Babies due in November 2016 #4

[FuzzyOwl]

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We didn't find out the gender & I don't have a preference but I'm finding it much easier to imagine it being a girl than a boy, much easier to think of good girls names etc. I thought that was because I'm female & 4 of my 5 siblings are too, so I'm just more used to girls -- for me, it's an imagination thing: I find it really difficult to imagine a boy growing inside me!

Great to hear everyone's scans going well so far. The gender disappointment will pass soon I'm sure, it's just a shock when you think it's one thing and get attached/comfortable with that.

I am surprised that you are all getting told the genders though! Apparently my hospital/trust no longer tells you the gender because of gender related abortions following it being very frequent among some cultures here so now they have a blanket rule of not telling for everyone

Could this be right? It sounds ridiculous. But a colleague who just had a baby told me this is the new rule so they had to get a private scan for the gender.

I have heard that, Aye. Whereabouts are you? A colleague who used Whipps Cross in east London for her first pregnancy had the same issue.

I'm up in Scotland, it's an NHS hospital too. Glad you've heard of it before, I thought she might have been pulling my leg to see how gullible I was!

How bizarre that some NHS hospitals take this stance and others don't. I don't mind really as I don't think DP and I would have found out. I would but DP says he really doesn't want to so I am happy to wait. In my head I assume girl (whichever I'd prefer) but I think it's actually a boy. DP the exact opposite.

So if the hospital refuse to tell then it's not the end of the world, I just don't like it being dictated to us IYKWIM, like we can't be trusted with the information about our own baby.

My scan isn't until the 4th July so long wait for me. Already got the scanxiety too.

Which I'd prefer**

I am slightly shocked by that Aye. I didn't even know abortions were allowed after 20 weeks makes me so sad to think about. I am so excited to find out and will be really upset if we're not allowed.

Congratulations Jade! You too Bolly.

I kind of get the sex disappointment, but also know I won't be disappionted, as this one is our first. I would love one of each, but I think we'll end up having three (finances permitting) and am prepared to have three of the same. DH said he would probably prefer three girls to three boys, purely so he has lots of daughters to dote on him in old age

That's absolutely crazy, Aye - never heard of that and think I'd be quite offended, tbh! Obviously rules like that exist to protect vulnerable people but that does seem a bit extreme.

I think if we'd been told we were having a boy I would've struggled to accept it, too... for me it's because I've always pictured a girl whenever I think of my child, even before I was pregnant. A boy didn't even get a look in! I think it just would've taken some time to get my head around it, so hope everyone struggling just needs that head space to readjust their pregnancy 'vision', so to speak.

Nose is fine now, Fuzzy - had the ring removed this morning and now on my antibiotics, even though it doesn't really look infected. I feel a bit funny about taking antibiotics, despite them being the safe ones. Anyone get that? I think it's because I'm not ill, so they seem unnecessary.

I wonder how almondbutter is getting on? Haven't heard from her in a while. Hope she's ok.

I've heard that as well Aye but you are the first person I know who has actually been refused to be told, so I was never sure if it was just a rumour or not before. Certainly some trusts will listen for a heartbeat at your 16 week midwife appointment and others ones won't, so clearly different rules do apply depending where you live.

Aye that's a rule here too, and it says about it in the paperwork for the scan. But it does day if you ask they may tell you. I think it depends on the demographics of your area tbh. They'd have told me with dd if her legs hadn't been crossed as she offered to go back and have another look.

Thanks for support all. Mum has rearranged her shifts so she can cone

Hi all, thanks for all the comments and reassurance about movements. I've had a super chilled day today and felt him or her twice so feeling a lot calmer. This time next week the scan will be all done and hopefully (fingers crossed) all will be well.

Sorry for those of you struggling with the gender, I've always envisioned a boy but this has made me think actually it could be a girl. I'm sure once you have had a few days to adjust your thoughts/image it'll improve.

Thanks again, so nice to have this place to offload.

I've arranged to go out tonight with work which I'm struggling to imagine atm because I'm ready for bed at 8 each night!! Seem to feel tired again this week after starting to perk up last few weeks

I had a horrible dream last night about a baby dying and it's left me with a terrible feeling. Haven't felt little one move this morning so I'm off to grab a coffee in the hopes it wakes him up think I might have felt a few movements but also felt very like stomach things, nothing that's made me go 'there he is'.

Don't worry Smells, let the coffee kick in and keep positive. The dreams are nuts at the moment and mean nothing.

Thanks everyone for the gender disappointment comments. Who knew that was a thing?! Feel much better after a good sleep and soooo many people saying it's common.

And I've just found out that my lovely younger brother is expecting as well! They had their 12wk scan yesterday and are due on New Year's Eve! So excited for them. Can't believe we're having babies at the same time. Yay!

I've been shopping again 😳 But look who cute this dribble bin and burping cloth are... I'm so naughty 😁

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How are you getting on Smells?

Need that is so cute, where did you get them from?

Scan is next Thursday, I'm holding off on actually shopping until then but doesn't stop me browsing!

Bib and cloth are from a lady on FB called PearlButton. She has lots and lots of fabrics but I kept it very newborn for when baby boy arrives. Ive been watching my bump for ten minutes and if baby kicks at the right angle I can now see it as well as feel it from the outside, it's lovely (and fascinating)

I'm okay fedup, have felt a few wiggles this afternoon so feeling better. Keep wondering when I'm going to start actually feeling kicks instead of rolling sensations! Guess I just need to be patient. Can't wait until scan is over on Wednesday.

I also think he's sitting a bit higher up now, more just under my belly button, so movements are happening where I'm not expecting them. For ages they were down near my pubic bone and I was used to it there so I'm adjusting to the new sensations.

20 week scan is done, and all is ok. Both babies are very wriggly, both looked healthy so we are very relieved. I've been so worried for this entire pregnancy, which isn't like me at all, but I'm finally daring to relax a bit. I might even look at a pushchair now.
Have a good weekend everyone

Hi everyone, congrats on the good scan news, hoping everyone is feeling alright

Well I was having a half decent day until I noticed that someone has pushed my sideboard up to the wall that was freshly wallpapered last weekend, the whole thing is ruined and needs re-doing and I've had a complete meltdown for the last hour! Literally haven't been able to stop crying about it partner thinks I've lost the plot and Its not that bad, but it wasn't him that stood there hanging it for hrs, and has had a bad back for the last few days because of it I know it's the hormones but I just feel like it really is the end of the world and I just feel so sad and teary..sorry for the rant but I'm just so upset and need to let off some steam

Congratulations on the good scan news all!!

I'm 20 weeks today!!! Eeeek! Cannot believe I'm halfway thought already but the end still feels so far away.

Scanxiety has truly set in now, Thursday lunchtime is a looming mini milestone. I so hope everything is ok.

Off to Pilates this morning and then I'm going to spin for the first time since I found out. Wish me luck!

I haven't checked in here in aaagggggggges and I so wish I had as I've also had little movement over the past few days and I've been having an internal mallet down over it!

So sorry to hear a few of you are struggling with genders xx