babies and bumps mixed thread -May babies are coming!

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Here's the new thread, for bumps and babies before we all graduate together!

2 on their due dates grouchy that is unusual! My mums 1st was 12 days over 2nd a week over and then 3rd (me) I came on my due date!

Oh tristan I feel for you my 5yo has never been a good sleeper but he was getting better but now this past week he too is taking over an hour to fall asleep!

Due dates are like a massive let down aren't they (unless you are Grouchy )

tristan DD2 decided she didn't need her afternoon nap as well today. Maybe there's something in the air? I've got Frozen on for my two.

Everything My Mum had her first 6 on the due date - or at the very least went into labour on the due date and they were born the next day - but number 7 was two weeks late! And since then, my sister has always been a bit like that. She's 14 now, which is crazy talk.

I'm still here too. Not sure until Monday so still could be a while. Feel baby has really dropped and can't get much lower.

I'm still here, with no signs of anything. Baby still seems pretty high, and I'm still getting lots of heartburn. I'm due tomorrow, but was 5 days late with DD. DH keeps telling me to have a shower as that's where my waters broke with DD! I've tried explaining that waters breaking is not usually the first sign of labour but he's convinced it will happen again

I'm 39+1 and still hanging about too. Went in for a CTG yesterday and the midwife (after much bashing of my belly) decided I wasn't engaged at all, which is annoying because midwife last week felt I was. Have been having awful pains and hot flushes since last night, but nothing is amounting to anything. Now telling myself at least it's only 18 days until they'll agree to induce me.

everything - both of my babies were 10 days over but DD was induced so would have possibly been later than her big brother!

The inlaws are here! Am feeding the little one and they have all disappeared upstairs...this could be a useful strategy methinks MIL is already whispering when the baby is asleep which seems totally bloody ridiculous with a newborn a little odd.

Oh my God Grouchy all on their due dates that is very unusual!

Parsnip I'm the same, midwife last week said baby was half engaged, midwife this week said no where near! So heartburn is back too! Lots of hot flushes and aches and pains here too, plus (tmi warning) slightly dodgy stomach, feeling nauseous and lots of discharge which could be plug coming out in bits? Only time will tell! Although I have been abandoned for the football tonight so I'm home alone with DS!

ODog let's hope if you have another that one doesn't want to wait much past their due date!

Gun in a weird way I'm kind of willing my waters to go with a gush, they had to be broken last time so just wondering what a different experience it would be lol

Notro fingers crossed baby being low is a good sign!

Cant good luck with the in laws

Tristan - how is life with a toddler and newborn? Epically challenging! Catering to toddler's emotional needs while juggling squirty nappies and your rock hard leaking boobs in front of your judgy inlaws. Really hard. Even meeting toddlers physical needs is hard. He's used to walking/cycling/generally galloping/scooting for miles a day and now he is faced with "visitors" cooing over the newborn that has effectively stolen his mummy and daddy. DS2 is a week old and a couple of nights ago, my teeny tiny DS1 climbed into bed without giving me a cuddle for the first time ever, my heart broke.

And then there's the more practical issues - settle down to breastfeed - "Mummmmmy, neeeeeeed a poooooooo!!"

So my wee one is a week old and just absolutely gorgeous. Feeding well, sleeping as well as can be expected ie only if he's touching me, preferably a nipple! But managing maybe a couple of 2/3 hour slots a night.

Re DH - yes house is messier, routine is out the window, toddler goes bazonkers with him all day.

cant - looking forward to more French baby advice . My MIL has breastfeeding issues, she is convinced that babies thrive better on formula. When he was born underweight, the very first time she met him she asked me if he would be better with formula to help him gain weight. As if my breastmilk isnt designed to help him gain weight.....?!? I think she thinks that I'm some kind of hippy for feeding DS.

Well, I say breastfeeding her during dinner (opposite FIL) whilst drinking champagne and red wine and not an eyelid was batted...also she suggested some sort of pillow edge to prevent the baby from turning over in bed and DP told her it's not allowed in England (back-up from him at last!!!) so I'm hoping we will get through this - I told her in bad French that babies have to sleep in with us for 6 months, only on their back, no pillows, no duvet, etc. She accepts it all when I tell her but then I think makes suggestions to DP on the phone that he listens to! Am feeling slightly drunk (not really, but am not accustomed to it) which should be interesting if little miss doesn't sleep tonight! Good job I had a 1.5 hour nap today , only my 3rd since she was born 11 days ago I will definitely nap every day when DP is back at work.

Had the worst sleep last night. Woke just after midnight with terrible ligament pain around my bump, which set me off into sobs (waking poor DH), and after they had settled - which took about half an hour - I then woke every hour.

Today my Mum is going on a sightseeing trip with her friend so I'll be alone with the dem darlings.

I really want this baby to come now, please and thank you.

Sorry to hear that grouchy, we had the worst night too! Little one wouldn't be put down all night, slept on my chest for a few hours and I eventually put her down on he mattress under my arm at 5.30.
French MIL advice so far is that her milia (which just appeared yesterday) is caused by the cardigan she was wearing, and that we shouldn't hold her so much otherwise she will never settle. Let's just remember at this point she is 12 days old...

How long are they staying Cant?

Due today, but already so impatient. Have a midwife appointment tomorrow and am hoping the walk there will trigger something. Time is going so slowly at the minute!

Ah yes yes, cardigans. Cardigans can also be blamed for colic, cradle cap and sleeplessness. In toddlers, cardigans are also responsible for outbursts of incomprehensible crying and the wilful refusal to nap.

That's why we stick to jumpers in this house. Cardigans are bad news.

Your MIL is bonkers, cant.

I love baby cardigans. I think I already have about 5 just in newborn size.

Until Saturday Gunshot, only 2 more sleeps!!
And hahahaaha I love you two ice and grouchy! Like mother like son I'm afraid - wish me luck for the next few days!! Thankfully it all comes to me second hand, she's not addressing this advice to me directly at the moment so I can just say no to DP and he is stuck in the middle not sure whose advice to follow. Also if her other GCs are what we are aiming for then I'll ignore the advice thank you, as at almost 6 and 4 they still nap during the day for 2 hours, don't sleep at night, and require total silence with whispering, tip-toeing around and pitch black to sleep and it drives me fucking mental which is not what we want to end up with thanks very much!!

Sorry I went AWOL! Baby Isabella born on Tuesday afternoon weighing 7lb10oz. All was a bit traumatic. Prostaglandins didn't really work, and due to length of time she was overdue they decided to break my waters at 1cm which was pretty brutal. That then triggered almighty intense contractions. Gas and air made me vomit everywhere. They agreed to epidural at 2cm due to severe pain but anaesthetist took almost 2 hours to come! Managed to progress to 4cm but then got stuck so oxytocin drip started. Due to be examined again 4 hours later but Epidural then stopped working every time I lay on my left side causing agony. Got a new one put in which then did the same thing later. Had a spinal block. Midwife then realises I'd gone from 4-9.5cm in an hour. Baby's head was right there, heart rate was dipping after each contraction so clip was put on baby's head. Emergency bell pulled, doctors all came rushing in. Had to start pushing, ventouse came out, paediatrician on standby with resucitaire so all quite dramatic. Luckily we were both fine although I was then taken to theatre to have a second spinal block to stich up third degree tear.

We've both been in hospital since, both on IV antibiotics as my temperature spiked during labour. Baby been diagnosed with jaundice this morning so currently on the lamp.

Really struggling with feeding and nipples are on fire right now. Want to go home!!!!

cant we have relatives like that, who think they're parenting experts I tend to over-research everything so have got very good at just ignoring their advice which is usually the opposite of guidelines.

'Any signs?' Messages have started, have had 3 fb message and a phone call so far today!

Congrats frozen. That sounds like a real ordeal. Make sure you take time to recover and can go home really soon.

Use your time in hospital to get as much support with be as possible. I naively thought that having be before the pain wouldn't be as bad this time but last night was super sore and I struggled to sleep through feeding as I had the previous two nights.

DS has also developed an ulcer on his tongue and was up crying lots in the night. No-one got much sleep so we have all been for a walk and play in the park this morning. DD slept beautifully in the sling which allowed me to play with DS which was lovely. DS is snoozing now and I'm going to try to have a nap when DD finishes this epic feed.

Had our first poonami this morning. She's not even 3 days old and I think she has done over 10 poos which are now yellow so at least I know she is feeding well despite the hideous pain and engorgement

X-posted earlier and didn't notice, congratulations frozen! Sounds very traumatic though, I hope you have lots of time to recover.

Oh dear ODog, I too was hoping bf wouldn't be as painful as the first time! I might buy some more lansinoh. I hope it gets less painful soon.

Hi everyone, I'm new to here! Not sure if I'm okay to post on here now since I haven't joined in earlier! I'm due DC2 on the 26th and I'm driving myself crazy worrying about labour! Does anyone have any words of wisdom or been in the same position! I'm finding myself completely terrified about going into labour thanks for any help/advice!

Awww frozen that sounds wretched, you poor thing, you must be shattered! Isn't it funny how it goes from nothing, nothing, nothing to get them out noooow! I had ventouse with ds1. Massive congratulations though on the birth of Isabella. How long do you think you'll be in for? Things are easier at home, hope it's not too long for you. Are you getting BF support?

Yeah, day 9 and we've had:
one poonami DH disappeared to shop for urgent supplies
Two engorged boobs
Three epic toddler tantrums
Four IL visits
Five nightly feeds
And a partridge in a pear tree

Hello songbird and welcome. Hmmmm, advice - from personal experience and stories of others: second births are generally faster and easier, not always, but mostly. Is that reassuring at all? My first birth was horrendous but my second was really positive, I feel I've righted the wrongs in my head and experienced birth "as it should be".

Also, every pain is natural, it's your body doing what it should. Yes it's sore but every contraction is one you'll never have to experience again, every pain means that you are closer to it being over and having your baby. I needed mantras like that to keep me calm and focussed. Oh yes and also drugs are your friend if you want them have you discussed your fears with the midwife?