Babies due in November 2016 #2

[FuzzyOwl]

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I never stop worrying! Get scanned :)

I felt movement relatively early - 17w with DD and 12w with DS - both were very active in utero. I can't wait for those moments.

Don't worry about the feta/listeria thing. Lots of feta here is pasteurised, so hopefully all will be fine.

If you managed to get listeria from cheese sold in the UK, it'd be headline news. Its insanely rare. So I wouldn't worry - just tryto ensure all future cheese says it is pasturised.

also,there's apparently abook called 'expecting better'that looks at the actual science and evidence behind lots of the 'rules'. I understand that quite a few of them are frankly silly.

FuzzyOwl I've had absolutely no breast tenderness in either pregnancy, and they haven't got any bigger either! My mum said she was the same. I'm quite pleased they aren't sore though as I'm still breastfeeding!! But certainly not something I think is worrying, just quite personal.

Definitely get scanned fuzzy. If everything's OK, which I'm sure it is, it will put your mind at rest, and if it's not OK surely you'd rather come to terms with that sooner rather then later? That was my rationale for my scan anyway.

Is anyone else starting to look a bit, well, chubs? I've got a proper pot belly which is obv bloating and poo (constipation) rather then baby, but am already wearing baggy clothes to hide it. I look like I've had a crazy session on the pies!

I'm bloated and massive! My weight doesn't seem to have changed but I can barely do my trousers up! We are on holiday next week so I'm going to enjoy not wearing jeans!

I'm sure cheese says if it is unpasteurised (rather than if it is pasteurised). Cooking soft cheeses makes them ok, feta etc is fine. Washing salad and fruit and veg is more important.

sadly our local supermarket had a listeria outbreak a few weeks ago, so super paranoid, though it was not the supermarket I bought the pre-packed cheese from.

I work in the food industry, I used to be amused when we got endless queries from pregnant women asking if this or that was safe. How time changes things!

I felt so bad I ended up making myself sick to get rid of it, which clearly isn't great.

I've got really different symptoms from last time, Fuzzy, and it is so worrying, isn't it? I'm nauseous but in a dramatically different way (last time was borderline HG, this is just nausea and lots of dry retching, rather than bringing back everything I've eaten in the past month). I don't think I'm as tired either. It's hard not to compare with anything else you've been through.

If I were you I would get an early scan, but like I've said before, I have friends who sail through pregnancies with very few symptoms and can't understand why other women don't enjoy pregnancy!

Majorly anxious today, had to call to re-book scan and gynae as I am on holiday.

Terrified of going there and it being bad news. Terrified of never getting there.

The lump in my breast has come back.

I dont want to miscarry at all, but I especially don't want to miscarry in a non-english speaking country.

And how do I manage food safety in a country with completely different rules for pregnant women.

Also not feeling so tired or achey today, which is frightening, but might be because I am so on edge.

Don't want all this stress to affect the baby. My first mc was following a healthy scan a few weeks previously, the day after a massive stressful cock-up at work

Hula hoops and chipsticks are my go to foods at the moment too!!

Welcome Lemon, Starky & TwoHearts

Great news Spotty on your heartbeat and JoMalones on your HCG

Albus it sounds like you do have a good one. Thinking about you

Ants I understand what you're going through - my niece miscarried yesterday at 12 weeks. Devastated for her and also feel so guilty. She was due her first scan today.
I'm rhesus -ve but don't know if you should have anti-D after a CP. Sorry!!

Thurlow & Fuzzyowl I'm having an ELCS too. Don't think it should be too hard to get as the my really didn't want me to have a VBAC with dd, stressed the whole way through my labour and the second dd showed any distress they flew me down to theatre. Fingers crossed.

I'm so bloated!! Baggy tops for me for now, can't lay on my tummy anymore either. My friend said that she was public by 8weeks with her dc3 as there was just no hiding it!!

Albus it's difficult to know how to reassure you. I guess the only way to get any reassurance is a scan. Having said that I had an early scan and I'm now anxious about my next scan.

I felt bloated prior to my bfp thanks to three months of puregon injections. My dh thinks it's more of a bump now although I can't see any difference. I'm living in leggings and dresses at the moment.

I am also looking chubs! I started off a bit underweight and have gained 8lbs since finding out. Had to go buy new trousers for work and some baggy tops to try and hide my bloated belly. Hoping my gain slows down after this as you're not meant to gain more than 3-5lbs in the first trimester and I'm only 7 weeks.

Albus I hope you are feeling better. Trying to relax and not worry about things is so hard right now and I can completely understand why the cheese thing will have freaked you out. Sometimes our brains are not our friends.....speaking of which....

I have been panicking the last 24 hours and wondered if anyone can offer any advice/give me a slap. I was looking at my scan results from Sunday and notice that the CRL is only 2.8mm. Lots of things I've read say it should be 4mm at 6wks yet the consultant confirmed age as 6w2d. There was a heartbeat so I know I should stop worrying and I have another scan to check it all is progressing as expected next Thurs but my mind is not being kind to me. Any one have any experience of this or any words of wisdom? Many thanks in advance for listening to me.

I got some good under bump jeans from Dotty P's the other day, which feel like they are going to be comfortable for the next few months, as well as their black trousers. I really hated over the bump stuff before about 7m last time, it felt uncomfortable until I really had a decent sized bump.

I'm waiting on a friend to post me back some maternity clothes I lent her about three years ago, and desperately hoping that a very much loved blue and ochre dress is still wearable after she's been through two pregnancies - I loved that dress, I'm almost surprised I lent it to her! I do appear to have lent her all my good stuff though, as when I found one bag of mat clothes in the loft, it had hardly any of my decent things in it...

Oh Albus I can understand your concern and I hope you have been able to rebook your scan for quite soon.

H0p I honestly don't know but I do know that Google is not our friend when we worry. Was the baby measuring the right age? If so and there was a heartbeat, I would be happy with that. Don't forget that the babies are wriggling around on the screen and the measurements are fractions of a millimetre - so easy to get wrong and I expect the 4mm is an average.

I have decided to try and get an early scan and in the meantime chant to myself that today I am pregnant and assume I am really lucky to not have symptoms instead of going on about how worried I am and not doing anything proactive. Thank you for the support and listening to me though and I am sorry for being so negative recently.

Rebooked scan is 21st April, so will be nearly 13 weeks by then

I don't think any of us need to apologise for being too negative, or for being too TMI - that's the point of threads like these

FuzzyOwl, hope the scan set your mind at rest.

I'm slightly stressed at the moment and its not helping, no sickness, which I am taking as a good thing, I was very sick with DD's, but ravenously hungry, and had really painful aching lower back for the last couple of days, thankfully that appears to have subsided.

When is everyone going to plan buying for the baby? I'm in the process of moving, and DP has banned me form buying anything till we have moved (understandable and it is vey early days).
I can't help feeling very excited

I'm grateful for the opportunity to ask questions here openly. I can't talk to my family as it's the first grandchild after a loooong wait and my parents and siblings are more stressed that I am. Aside from that I'm quite a private person and wouldn't discuss some of these issues with my friends.

fuzzywuzzy, I spent half of yesterday working out how we can get away without buying a new pram and making the pushchairs we have work for a newborn. And then which sling might be the best one to get, so I don't need the pram much. And then which buggyboard fits on the pushchair. As well as tallying up what we can get from friends who are past the baby stage (crib and car seat, so far)...

I wouldn't worry. I already have the name/s picked

We've said we might buy a little outfit if the 12 week scan is ok, and start talking about names. I'm not sure if I want to though! If we can resist, I don't want to buy anything else until at least 20 weeks.

My mum has a Moses basket that at least 10 babies from our extended family have been in (including me!) so we just need to buy a new mattress and it's good to go

Agree with you finding- there's no way I'd talk about any of this IRL.

I've made it out of bed for the first time in a week! Got the booking in appointment later so am on the sofa testing my ability to sit up straight without being sick.

Well I have caved and booked an early scan for next week.

I have been quite happy to wait for the 12 week scan as I couldn't see the point of an early scan, but increasingly it seems ages away (6 whole weeks)!

I feel quite silly as I know there no medical need for it but hopefully it will help convince me that I haven't just imagined the whole thing and there really is something in there!

Finding I agree it's great to have somewhere to chat about things, I also wouldn't discuss half these things in real life!

Earliest I can get a scan that DH can come along to is a week on Saturday but that is just a few days before I go on holiday. When I return from holiday, I will be due my 12 week scan. I won't have enough time to do anything before going away if I have miscarried so I guess I will just have to continue telling myself all is fine. In fairness, it isn't as if I have suddenly lost symptoms because I have never really had any and my previous mmc gave me constant stomach cramps that didn't subside, which I also don't have. In fact, other than my overactive imagination, I really don't have any reason to worry because lots of women are lucky enough to have quite easy pregnancies and my last one was the same (although I did have some nausea then and don't now). You are all great to discuss these things with!

fuzzy I have a ten month old so am planning on using her old clothes and toys. I don't think there is anything new that I need to buy apart from a pram and a bigger car.

Hope your appointment goes well Rae and your sickness stays away.

Good luck with your scan gold.

I don't think I'll buy anything until I know the sex of the baby.

My dsis caved in and bought a knitted hat. The family were horrified and thought it was bad luck so she's hidden it away!

I'm not even tempted to buy anything. I don't seem to have the enthusiasm.

Thanks FuzzyO. It was measuring right size got dates according to consultant and my sister who is just the best person as had lots of anxiety and problems and now had lots of info said the 4mm thing is actually the 95th percentile and I am bang on average. Feel much better. Like you fuzzy I am trying to do the 'today I am pregnant, tomorrow I'll deal with what comes' mantra but it's hard isn't it? Agree that this thread is such a good place for questions and concerns given we are all so early and not really telling people IRL.

I think early scans are both a blessing and a curse as they can reassure or create anxiety or both and regardless it is only a snapshot of that point and we all know things can change. My fingers are crossed for you all with scans booked and upcoming.

On happier things, my sister has basically everything we are going to need and is making me a list so we can choose what we want. We have one outfit which we bought as a gift for someone else but never gave them so have kept for ourselves, but I think I will wait as long as possible before buying anything else. It's hard thoughts I'm a shopper at heart and love all the miniature things!!

We haven't bought anything yet. Have so much already as DD's still a baby really. New mattress for the moses basket and a new mattress for the cot bed and then a tandem/double buggy are about it really, though DD will need a complete new set of furniture as we're planning to leave her nursery as it is for the new baby and move her into her new room once baby arrives! It's strange not to be planning to decorate for the baby (but we literally only decorated in there this time last year!) But exciting to decorate for DD at the same time!