December 2016 babies - thread #4 - blooming in trimester 2!

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New December babies thread!

Barking my favourite girls name is one that can be pronounced two ways!! And we can't agree on the pronounciation! I wonder if it's the same name

Bristol i would speak to your doctor. Hope it is not too painful

We have 2 boys and 2 girls names sorted but could all change.

Southdown how are you doing? Did you have another scan, hope you don't mind me asking.

I'm 18w +5 and once again nausea and tiredness is back I can't get comfy at night and the heat is not helping.

Thanks for asking rainfall, I wasn't sure about updating as I don't want to upset those that have yet to have their 20 week scan.

Our baby has major heart problems, and will need extra care for the first few months before surgery between 4-6 months. The doctors were talking as if it was inevitable that it'll have downs as well. The team seem expert and highly competent, so that's reassuring.

So sorry to hear that Southdown it must be so hard for you all. I know what's it's like my daughter spent the first 5months in hospital (not heart related, lung related) . It's scary but you will have the best care and support.

Here if you need to chat.

bristol speak to the midwife. They can refer you to maternity physio if needed.

barking I don't really have a lot of practical support to be honest. dh family don't contact me much when he's away and I always feel like I'm imposing when i call/visit. They prefer to spend the time with dh brothers kids. In my normal mood I don't really give a shit 😂
My friends are fab but we all have small kids so can't really meet up as often as we'd like. It's usually fine and I just get on with things but hormones are killing me ha!

A wee while ago I thought the toddler had fallen downstairs (he'd actually just thrown a huge toy down) and I burst into hysterical sobs, so did he because I gave him a huge fright! Two of us sat bawling on the stairs with him patting me and saying don't be sad. He's a wee love 💙

grapefruit it begins with 'M' ?!

Southdowns my sister is now in her 30s and she had a heart operation as a baby and then again when she was around 3/4 (in those days they used to put a band around the heart to block the hole and then operate again when they were older).
She was absolutely fine and medicine has moved on 30 years now, so your baby is in even safer hands xx.

southdown I'm so sorry. I have no experience of heart problems personally, but I'm sure you'll receive excellent care from the whole medical team. Hugs xx

weechops xpost - the hormones never help do they?! DH's Dad and step mum have only visited once in the 6 years we've been together, and once for our wedding (they live abroad). However, they've visited his brother and kids a number of times and stayed a week (one night with us). As we've spent almost 5 years ttc it used to wind me up that we weren't worth a visit as we hadn't produced any grandchildren. It will be interesting to see if they bother visiting us next year!!

SouthDownsSunshine you wouldn't have upset anyone, I'm very sorry that you felt you couldn't update, but at least now the support is here (if you'd like it)
It's lovely to hear you feel reassured by the medical staff x

SouthDowns, that must be so scary. My DS wasn't in NICU for long, but we had a family room in the hospital and all the staff were lovely. Do you have to have lots more scans now? Please don't feel you talking about this will worry other people. I've got my 20 week scan on Tuesday and I think most people are already well aware of the many potential problems that can be picked up.

I'm mostly worried that I won't understand the medical terms in Dutch if there is a problem. Telling myself that there are midwives downstairs who speak good medical English and will help.

I felt movement from the outside for the first time today. I am looking so much more pregnant than I was at this stage last time. I know you show earlier with the second, but does the bump end up bigger too? I'm being very superstitious and don't want to get out maternity clothes until after my 20 week scan.

SouthDowns sorry to hear your news. Please feel free to post here if you need support. Sometimes it can help to talk to people not as close to the situation or who might have had similar experiences.

Can I just ask briefly how supportive your DHs / DPs have been? I don't know if I'm being unreasonable or not. DH works full-time and has back problems and also some skin issues at the moment meaning his skin is sore and peeling, so I do understand that he is struggling too and is limited in what he can do right now. I'm really struggling tiredness-wise with also working full-time in a stressful job, looking after DD, being pregnant and doing pretty much everything around the house. I'd say I do 90% of the housework, laundry, cooking etc. Today I got up at 5.30am, did a shift at work, came back at 3.30pm and took DD out (with DH) to see some farm animals, cooked dinner etc this evening. I'd just love to come home from work once in a while and him say he's done the hovering or something, or offer to cook dinner, but of course yet again today that didn't happen (he hasn't had to work today). I think my patience is finally starting to wear thin and I snapped at him about it this evening. He says he has looked after DD today which is true, but on my days when I look after DD I manage to get some stuff done around the house too. I just think since we both work full-time he should sharing the household jobs more with me, especially since I'm struggling and he knows this. If anything he makes things harder sometimes by leaving mess (clothes / letters / etc) in piles everywhere all over the house which drives me mad. I just wish he'd be a bit more supportive at the moment.

Southdown so so sorry to hear your news, I hope you have lots of support.
Barking no it's Anais... But you've got me intrigued now as to a name starting with "M"
Can I ask the general consensus on how o pronounce Anais please?

southdowns please don't feel you can't post -like someone else said we may all have worries over the scan but that's because no pregnacy is without risk. I'm sure at some point in our pregnancies we will all have worries some may have complications but we are all here to support each other tho xx

KitKat my dh has been amazing. He has done pretty much 90% of all the dog walking and cooking since I started feeling rough, and most of the tidying and cleaning. I've kept up with the washing and cleaning the bathroom and that's about it.
I think he's doing a lot more than he might have done had we got pg easily. I think he's aware that he hasn't had to physically go through all the drugs and injections with the iui/ivf rounds, or deal with the physical side of the three miscarriages. He's also overly concerned about me doing too much, which again, had this been an easy first pregnancy I don't think he would be being protective to this extent.
He's off on holiday without me for a fortnight in a week though, so I'm going to have to learn how to look after myself (and the dog) again!! Him still having teacher holidays and me not is grating a bit right now!
I've totally lost interest in work since getting pg. Seems so inconsequential. Going to have to think about when to take maternity leave soon and will have to stop myself saying 'as soon as possible please' and remind myself I want the leave the other side to spend with the baby!!!

south sorry for your news, but it sounds like you and the baby are in safe hands xx

grapefruit I'd pronounce Anais as an-ay

kitkat my husband is great at the moment but only if I ask him! He needs clear instructions but is happy to take over the cooking and most of the housework. I'd like him to notice that something needs doing and just do it... But I'm not sure if it will happen!

grapefruit I'd pronounce Anais phonetically, so An-ay-s.

Ah, tip hadn't thought of it as a French name, now I might have changed my mind!!!

Grapefruit: Anais is beautiful but I'm not sure how I'd pronounce it - as a teacher, if I saw it on my register, I'd probably ask the student how they pronounce it. I've never taught an Anais, so it's nice and unusual

Barking: is it a 3 letter name beginning with M?

We're decided on our name I think: Leo. Just need to work out this middle name

Hi all
Just a quick question before I catch up on the rest of the thread. Did anyone have a blood test at same time as the 20 week scan or is it just a scan this time?
Thank you

Grapefruit Anais! Très français! Très chic! It's pronounced a-nay, or an-ay. Or at least that's what I was brought up to believe. What would the other pronunciation be?

kitkat Sorry to hear DH is being unhelpful. My DP works mad hours and I don't work. We are lucky that we have a cleaner (Gosh, I sound lazy!!) so we don't have domestic chores issues but I am expected to cook. I've been having the WORST time with sickness and certain smells making me wretch so I've not been in the kitchen for about 3 months now so most nights we order in which is really unhealthy, really expensive, and really unfair on poor DP who just wants a decent home cooked meal. I think he's starting to resent me because he provides for us so I don't work and I can't even cook for him and he probably thinks I'm faking it all but I really really struggle breathing in the kitchen.

Southdowns I'm so sorry for your news. I know other ladies have already said this but please don't feel like you can't post. We are you virtual support network :) xx

southdowns
Gosh yes I suppose Alexander/Alexandra could be Alex or Lex or lexi or Xander or all sorts.
With regards to your update, been wondering but not wanting to intrude. Please don't feel the need to hide. Whatever comes your way there will be people in this group and maybe all of them who will be along side you and with you as much as you can accept.
We Thedogs aren't going anywhere and will definitely be around. Speaking only for myself I am a message away and if you worry about the impact on others of your worry I am superbly shouldered :-)

grapefruit I'd pronounce it as ah-nah-ees The french spelling has a double dot on the i so it's Anaïs, there was a perfume of the same name that my mum loved! I think without the ï normal french pronounciation has a silent 's' so it would be ah-nah-ee but you don't have to go with the french pronounciation!

southdowns sorry to hear your news. Hope that you get the best care and that you're well supported.

bella I was thinking about that perfume too! Anaïs Anaïs. I think my mum had it in her collection too :)

Hi everyone! So much to catch up on! south sorry to hear your news honey, but glad you're both being looked after. salmon I don't work or cook much either! Sometimes I feel so bad, but I've just finished my pgce and all the schools/colleges are now closing, plus I work with SEN who can sometimes be violent, plus I had 3 miscarriges before this baby so just trying to keep him as poss! - oh yes it's a a him, officially team blue! Found out at 16 weeks. Had a gorgeous girls name picked out and thought I'd never choose a boys, but have fallen in love with one now. Partner is nearly convinced;) he likes the shortened version but I like the long and short. I think its a pretty rare name, which I wanted because I love having a rare name myself! But like you say puppy its not a good idea to tell people I've had some responses and opinions that've really pissed me off! And while I'm on the subject of being pissed off mil asked me how much weight I thought I'd put on The other day. I said I don't know or care - but i do it's like nearly 2 stone! I ate loads in first tri due to nausea and now I'm just a pig! I walk, do yoga, Pilates and Aqua aerobics and I'm still massive and have achey lower back and hips! Hence why im awake now, thus heat doesn't help either! I'm sure someone also mentioned renovating a house? That's whst we are doing too! It's completely gutted now, no heating or upstairs bathroom yet but partner assures me we will be in by oct - I'm due dec 5th, but he is a property developer so should know what he's up to.....
Also have my scan Friday so hoping everything is ok and to see a little willy just to double check!
Sorry for the me me me post :/ has anyone else chosen a pram yet?

Sorry my post is grammatically dreadful! Hardly any punctuation - I rushed that! Also meant to say keep him safe as poss! X