Thread #9 - TTC#1 grads thread - it's the final countdown

[PotatosMum]

Welcome to thread 9 of TTC#1 grads. Warning this thread moves fast!

Time is passing and our first few grads are nearly ready to pop! Nesting is in full swing and everyone is in awe of Bunch's epic organisation.

Anyone is welcome to join the journey regardless of stage, no TMI is TMI, no question is too silly, we're all in it together so just pop in and say hello

Team P - 8
Team B - 8
Team V - 7

August
11 Mor (Team Vanilla)
13 Bunch (Team Blue)
16 New (Team Vanilla)
27 Potato (Team Pink)
30 Pink (Team Pink)

September
1 Shelb (Team Pink)
2 Taz (Team Blue)
4 Nev (Team Blue)
8 DrWhy
12 Danni (Team Blue)
14 Soda (Team Vanilla)
28 Leonie (Team Blue)
29 Laurenrl (Team Pink)

October
3 Lisa (Team Vanilla)
6 Irregular (Team Pink)
8 Miley (Team Vanilla)
12 Indi (Team Pink)
13 Co5mo (Team Blue)
15 Planet (Team Pink)
23 Lillian (Team Pink)
26 Lara (Team Blue)
30 First

November
19 Canters (Team Blue)
20 Jam
25 Audrey (Stark) (Team Vanilla)
29 Elle

December
12 Feef

January 17
4 May
13 Ni (Team Vanilla)

February 17
15 Evergreen

Oh Miley I'm so very sorry to hear that. All you can do is be there for them and give them whatever help they might need.

Indi no sign of the health visitor here either at 28+5. I guess it just varies a little by area.

So anti D injection went a bit like this. Take blood...every thing explained again...jabbed (it hurt but not as much as I expected)...bled all over the room...cleaned up...sorry we should have looked at last week's results sooner...can you come back tomorrow for some more blood to be taken. Pffft.

Aww, Miley sorry to hear about your auntie and the timing is so sad. All you can do is be there if you're needed.

Was talking to DSS about mine and his dad's parenting style today after his mum told him off rather in-effectively for leaving a bit of mess in the living room and drawing a naughty picture on the shopping list in the kitchen. He informed us that he wouldn't cross his dad because he's scary when angry (all bark no bite lol) and wouldn't cross me because he knows that if I make a threat of punishment I mean it.
Nice to know he has a healthy dollop of fear regarding misbehaving around us we also pointed out that we have a suitable retribution in mind if he ever scribbles rude pictures around our house, he's now terrified and planning to inform his friends to behave If they come round because his dad is sadistic and his step mum is evil lol.

So sorry to hear about your Auntie Miley. All you can do is be there for your grandparents now you know, and help wherever possible. Hopefully two impending new arrivals will bring them some happiness in an otherwise difficult time

Oh Miley that's sad news about your auntie. There's nothing you can do but support your family and be there if they need you. Sending love to you all

Sorry to hear about your aunt, Miley xxx

Potato You sound just as insanely busy as I am! At least I don't have a child on the scene to be looking after - mind you, it sounds like you have that pretty well under control! The whole house sale and purchase sounds like such a nightmare, it makes me really appreciate the Scottish system, at least once I finally got a buyer it was fixed and committed to within a few weeks and no going back. Mind you, the sale went through on the 15th and I'm still waiting for the solicitor/bank to sort out paying off the balance of the mortgage!

Indi I'm also in Scotland, I'm 33+5 and no-one has mentioned a Health Visitor to me, for either before or after the birth. I think we have the midwife come round daily for the first few days then every few days for a couple of weeks/until you and they are happy all is going well. no idea if and when a health visitor might appear!

Bunch I'm really pleased to hear that all is well and baby is expected to be a healthy size with MLU still on the cards. I have my next growth scan tomorrow morning and the midwife has been telling me that i'm measuring big so I'm crossing my fingers. Yes, it's the Rainbow relaxation that's putting me to sleep, I haven't got very far with my affirmations - yes, maybe the shower is a good idea, DH and I drive to work together so I doubt he wants to hear them in the car every day!

Co5mo That sounds frustratingly inefficient!

Miley So sorry to hear about your Auntie, based on our experience when we lost Dad earlier this year I'd say that turning up with food for your Grandparents and or cousin would be good, Mum couldn't face cooking but didn't want to just keep putting pizza in the oven. Just being there for them, understanding that they will be randomly upset, providing hugs and listening are all good. Helping with anything practical they ask for or that you are able to do. Keep looking after yourself too though.

I'm shattered today despite getting a vaguely reasonable night, for some reason I developed really horrible pelvic type pain over the course of the evening yesterday after yoga - hoping I haven't done myself any damage and maybe Raspberry has just shifted even lower (he's been wedged in my pelvis since at least 28 weeks). I've got a scan tomorrow morning and then a midwife appointment so I'll ask her. It's awful, i've gone from happily walking miles with no issues to hobbling in pain like an old woman in less than 24 hours.

DH is getting more on board with the idea of there being an actual baby after this weekend's classes although he still doesn't seem very excited or actually want to talk about it. He says it won't be real to him until the baby turns up and I kind of get that. I can already feel an independent little person inside me but he can't. He did mention this evening that I ought to pack a hospital bag - I think he's probably right. I need to figure out what I need to take to help the relaxation and hypnobirthing.

Brilliant news bunch!

So sorry to hear your sad new miley.

Sorry to hear about your Aunty miley... My thoughts are with you all x

So sorry Miley x

Sorry to hear about your sad news miley

So, I know it's a first world problem but there is no way I'm sleeping tonight. I found a massive spider in the bathroom, so I went to find something in the bedroom to kill it with, in the process I found another spider scuttling towards my bed. I got so freaked out that I decided this was a job for the Hoover. So, hoovered bathroom spider then came to the bedroom to find second spider and nearly stepped on spider three which ran out in front of me. Got spider three but spider two has gone into hiding, so yep, no sleep for me

Im terrified of spiders and allergic to spider bites, I come up in massive hard welts that take weeks to go down and sometimes become infected. Last thing I need right now is a painful infected spider bite!

Hope you managed to sleep, Potato!

So sorry for your loss Miley. Thoughts with you and your family

Potato surely your solicitor can tell them to get stuffed. I know you want to move asap but they know that too and are just trying it on. Shit on the spider front. I hope you managed to bed down somewhere. I too am terrified of them but sounds like you at least have a reason. I'm not allergic and still hate them. I am managing to kill some now though. One accidentally whilst cleaning the shower tray, stood up and saw the dead body of a huge one under where I was kneeling. Ugh. I still shudder at the thought and it was a month ago.

Fingers crossed all goes well at your growth scan Dr.

I had my hypno refresher last night, it was lovely. I'm really going to miss my hypno coach. She's told me not to go with the sweeps and instead to get reflexology or acupuncture to encourage relaxing the body into labour. I'm game to try.

Potato you need to get the move hurried along for spider reasons alone!

Bunch - the kneeling thing - I can't even bring myself to imagine that! shudders

So... I'm fine, but have had my first baby wobble. I've spent so long being relieved that daughter seems to be taking after me more size wise (I am 5ft3 and dh is a rather larger 6ft8) that until last night I seem to have completely overlooked the small fact that she's still massively fucking oversized when compared to the exit point...

I'm almost back to burying this thought successfully again, but... bloody hell.

Yikes at the spiders Potato. I'd be a bit traumatised by the squishing of the spider too Bunch, not because I'm a spider fan, just because it's a bit gross!

Your exit comment made me chuckle Irregular! I think I'm blocking that bit out too, though over the past few weeks I've stared to worry about what size baby will be when she comes out and what damage it may cause to my lady bits We haven't got much choice now though, they've got to come out one of two exits

Bunch the problem with telling the vendor to get stuffed is that I've tried it already and their response was fine we won't move until the end of August then. I've also tried laying it on thick about pregnancy complications to that they feel like grade A wankers, unfortunately they appear to actually be grade A wankers so that hasn't worked either. OH and I have now discussed it and decided that as it isn't huge amounts of money we will back down if they refuse again because I don't want to be in the delivery room worrying about moving but we're both quietly seething and hoping that their vendors are evil and their new house is a wreck that's infested by spiders... Big ones with sharp fangs.

OMG you knelt a spider to death, I would be shuddering for months!!!

Morning ladies,

Potato sorry you're stressed about the move. They do sound like complete toddlers, I think you're right though..best to back down and not be stressing when your so close to D Day. I actually don't mind spiders (kneeling on one sounds hideous though bunch) but when I was away I became an obsessed crazed woman trying to kill mosquitos at 3am. Sorry you got no sleep, hopefully you can find spider 2 tonight and get a better night's kip.

Irregular my lady bits is all I've thought about since I got my BFP. My mum had a horrendous time and suffered for years afterwards (I won't go in to detail) which is one of the main reasons I'm trying to push for an elective c section. That said though, I still have wobbles that my body will never be the same either down there or with a scarred tummy and I've also been having that feeling of 'shit this baby has to come out somehow'..it's definitely getting real now!

Hope you're feeling better today dr, I may ask my midwife at my 32week appt about the health visitor thing.

I'm 29 weeks today, baby is the size of Barbie Convertible/Pineapple. I have times through the day where Beanie rolls awkwardly and my womb feels like a sack of spuds, I start waddling it feels so heavy. Also I have an itchy lower back, this may be from sunbathing last week and my skin may be dry or it could be one of those many preggo symptoms either way I'm going to coat myself in coconut oil as it's driving me mad.

Hope you all have a good day

Morning ladies,

Potato sorry you're stressed about the move. They do sound like complete toddlers, I think you're right though..best to back down and not be stressing when your so close to D Day. I actually don't mind spiders (kneeling on one sounds hideous though bunch) but when I was away I became an obsessed crazed woman trying to kill mosquitos at 3am. Sorry you got no sleep, hopefully you can find spider 2 tonight and get a better night's kip.

Irregular my lady bits is all I've thought about since I got my BFP. My mum had a horrendous time and suffered for years afterwards (I won't go in to detail) which is one of the main reasons I'm trying to push for an elective c section. That said though, I still have wobbles that my body will never be the same either down there or with a scarred tummy and I've also been having that feeling of 'shit this baby has to come out somehow'..it's definitely getting real now!

Hope you're feeling better today dr, I may ask my midwife at my 32week appt about the health visitor thing.

I'm 29 weeks today, baby is the size of Barbie Convertible/Pineapple. I have times through the day where Beanie rolls awkwardly and my womb feels like a sack of spuds, I start waddling it feels so heavy. Also I have an itchy lower back, this may be from sunbathing last week and my skin may be dry or it could be one of those many preggo symptoms either way I'm going to coat myself in coconut oil as it's driving me mad.

Hope you all have a good day

Morning ladies,

Potato sorry you're stressed about the move. They do sound like complete toddlers, I think you're right though..best to back down and not be stressing when your so close to D Day. I actually don't mind spiders (kneeling on one sounds hideous though bunch) but when I was away I became an obsessed crazed woman trying to kill mosquitos at 3am. Sorry you got no sleep, hopefully you can find spider 2 tonight and get a better night's kip.

Irregular my lady bits is all I've thought about since I got my BFP. My mum had a horrendous time and suffered for years afterwards (I won't go in to detail) which is one of the main reasons I'm trying to push for an elective c section. That said though, I still have wobbles that my body will never be the same either down there or with a scarred tummy and I've also been having that feeling of 'shit this baby has to come out somehow'..it's definitely getting real now!

Hope you're feeling better today dr, I may ask my midwife at my 32week appt about the health visitor thing.

I'm 29 weeks today, baby is the size of Barbie Convertible/Pineapple. I have times through the day where Beanie rolls awkwardly and my womb feels like a sack of spuds, I start waddling it feels so heavy. Also I have an itchy lower back, this may be from sunbathing last week and my skin may be dry or it could be one of those many preggo symptoms either way I'm going to coat myself in coconut oil as it's driving me mad.

Hope you all have a good day

I don't know why my phone has decided to triple post!? Sorry!

Thanks for the messages ladies, it means a lot. I wasn't particularly fond of my auntie as she was a raging alcoholic and pretty much ruined my cousins childhood and the past 15-20 years of my grandparents lives without going into too much detail! But my heart is breaking for my grandparents and cousin as they're understandably shocked and upset. My dad is fretting as he can't get home so is pretty much feeling helpless my grandad had to go and identify her body/sort out her documentation etc and I think it's really knocked him which isn't good for a man in his 80s

bunch I'd have still been screaming now! I hate spiders!!! I once wrapped a towel around me only to realise a spider had crawled off it onto my back!! To this day I still inspect and shake every towel I use just to be sure.

I'm tired, hungry and in pain. Hope everyone has a better day than me!!

Oh also! You were all right about the vaccination hurting. My arms is sore today

Potato I meant complete tossers in my earlier post not toddlers!

Well the complete wankers are insisting it's my solicitors fault and demanding we pay all their moving costs, I've agreed but I'm livid. Poor estate agent got an absolute earful and I've made the solicitor aware that they have cost me £££ because they're too bloody lazy to talk to my vendors solicitor.

Aww Miley your poor family. Even if your aunt was a piece of work it must still be difficult.

Spider thing is my worse nightmare. I used to be a re-enactor and I distinctly remember putting on my gown one day only to look down and see the biggest spider I've ever seen sat on my boob looking up at me... I was in the back of a pavilion getting ready for a show at the time and guests had already started to come in so I couldn't scream and ended up doing a weird silent scream and hand flicking dance... Was shuddering for the rest of the day!

Potatoes your vendors do sound like absolute arses! Your DH is probably right that it's better to give in than be worrying about it when you are in labour!
The spider situation sounds grim and I don't normally mind them - I hope you manage to get a nap in during the day to catch up.
Like Bunch I'm planning to avoid a sweep or any other intervention until I'm a week or so overdue unless they have any particular concerns. Due dates are just not that accurate and if we were in some other countries - eg France, full term would be 41 weeks anyway. A sweep then wouldn't be too bad but anything more than that where I am means you spend the early part of your labour on a ward rather than at home, probably on your own as partners have to go home overnight and then in active labour you go to the consultant unit rather than midwife led. If it gets very late or they are concerned for some reason I'll take it but I'd like to leave it as late as I can.

Irregular I am also rather worried about the exit but actually getting calmer as time goes on rather than more stressed. Even if the hypno stuff doesn't work on the day it will have spared me 2 months of worrying in advance! Right now I'm just reading positive stories and ignoring the rest!

Miley even if it wasn't someone you personally were close too, you feel the impact it has on other members of the family. I hope that you can all get through it together.

My growth scan was OK, the baby is now measuring big - surprise! He was on 55th percentile ish now looking more like 70th or so. The sonographer went to check if a consultant needed to see me but apparently not, which is good. Unfortunately lying on my back for the scan made me feel really sick and faint so she didn't manage to find the fibroid. She seems totally unconcerned that it will be any kind of problem though, which is good.
Pain seems to be slightly reduced today so I'm going to waddle into work for a few hours then midwife this afternoon.