August 2016 Babies (thread 6) - Ready to Pop!

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New thread - the one where we stop being pregnant and become new mamas! So close to the end. Exciting!

Good luck belagar

sloth I'm 35 weeks today so this was completely unexpected! I didn't even have maternity pads! So much for making it to my maternity leave...

Good luck belager! Exciting stuff! I'm very jealous, you little queue jumper haha.
sloth how amazing are cold baths and showers?? I like leaving the setting on cold so I can hear just how cold it is when other people get in. I spend way more time having way too many showers these days

good luck belager and thinking of you !!

It's absolutely sweltering today isn't it, hope everyone is able to get next to a fan or in a cold shower / bath /pool! I am feeling quite dizzy and nauseous this morning, must me the weather... or the two slices of nutella on toast I just consumed, whoopsy. Off to the outdoor pool now to try to cool off.

Have a lovely day everyone :)

There was me thinking I'd have a productive day.. Go to the doctors and fill out a form for a prescription, go back to work and get my MATB1 form for OH to take into work, pull out of my space and hit a car parked blocking other cars in in spaces. I've never been in an accident or hit anyone before and just didn't know what to do. Horrible!!

Posted this in the Facebook group, but thought I'd pop it here as well.

I went in with reduced movement yesterday. All fine, but they arranged a scan for today to make sure. Upshot was that the baby is measuring small (just under the 10th percentile, had been around the 50th at all of my previous appointments), so I'm being induced tomorrow (38+4). It's going to be a wedding anniversary to remember!

christine argh, how annoying. What a stupid place for them to park.

hgleslie glad you got checked out and good luck for the induction tomorrow.

New to this site and this thread! Have had a read through so thought I'd just say hi! Due 10th August with a boy and a Ftm! Getting very excited seeing some people are having theirs already, still doesn't quite seem real but I'm sure it will pretty soon!

Hi Ellie, welcome!

Belager and Leslie good luck, will be thinking of you.

Christine what a pain. Hope they were understanding and it wasn't too much faff.

I've ditched work and we are at the beach! Just being near the water makes me feel so much better. The breeze is lovely (mind you, the water is freezing)!

Oh no christine last thing you need.

Good luck Belagar

Very best of luck for tomorrow hgleslie

Welcome Ellie

strandedabroad I'm green with envy, that looks beautiful. I wish I had finished work so that I could enjoy the nice weather. I love a bit of sun!

Had an appointment today I'm 37+1. All great with me. Baby's head is measuring like term [great - another huge-headed baby] and consultant reckons we're looking at another 4kg baby, which he says is fine as I've done it before, but says we'll keep an eye on the growth and he said that I might start thinking about the possibility of an induction at term if baby doesn't arrive before then based on size. So nothing too alarming and hopefully I'll go myself, but it doesn't look like I'll be going much beyond my due date either way.

Hello everyone!
christine I'd give anything for my shower right now! So jealous! Are you ok though?
leslie it's looking like my induction will also happen tomorrow, just waiting for my steroid injections
Welcome Ellie!
stranded where's my invite lol?
Keep us updated Elle

If I've forgotten anyone please forgive me!
So just seen consultant as I've said and baby can come anytime in next few days depending on the consultant I get tomorrow. All that's for sure is I'm here until she's out.

I'm so not ready for this...

You are ready for it, it's no where near as bad as you think

The birth I'm talking about

Honestly I would give birth 5 times over than endure the 9 months of torture pregnacy is.

You will be fine 😍👍🏻

I was a bit too frantic to explain properly earlier, he was parked blocking me in (not in a space) moved out of the way and went to pull out of the car park but because of a lorry blocking the entrance and cars coming in the exit, this car reversed back to let them through, at the same time I was reversing and we hit eachother. Damage from my car (actually OHs) is minimal, the corner of the bumper popped out but was popped back in (not perfect, it still is very slightly bent) and 90% of scratches were wiped off..but because my car was bigger than this little (but brand new) Nissan, the corner of his just crumpled and looks ruined. I don't know what will happen. If anything it's this other drivers fault, he wasn't even in a space to begin with and he reversed into the path of a reversing car, but then I suppose he could say "she should have seen me reversing". I saw he'd stopped and was waiting to pull out so looked the other way to reverse, no one expects someone to then reverse back to where they came from. I got out and he tried doing the whole "if you were looking" "I don't understand how you couldn't see me" routine and he got a few choice words from my angry hormonal mouth! And then because of this in the middle of the car park we were blocking some cars from getting out..a cheeky woman came over and said "do you know how long you'll be because I'm in a bit of a rush" sorry! How inconsiderate of me. I didn't want to be here either funnily enough!
We exchanged details and I passed them on to my dad who is just way better at dealing with things like this and knows what to do. Just one of those things you can't stop thinking about, I just really don't need it atm and wish it didn't happen! I rang OH in hysterics and he couldn't say "it's okay!" "It's just a car" "I don't care!" "Aslong as you're okay" "don't cry!" Enough so that's a load off that he's not cross about his car. So ironic that the reason I'm driving it is because it's safer than mine, and then this happens! I don't know if it would have been worse in my car or just wouldn't have happened as mines smaller and there would have been more time to notice what was going on. UHHH!
But anyway. I'm really sorry for the rant, I just had to get it out.
hgleslie good luck for tomorrow! You must be so excited to meet your baby! I've never experienced labour or child birth but my mum done it 7 times so it must not be that bad! It'll be so worth it. This time tomorrow you could be a mummy!

Good luck tomorrow belager & hgleslie! Lots of lovely newborn snuggles very soon by the sounds of things!

I did wonder whether the combination of a heatwave & full moon would get us some babies... Looks like that might be the case!

Christine, what a pain! I hope it all gets sorted out without too much hassle.

Welcome, Ellie! We're due date twins. I'm having my 2nd (& secretly hoping not to make it to Aug 10th as I am quite over this summer pregnancy lark!)

Stranded, that looks like the best plan for today! I had my feet in a tub & mainlined ice lollies all day.

Currently resorting to a cold flannel around the back of my neck. Can't wait for this heat wave to break! Normally I'd love this kind of heat... not at the moment!

Bit of a shitty day here. I've been seeing a perinatal psychiatrist and getting CBT as I have a history of anxiety and wanted to be as well-prepared as I could be for possible PND. I came off antidepressants at 20 weeks and it was a lot easier than I thought. I've had some wobbles but nothing severe and have generally kept coasting along ok and CBT therapist is really pleased with my progress.

I was really surprised then when my psychiatrist said if he were me he would start taking Sertraline as soon as baby is born because of the severity of my anxiety. I think it's possibly the fact that risks during pregnancy can outweigh risks of anxiety in mother because of baby's development and the exposure amount, but there are no real risks with breastfeeding so any risk of anxiety should be treated? I just feel really down about it, as I honestly was beginning to think I was 'fixed' and now it seems like he must have seen something in me since I came off antidepressants which makes him think I have the potential for post-natal mental health problems :-( I was already worried about how I would deal with stress of newborn, and this has made me feel even more concerned.

Just a quick post sophia as I didn't want to read what you wrote and ignore. I'm a psychologist not a psychiatrist so I don't know anything about prescribed medication. However, I wanted to say that your psychiatrist might not have said that about the setraline because he has picked up or seen something in you. Often, there is standard advice given (so medication advised regardless) and I do find that this is more common with psychiatrists. It's not necessarily a thoroughly considered decision. I would urge you to ask for more details and -if you feel able- ask him/her if the advice has been based on something specific about you.

I'm not advising you to go against medical advice but id hate for you to feel your progress has been undermined or that your forward steps haven't been 'real' based on a comment that may not have been totally "bespoke" so to speak.

Hope that makes sense? Well done for managing your anxiety thus far. It's not an easy thing to do at any time, let alone in pregnancy.

To everyone else hello! exciting times for lots of you. It's baby time!

In other news: I got stuck on a broken down commuter train for 45 minutes today in the blazing heat. HELL. Can't wait for maternity leave.

Sophie try not to beat yourself up. Maybe he was trying to highlight the minimal risks now - whilst you're in a stable place - rather than waiting for all the post birth hormones to confuse the issue? By letting you know that's an option you know that it is an option at any time post birth. It is up to you if and when you start taking sertraline but you can make a rational informed decision having got the information now rather than IF (not when) you have a period of anxiety.
Rum I need that in my life. I have absolutely hated today. Couldn't get anything done and have just been hot and angry. Maybe the ice lolly/foot bath combination would have saved me some pregnancy rage
Christine - sorry about your car, you seem to be having a rough ride at the moment. Thankfully no one was hurt, and I hope you're ok and not too upset
Elle good luck with the big baby!! I guess at least you have been forewarned
Ellie welcome - and I know it feels very real now the others have started having babies!

I'm sorry, Sophia. Sounds like he might not have phrased as best he might. I guess he's suggesting the medication as a way of keeping you as well as you are now & preventing any dips, & is probably basing the recommendation on seeing lots of new mums struggle postpartum, rather than it being a judgement about you specifically, but it sounds like the way it was put had just hit your confidence. I'm sorry about that! You probably are doing brilliantly & the medication may just be a way of supporting that to continue in the newborn phase.

Christine that's weird, I was in a car accident today too. I was driving to work this morning, making a turn and had to slam on my brakes as a driver ran a red light through the intersection. Guy behind me rear ended me. WE pulled over, exchanged details and I rushed off to work. He had a big truck, my wee honda's bumper is crushed. I felt ok at first, but had a couple of real dizzy spells today. I had to take clients out for dinner so I just got home at 9pm, and my husband is looking at the damage. Our other car broke down last week, I hope the bad car luck doesn't come in 3s!!!! Exhausted, my back hurts and I'm going to bed :)

Sophia I'm probably not going to explain this very well, but perhaps he was thinking of those first few days / weeks when you've become a new mum. It's an emotional roller coaster for any new mum and maybe there's a risk that this would be magnified if you have a history of severe anxiety? Or it could just be standard advice as plimsolls says.
Sounds like you've been doing brilliantly, so it's unlikely he's seen something "in you" to cause concern.
Christine / Shan Sorry to hear about your cars. Glad you're okay. Must be a pregnancy thing, as both me and one of my NCT friends managed to scrape our cars in supermarket car parks last time (complete and utter baby brain in my case - wasn't looking properly!). So far so good with this pregnancy..

Thanks everyone :-) I feel a little better about it. He certainly wasn't forcing me and we went with the option of him giving me a prescription and then I can choose whether to take it or not. I think it's based on the fact that my anxiety is active currently and would probably benefit from medication, but I'm not getting that because I chose to come off it. In his view, it makes sense for me to do what is going to make me feel better once any (tiny, potential risk) to baby's health has gone, especially as I have expressed worries about dealing with new motherhood. He's really lovely and did actually say I seemed better yesterday than previous appointments! I just sometimes wish I was 'normal' - whatever that means!

Hi Ellie and welcome!

GOOD LUCK belager, can't wait for news/update!
Also massive, huge good luck to hgl - hope the induction goes smoothy smooth and you're holding bub before the day is out!
Christine sorry you had a bump yesterday I do think you've done well to get this far accident-free tbh! My second ever day of driving I reversed out of a parking space and scraped all along the car next to me due to having no fucking idea what I was doing - I was absolutely distraught and also had no idea what to do! Am now a very good driver, so it really does happen to the best of us. (Now have new, enormous estate family car and I'm terrified of the same thing happening again!)
Sophia late to the conversation as ever but I agree with the others - it sounds like your psychiatrist was (slightly clumsily) trying to outline your options now, rather than waiting til after the birth, when hormone soup and tiredness potentially send you to crisis point - better to have resources at your disposal before you need them, than wait until you need them NOW and can't get them, if any of that makes sense?! This way you're in the driving seat and can choose how much or little support you need and what form that comes in.

Slept on the sofa last night - our upstairs is hotter than our downstairs; I lasted half an hour of tossing and turning in bed before I gave up and came back down! Soaked a t shirt in cold water and slept in that, was gorgeous! Bit cooler today thankfully - we are bracing soft play today (am hoping for air con!)

Had a scary experience on Monday and still not over it. We were at a little man-made local beach - it's on the edge of a big pond so no waves/currents or anything and generally v safe - we go there a lot, DD entertains herself and I chill and check in on her every couple of minutes. Had seen her literally a minute or two earlier and she was fine - looked up again and couldn't see her anywhere - then realised she'd somehow gotten herself way too far out and was struggling. I swear to god, even at 9 months pregnant with a crap pelvis, I've never moved so fast. Ran in fully clothed, got to her, scooped her up. She wasn't splashing, wasn't making any noise - it actually took me a couple of seconds to figure out that she wasn't just playing and she needed help. When I got to her she had her arms up for me and just her eyes were above the water - will never ever forget her just looking up at me with her nose and mouth under water am tearing up just thinking about it. She was fine, very shocked and both us were really shaken up, but fine - I was scared shitless of secondary drowning, spent the whole of Monday night in her bed checking on her. But I can't stop thinking about it. It could easily, easily have been so very different. She was with a group of bigger kids and a couple of mums near her and not one single one of them did a fucking thing. Sorry for this giant essay/rant/whatever, not sure what I was hoping to achieve, just needed to get it out - was definitely the scariest moment of motherhood so far. Sorry to dump it all on you ladies - got no friends here as yet so no one really to tell!

Bloody hell coco, that must have been terrifying for you! But mama saved the day, well done! So glad you're all ok! Big hugs!

I too slept in a wet sheet last night. I nearly drove to buy an air con unit for £300 I was so desperate last night. But today it's so much cooler! I'm overjoyed!!

Welcome to Ellie and thinking of Belager & hgleslie today!!!

Sophia I agree with what the others have said, probably just making sure you know you have an option (and a quick option) should you wish to take it if you feel the need arises. I too have suffered with intense anxiety, in on and off phases, and when I've needed medication, I want my hands on it pronto, not waiting around just to get a prescription, so I'd really think it's just that. You sound like you're doing brilliantly though, so you ought to be proud!

Hope you all enjoy a cooler day today ladies!!

glencoco that sounds awful! Every mums worst nightmare. I can't imagine how difficult that must have been for you..and it's not just the dealing with it in the moment, it's the flash backs and "what ifs". It could have been ALOT worse but it wasn't. Take comfort in the fact that you got to her, she needed you and you were there, despite being shaken she's fine! Sometimes we have to learn lessons the hard way, and you certainly have. You done so well to spot it and grab her so don't beat yourself up. I hope one of those parents that stood and done nothing never have to go through what you did..ignorant twats. Look after yourself and don't over think anything