Babies due in November 2016 #4

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fedup do you know if you have an anterior placenta? I do and it certainly masks movement early on (doesn't affect it later when baby is bigger). I'm 20+6 today and only in the last day or two have I felt baby every day, and even then it is only once or twice a day and if I am still and concentrating on it. If I have a busy day I don't notice anything at all. This is my third pregnancy too-so much for feeling movement earlier!

Ooh my anomaly scan is a week tomorrow as well. Scan buddies! I'm quite nervous but mainly excited to see him/her again.

Fedup Being busy will definitely affect whether you can feel it or not IMO, like copper I have to 'tune in' as well and have only really felt movements when I've not been doing much. Drinking cold drinks seems to help. But I still don't have much of a pattern to the movements and it's all a bit random, sometimes I freak myself out by lying reeeeeeally still and not feeling anything but I think that's fairly normal.

Definitely call your midwife if you're worried

Thanks everyone, think I'm just feeling a bit anxious and hormonal. Just had a long cry in the bath through stress, worry and imtiredness.

I had the Doppler with the midwife at 17+4 and everything was fine so I'm sure I'm stessing over nothing but I just feel a bit down which can't be helping the worry.

Might see if I can convince my DH for us to get another private scan at the weekend. The waiting is killing me, and I've realised its a week Thursday not tomorrow so even further away!

Totally understand the anxiety, Fedup - hope the cry made you feel a bit better. It always feels like a massive release when I have a big cry!

Two weeks tomorrow till my 20w scan and it can't come soon enough. The waiting when not much is going on is just too much.

That's exactly it Copper such a relief. I think it's the waiting that's causing me the most grief, not feeling movement or being sick just feels like I'm in limbo.

Thank you starla copper that's really reassuring! I will sleep a lot better tonight!

fedup count the kicks (www.countthekicks.org) say to start monitoring baby's movements in third trimester so I think it's too soon for there to be a pattern. My sister in law said she was gone 20 weeks before she even felt a flutter whereas mine started at 14 wks & then stopped till wk 16 so I think it varies massively. I usually only feel it if I'm lying down relaxing so if you're running around the movements might be too subtle to feel.

That's a US site Devon which says about counting 10 movements a day. Current UK advice is that this is a bit outdated. The U.K. count the kicks charity has recently re-names itself to Kicks Count which is a little confusing!
www.kickscount.org.uk/mums/your-babys-movements/
This has all the up to date advice.

Upset this morning. DH can't get time off for the repeat of the anomaly scan. His work are sticking to the "time off for 2 antenatal appointments only" and won't be able to book as annual leave as too short notice.

So I text my mum and asked her to come instead. No reply. We have a difficult relationship

Oh Albus that's really shitty of your DH's work, I'm sorry he can't be there with you. Really hope your mum can step up and support you for the next appointment.

Really hope you can get some support for your scan, Albus - do you have a close friend who could go with you?

I'm feeling horrible this morning - last night completely randomly my nose piercing became irritated and looked a bit infected - no real improvement this morning so went to Drs who prescribed antibiotics and recommended I remove it. I tried to take it out when I got home and can't work the bloody thing out!

Will get husband to try when he's home then go to a piercer tomorrow if we can't do it ourselves. What a faff though. This is one pregnancy side affect I didn't anticipate!

We are adding to the girl's tally after our scan today! :)

At my 20-week scan yesterday the sonographer said it was very usual not to feel anything until 24-25 weeks with a first baby and also that having an anterior placenta (which I have) reduces feeling movement until 3rd trimester. This was a relief to me, as I haven't felt anything at all yet

tap that's useful. I'm 21 weeks and third pregnancy, but with an anterior placenta. I have only just started to feel the occasional movement in the last couple of days.

Have just inhaled a sharing bag of Munchies.... I'm going to be enormous at this rate!!! Need to stop eating!!

I just had an entire pizza!

Argh! It's 6am here and I've officially been awake all bloody night. DH had a snoring warthog marathon grrr! We've got our scan this afternoon (eek!) so guess I'm just too excited to sleep.

Congrats jadeT2 x

Hope it goes well Bolly. I'm wide awake-scanxiety has set in. Lying here listening to the rain, it would be quite nice actually were it not for the fact I'm worried about how exhausted I'll be tomorrow!

Hope everything goes well for those with scanxiety.

The rain and thunder kept me awake until about 3am and now I have woken up early. Even DD has slept through it all but is bound to wake up soon, so no chance of getting any sleep.

taps I hardly felt anything all pregnancy last time with my anterior placenta.

Hope you can sort something out Albus.

Great news Jade.

How is your nose now Copper?

Hope everyone is doing well at the moment.

Thanks guys, the scan went really well and everything is looking great although our date has gone later to 16th Nov.

However, and I know it's because I'm tired and DH has gone overseas again with work, we've found out she's a girl and I'm devastated. I know I should be really happy that she's healthy (and I really am) and I've got 20 weeks to get used to the idea but I've literally had 2 crying outbursts which is very unlike me.

Has anyone else felt like this? I'm hoping I'll feel better about things tomorrow.

I'm joining the scanxiety too, mine's tomorrow eek! I've got kicks but because of it being twins I still worry that all the kicks are coming from just one of them.
Bolly, I think it's ok to be disappointed. You will feel better about it soon, and I'm sure that one day you will be delighted you have a daughter. Be kind to yourself, you're at the mercy of pregnancy hormones, they do make everything feel so much worse.

Bolly - yes I felt like that when I found out mine was a boy. I think through all my mc etc I had always pictured girls in my head. Im a few weeks on now and looking forward to meeting the little fella.

Oh Bolly, hugs. I am biased because I think girls are fantastic but have had a preference for having one each pregnancy and have been lucky, so I can understand how I would have felt if I had been told I was having a boy. I don't know why and I can't explain it but I just see myself as the mother to girls. Perhaps give yourself a few days and if you still feel the same, maybe see if you can speak to a counsellor to try and get your feelings in order and do what you can to look forward to having a girl.

Hope everything is ok tomorrow Cockles.

I am really bored - horrible weather and no car means I am stuck indoors with DD and not much in the way of food for me to enjoy, although plenty of healthy stuff that just isn't the same! DH will be buying me a pizza this evening as compensation for taking my car to work!

Oh, Bolly. Yes, yes, and yes. You're really not alone with this.

We found out last week we're having a boy. We already have a daughter. I had a perfect girls name (that I'll never be able to use - goodbye Margaret Verity Ellen). Since finding out it is a boy I've been really quite flat about it all. I'm not interested in thinking about names either.

Do you want to know something ironic? I had a very similar reaction when I found out DD was going to be a girl 5 years ago.

It's very normal. You have an image in your head, whether it is an image of a name, or a baby, or even of your 14 year old child. And then that image is changed.

All I can say is that look at it happening twice with different genders - what does that tell you? You really do fall in love with the child you get. I didn't want a girl, I got a girl, now I can't imagine having a boy.

Don't stress yourself too much about it. It's completely normal x

Bolly me too! I've known for almost 3 weeks now and still haven't got my head around it. I find it very hard to refer to baby as "her" or "she" and still just call it "the baby". Friends and family know I've had my anomaly scan today so are asking if we know, I've just told them baby had legs crossed because I'm not ready to deal with other people's reactions yet as I'm still coming to terms with my own.
It's really hard, makes you feel so incredibly guilty doesn't it, because the only thing that really matters is that baby is healthy.
Thurlow so interesting that you felt like this both times and with different genders, thanks for sharing that.