Thread #7 - TTC#1 Grads - Third Trimester Special

[PotatosMum]

It's time for another TTC#1 grads thread, with an ever increasing population of new arrivals, old hands and veterans we're moving thick and fast.

The first TTC#1 veterans are waddling their way into the third trimester this thread, with the promise of maternity leave to come, getting them through the day.

No subject is taboo, no TMI is too much, bump pictures, baby scans and photos of cute baby stuff are encouraged.

All are welcome so take your place on team blue, pink or vanilla for another TTC#1 grads thread!

Oh no, Planet! Sorry about the house. It's horrible out there - a real seller's market, and when it all goes to closed bids it gets quite scary.

Fingers crossed for the other one you like!

Thank you all for your answers and support
Planeteer I have told my OH and 2 friends. One because she works for me so she can help me hide it for a bit (she can cover for me if I feel sick or if I dont want to do lots of heavy lifting) and the other one because she was helping me with my pcos diet.

We are not telling people for at least another month or two.

Shelb ignore that. What a silly comment. Tell your mum "I have notice you have a big mouth, you need to watch that"

Sorry planeteer I hope you get the other one you like.

Miley that nursery is so cute!

Hi everyone

Have had a manic weekend so not managed to catch up on everything.

Ever, try not to worry too much. Its so hard in the early stages though.

Potato - new age hippy wouldn't go down well with me either in times of stress! Maybe move the stapler out of reach tomorrow though

Planet sorry to hear about the house.

Lilian, your monographer sounds like an idiot. I would complain if i were you. There's a time and place for taking personal calls and its not during someones ultrasound!

Shelb, your bump is lovely! I'm not a massive bump toucher, partly because its at the stage where it feels a bit uncomfortable to rest my hands on the top, i feel like i'm squishing baby. I really don't understand your mum's comment though - I thought most pregnant people touch their bump and rest their hands on it . I plan on resting a cup on mine when it gets big enough Even if it is "mumsy", which I don't get, i'm not sure why that would be a bad thing anyway!

I'm suffering today with back pain, after lots of travelling over the weekend. Baby has also been very quite over the past few days, so I'm a bit concerned about that.

Re 4D scans, we aren't having one, they freak me out a bit if i'm honest!

Can't remember who asked about prams but we are going for the iCandy Peach for the same reason as Canters and a Be Safe car seat. I'm not a massive fan of florals or patterns, which rules out quite a few pram options!

I also wasn't keen on the 4d but since OH hasn't been as excited as me and this is the only thing g he's really been excited about doing I've given in, I'll be having it at 28+1 so Hopefully she isn't too squashed by then!

Evening ladies,
Been at my grandparents all afternoon/evening and it's a bit of mad house so now I'm feeling drained and knackered!

Shelb firstly you have a lovely neat bump and you're looking great for 29 weeks, secondly I don't really understand what your mum meant by that comment or how your hand on your bump is a negative thing. I touch my bump a lot especially in public because I still sometimes just look fat so want people to know there is a reason for a my pot belly and not just being a pig. It's upsetting when someone close says something negative but please try to ignore it, it's a stupid comment to make in the first place.

Lauren I never fancied a 4D as I thought they were a bit weird but at my 20 week she gave me a look at the 4D settings and it's amazing, I'm nearly 23w now and will definitely be booking my 4D in for later on. Also it's fun deciding who the baby looks like or what features she has taken from your or daddy.

Planet sorry to hear about the house. Hopefully it happened for a reason and the other one will suit more.

Lovely nursery btw miley I'm excited to start ours but also dreading the mess of boxes etc and decorating etc.

No news here except I bought a cute little dress for Beanie from Zara baby today had to stop myself from buying 4 others it'll be for next summer but I couldn't resist and just wanted to buy SOMETHING becuase everything was SO cute. It's white with little lady birds on hard trying to decide how big/small she'll be by next summer though!

every time I type sonographer it changes it to monographer

What an adorable dress Indi!

Pink I hope your back pain goes away. Has it been there throughout your pregnancy?

Potato nothing worse when someone's reassurance isn't reassuring. I can't deal with that since getting pregnant. My sister is the worst for it, so I've been semi-avoiding her for a bit Thanks for the advice on the funeral; I think I'm going to skip it and go to Coldplay. I don't think anyone will benefit from my being there.

Sorry about the house Planet. It's such a stressful thing! I think we're missing out on the one we liked as OH can't get his act together on time.

Miley love the stickers! How long did you wait after painting your walls? I've heard you have to wait a little for the paint to settle?

Lovely bump Shelb! I put my hand on my not-yet-there bump to either help settle cramping or to reassure myself that I'm pregnant and not fat...

I love that you're reading to baby already Bunch! Are you enjoying hypno? It's something on my list to research at some point.

Pregnancy yoga sounds fantastic Soda and Feef! I've always avoided it as I have horrible flexibility. Maybe pregnancy would be a good time to try it though?

leonie does sitting on an exercise ball help? I bought a chair for my office that is suppose to mimic this in a bid to improve my posture years ago. It never worked for me, but the idea was good. It moves from side to side, and it's meant to strengthen muscles in your back.

Not a terribly exciting day here. Trying to get a lot of work finished before Glastonbury next week. Thinking of a cheap and cheerful holiday in the next month or so. I miss the heat, and I'm not too pregnant yet to not enjoy it.

How long are you at Glastonbury for Mayo? And who is on this year?

I have an old running related hip problem which I think pregnancy has irritated and it's radiating around to my lower left side of my back. I'm managed 29 weeks without it being too bad so I suppose I can't complain!

I'm at Glastonbury for 5 days, but it's a 5 hour drive and I need to be there early morning to get the tent up in the right spot. That probably makes it 6 days..

Muse, Adele and Coldplay this year. I'm looking forward to Sigur Ros, and M83, and might avoid the Pyramid Stage this year.

I hope you can find something to alleviate the pain! Is it paracetamol you can take in pregnancy? I'm not much for painkillers.

Morning ladies

Thanks for your support yesterday. Mum doesn't realise what's she's done wrong but hey ho.

Pink - have movements picked up again?

Gutted about the house planet.

Nice nursery miley!

Awake at 5 on a day off, great.

X

Too early, shelb! What have you got planned for your day off?

Sorry to hear about the house Planet.

Mayo I'm loving hypno, the teacher recommended reading to bump so DH does it. It's lovely.

Shelb try your best to ignore what your mum said. You don't want to think about it every time you touch your bump and you should continue to do so (touching bump) whenever you feel like it. It's completely subconscious for me now.

Morning ladies, how are you today?

Pink I'm working from home today so no chance of me accidentally stapling the hippy. Bless her, she means well but was obviously not getting that her suggestion I just don't worry about it because if it's meant to be it will be, was not helping.

I hope your back pain gets better.

If it helps Potato tends to go through a few really active days the two really quiet ones. The quiet ones always worry me but they're always followed by a stupidly active day. I was just getting to the point yesterday when I was thinking of calling the hospital, then she decided to keep me awake while she raved for half the night... Woke me up this morning too
Call the midwife/hospital if she's been quiet for longer than usual but don't worry yourself

Lauren hope the 4D scan goes well

Indi that dress is adorable!

May enjoy Glastonbury
I didn't really like the pyramid stage when I went. My friends all wanted to see the big acts but it seemed to be we ended up spending half the day sat watching people I wasn't interested in just so we got a good spot in the evening which I found really boring and usually not worth it

So, after deciding yesterday that I was over my bout of hormones I ended up a sobbing mess in the evening over one little criticism OH made. I am really not liking this sudden bout of hormonalness and would like it to stop now please
I also seem to be suffering a sudden bout of poor self image. Not just because I don't like how fat my body (not just bump) is getting and I can't do anything about it but also because I'm usually really tough and able to do just about anything but right now I can't even put my shoes on without OHs help. It's making me feel really useless and dependant and not at all like myself and that's getting me a bit down.
I'm hoping it passes, nearly in the single figure countdown so at least if it doesn't I shouldn't have too long to wait until I can reclaim my body!

Hey ho! Another day of waiting for mortgage news

Oh, and to add insult to injury, I accidentally gave my mums old address as the mailing address for my cross stitch which means that I'm going to have to call her old warden and see if she can rescue it for me. If not that's £25 down the pan and I'm not going to be able to get another one the same as its discontinued

Morning all

Potato, sorry to hear your hormones are causing havoc. The delights of pregnancy! Hope things settle down soon and that you manage to recover your parcel from the warden.

I don't think I could cope with Glastonbury. I'm not adverse to the outdoors but the idea of camping for 5 days and using portaloos fills me with horror I would have liked to have seen Beyoncé the year she was on though, love a bit of cheesy music!

My back is still sore, am going to try a heat patch tonight maybe. Or a cold patch....will have to google which is better.

29 weeks today Does anyone else in T3 feel like time is speeding by now?!

I'm going to see Beyonce at the beginning of July pink I'm excited!! But yeah camping I couldn't handle

Hope you get some good news today potato!

Morning all!

Shelb hope you're feeling ok now. As others have said, I would ignore your mum. I am already stroking/holding mine at 16 weeks, it just feels natural. Your bump is gorgeous and neat are you doing something nice today?

Lovely dress Indi!

Potato hope your day gets better and you manage to get your package back. At least you're at home today and won't have to deal with annoying colleagues. It must be frustrating depending on your OH but I'm sure he's happy to do it.

Bunch that's a lovely idea. I think I'll try to get DH reading to bump. He said a flat out no to hypnobirthing but I'm sure I'll wear him down!

Thanks for the support re the bleeding guys. I still have a little brown discharge but they said not to worry about that. I work in a hospital so it's not too hard to get seen if it happens again.

Yes Pink, it's flying and I don't have enough time to do everything. We've worked out that before baby is due we have literally 2 weekends without plans. That made me cry a lot!

I'm still ridiculously hormonal too potato. It's horrible. I'm feeling really down today, and apparently must sound it the last few days as my Dad just called to have a heart to heart and he got upset hearing me.Now I feel awful. I can't even pinpoint what's upsetting me but I think I've been set off by being in quite a bit of pain this morning and DH leaving for work but not saying anything about my midwife appointment today. That and apparently I'm shit at running the budget and he's taking over because we've overspent this month.

soda I don't think the hand on belly thing is mummy, I do it all the time! Especially for pictures which is probably a self concious thing.

Who knew being pregnant meant everyone gets to have an opinion on everything you do. I'm eating a bowl of coco pops this morning and 3 people have told me it's 'probably not healthy for the baby' are you serious? I'm hardly drinking a wkd with a fag hanging out of my mouth

Thanks Pink I've just read that it's fairly normal for women to get really hormonal in the third trimester. Well I suppose I have avoided it pretty much all of the rest of my pregnancy

Elle glad the bleeding was nothing to worry about, hopefully you won't have it again.

Oh Bunch I'm sorry you're feeling down too. Try to remind yourself that it's the hormones and the pain doing it, it's nothing to do with anything else.
I do know exactly what you mean though. I just feel like I can't do anything right at the moment and any little bit of negativity from others is just hitting me really hard. Half the time when I start crying I'm inconsolable but I don't really know why.
I really hope this goes away after the baby is born, or sooner, sooner the better!
In the mean time we can be irrationally over emotional together.

Lauren if coco pops are bad I'd hate to hear what they think of my diet right now!!!

One little ray of sunshine in my life, the seller did send my cross stitch to the correct address so I should get it in a day or two

10am and I've already caved and emailed the mortgage advisor to ask her to chase for an update.
Why the hell am I always having to chase her, can't she take the initiative once in a while

Losing my rag now. Mortgage adviser has replied that she's too busy today she'll reply tomorrow. I've sent her a mail basically saying no, do it today thank you... Well after I finished crying at the thought of another day of uncertainty and now I'm absolutely livid that she can't be bothered because our case is so difficult. She's already told me several times that she won't take on a case like it again. No wonder I'm a hormonal wreck

Potato- she's too busy to just give a quick update or write a short email saying what's going on? I would also be pissed off at that

How does everyone feel about flying in pregnancy? DH and I booked off a week in July (I'll be around 29 weeks) for our 'last' holiday and the plan was always to go overseas (to do something special, and something we wouldn't necessarily do with a baby).

We're now getting to the point where we need to book something and we've found the perfect holiday for us.

However, DH has suddenly come over all worried and thinks if we have to go overseas, it should be somewhere like France or Germany where we are a) close to home, and b) in a country with good hospitals, in case anything happened. I said we'd ask the advice of the midwife and think about it, but now he's putting his foot down and says he would be stressed the entire time leading up to the holiday and all throughout, in case something happened.

Where we want to go is in the Balkans, by the way.

I'm really upset, and I can appreciate his concern but think you can't live life just staying at home. He's now upset that I'm upset, and I don't really know how to proceed.

How does everyone else feel about flying / going to places not as developed as the UK?

(Sorry for long post)

Lisa I think at 29 weeks I'd be hesitant to go abroad but I'm quite cautious and not at all fussed about foreign holidays.

Just spoke to my mortgage advisor well I cried at her she's called the lender and they'll look at our case tomorrow and email her as soon as they have.
OH thinks she's fed up of this case as its so difficult and she's done so much work on it and won't earn a good commission compared to effort so now she just doesn't care.
God I hope tomorrow we get the offer, I'm pretty sure I'll burst into tears in the office if we don't

Sorry about your house planteer.

That mortgage advisor sounds very unprofessional potatoes.

Agree with everyone else shelbta ignore the Mumsy comment and do what you like.

After my excellent day on Sunday ended up having to leave work yesterday and at home sick again today vomited a lot and was feeling really dizzy in work. Now have the migraine from hell! Not really sure why it seems to have come back all of a sudden? Haven't actually vomited that much up until this point and 14 weeks now . Sore back too fairly sure is SPD had it since almost the beginning, rest and not sitting or standing for too long only thing that helps! Sorry for the moan having a bit of a feel sorry for myself day at the moment as thought everything was turning around on Sunday