Babies due in November 2016 #4

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Albus I think I felt very, very similar to you when I found out that DS1 was going to be a boy. I just couldn't believe that it was true at all - again I only know girls, I'm not a girly girl but only have sisters, female cousins, female friends etc. I cried when I found out and was both very shocked and quite upset. It's easy to say that it'll all be ok, but it really will! I don't see DS and think 'boy', I just see him for him. Even though as gender neutral as I've tried to be (which I would have done for a girl too) he is obsessed with balls and wheels and cars, but he's interested in them because it's his character rather than because he's being a boy... Honestly the 'disappointment' does go and you will be able to bond with him.

I was expecting this one to be a boy (maybe subconiously to prepare myself incase I was disappointed) and although I'm slightly sad in a way that I'll probably never have a daughter I'm also thrilled to be having another child, who happens to be a boy. It really didn't hit me hard this time. Now that I've seen how much of a person DS is rather than just 'a boy' I know that boy#2 will be just as fun and lovely and mostly just a baby rather than 'a boy'.

Don't know if that makes sense but what you're feeling is ok and you can admit to be shocked/disappointed, and what ever you feel now it will be ok and you'll see that you'll love your son so much and he'll be just as wonderful a person as any hypothetical girl would be (not that you're saying he wouldn't be!).

cakelady same day as me! Birth day buddies (maybe)!

Albus I honestly think this is normal. I had a conversation with my mum about how I feel I 'get' girls & that I think I'll feel a bit out my depth if it's a boy. Talking it over I realised I was thinking about my rather boisterous nephews who fight a lot when I imagine having a boy (& I'm not really rough & tumble at all). But she pointed out that my brother was nothing like that & actually my daughter could be really different to me, so maybe my fear is about not having something in common with my child rather than gender? It's so complicated & I honestly think different people have different moments of bonding with their baby & it's okay to have mixed feelings. I was disconnected to this baby until I had a scan at 7 weeks because I was terrified of loosing it & the only way I could cope with that was to be distant. I'd wanted the baby but had mixed feelings about being pregnant following a mc & it really didn't feel like my baby until 12 wks. But that did change so now I feel it's okay to just let yourself feel whatever you do & not beat yourself up if you don't always react as you'd imagined. Not sure if that makes sense?

Albus I've had a daughter and a son, and now another son and I echo ameilius you will love this child for who they are absolutely unconditionally. Children are full of magic and each one is so very unique and wonderful. It may not be what you pictured but it will be even more wonderful because children bring more love and joy than we can ever begin to imagine. Sorry for being soppy but ohhh I just now when you fall you are going to fall so hard in love with him. Ironically most boys I know are complete mummy's boys when they're little so daddy ,as have to wait his turn for 'boy time' x

Albus I think it's have felt the same of DD had been a boy. Everyone's a girl in my family. And this time I really want baby to be a boy and might feel a bit upset if I'm having another girl. But I'll love them whatever. Oh and my DD is a PROPER daddy's girl. She wakes in the night calling daddy even though I'm the only one who goes to her! She's been saying daddy for months. She's only started mummy in the last week!! So I need a mummy's boy to balance it out!!

Anyone due November the 8th? That's my due date and it's also my Birthday :)

Littlegrey and need my DS is a total mummy's boy! Adores his dad, but when it comes to the "serious" stuff-hurting himself, illness, waking in the night, I'm the one he wants. It's actually lovely interesting what you say about girls, bet my DH would love a daddy's girl to balance things out! I am also a bit of a daddy's girl myself, wonder if it's genetic?!

needahugbug I'm due the day after my bday, on the 13th.

cakeandchocolate it's my sister who's the daddy's girl in my family. But my DH has been a stay at home dad with DD so I think that's why. I was back at work when she was only 4.5 months so it's always daddy!!!

I know what you mean about changing your mindset depending on the gender. I too have always had girls around me in our family. Our first child is a girl and I'm contrast to others is a complete mummy's girl!

Welcome cakelady - also my first, am due 11th November. No idea what I'm doing....

Hugs Albus, it's hard when it's not what you're expecting. I know I will feel exactly the same as you if it turns out I'm having a boy.

Welcome cakelady! I'm due the day after you and it's also my first. And like mrsdane I've got no idea whatsoever what I'm doing

I'm 17 weeks today and I've started feeling lots of little movements! I'm like 90% sure that its baby and not wind or something, it feels like its in a different place to other more digestive feelings. Exciting!

I've been having horrific headaches - I got sent home from work yesterday and I'm off today because of it. I was always prone to them but not sure if I need to call the midwife about them, or if it can wait until I see her next Friday. My blood pressure is usually on the low side so I'm not too concerned about high blood pressure but you never know I guess. Pregnancy is so worrying!

I keep getting headaches too, metro - they're not too painful but they're just constantly THERE and it's very tiring. I have my midwife appointment on Monday so will ask too. Sure we're both totally fine - it's probably all the pregnancy worrying that's bringing them on!

metro, what does movement feel like? I keep wondering what I should be feeling for with the movements - some people say it's like butterflies. Would you agree?

mrsdane, movements for me feels like I have a snooker ball rolling around quite low down in my belly. It's a definite swooshing sensation. A little akin to the feeling you used to get in your tummy as a kid when you were in a lift that started going down.

I've started to have proper little kicks now, especially after meals. Sometimes my bump goes a bit tighter like a braxton hick. I'm guessing that's when baby is doing a full somersault. 20 weeks on Sunday

mrsdane, I agree with the snooker ball description - every now and again there is just something there, particularly up under a rib. And lots of pop-pop-pop sensations but too low down to be my stomach.

I get like a butterfly feeling and also the popping bubbles type.

Had my first antenatal yoga and relaxation last night. Was lovely!!!

Ooo spotty antenatal relaxation classes sound amazing!
Initially I got gently bubble bursting sensations very low down but not they changed to gentle prod sensations.

I am sooo annoyed! I received a call out of the blue yesterday. A lady from the hospitalleft a message saying she wanted to go talk to me about a few things! Left her number which is for the John Radcliffe, a hospital which is not my hospital. I called back straightaway left a message. It's now Friday & no one has returned my call. I am not being treated for anything else, I was told my pregnancy is low risk! Now I am frustrated that I have been referred to JR with no explaination & no one will pick up the damn phone! Now I am going to have to wait until monday 😡😡

That's really annoying Woody, hope you manage to get it sorted.

I've had quite a lot of itching the last couple of days. Apparently it could be something with my liver so have called the midwife to see what to do, just waiting for a call back.

Welcome Cakelady my first too, totally clueless! Due on the 12th.

I'm so jealous of those of you feeling movements, I'm 18w tomorrow and apart from one odd sensation last week (which now I've seen the snooker ball reference seems to tally) I've not had anything yet!

I know all is ok as had midwife on Wednesday and I do have a high anterior placenta so maybe that's muffling things a bit? Can't wait to feel little one every day.

Hope you get to the bottom of it Woody so frustrating when they don't call back and hopefully nothing serious Bob

Has anyone booked NCT classes yet? I've registered my interest but the November due date classes in my area are in September, seems a bit early to me?

No movements here, thought I may felt something today when lying down but it was very fleeting.

Quite a few people have commented on the size of my bump... apparently it's 'massive' and I'm 'going to be huge'. It's making me a bit upset, really. I'm now worrying that I'm too big or the baby will be huge or I won't be able to move by 30-odd weeks. ARGH!

Anyone else have anything like that? What stage are your bumps at?

Copper I'm going crazy not being able to take ibuprofen, it's the one thing I know helps my headaches...typical! I'm trying not to worry about them too much because like you said, the worrying doesn't help, but it is hard. Have you tried anything to help? I bought a 4head stick thing which gives me about 10 seconds of relief but a few friends swear by it so it might help you!

Mrsdane the movements I'm feeling feel like little pops, or kinda like butterflies but lower down than when I get them when I'm nervous. It's really odd. I've only been feeling it the past couple of days, before that I was so worried that I wasn't feeling anything.

I went out for a meal tonight at Wagamama, I was craving teriyaki sauce so ordered a chicken teriyaki dish and when it came it was bone dry and I really wanted to burst into tears! Lovely DP complained and they made me a fresh one (with extra teriyaki sauce) and gave it to me for free...you don't mess with a pregnant lady and her cravings!

Hi all! I'm a newbie, please be gentle!!
Fedora, I've just booked onto my local nct class and yeah the first one is in September! I'm doing it to hopefully meet people around me!

That was meant to say fedup! Predictive text!