Southdowns so sorry to hear what you're going though, like everyone have said, please don't feel you can't tell people on here, we all feel for you and it does not make me more worried for my own scan. things are like they are. I really hope that you are feeling okay and have good support around you and keeping fingers crossed that specialists and everyone can offer help and reassurance.
KitKat, it's always difficult and risky to judge someone else's situation from the outside, but I think when you're pregnant, and even when you're not, you should get help from your partner. But can be easier said than done. My DH wasn't hugely supportive in my first pregnancy, still left a lot of housework to me although we both worked full time and I was exhausted, and it caused a lot of arguments. But after me keeping standing my ground and explaining how tired I felt and that he needed to help out more (and also working on my own internal guilt for not being superwoman who should be able to do everything, and telling myself I was making another human being and deserved some credit for that) he got better at helping out, and this time round he is really good! Does more than 5o pct of housework, and takes DD every weekend morning and lets me have a lie in! But it's taken a whole lot of gentle and not so gentle eye convincing and explaining and shouting on my part to get there ; ) don't get me wrong that he's now all bullied into the ground, he still goes out for drinks very Friday etc., it just takes some time for some (many) men to get what pregnancy and being a dad is about, keep trying! : )
the weather, omg, loving it! slept horrendously in the heat, and got a summer cold, but it's all worth it for this glorious sunshine! does wonder for my mood.