babies and bumps mixed thread -May babies are coming!

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Here's the new thread, for bumps and babies before we all graduate together!

Wow, two very dramatic births! I hope your DH steps up soon Parsnip, and that your manage to get some sleep. I found it really hard to sleep in hospital, I hope you find it easier or get to go home soon!

DD's heartrate was dropping during labour, so I've asked for continuous monitoring again this time. Although it looks like it will be an induction tomorrow anyway!

That sounds scary ice! I hope the prescription works quickly!

Wow - trying to catch up with the thread! Congratulations all.

Had my baby girl yesterday morning at 2:38am! Very shocked at delivery - completely different to first!

Started about 5:30pm, hoovered the stairs (as you do) and pains didn't stop so knew it was the real deal. Got to about 1am before pains got stronger, so went to hospital.

Bit disappointed to find was 5cms dialated (only because I had another 16 hours with my DD1 last time at that point so was dreading it again!)

However, little miss didn't want to wait that long and 1hr 15 mins after that examination, she literally shot out! All 7lb 2oz of her (smaller than DD1 a 8lb 1oz)

Lots of grief from exP - apparently he will never forgive me for not calling him when I was in labour (he left me at 20 weeks for OW - I'm glad we cleared that up...)

Echoing the BF struggles. Also caved and gave formula top ups but still latching her on regularly to try and get my supply in - just scared as DD1 ended up back in hospital first time round. I don't think my boobies work properly haha but determined not to give in this time.

Hope everyone else is well! =) xx

Congratulations on all the new babies!

Sounds like we had similar induction experiences parsnip right down to DH not staying at the hospital due to the uncomfortable chairs

We had a pretty awful night last night. Cluster feeding from 8-1:30 am. She screamed every time she came off the boob. My poor boobs could take no more so ended up giving her formula just to calm her down and satisfy her and she conked out for the entire night! Now I'm worried about my supply as she didn't feed all night. The breastfeeding clinic isn't until Friday and not sure I can wait that long. Feels like we're trapped in a feeding nightmare which isn't helping my mental state!!

Congratulations to those who've just had their babies! Just in time before May comes to an end.

everything I express sometimes so that DH can do some feeds (and also for when DD won't latch properly, which still happens every now and then!) I'd say get a good electric pump, and try and express fairly frequently (every 2-3 hours) to keep your supply up. I seem to get more if I switch breasts several times. I've found expressing to be a bit of a godsend although I'm not sure I could do it exclusively as it is time consuming and you obviously still have to do the actual feeds on top!

frozen sorry to hear you had a bad night. Can you call your HV or midwife while you wait for Friday and see if they can help? If formula suits you better than breast that's fine, most important thing is that baby is fed and you are happy.

ice fairly sure DD has a bit of reflux too. The strange noises freak me out a bit, going to ask HV about them. Trying to keep her upright after feeds which seems to help although is time-consuming!

Yes we take shifts at holding him upright through the night - DH has been excellent, he sits up without me asking and just takes DS after his feed at about 2/3am so I can sleep a bit til next feed at about 4/5am. It's the noises that are awful. He's so loud and clearly distressed. No projectile vomit yet today but two incidents yesterday of stopping breathing to be violently sick, his little eyes as it happens, it's heartbreaking.

Oh ice your poor DS, that sounds awful. Hope the medicine starts to work soon.

ice that sounds awful. Hope he is better soon.

:( that sounds terrible ice

frozen have you spoken to your midwife? Mine had a breastfeeding specialist come out to me when DD was a few days old, which was helpful. As others have said though, the most important thing is that she's fed and you're happy.

So baby is officially going to be born in June :( I hope it's OK to stay on this thread! I'm slightly worried he's going to be huge!

My due date with DS was 26th May and he was born 5th June, but June birthdays are fine too gunshot. You won't even think about it once baby is here. I went 10 days over with both so I totally get hoe torturous the waiting is.

DH away for a night tomorrow night which will be my first night alone with 2. Wish me luck!

Congratulations to those of you who have had your babies.

We have been adjusting to life with 2 children. DS2 spends most of the time sleeping (touch wood crossing fingers and toes) and is a breeze compared to his brother at this age who refused to be put down at all.

Our biggest challenge is DS1 's (2.5) behaviour. He is being so naughty at home and screaming blue murder when he doesn't get his way. I'm torn between comforting him so he doesn't feel insecure and disciplining him for poor behaviour. Hoping it is a phase that will pass. Anyone going through anything similar?

That sounds tough Tristan, I think DD (2.5 as well) might be similar but I have no wisdom, just sympathy!

Good luck ODog!

I'm still pregnant. In hospital, have had propess in for 12 hours, getting lots of pain but I'm not sure of any of it is actually doing anything! Have a nice single room with a bath though, so can't complain too much!

Tristan I am in the same boat with 3.5 yr old . I try to spend as much time as possible in the park!

Tristan, It's funny, I could tell who would answer that question....

Yes I am with you 100%. DS2 is so chilled, sleeps a lot (as you say, opposite to elder brother and long may it last...) I think I'm meeting his needs really well, lots of sling and skin to skin, plenty feeds and cuddles etc but I'm not afraid to put him down. I feel like I'm spending all of my time 'normalising' for DS1 who is 2.4 and wee DS2 just slots in. Back to toddler groups, library, feeding ducks, walking to park, play dates - I'm trying to figure out what is sibling rivalry and adjusting to the big change and what is just 'normal' terrible twos.

So far he's been very gentle and protective, singing him songs and kissing him. But there's been times when I'm feeding when he's said " I want a cuddle - put babyice in his Moses basket" or "put him in daddy's hands". It's hardest when he first wakes and he's groggy and cuddly (or just plain grumpy) and he wants me to carry him down the stairs and I physically can't carry a baby and large toddler up or down stairs.

It's tough tough tough. Caring for a baby seems so easy compared to first time. It's all about containing and entertaining the toddler!!

Let's hope babyGunshot gets here soon, looking forward to update.

pikz, tristan, ice - 100% with you on working out what is normal 2yo behaviour and what is adjusting to new baby. I'm just trying to ignore small stuff (eg throwing food) and gently discipline bigger stuff (eg throwing a tennis ball at DD's head ).

I'm looking forward to DH going back to work on Monday so we can get back to some normality and go to our normal toddler groups etc as I think that will really help DS.

I also think he's starting to drop his nap as we either have no nap and horrendous dinner/bath or nap and bouncing off the walls at 9.30pm. Not great timing!

I also think he's starting to drop his nap as we either have no nap and horrendous dinner/bath or nap and bouncing off the walls at 9.30pm. Not great timing!

this! I'm cutting DS down to an hour but man, he is so cranky when I wake him at 2pm!! The thought of 12 hours intensive toddler time with no nap intermission is pretty rough but as ODog said, bedtimes would be easier.

How's everyone's feeding going? Is there any progress with breast feeding for those who were finding it hard?

I hear what you say about getting back to normal ice and odog. We have my parents and sister here for a few days. The help is fantastic but they are allowing DS1 to have most things and offering him too many options; do you want to go in the garden, do you want a snack, shall we go to the park etc. Spoke to key worker at nursery today and she said his behaviour is excellent, so its clearly just at home and with us. Nap time is becoming trickier. Thank goodness DH is here to assist for the next week.

Feeding is beginning to become less painful which is great and DS2 is gaining weight. Always a relief as it's difficult to know how much they're getting when breast feeding. He's also becoming much more alert and beginning to focus on our faces. Makes your heart melt!

ice we have also cut down to 1 hour naps. Seems to working well once he is actually asleep. Bedtimes are easier.

I can tell you that 13-14 hrs of fun on toddler is exhausting! Thank the Lord for nursery hours!

Ice you sum it up well, DH always now offers to have the baby as that's the easy option!

I'm going to see how bedtimes/naptimes go once we are back to normal-ish for a couple of weeks and if we are still struggling then I'm going to cut naptimes to an hour and see if it helps. I've always been very much of the view that you should let sleeping babies lie but I can't deal with the bedtimes being dragged out for hours on end with a newborn in tow.

DS was born at 5pm, 2 weeks late and 9lb 9.5oz! After I waited forever for labour to start, he decided he wouldn't wait an extra 20 minutes so I could have an epidural. Being a bit of a boob mobster at the minute, we're staying in for tonight but hoping to get home tomorrow morning.

Congratulations gunshot! I bet he was worth the wait. Is that all the babies born now?

Registered DS yesterday, he is now an official person!! Really struggling with pain post section and breastfeeding is turning into a bit of a nightmare. Mixture of expressing and breastfeeding now. DS desperately needs his tongue tie snipped, tongue doesn't reach palate so we can't get a deep latch... Consequently my nipples are now totally mashed. Poor boobies!! Seeing midwife tomorrow and hoping she can clarify when his appointment is. If it's too far away I'm going to have to find the pennies to pay for it privately.

Congratulations gunshot!

DS2 also has tongue tie parsnip but he seems to be able to latch well. Nipples were very sore first few days but pain is much less now. Midwives and paediatrician seemed to think it didn't need cutting.

I hope it's quickly dealt with Parsnip. Surely it would be in the next couple of days??

Brilliant news Gunshot! Congratulations! First night is always boob grazing isn't it?! Well, first few nights until your milk comes in.

It doesn't seem like long since we were all desperately waiting for labour to start, fed up of insomnia, SPD, heartburn, hormones etc.

ODog - I was the same, "let sleeping babies sleep" but cutting to an hour nap is the best decision I've made in a while! Don't be fooled by how groggy they are when you wake them, they'll be back to behaving like a turbo-charged rocket within half an hour!

frozen - how are you getting on?

Congratulations gunshot

I thought things were getting better with the feeding yesterday but we had a terrible night and I resorted to giving formula in floods of tears at 2am just to pacify her. I can't get a deep latch and when I do she slips off and my poor nipples are mangled! Last night she kept fussing and wanting to latch and when she did latch she would immediately push off and start getting grizzly. Ive tried all sorts of techniques and positions. I do wonder whether she might have tongue tie and that's why were struggling so much with the latch and her staying on. I don't know how/where I could get it diagnosed. Hoping to make the breastfeeding clinic this afternoon and see if they have advice. I'm not sure we can carry on like this for much longer so may need to call it a day soon

Congratulations gunshot! Hope you're enjoying cuddles with your new baby.

Sorry to hear that frozen, hope the breastfeeding clinic is helpful.

I still have good and bad days with the feeding. I can't reconcile DD's behaviour with the "feed every two to three hours" advice at all. Sometimes she wants to feed on and off all morning with just a few minutes between feeds, and refuses to be put down in between. Is this normal? She's 4 weeks tomorrow so I thought this might be starting to settle down by now but maybe it's too soon still.