Thread #7 - TTC#1 Grads - Third Trimester Special

[PotatosMum]

It's time for another TTC#1 grads thread, with an ever increasing population of new arrivals, old hands and veterans we're moving thick and fast.

The first TTC#1 veterans are waddling their way into the third trimester this thread, with the promise of maternity leave to come, getting them through the day.

No subject is taboo, no TMI is too much, bump pictures, baby scans and photos of cute baby stuff are encouraged.

All are welcome so take your place on team blue, pink or vanilla for another TTC#1 grads thread!

Pink how big is your baby now? Does it have feet?

Haha Ever, yes it has feet! According to Ovia it's the size of a rollerblade, Pregnancy + says it's the size of a papaya! Basically about 2.2lbs and 15 inches from crown to heel if you go by the apps!

I love the moment when your OH has the realisation that there is an actual baby on the way!

Omg Cosmo the elephant is AMAZING. I wish I could knit.

Ever that blanket sounds amazing. Please show photos and yes please to the booties pattern. It'll make a change for me to not be making harem pants. Ooh are you on Instagram? I load of us are.

Pink, ever my DH hasn't necessarily been in denial the whole time but let's just say he hasn't been the most excited about the baby. He has been quite freaked by it all, worried about the responsibility etc though has moments of excitement. After this weeks hypnobirthing class he suddenly felt much better according to him and then bought a book to read to Pip everynight. It's Dr Seuss (adapted by his wife) Oh baby the places you will go a book to be read in Utero. It's a lovely rhyme and rhythm and apparently baby can recognise the rhythm of read regularly. He's home tonight so let's see if he is a changed man and starts to read it.

I think it's easier for us to come to terms with the big change quite quickly as we can feel everything and obviously immerse ourselves into the pregnancy. It's a bit harder for the men.

Morning all,

pink - when you're saying about measuring baby are they measuring your bump?

ever - I had a bit of brown and a bit of red spotting for about 4 weeks early on. Enough for me to get checked out at an early scan place. I also had bad AF cramps (much worse than I usually had) and I'm now over 26 weeks

It's Friday! Hooray Anyone doing anything nice this weekend? DH is away in a stag do so I've got a quiet weekend pottering about and meeting some friends at various times.

Soda, yes I meant the midwife measures your bump. Literally gets you to lie down, whips out a tape measure and measures across the bump from side to side and then down the bump (above belly button to top of bikini line). She then plots it on a growth chart which you should have in your notes.

My understanding is that if the measurements are fine, that's all good, but if you measure either small or big for your number of weeks, they refer you for growth scans just to monitor baby.

Pink, soda. If you have a student midwife like undid measuring then they have a right ol' time feeling around trying to find then top of your uterus My normal midwife had to take over. They're measuring pubic bone to fund is height or some other gibberish so basically the length of your uterus. So expect a rather personally places end of the tape measure when they stick the end on your pubic bone.
I've had to read my measurement off my chart as just got told "yep all fine". And was just told baby was lying "long" whatever that meant. I think his favourite position is transverse personally at the mo as he always kicks and punches either side of my belly button. We'll see on Wednesday.

Thanks pink. Do you know when they're supposed to start checking? I've got another consultant appt at 29 weeks (but that's after a growth scan at 28 weeks anyway) and then midwife at 31 weeks. I haven't had any measurements so far and worried that I'm huge - have really expanded in last couple of weeks!

For anyone worrying about no bump I was the same and then it just suddenly appeared at around 20 weeks and has continued to grow since then!

co5mo that elephant is adorable! I love it

ever you will find the worry never goes away. I had a bbq yesterday, didn't feel baby move all evening and worried I'd poisoned him/her! Then I worried incase I'd overheated and boiled him/her. Preggo makes you crazy. Also, just to add - I had quite a heavy bleed after sex at about 11 weeks which was terrifying and was referred for an emergency scan. All was absolutely fine with baby but I had a slight tear with things getting erm...tighter and more blood pumping around the body. Everyone is completely different! Try to enjoy it, the first fee weeks after finding out are absolute bliss when you're not fretting

Off to mother care with OH and MIL for some bits and pieces she wants to buy us. Looks like rain here, too which in all honesty i'm quite pleased about

Bunch I am not on instagram, I am on ravelry for knitting
I will post pics and patterns tomorrow as I have the day off, yay!!!!

Ahhh I think it is good that he is worried. Imagine if he wasnt then the shock!
Thanks soda this is so reassuring. I googled a bit and some people were like "that is not good, probably ectopic or miscarriage blah blah " as a newbie I am unsure of what my body is doing so I got scared.
It is brown and only after I walk or cycle usually, I guess old blood that cleans when I move a bit?
No cramping, just sometimes bit of pulling or weird feeling

This weekend we go to a folk festival OH will drink beer and be silly and I will be on sparkling water

My Wiwa (nickname) is the size of a water bear Tiny little project please stay with me

Thanks Miley! i dont think I can have sex!!! It will poke my Wiwa
I am in theory a scientist, how can I feel thinks like this?

Ever it's normal, though the poking thought usually comes from the men . Just realised its a knitting pattern for the boogies, so not good for me looks like Co5mo will be able to make good use of it though.

Boogies bunch? booties?

Mmmhhh newbie question!
I rang Surgery and they asked how far I was so I said last period was 11th of May so 4 weeks. So she gave me a midwife appointment for 2 weeks time, when I will be 6 weeks.
In my book it says that the appointment should be 8 to 10 weeks...
Did I lie? Did she mean weeks since missing period?

Oops autocorrect fail there.

Ever don't complain. Some people do t get a booking in appointment and first scan until
late, looks like your trust is on it .
I can't see there being any issue with a booking in appointment early. Just make sure you're clear on your dates for booking the dating scan as that needs to be 12 weeks.

Morning ladies, how are you all today?

Ever as bunch is right during pregnancy there's always something making you feel sick or aching. I'm experiencing a rather lovely foof ache right now... Just when you think there's nothing else that can hurt
And I definitely second those telling you to eat anything you like now while you can. Even if you avoid morning sickness you'll find your appetite and eating habits get a bit weird.
Don't worry about your test line and no one will laugh at you for obsessing, we've all done it and still do

Men, any excuse for a new car... I thought I'd convinced mine to get a family car, then he saw a sporty thing and it looks like we're getting that instead

Pink I envy your rain, I want some

I believe that if your measuring over 2 weeks over or under they send you for a growth scan. I'm 2.5 over but as I'm having growth scans anyway and they know why, it's fine.

Co5mo I'm struggling to sleep for the heat too so you have my sympathies
That elephant is adorable!

Soda nothing exciting here, we have the kids so I've suggested we do something nice with them since last night was the last they were spending at home before moving and they were a little upset. OH suggested we tie them up and put socks on their mouths

They should measure your bump at your next midwife appointment. I think they start around 28 weeks.

I'm so tired, i haven't slept properly for about a week because of the heat looking forward to some rubbish weather at the weekend.

It's officially 2 weeks until my pre-maternity leave starts. Can't wait! I'm ready to finish and concentrate on more important things

Soda, my midwife said they usually start checking measurements from 25 weeks but she didn't with me because I had my 25 week appointment at 24 weeks which she said was a bit early.

Ever, I had my booking in appointment at 6 weeks as well, it's fine. All they do is take a medical history, weigh you, take bloods for checking etc. I think they usually say 8-10 weeks but it doesn't matter if it's earlier.

Thanks bunch (missed your post), potato and pink. I worry that with all my consultant appts they miss out on things like actually measuring me!

I'm having an awful start to the day - my GHDs have broken just a week past their warranty! I'm so annoyed! And have irrationally cried . Not only do I look huge but I now also have bad hair! Never mind that I'm going to have to buy more straighteners (and quickly!) when I could really use the month on other things!

I'm in awe of you lot. You're so organised with baby stuff AND so creative with all your knitting, sewing etc! I need to get my act together

Enjoy the weekend with the step kids potato

money not month obviously!!

Thanks Bunch! I won't say anything then. Just worried the midwife would be mad if I went too early. Oh well, I told them the truth
Haha potatoes the car thing is funny. I dont want my foof to hurt! Oh dear... It looks like this will be an interesting journey
Thanks Pink I guess then good to see someone earlier, so many questions

OH is thrilled because now he doesnt have to get his sperm tested. Something about his "super sperm" Honestly....

soda sorry about the unfortunate hair straightener breakage if it makes you feel any better I also look huge with awful hair as my usual hairdresser can't fit me in for ages so I need to find another and I have no idea where to even start

Ever I think you'll find that every man who gets his OH upduffed thinks he has super sperm. Mine certainly does

I'm driving myself mad checking my emails today. I woke up with a really strong feeling that the mortgage offer will come through in the next couple of days and now I just can't stop checking. I'm probably setting myself up for disappointment OH is no where near as optimistic about it as I am.
I just signed all the contracts and have those ready to send, once we have the offer and the response to a couple of queries from the vendor we're good to go on our purchase.
That being said the housing association are still holding us up on the sale but at least I was able to speak to them to chase today. Fingers crossed we're nearly at the finish line, I want my house!!!

How's everyone else doing with house buying/selling? I think there are quite a few of us mad enough to try and move while pregnant

Well Dad has his date for the prostatectomy.
Here's the timeline.

9th-23rd July- DPs on holiday
28th July- option one of op date
13th August- My due date
27th August- the point at which I'd be 2 weeks over and induced if it got to it.
1st September- 2nd option of op date.

When discussing them going to see the surgeon they said if they had the option they would ask for end of August. I begged them to ask for end of September or failing that end of July as Pip may not be here until end of August.( and let's be honest first time babies and apparently lazy boys are more likely to come late)

They've chosen the 1st of September.

I can't stop crying. I feel hideously guilty, dads going through something horrendous and I've just told him they've chosen the wrong date and made him feel bad but I can't help it. They won't be able to come to me for 2 weeks after the op (catheter) and we won't be able to go to them fresh after giving birth.

I bet they could have got an earlier date if not going on holiday so now I feel like they've chosen the holiday over Pip and I know that's ridiculous. They booked the damn holiday at the wrong date and now this. I'm an only child and very close to my parents so this it will be a huge shock for them not to be around straight after the birth.
I can't even ask them to change the date because if I go into labour early it'll be my fault they've missed it.

I know I'm being hideously selfish right now and should count myself lucky my parents will be around at all. But blame the hormones or the only childness. I'm gutted.

Sorry for the huge woe is me post.

Awww bunch that's really tough, I'd probably cry too. Maybe they have their own reasons for the later date that they aren't telling you? Big hugs x

Shelb they think they've chosen the right date as Pip is certain to arrive on time as I came on mums due date. Ijjits.

I'm feeling a little better thankfully as I've had time to pull myself together and stop crying. I need to have a word with them about them not constantly being on me from due date "anything yet, go for a walk, have a curry" etc, as I'll kill them.and if they don't do that we'll be fine.
I also need to speak to DH about potentially putting a ban on all visitors until my parents can see Pip if the dates inevitably clash. I know that sounds so harsh but it's his parents 4th grandson, it's my parents first grandchild and I always was having them visit first.
And on a completely selfish note I now have to sort out alternative dog care. Gah.
I've given myself a shake and shit happens. It's the first time I've let myself get upset about the whole situation. I've been such an ostrich about my dads whole diagnosis so I think it just came to a head today.

I feel such a selfish cow. Sorry. Please ignore me from now on.

Bunch you are not selfish or anything of the sort. You're disappointed and worried, you've just had an extra level of stress added to what is an already stressful time and it's bound to have knocked you sideways.

Just try to remember that there's every chance pip will be born on or around due date in which case this is a non-issue. And if he is late then it's a big incentive for your dad to get better quickly so that he can see his first grandchild

It will be fine, you will be fine and your dad will be fine. Just keep reminding yourself of that x

Thank you potato. That has really helped X

Potatos a new house sounds exciting!!! We don't own a house but we live in a nice place that would be great for a little person
Bunch don't feel guilty. What you are feeling is very valid, since you are so close to your parents. If the date is fixed now then not much you can do. I am sure that once Pip is here you will be so tired and happy... Don't think they have chosen hols over
It is ok to be upset, we are here to
send you support and

and Bunch. That's a difficult time line and a hard decision to make re an operation date, as babies are so unpredictable. Fingers crossed baby comes on time and your dad's operation well a few weeks later. Its a shame they couldn't have squeezed him in before their holidays, but I suppose there will be a wait time.