babies and bumps mixed thread -May babies are coming!

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Here's the new thread, for bumps and babies before we all graduate together!

Frozen I think if you're at all worried about PND you should mention it to your midwife. I think it can be normal to be overwhelmed by everything but it won't hurt to have your midwife/health visitor aware that you're feeling low so they can offer help if/when it's needed.

Thanks Parsnip :) I know she'll have a great time, she's going to a family friends pub for a roast then to the beach for ice cream today!

I second mentioning it to your midwife frozen, even if it's just baby blues they'll be able to keep an eye on you and make sure it doesn't turn into anything.

About to get ready and go for a sweep. I was getting upset about baby being born in June (May is literally the only month without a close family members birthday in and seemed so perfect!) But apparently the birthstone for June is pearl, so DH says he'll buy me a pearl necklace if he is born in June!

Had the sweep, but the midwife doesn't think anything will happen imminently :(

DH suggested going to the cinema on the way home. He was quite surprised when I said No! 1 if I wanted to sit next to him in silence I'd just let him play on his phone all day, 2 even if I didn't have to go to the loo every half an hour, I still wouldn't be able to get comfy! Planning on having a nap instead, in the hopes that I'll hibernate until labour starts.

Oh, you sound fed up Gun, and reasonably so. Hope things kick off soon.

53 hours into induction and still no baby. All cosy on my synto drip with my (amazing) epidural. Hopefully someone will examine me soon. It's been 8hrs since they last did.

53 hours! Wow! I hope things speed up soon Parsnip. I hope you've been examined by now, but if not call for them and ask to be checked.

They're planning on doing an induction on Wednesday. DH has tomorrow and Tuesday off, which is making me feel a bit better. At least poor DD will be able to do something with him instead of being stuck doing very little with me!

Hi all - tentatively peeking my head in here from the July thread! My baby boy Luca was born last Wednesday by EMCS at 30+6. I went into hospital on the Friday with reduced movements and discovered I had absent end diastolic flow (placenta insufficiency). After careful consideration, the consultants decided that Luca would be safer out than in. He is in NICU but doing amazingly well.

I'm guessing that Luca's development will align more with the July babies (he was due 28/07) but thought I'd pop in and read your stories here's a pic of Luca

Wow parsnip. Your induction is as long as mine was short. Well done for not losing your shit. Ask to be examined if you want to be but please don't be disheartened if rings haven't progressed much. Things can go from 0-60 very quickly after hours of nothing.

Welcome fifi. Luca is gorgeous and tiny. Glad he is doing well and hope you are all home soon. How scary for you!

Oh parsnipyou poor thing. My induction was 60 hours in the end. It's no fun, epidurals are the best though. I hope they've examined you now. I was being examined every 4 hours and by the end I went from 4 -9 cm incredibly quickly so they shouldn't be leaving you too long! You'll get to meet your baby soon.

Aww little Luca is so cute fifi

Feeling a bit more human today. My mum came to visit and cooked us a roast and bf and sleeping seems to be going better. I haven't ended up in floods of tears today (touch wood) and seem to be coming to terms a bit more to the huge change in our lives.
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You do sound very calm and patient Parsnip! Hopefully things have been happening and because of the epidural you just don't know it - I got from 6-10cm on mine whilst napping, I don't think the midwives quite believed it as I was only having 2 contractions every 10mins at that point!
And welcome fifi and congratulations! Hope your little little one continues to do well!
We are still staying with my family and missing DP lots today, my Velcro baby was awake every 2 hours last night (usually she only wakes up once in the night and then about 6am before sleeping till 9!) and has wanted feeding ALL DAY today and now I'm about ready to stick a bottle in her mouth tbh but at least now I seem to have cracked BF without nipple shields, not sure how he penny dropped but have only used them on one or 2 feeds today for ease - whereas up until now I was unable to feed without them!
Home to DP tomorrow, can't wait for him to change some nappies and cook for me to see him!

And cross post with frozen - so glad you have had a better day! I started to feel a bit fed up last night and today but I think I'm just ready to go home to be honest as 4 nights away from DP when we are in such a tinybaby bubble together at the moment is a bit much!

Congratulations Fifi, what a little cutie. Crossing my fingers and toes for a smooth stay in NICU for you.

I'm currently tucked up in a hospital bed next to the newest (and definitely cutest) addition to my family. DS born 29/05 at 23.27 weighing exactly 4kg (8lb8oz). Ended up with a bit of a dramatic emergency section, will update with a birth story when I can tear myself away from staring at him long enough.

I already have a blood blister on one nipple, apparently latch looks okay. Any tips?!

I've missed so much...

Fifi - congratulations and welcome to the thread

Frozen - please please please mention it to midwives. If it's nothing then it won't matter but if it is PND you really don't want to suffer away in silence. I waited and told myself it was fine.

We waited so long for DS 1 and I felt that by saying anything that I'd seem ungrateful or be considered a bad mum. (I had really crazy notions that if I mentioned anything to do with my mental health that "they" would take my wee boy away from me. He was so perfect and I loved him so much so it felt wrong to say how miserable I was.) Anyway, I waited til 4 months and then cracked. I think waiting made everything worse, all my anxieties compounded in that time. Speaking out was hard but life got easier once I'd been treated (CBT) If it is PND you want it dealt with quickly so you can see clearly at his important time in your life. I look back at early life of my son and see a blur, a haze of exhaustion, worry and sadness. It's so very sad as I'll never have that again and actually having a baby can be enjoyable and wonderful (I am loving newborn Ds2 and I think that's made me realise how ill I actually was first time round )

Can'tbelieve - your baby slept all night waking once??? On more than one occasion???? - are you listening DS - sleep wee man, sleeeeeep!!) enjoy dp reunion, he'll be excited to see his wee girl - 4 days seems like ages when they're so young.

Thoughts are with you Parsnip.

Awww cross post! Congratulations Parsnip and a massive well done to you. Tips? Keep latching, keep swapping sides, plenty lovely snuggly cuddles at your boobs. He'll graze away and enjoy the comfort practising his latch. If it's really agony then stop, a fed baby is a happy baby. Ask for support, with DS1 I had someone with me every hour or so double checking my latch and position. DS2 knew exactly what to do, he's a gobble monster. They're all different, trust your instinct.

Congrats parsnip. Lots of lansinoh on those nipples - apply after every feed at this stage. Get some bamboo breast pads. And a little bit of gritting your teeth and curling your toes until they toughen. I think it took a few weeks last time around but this time was about a week.

Fifi and Parsnip huge congratulations

Congratulations fifi and Parsnip! Lansinoh is my top tip too.

Glad to hear it didn't take as long to toughen this time ODog, that's the bit I'm not looking forward to!

Met up with MIL and DD this morning, she wasn't all that fussed to see us! But I'm very glad to be back with her.

Anyone else looking forward to their DH/DP going back to work? DH is driving me mad. He has lost interest in doing household stuff and as helpful as he is with DS while I'm feeding DD I could do with getting back to some normality and routine. Also I have been obsessively hand washing since I got a cold sore last week to stop DD picking it up and now DH has one and is very lax on the handwashing and has been kissing DS (obviously not dangerous for toddlers but I don't want him get it and then have to keep him away from DD). I think I just want to get control of my house and kids back a bit. I feel bad for saying it but wish it wasn't now half term and he could go back to work!

Well my little bundle arrived rather quickly after my post on Friday night/Saturday morning! Contractions continued to be irregular but very painful so decided to head to the hospital by 5.30am, told DP to leave my bags in the car as I was expecting to be sent home again......was only 3cm when examined....thought we were in for the long haul due to being 3cm on Friday afternoon.....by the time I was moved onto the delivery suite and given gas and air I was ready to push and DS was born after 17 mins of pushing without a stitch in sight! 8.27am on 28th May weighing 7lb 8oz Noah is just perfect!

Breast feeding was going well until last night when he just lost the plot and screamed the place down for hours and wouldn't latch, the guilt was immense that he was hungry so gave in and used a bottle with formula.....he drained it and settled instantly! Haven't been able to get him to latch since......but he does seem a lot more settled using a bottle than breast, thinking of expressing any tips?

Congrats on all the new babies! Hope they all arrived smoothly!

Fifi luca is gorgeous!

Sorry to all those still waiting I hope it's soon!

Forgot to ask......all those on second and subsequent babies......how are you coping with the after pains? Some of mine can be quite intense as bad as early contractions! Struggling with paracetamol but can't take codeine/co codamol due to it not agreeing with me!

Congrats everything sounds like a great birth. No tips on expressing I'm afraid as I have never really bothered or needed to.

Yy to worse after pains second time around. However a couple of paracetamol seem to work well for me. Not had any for a couple of days now so hoping I've seen the back of them.

Congratulations Everything! Sounds like a lovely birth.

Is it just me left, or are there others still waiting? Can't scroll back very far on my phone!

After pains with second DS were much worse than first time. I had it while feeding DS for the first few days. The first 48 hours were the worst, I took paracetamol and just had to grind my teeth through it. Yes it was comparable to contractions. I was "breathing and counting" through mine in hospital. Midwife said BF makes it more intense but pass quicker - I agree.

Reflux anyone?? My poor DS has taken to stopping breathing before vomiting entire feeds. He won't lie flat, particularly at night, he gurgles and splutters and "clears his throat" and honks and snorts. Such a shame. HV got something prescribed for him, pick it up tomorrow.

Congratulations and welcome to the world Noah [ flowers]

Finally getting around to updating with my birth story. It's a bit of a long one, so sorry guys!!

Woke up on Froday morning with a bad headache and blurry vision. Had never had high BP or proteinuria but DP convinced me to visit day assessment. When I got there BP was pretty high so was moved to labour ward. Consultant gave me medicine for BP and a 24hr propess pessary. Because of high BP stayed on labour ward being intermittently monitored. Pessary didnt do much and waters couldn't be broken so then I had 2 lots of prostin gel and that still didn't dilate my cervix.

One of the senior midwives managed to break my waters even though I was only 1cm. Had a couple of irregular contractions but not much so then the hormone drip was started. That really got my contractions going and I had an epidural so felt great. Unfortunately after hours and hours I was now only 3cm.

Started to feel shaky and sick and then baby was showing signs of distress on the monitor. Unfortunately the registrar was with another very poorly lady so the consultant had to be called in from home. Decision was made for an emergency section.
Caesarian went well but little one was very tangled in his cord which is probably what causes the distress.

First 12hrs with him were magical but now I'm so tired and he's cluster fed all night. Really pissed off with DP who has left me to struggle on my own at the hospital because the chair he gets isn't comfortable and he's tired, while I've had a major operation and haven't slept since the 28th and that was only 2hrs.

I've not posted for a while but I had my little girl on Saturday morning. She's currently catching flies on me whilst I watch Desperate Housewives. She's gorgeous and perfect.

I had to have an emergency section, as her heartbeat was dropping with every contraction and it turned out the cord was wrapped around her neck twice, tightly. So the fact that I had to be induced due to my age was what saved her, as if I hadn't been induced, I wouldn't have had the monitor on and they wouldn't have noticed her heart rate dropping.

DH has been brilliant. Our first night at home was Sunday and he stayed up with her whilst I got the best night of sleep I've had in 9 months!

Congratulations Parsnip! What a long, difficult labour for you. I think you're right - the first 12/24 hours you run on pure adrenalin and you're so amazed by your baby but then you physically hit a wall. You need to rest even though it's difficult. When are you due home? When is DP due back at the hospital? Maybe you could get a couple of hours of sleep once he's back?

My goodness Nicky - isn't it funny how everything turns out just how it's meant to?! Congratulations on your DD, enjoy those cuddles, and the sleep