Babies due in November 2016 #4

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Congrats Thurlow, great news! It's so lovely to hear about everyone's scans.

Need, we had our boy's name all sorted but it's a girl, and we do NOT agree on girls' names! We have a couple floating around, I love one but hubby not so keen, he loves two but I'm not so keen. So we might be have to go back to the drawing board!

Our surname begins with A which makes girls' names particularly hard... so many of them end in A and they don't flow at all!

Congratulations Thurlow!

I hope your scan has gone well too Bolly

We haven't got a names list yet, I suggest them as and when they come to me and my DH says no then doesn't venture any of his own....!

Need we've got our girl's name sorted but no idea about the boy's. Charlie was suggested a while ago but think we're leaning towards William...although neither of them grab me in the way that our chosen girl's name does, and that makes me sad! But if it does turn out that I'm having a boy then at least we've got months to find a name.

So exciting reading about your scans. We've 3 weeks to go until we find out. Still no bump at 18+1 just trousers too tight to wear now. When I tell people I catch them looking at my stomach in a slightly dubious way. I thought there'd be more to see by now. Maybe I'll just wake up one morning & it'll be there! I've been feeling him or her move a lot recently. I'm wondering how much longer it will be before DP can feel kicks too? When did that happen for those who've had previous pregnancies ?
Baby has been moving since week 14 which seems to be really early going by what I've read. Little nervous this means baby is destined to be hyperactive!

Big congrats thurlow

We had a lovely boys list and nothing for a girl, but after some thought we've narrowed it down to..
Savannah
Lydia
Olivia
Nicole

Our boys names were..

Chase (partners choice)
Vinnie
Stanley
Leighton
Lenny

As it's a girl we're swaying more towards Lydia or Savannah xx

I had my 20 week scan today. All is well and baby is perfect. We didn't find out the gender! Can't believe the next time we see baby will be when it is born!!

Happy scan news all round x x

Congrats woody-I must say I admire anyone who doesn't find out the sex, I myself have always wanted a surprise, but once at scan I crumble and ask lol well done for not finding out

Congratulations Woody!

Congratulations Woody!

Devon mine is still a way off too- 12 days. Can't come fast enough! Will you be finding out the sex?

We have names picked already. 2 girls names and 1 boys. DH decided he wanted a Welsh boys name, was happy for the Welsh name to be a second middle name but I don't like the idea of more than 1 middle name. Luckily I fell in love with a Welsh name and DH really likes it (plus it has a cute 'English' nickname) so it ticks all the boxes. I wasnt keen on Welsh names at first but it was really important to DH, especially as we are moving away, so I'm glad that the name is a big nod to his side of the family.
Might be for nothing though, don't know if it's a boy or girl yet!

Yes smells I don't think we have the self control not to find out! We have a couple of firm boys names that we like. & a shortlist of girls names but I'm less clear about the girls. They're nice names but don't feel they fit with me. I've always thought we 're having a boy which might be why it's been easier to find a boys name. DP is half Swiss so I liked the idea of Swiss names but I can't find a nice one apart from Heidi and that's a bit too obvious.

I know I think this one is a bit but it better be. We've had boys names forever but it took us too about 39 wks with dd to come up with a girls name we agreed on. There are no more out there. So another girl may be an issue!

i'm not sure that its self-control for us, more that we're only just feeling that it will actually happen, so we're probably about 8 weeks behind most people in terms of excitement!

I'm kind of hoping its a girl because I can't Think of many boys names I like - I need to get on the baby names board!

i had a mw appointment this morning and finally got to hear the heartbeat - it was 143 if anyone wants to tell me if this is supposed to mean boy or girl!

And my midwife I booked in all my appointments until I'm 40+3

Blimey, beedles, that's some good future planning!

Congratulations Woody

I'm SO stuck on boys names We don't agree, we both have names we're quite keen on but the other person doesn't like them.

The worse part is we know it won't be an unusual name, it'll be something from a very "normal" pool of Michael, Nicholas, Thomas etc so it's not even like we can look anywhere for inspriration!

It is good planning thurlow I've mainly got 8:30am appointments so I can have a lay-in go straight to work afterwards!

We have an extra problem with names that I want them to be pronounced the same in both languages, so anything beginning with J or W is out, and lots of other names just sound wrong!

Anybody considering leaving work when they have the baby? I don't really enjoy my job anymore and the environment is very stressful. The thought of essentially being there until 2018 terrifies me.

For us, finding first names we both like is easy, it's agreeing on the surname that's proving very very tricky. I kept my name when we married, and hyphenating the two wouldn't work at all. Currently thinking of having two surnames on the birth certificate and passport (mine then his) and using his in day to day life. This is a big compromise on my part, both out of principle and because his surname is comical and the kid will be a lot less bullied if it had mine. Has anyone else had a similar issue, and if so how did they solve it??

Had my consultant scan today and got to see little man again! All is looking really good and healthy which has really put our mind at rest. He even sucked his thumb at one point which we all went ahhh at. Back again for one more scan on the 9th September, they were keen to stress that this wasn't because they felt there were any problems, more of a peace of mind scan for us

Hi Spotty, I'm debating with going back to work. I'm self-employed and in theory have the type of job that could easily fit around a child, and I work from home so it could be quite straightforward. BUT it's the kind of work that I need to be switched on for all day, every day - if I was actively working again it would always be at the back of my mind, even when I was supposed to be spending time with the baby.

So I'm not at all sure... I don't want to miss out on any time with my child because I'm fretting about the Twitter account of a client and how long it's been since I checked it. It's a really difficult decision though.

tapis we're double barrelling ours as not married. Going to change by deed poll before November but have started using it for work. If yours is the better surname, it's completely reasonable to use yours & have DP's on the passport etc but not actively use it. Would DP take your name? Someone I know combined their names eg Collins and Parker could become Parlins or Colker. It's tricky. I found relatives can get very opinionated as well about it. DP's brother cannot understand why DP wanted us to double barrel. Feminism & equality is not on his radar at all, he thinks it's 'weird'. If that's anything to go by our lefty parenting choices are going to completely blow his mind!

spotty I just started a new job this week. The job seems fine but I'm daunted by having to decide how much mat leave to take. I dont know what will feel right or what we can afford. I assume I'll have to decide before nov rather than call them when I'm ready to come back? DP works with children so he's much more experienced in this than me. We're considering him being main carer or us both working part time. I just don't know how we're meant to decide before baby comes.

Tap we are the same as you. I kept my surname and DC has both. They don't really work together and DH's surname is awful but we currently do use both and fine if anything, the second one tends to be the one that is dropped.

Spotty I'm hoping to take two years off after baby arrives if I can afford to. After losing his big sister last year we feel like it's all just too precious plus I think he will probably be my last baby so I want to cherish every moment.

I'm planning to take a year off and then return 4 days a week with a reduced London commitment, ideally 2 days max which would save a huge amount of money on travel.

Baby will go into nursery but we are also toying with my DH working 5 days (currently does 6) but an alternative day off to me so we would only need 3 days nursery.

My mat leave is going to be shorter than planned as it'll turn into sick leave for my brain tumour removal and recovery so I think mat leave will be 12-18 wks depending on how it goes. I'll go back to work full time once I'm better. Dh is currently a stay at home parent. He's looking to get some part time work at the moment but will be evenings so it'll work for us. It's so confusing though. Last time I went back when dd was only 3 months old and that was really hard!

Littlegrey I think of you often. I hope everything goes smoothly X

I'm not going back to my current job after this baby has been born. We are tentatively considering trying for another baby straight afterwards and seeing what happens, but who knows. I will be taking the full 12 months plus off before considering whether to stay home for a while longer or look for a more suitable job. It's all a bit up on the air at the moment.