babies and bumps mixed thread -May babies are coming!

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Here's the new thread, for bumps and babies before we all graduate together!

Congratulations, frozen. Hope that you're recovering well.

songbird I go back and forth between being scared of labour, and this is my third. I think it's good to remember that you've done it before and managed it. And you'll be in good hands.

I'm scared of labour (somehow whilst being very impatient for it!), but I'm just hoping it'll be very different than it was with DD. It might be silly, but I just think he has to come out somehow and I'll deal with it as and when it happens.

Welcome songbird.

My 2nd labour was very fast and intense (although I was induced) but I found the whole process far more instinctive, natural and almost primal despite having a pessary to get things moving. I have also found the recovery easier and the first 3 days have been much calmer.

Loving the cardigan talk... Absolutely they are to blame for everything

Congratulations frozen....that sounds like a terrible time hope you are both recovering well!

Loving the positive 2nd birth stories

Just in the bath trying to ease the constant back ache I've had for days now! Had 3 mums at school say "are you still here"......yet another 2 saying they didn't even realise I was pregnant and another thinking I was only 4/5 months!

Evening all! =)

Joining thread please - second DD due 27th! Eek.

Ordered my TENS tonight - hope it arrives in time and just been having a good bounce on my birthing ball (think I may have set off previous SPD a tad - managed to escape it mostly this time though, woo!!)

Congratulations/Good Luck to all so far =) xx

Welcome new bumps!
Just back from a walk with everyone (including ILs) and hiding upstairs feeding her - asked DP to bring me some juice up (am obsessed!!) and he refused - his fucking mother heard too and also didn't bring it up
We had the health visitor here today which was fine, she confirmed LO was born on 50th centile and same for her length, hoping when the midwife comes tomorrow she's gained some of her birthweight back given that she had done nothing but feed day and night for the past 48 hours - am bloody exhausted!! We also had a nice lunch with the baby crying when MIL had finished eating and I hadn't, but she thinks that we should leave her to cry so my lunch went cold while I looked after her, and MIL is trying to discourage DP from picking her up too...Fun times!!!

Who sits back as a newborn cries? I can't bear the sound, it's heartbreaking! It's nature ensuring they survive, it's such a emotive wee noise, cuddle away! It's the way their wee chins wobble when they cry (nappy change special)

It might be silly, but I just think he has to come out somehow and I'll deal with it as and when it happens. Exactly Gunshot, I barely gave it a thought as I knew there was no point, it'd happen regardless and I knew I'd just have to get on with it. I didn't want to write that when I replied but it's very true!

I know Ice!! So excited to meet new GD but so weird about everything!! God just the thought of having a 2nd baby right now fills me with horror (sorry I know that's not helpful!) but that's probably because 12 days isn't long enough time get over the first one - but stories of better 2nd births are encouraging so thank you!

Thank you so much for all the advice. It's much appreciated. I think I have been overthinking the whole thing and replaying things from my previous labour in my head. i know that no 2 labours are the same so there is no sense in doing this. I think you're right that dealing with it as and when it happens is the best way. One way or another, I'm going to have to give birth so just going to have to get on with it! Lol.

Congratulations to all of those whose little bundles have arrived and wishing everyone else a nice, smooth labour :) x

Frozen....poor you.... seems so traumatic. But your baby is here. Finally here xx
in hospital tonight for cs tomorrow morning....finally !!!!!

Can't 12 days is definitely not enough time to get over the first one

To be fair, 2nd births I think you just get on with more, because you know it has an end. Doesn't make them any easier though! As I lay in a tea tree and lavender bath!

Good luck for tomorrow notsoold!
I feel like someone else is having a cs tomorrow, but I could be making that up. Good luck to them if I'm not!

I have a midwife appointment at 40+1 tomorrow, will they offer a sweep? I went to 40+5 with DD but I'm pretty sure I didn't have one (I feel like I'd remember!)

Thanks everyone! We're doing ok. Isabella has jaundice so we're not allowed to go home just yet. She is on the lamp and waiting for the paediatrician to do repeat bloods for her. If they come out ok we may be able to go home tomorrow. They also said she is a bit dehydrated which can make jaundice recovery harder so have to introduce formula top ups which I've tried a few times although think it may be the final nail in the coffin for breast feeding, the support at the hospital has been rubbish. I'm going through the normal weepy phase so been sobbing to myself in my hospital bed this evening.

Congratulations Frozen but sorry that you're still stuck in hospital. Going to put my paediatrician hat on now and say that if you really don't want to breastfeed then that's fine, but if you do in the long run please don't let the need for a bit of topping up while baby is under the lights put you off. Once you guys are home with no silly phototherapy getting in the way you can spend time skin to skin, having snuggles and cutting out the top ups if you want. You sound like you need a cuddle and some chocolate to get you through the night!

Notsoold good luck for tomorrow. I'll admit that I'm getting more and more jealous of everyone meeting their babies.

Welcome to the thread clash and songbird.

Cant you are doing remarkably well not to lose your rag. Can't believe no one brought you juice. Your MIL sounds like she has some very weird views on babies. I hope mine doesn't turn into a weird cardigan-hating monster after baby is born!

Lying in bed listening to DP snoring as usual. I hate not being able to sleep.

Good luck today notso.

DH is being a bit useless at night. He is meant to be taking DS's wake ups while I feed DD all night . But last night I had to wake him up every time DS cried and once he woke briefly and fell asleep again before I gave him a firm shin kick.

DD just fallen asleep so I'm going to try to join her for a bit. She looks gorgeous laying here all content - especially as the facial swelling and bruising is starting to go

Oooh good luck notso

Frozen big hugs hope you are ok over there....big hugs you will be home soon but right now you need to mentally and physically look after you. Do you have a good friend/mum you can have a big cry on and then work out looking after you.

I second parsnip that feeding can be fixed when you come home to how you want it but if formula top ups are needed right now and mean baby gets through the jaundice and you can get home.

Odog I'm with you. I got tag teamed by my two. Have had 3 hours sleep. DH got 11-7. Luckily he's redeeming himself this morning by doing swimming lessons

Good luck today notso!

Is it normal for DPs with one newborn to do pretty much nada during the night?! I guess when there are 2 it's a different story but because we are EBF there's not too much he can do (I mean, he could bring me juice... which he did eventually last night btw!)
We had a bloody miraculous night thanks to the use of a soother which I wouldn't have considered but for the general consensus on the FB group that it's not going to ruin her chances of breastfeeding properly - I woke up at 2 with heavy boobs and woke her to feed, then she woke again at 5 and 6.30, other than that we slept for the first time in 3 nights!!
Am a bit traumatised as we have to take little one for a BCG today, the health visitor told us yesterday about the appointment and that we were one of the lucky ones as they have run out of vaccine. Not sure I am thrilled about it to be honest when she is 13 days old!

Was it a full moon last night?! DS2 was Velcro-vomit baby and DS1 woke up sobbing "Mummmmmy!" in the night just as I was latching DS on for the thousandth time. Coordinated sleep attack - who has been buying cardigans??

DH went to toddler but he got sent back and he just lay in bed waiting for me so when I finished feeding I went through and cuddled him. He said "I just call you mummy, I just want a cuddle mummy." Such a sweet boy.

Wow that does seem tiny for vaccines cant. How come they want her to have it so soon? Also DH dos nothing at night when DS was newborn as if you end there isn't much they can do really. I felt it was better that one of us was well rested and able to 'do life'.

Super jealous of the dummy success. DS wouldn't take one until 4/5 weeks and even then was fussy about brand but he loved it eventually and it was a lifesaver (still is 2 yrs on). Tried DD night before last and she was having none of it. Will keep trying though as they are literally the best invention in the world!

Sorry I've been AWOL, parents came to visit and then in laws so has been a bit crazy!

Huge congratulations to those who have had their babies since I was last here. Very much liking the positive second birth stories, hope that will be me next time round!

frozen we've had a bit of a hard time with the breastfeeding too (see my posts at the start of this thread!!) Although for us there was no particular reason, just neither of us really took to it.

We introduced formula top ups too as DD was losing too much weight but I also expressed and breastfed when I could. Formula top ups aren't as bad as some people like to tell you, now DD is gaining weight we're gradually upping the breastfeeding and decreasing the formula. I've met a couple of mums at baby groups this week who've done the same, I think it's actually really common.

I have to say I do actually quite like the fact that DD will happily take a bottle, it means DH can do some night feeds! Hope you're ok anyway and that someone is taking care of you while you're worrying about baby.

cant I love all the "advice" you've been getting, hilarious! I thought pregnancy was bad for people expressing their unwanted opinions but it does reach another level once the baby is here.

My parents are obsessed with whether the baby is in a routine. They ask about it constantly. She's not even two weeks old!! I've taken to just lying about it and saying "ooooh yes, we have a great routine now". My parents are lovely but a bit weird about this stuff!

YY to routine - here is my newborn's routine: we get up in the morning, we feed through the day, we go to bed at night, we feed through the night

Ice am with you in the routine!! DP and family seem to think something else should be happening too - I can't complain about how I have been fed though, DP has been a great chef these past 2 weeks though I'd be happy with a piece of toast rather than waiting for cooked lunches every day
We just got back from the BCG which involved waiting around a lot and then some tears (mine), I think French MIL is going a bit nuts with DP but this is where the language barrier comes in handy, I have no idea what's being said! We just got a sleepyhead delivered and DP thinks it is ridiculous and "the wrong thing" as it won't fit in the bed, but I think it will be great! Now to get through the next 24 hours with the ILs....!

I think you can forget a routine for the first 6 weeks. It's more about survival!

2 days over due today. Nothing to report except feel like the first day of period with a dull ache. Could be something, could be nothing! DS (2) just fallen asleep on the sofa. Far too late in the afternoon but grateful for a bit of peace!