?

Miley, for bras, I was looking at the slightly padded nursing ones from Mothercare. I hadn't realised you are meant to avoid padding I need something to support my huge boobs

Also sorry to hear about the trouble your Oh is having Miley. Has he got an email or anything in writing from his employer confirming that they would pay for the course at the time he did it?

Pink I'd absolutely say no to that. If they want to be in the area then fine, but hotel given the dates. What does your OH say? Hopefully he's on board and will speak to them - totally reasonable not to want excess people in the house though. It would really stress me out too.

Potato - that's shit, I'm really sorry. I wish there was something practical I could do to help, but all that'll help is them actually fucking exchanging! I agree with the costs issue though, this is absolutely ridiculous. It's been going on forever.

Hope your OH gets things sorted Miley. Some employers can be really crap with this kind of thing, but it's so unreasonable. People move on, it's just got it is. I hope he gets it sorted.

On the CM discussion, there's loads of it... Just, loads. Have definitely had it very watery and 'leaky' a few times as well, though not all the time luckily so far.

I feel huge this evening. It's been really muggy all day and I've about doubled in size. I'm not quite ready for her yet, but I definitely feel fed up being pregnant today and I'm only 30+5. Another 9-11 weeks feels interminable right now.

Oh, and Miley, I'm pretty sure that unless your OH has signed something agreeing that he'll have to pay back training course costs if he leaves the company within X time then they've not got a leg to stand on.

Irregular is right about the course cost thing Miley.

Thanks for the sanity check Irregular. I'm due at the end of August. I've told OH that I don't want them staying in the two weeks after due date (first two weeks in September) if she hasn't arrived by then. We've also agreed no one is staying in the first few nights after she is born. I think he thinks it would be ok though if she were a week or two old. I don't want to sound like a cow, I'm happy for them to come for the day but not overnight. I think having a new baby to look after will be stressful enough and I want some time to acclimatise to it. But I'm equally conscious that my parents live really close by and will be able to see baby whenever they want, so I'm trying to tread carefully with his parents as I don't want to look like I'm restricting when they can visit.

pink don't feel bad, you will either be overdue or just given birth. Definitely not time for "oh we'll come and stay" visitors. I know on threads I've seen people can be quite "everything equal for each set of Gps" personally, I think sod that! My dm changed my arse as a baby, wiped up my sick, gave me a love when I was tired, cuddled me when I cried and knows me back to front, my MIL (Although lovely mostly) is barking, and I mean that, absolutely barking, we will be expected to travel to see them (4/5 hours) Because it wouldn't occur to any of them to come to us, but do that, I'm grateful! I'd be firm, hotel and they can pop in/visit, but definetly no hosting!

miley they sound like absolute bastards! I'm angry for you/him!

Pink agreed on the no overnight visitors rule. That will apply to all guests just after baby is born - my parents as well! Visits welcome but no overnight stays, I don't think that's unreasonable at all.

Miley that sounds really shit about your OHs work.

Potato sorry the house saga continues, it's so stressful moving house.

Bunch glad your dad is ok but sorry about the cancer treatment being postponed.

Yes yes to massive amounts of CM! It feels like I've wet myself! Mine can also be quite creamy (sorry for TMI) and if I don't wear a liner it soaks through to me trousers.

I've had a pretty miserable day. I really don't think I have a very active baby. It does move but just not loads and it makes me worried. I had almost no sleep last night worrying about awful scenarios and today I was just so tired and hot and felt horrid. I'm now 34 weeks and have another month before I finish work - urgh! I've got a growth scan tomorrow so really hope that cheers me up and makes me feel better about things.

Waves to everyone else.

Have just had a chat with OH about it. We've agreed that he will be up front with his parents and tell them it's not the best timing that month (it's something they can do anytime of the year - cycling - and they have been thinking of doing it for a year or so, so I've no idea why they think it's logical to do it this September and ask to stay, given they know when baby is due)!

If they choose to do it anyway we will tell them it's not convenient to stay with us. My OH isn't backwards in coming forwards with them so that will be a good thing

Audrey, almost a blessing that they live so far away from you, although that's a long drive not long after having a baby.

I'm really close to my mum and know I'd always ask her for help first and foremost with baby, although MIL is lovely too, but I think as a woman you always look to your own mum first given she went through it all with you!

I've had BH on and off all day and baby feels like she has dropped - am hoping the midwife will tell me she is at least a little bit engaged at my appointment tomorrow.

For those who have CM, is that meant to be a sign of impending labour?

Soda, I've just seen your post. If it's worrying you you could go and get checked out tonight? I know your scan is tomorrow but there's no harm in going in tonight as well if it will put your mind at ease?

Bunch my goodness, your parents are really keeping you on your toes! Glad it wasn't more serious. It's a shame his procedure was pushed back, but he'll get in on that precious cuddle time with his newborn grandson!

Is the watery CM the next step after the mucous plug goes? Who would have thought pregnancy would be so glamourous.. It's a bit like knicker checking for AF in the early days I suppose!

Potato surely the exchange can't drag on that much longer! I really feel for you. As if you need any further stress at this stage in your pregnancy. Is there any recourse you can take for your troubles? I hope you've at least been offered a reduction in fees.

Miley that's horrible what your OH is going through. Hopefully his employer will concede quickly - surely they can't expect course fees to be repaid! I'm sure that wouldn't be part of an employment contract.

Pink is there anywhere else OH's parent's can stay? That is a bit full on to have them there full time so shortly after birth. You are well justified to object. Surely it's in everyones interest for you to be as comfortable as possible in those early days.

God I hope the watery CM isn't a sign of labour, I've had it the other day and I'm only 30w

Pink I agree with everyone else, I wouldn't have my FIL staying with me before or straight after giving birth. We live 6 hours drive away ( or 1 hour flight) from our families and I'm only having my mum around for the first week and then I've said to DH that his dad can visit when she is at least 1 week old. Then the rest of my close family will come to visit once FIL has gone home. DH is not that close to his family so only have to think about his dad visiting but I know it's tricky and you want to be fair. I think the woman needs her parents after giving birth, I'm sure your inlaws will understand you can't be having visitors at that time.

I'm feeling tired, grouchy and generally a bit shit. Going to get an early night, hopefully I'll be back to normal tomorrow

Miley that's really shitty of your OHs old boss. I hope your OH is standing his ground.
Also, how upsetting for your cousin but they are probably thinking of her health. There is an increased risk with induction so they probably want her to go into labour naturally if possible.

Bunch such good news about your dad. It's a shame about his other op but I guess they want him to be nice and stable first.

Pink so glad your OH is onboard with the visitors issue. I really wouldn't want visitors either.

Soda sorry you're having a rubbish day. Hopefully you'll get more sleep tonight and then feel better. If you're worried about movement it worth contacting your midwife/hospital and getting monitored. It's a pain in the bum but very reassuring.

So, I've calmed down a bit now. I don't think the buyers are trying to delay, I just think they're incompetent, anyway the deposits are all in place now but the buyers contract still hasn't arrived. Our removal company is collecting our stuff at 11am Thursday so I don't know what we'll do if we don't exchange tomorrow. Trying not to worry about it.

I have a midwife appointment tomorrow. Waiting to see if she says I'm engaged as my consultant was worried I wouldn't be able to manage natural birth if Potato isn't fully engaged when I go into labour. I think she is though and today having had hardly any CM all the way through I've started getting creamy globs so I'm wondering if my mucus plug is going, my feet and ankles have also decided to puff up into hams and I've felt vaguely sick all day
OH is now worried I won't be able to drive my car on Friday... I have to admit to not being sure about that either

Thanks pink and potato. Baby is no quieter than usual and is moving, I just think generally I've got a quiet baby so I tend to get worried about it (natural worrier!). I think I just need to really tune into their waking / sleep patterns more. Hoping for another good scan tomorrow morning to set my mind at ease.

I've just bought a sheepskin moses basket liner. I'm getting quite into this baby stuff malarkey. It doubles up as a pram/cot liner too. And the booties/mittens are beyond cute! www.baa baby.co.uk

baa baby

Well, no idea what I was doing at the bottom of that there! 🐑

Good morning everyone!

I'm off to get my whooping cough jab this morning. It's never been mentioned by my midwife, but all of you guys and my NCT people have talked about it, so I figured I'd just go through the GP and sort it. NHS site says to have it by 32 weeks as well, so I'm only just getting in there on time!