Babies due in November 2016 #2

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Has anyone else still had no contact with a midwife or doctor..? I am 9w4d and still awaiting a phone call for an appointment.

I understand how you feel Aye, I got myself to such a miserable point at the weekend. I literally felt like I was having the only baby in the world and couldn't tell anyone. I felt really isolated, even with all the MN support on here. I had my early scan on Monday and then last night, I just said to my DH 'we're going to my parents to tell them now' and he agreed. I think he was feeling the burden of being the only one who knew. Telling my mum and dad was amazing and I literally felt like a weight lifted off me. I slept for a full 8 hours last night for the first time. I'm only 7+6 and not out of the woods, but remember, today we are pregnant. The first trimester is so hard- both physically and mentally. It's so insane and you're trying not to tell everyone. But it's not supposed to be miserable! Could you just tell 1 of your friends? I really think an outlet would be great for you, I wish I'd told my parents earlier instead of putting myself through some sort of martyrdom in case anything went wrong so early. Today, you are pregnant!

Aye I really feel for you, I was a total anxious mess with my last pregnancy and didn't tell anyone at all until I was about 18 weeks, and then it was only out of necessity as I was starting to show. It is lonely and worrying.

Hopefully you will start to feel physically better in a couple of weeks or so and then the feelings of loneliness might be less heightened.

Wrt work, if it is potentially dangerous then I really do think you should tell work so they can put the necessary precautions in place and/or you need to call in sick so you don't have to go to that place. You and baby need to come first.

I am 12 weeks today and dare I say I feel better even though I have not been sleeping well. Nausea is really reduced even when I brush my teeth though still feel very hungry and I feel fragile. Food smells still disturb me but doesn't make me gag like it used to.
I think I am actually due oct. 27, funny how with IVF even the midwife is not sure how to calculate due dates etc but looking forward to the letter that should have come this week for my scan.
Hope you all ladies start to feel better even as we get bigger

jade I'm not in the uk but maybe you should chase it up (no idea how though!) otherwise you might be too late for the NT scan.

aye sorry you're feeling so lonely. I've told a few people, really just because if something goes wrong now you're probably not going to be able to keep it entirely to yourself. I Think telling your boss at least, would be a really good idea so you can avoid the dangerous stuff at work.
Could you ring one of your friends? if something does go wrong you wouldn't have to tell her immediately so you'd have time to deal with Before having to see or speak to her. Remember today we are pregnant.

Morning all, hope you're OK.

Aye, sorry things are so hard. If it's of any use, I travel to Nigeria often for work/pleasure and have made the hard decision not to go now until after baby is born (and probably for a while after). I weighed up how much I get out of it and enjoy it against the realities of what it would be like to be there if I had any problems. Finding functioning cash points to withdraw enough money to see a doctor, finding a car, perhaps sitting in traffic for hours en route to doctor. It became clear quite fast that continuing to go could be much more a source of stress than pleasure (though actually baby's first week of existence was spent in Lagos). DH, who also works there a lot, was also against my going there while pregnant and I don't want to worry him.
All this is to say that I really think you should consider your business trip carefully and what it would be like if you had any trouble while there. Also that you should tell someone at work if you feel it's at all possible; they have to look after you -- the upsides of their being able to make are arrangements for you probably outweigh the downsides of the stress and fear of going alone and without anyone knowing. As I'm sure you know, travel to hostile environments can have different insurance rules so that's something to consider too.

Sorry to blather on, I hope that's of some use. Xxx

X-post aye glad you're feeling a Little better today if you really don't want to tell work can you call in sick or something? assuming its just a day or two at the dangerous Place. Or call them in advance and beg them not to tell your boss/colleagues?

Oh and copper when's your big London day of work? Passing you a virtual sick bag for the train.

Felt very refreshed after my long sleep and thought I'd get up and do a bit of work before having a shower. Haven't felt nauseous since Monday (I didn't really eat much yesterday but more because I wasn't hungry rather than nauseous). Thinking to myself yay, I'm about to hit 8 weeks, I'm maybe getting past the nausea!

But nope. Just spent the last 15 minutes throwing up in the shower. Then the water cut off because it had been running too long so I had to sit on the edge of the bath in the cold with shampoo in my hair, feeling sorry for myself until it let me turn it back on again! Feel fine now though! Oh the joys of pregnancy!

Aye, that is hard. What would happen if work did know or you had to miss this trip?

Morning everyone. Aye, I echo what everyone else has said and hope you can find a solution that works for you. I'm really anxious about telling anyone until at least I've seen for myself that there's actually a baby in there - we're having an early scan next Monday (eeek!) and then will tell a few very close friends.

We can't tell our families until almost 12 weeks anyway as my mum is currently away and then we're off on our holidays so won't see them all together until mid-May. Going away is a bit of a blessing as there'll be no need to hide it! I am excited to tell people, though.

almond, my London day of work was supposed to be yesterday but HALLELUJAH, it was cancelled! It was going to be a 6am-11pm day with all the travel (I live up north) so I was very relieved when they told me.

Got my personal training session this morning - nausea at bay... for now!

It does sound as though honesty is the best policy here Aye . You don't want to put yourself in a position where you feel vulnerable.

Jam you have my sympathy. That sounds like a traumatic shower!

I am really struggling with nausea even though I haven't actually thrown up. I feel disgusting and it seems to get worse every day. I'm going to go and buy some Vitamin B6 which I've read might help. I've bought gel sick bags for my commute because I'm convinced the vomiting is going to get me eventually and sods law states that it'll probably strike on a train.

Hi, i may have posted somewhere, not sure, we are due 29th November so that makes us 7 weeks and 2 day snow, had a dating scan and everything looked great and have had to book already for the NT scan at 13 weeks 2 days as we are off overseas for most of that. Had awful mc last year and so this baby is so desperately wanted. Got told by receptionist at sonographers today I am soooo early on, its too soon to book NT and when I explained why, she made me feel so awful like baby is just touch and go in these early weeks and you never can tell if things will work out. Well, I had to let it go because I just feel so positive about this baby.

INeed, B6 made a big difference for me in my first pregnancy - I didn't think it was so I stopped taking it and felt twice as rubbish within 2 days. Worth a try at least.

Aye I hope you can find a solution that works for you.

Jam that sounds an awful shower. I really hope you were at least able to get warm quickly afterwards.

I might not feel it but I definitely look pregnant now. I was almost six months before I needed maternity clothes last time, so the fact I am almost eleven weeks and only able to get into one pair of very baggy jeans or floaty dresses does not bode well.

Going to get my haircut tonight

It is absolutely ruined at the moment, its very long, so going to go short and see if it improves its condition.

I thought pregnancy was meant to give you awesome hair

Thurlow thanks for your post. What dose of B6 did you take?

Bought this sleeping bra and it is a revelation -- so soft and comfy, also cheap. Highly recommended if anyone is looking. I am a 36 chest and it fits perfectly. Also looks as nice as such a thing is ever going to. www.figleaves.com/uk/product/EJ-342/Emma-Jane-Sleep-Bra/?size=&colour=Black&c=ppc&src=gguk_feed&gclid=Cj0KEQjw3Le4BRDxx5bk4aDn9t4BEiQAfmxQGTsdEH3jcxaDor6w03JnI-aFwyFL371Gmp7uL6hg2BMaAqsh8P8HAQ&gclsrc=aw.ds

Hope the haircut helps make you feel good Albus. Pregnancy has given me greasy hair, does that count?

I just take 1 a day of the Boots tablets, which is 10mg, but WebMD says you can take up to 25mg [http://www.webmd.com/baby/tc/vitamins-b6-and-b12-for-morning-sickness-topic-overview here]

here!

My hair seems ok, but it was last time too. My nails are shocking though, and my face looks quite dry.