August 2016 number 5 - waddling towards the third trimester!

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For the August 2016 ladies and babies!

Had my growth scan on Thursday and all is well, baby is measuring average size and is approximately 2lb 12oz :) He's still breech but the midwife said it's nothing to worry about yet.. Also had my whooping cough vaccine yesterday, I feel like I've hardly been in the office this week with all these appointments!

Got a nice relaxing weekend planned, going to sort out the wardrobe in the babies room which is massive and currently filled with all sorts (paperwork, old university work, Christmas wrapping paper - you name it!) DH is going to reshelve it all next time he is home so I can start to put away all of the baby stuff :) also meeting up with a friend who's just had her 12 week scan for a baby gossip/catch up!

Does anyone else's OH work away? How are you feeling with them gone as Dday gets nearer? Mine has another two contracts to fit in before August so will prob only see him for 2 weeks between now and the end of July :( Don't feel too bad atm but wondering if the panic will set in the closer we get!

My DP works away too! It's horrid. I see him approx every 2 weekends out of 4 but I feel like he's missing out and I have no one to look after me and go to the shop when I have a craving

Lily I can't remember what ours was/is but the play gym we have was detachable from the mat so we used that. Plus it could be easily rolled up and stashed out of the way when not in use. Think we also just used a fleecy blanket with sensory type toys on it too - that worked fine to be honest.

Feeling a bit more organised now - we just got a snuzpod off ebay for a decent price so off to collect it soon and then buy a new mattress for it. This baby will have somewhere to sleep before you know it!

My DP works away too. It's not so bad this time as he's home most weekends and one night in the week. We're also aiming to move into our new place in the next couple of weeks, which will mean that, after almost 8 years together, he can finally come home every night

When I was expecting DS, however, we were pretty much living and working at opposite ends of the country. He had a big project going live 3 days before DS was due, which meant he couldn't actually come down until the night before the due date. I managed to convince myself DS was going to be a day early, so almost had DP drive down in the middle of the night to be here for a baby that ended up being almost 2 weeks overdue!

Weirdly, it almost feels like he was more involved with the last pregnancy. We were constantly in touch via Skype / whatsapp / etc last time but now I have my hands full with DS, plus we're so distracted sorting out the move that it feels like I'm just getting on with it. Which might be a good thing as I probably worried too much last time

I know what you mean Lou sometimes I get home from work and all I want is a hug, a foot rub and someone to bring me icecream.. Instead I have to walk the dogs and put the bins out! But he's an angel and treats me like a princess when he is home. I do worry that he misses out on stuff too.. Will be even worse when the baby is here and he has to leave again, all those firsts he'll miss :(

Wow Longtime he was booked to come back the night before?! You poor thing! We're hoping that DH's company let him work from the local office from the end of July (only 12 miles away) so he can start his paternity leave on the day the baby arrives then take a few weeks annual leave. Otherwise he could end up using up all his leave just waiting for me to go into labour!
Do you have any words of wisdom for when he has to go back? I don't really want to think about it atm, it's hard enough when he's just leaving me behind! I bet you're so looking forward to being closer when you get into your new place :) unfortunately my DH works all over the world so nowhere for me to move to!

I had a look around the shops today for some new bits.. Starting to think about clothes that will do me for now, but will also be good for feeding etc. I usually live in dresses but most would be no good for feeding. Got a lovely stretchy black maxi skirt today that I can pair with some nursing tops. Also starting to look at wrap dresses.. My friend added me to a great Facebook group called Can I Feed In It? which the users post photos and links to nursing friendly clothes.. Highly recommended, getting lots of good ideas!

I know you all can't share on here for privacy reasons but I'm very intrigued to know what all your DH's do work wise to be working away so much

If it helps, I've found DH much less involved/interested in my second pregnancy then the first. It's actually been really tough to adjust to because even though he's around the interest just hasn't been there this time round. He adores DS so all his attention is on that and his business at the moment. I'm trying not to be resentful but somedays it is hard

I found similar Pear. Though when I think it through, the reality is that we are both busier this pregnancy, especially with getting practical stuff organised while we can, plus work and extended family demands - and have a toddler shaped distraction which means that time to relax and chat about this pregnancy is far reduced. It's not that either of us care less about this baby or pregnancy but we just don't have the capacity to mentally fit it all in at once sometimes! First time round was different!!

Hello all! Sorry I've been awol for this entire thread!

Have caught up a lil bit, congrats to all those with actual dates!

I've been really down past month, morning sickness is back, I've got spd, kidney probs and it now seems I have PUPPPS...

Works been really annoyed with my time off for appointments, which is compounding it all.

I really want this baby out of me ASAP! I'm sick of the painkillers and limited movement, and all the while people telling me how big I am, how I'm waddling, am I sure it's not twins and my personal fave... But you should feel better!

ARGH!!!

Hi lily, best tip for breast feeding clothes is to get a load of cheap vest tops from primark to wear under normal tops. Then you can pull the vest down over your bra and the top up. You don't show off half your stomach then and can basically wear any tops.

Biscuit yes you're so right and if I'm honest with myself... really it's just me being silly because I know the truth is our life is busier when you already have your hands full with 1 demanding 3 year old.

Owl that vest tip sounds great. I'm not sure I get it. So you pull down the scoop neck to fit under your nursing bra? Is that not uncomfortable or are you saying they're stretchy enough for this purpose?

Bel sorry to read you've had it tough with sickness etc It's horrible when you can't enjoy it all and even worse when your work are making life extra hard! Fx for a smoother 3rd trimester!!

My ankles are crazy swollen. If the heatwave coming to the UK in June is really true then we're all in trouble ladies!!

Owl one of my friends gave me that tip too! She even demonstrated it :) Trouble is I have no skirts or trousers to pair the tops with! I live in dresses!! So going to need to source skirts or dresses that are nursing friendly :) I just can't wear trousers, I feel so uncomfortable in them.. Well except pyjama bottoms.. I could happily wear them all the time

Yes peardrop, exactly that. Buy a size bigger than normal or get the ones with adjustable straps to make a bit looser.

Hummmm dresses.. You could start wearing big scarves then pull the dress down over your boob and drape the scarf over you and the baby? Probably need dresses that button up the front really, I would I'm quite large chested!😉

Oh Pear - it's not silly to feel that way. I hope I didn't give you that message. I have similar feelings sometimes but can usually rationalise them as described earlier. There's nowt wrong in feeling the way you do though :)

I bought feeding vests from Jojo Maman Bebe last time which I wore underneath a loose fitting top (and with a nursing bra). They would have been too hot in the peak of summer but as soon as weather cooled off then they were perfect and saw me through many many months of bf-ing.

pear I completely feel you there! (I'm back, after being too busy feeling sorry for myself and feeling like shit to contribute). I really feel like OH would forget there's a baby in me if I didn't mention it!..and I wasn't huge. It frustrates me so much to think this is OUR little baby wriggling and moving here, all this stuff IM looking for online shopping is for OUR baby yet you show no interest. I feel like this is my baby and my thing and he's letting me get on with it. Total resentment here. The other day he was having a nap and just watching him lay there while I was in pain and knackered myself drove me insane so without warning I shouted "will you wake up, you're really pissing me off!!!" I felt bad for all of 1 second.

Biscuit no not at all... I like your healthy mentality towards it. I'm really emotional in this pregnancy thanks to the girl hormones...everything feels blown up in my world so I could do with just being a bit more sensible about it all

DH told me last night that he's really enjoyed spending more time with Ds and I on holiday but he's looking forward to going back to work for the break Lucky for him I see the funny side! He's been good about giving me little rests here and there and DS has been all over him like a leech so I think that's really what he means

Owl that doesn't sound very comfortable but I will definitely keep it in mind as I like the idea of not showing my midriff! Last time I brought nursing vests from H&M and Mamas and Papas but the clips that you have to undo are a bit of a pain in the arse and I always felt self conscious like I was undressing!

Ha ha Christine that did make me smile to read. I know how it feels to be pissed off like that Sometimes just looking at my DH drives me crazy. Do you know what gender you're having? I didn't feel like this at all with my Ds so I hope it's just the girl hormones!!

He gets away with nothing these days! When he turns the kitchen tap on faster than necessary and that noise of blasting water hits my ears! I don't have to say anything anymore, just instinctively turn my head and give him the death stare and the top turns right down. Fear outweighs everything. We're having a girl..another set of hormones for him to deal with, lucky thing!

I did buy some sort of band things you could wear over your tummy from h+m, mothercare had them too. But I found the two vests things easier tbh.

peardrop - I find bike riding and swimming does wonders for me when it comes to swollen ankles.

Hi Christine My partner is a first-time dad too and I'm finding it a bit difficult to engage him in discussions about childbirth and newborn baby, though he is being brilliant at going out and buying me ice cream, and I think the 'give me back massages' message has got through! I think it's really scary for men as it's a massive change for them to go through, but they don't have nearly as much support or people to talk to about it. I think it's also hard for them to grasp how our every waking (and often sleeping) moment is consumed with feeling pregnant - it's not something we can switch off!

Are you doing any antenatal classes or hospital tours, and is your DP coming? That might help him wake up a bit to what is going on. I've also found these online antenatal class videos at Babycentre (www.babycentre.co.uk/e1042530/sign-up-for-free-antenatal-classes), and was thinking of watching them together (if I can drag him away from Game of Thrones..which really isn't great pregnancy viewing!)

Don't even get me started on back massages. I ask for a back massage and get told "they don't help you!" Urrrmmmm if I say they do, they do! Or "you don't want a massage though you just want to be poked where it hurts" I don't care if I ask you to hit me with bamboo sticks, if it helps me, do it! I'm not doing any classes or anything. He's amazing with kids and my little dog he adores (I know my baby isn't a dog) but I know he'll be amazing with the baby when she's here, it just sucks a bit that he isn't very supportive when I need it

I'm fed up too Belager :-( I know I'm so lucky to have a healthy baby growing inside me, but I do wish he wasn't pushing on every single one of my internal organs and my ribs and my pelvis and making it impossible to sit, stand, walk or lie down comfortably!

Okay. I'm totally trying to not freak out right now, but I think I've just lost my mucus plug
I'm only 28 weeks, baby is measuring big, and I have an induction booked at 37 weeks, but this is much too early!
I'd been having braxton hicks all night, then they eased off and a dull ache sort of settled in my back. Then I went to the toilet and there was his insane amount of 'yack' on the tissue! (Soooo much TMI right now ) From a quick google image search, I'm amount 90% sure it was my plug. I didn't really lose it in one go with my first DS, so didn't really know what the hell it was!

I had a midwife app tomorrow, so hoping she might do an exam and confirm I'm not in labour or anything!

this is my first baby so I know nothing about what anything looks like. But erica I would say ring your mw or hospital ASAP to make sure!