December 2016... Babies

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Doesn't seem to be a thread yet for babies due in December, possibly because I'm crazy and POAS really really early but a line is a line and today was my "double check" second day and a BFP it was again!

I sadly had a miscarriage in November found the July babies thread a huge help in my early days of pregnancy and the ladies were very supportive after the MC - I've just returned to mumsnet under a new name as I was finding it a bit painful at one point and went a bit cold turkey from it all!

So here is a bit about me

I'm 38
This will be baby number one for me
EDD 3rd December (know when I ovulated been using the monitor - the app ok many apps I've consulted this morning confirm this as the date

Very nervous after last time but want to enjoy every minute I can, I loved being pregnant before and want to do all the same things as before just keeping everything crossed for a sticky one.

Who is ready to join me

Welcome to all the new joinees and congratulations.

I think we'll wait til 12 weeks too to tell parents. We haven't told them about the ivf, or even that we've been trying for 3+ years or previous miscarriages. It's not that I don't think they'd be supportive, it's just they live in a different part of the country and don't see them all that often, although we've always been close and I speak to them every week. From so far away there's nothing they could do really and so we didn't want to worry/burden them. So if we get to 12 week scan and all is looking good we'll probably plan visits and go and tell them in person.

That's great yours were so supportive in the past duxb, pocketsized I'm so sorry yours werent x

I'd rather wait til 12 weeks, but as a couple of friends know already (one who has been through a similar infertility 'journey' (I hate that phrase), my bestest friend and another close friend who has been über supportive of my treatment), so my parents will probably find out in a week or so when it's sunk in a bit. They have no idea we were even trying, let alone facing IVF!

Hiding, I am so sorry to hear about your precious DC1. There are no words. This must all take quite a bit of getting your head round. I hope this is a smooth pregnancy for you.

Pocket, DD is 16 months, she will be 2 in mid Nov just before this one is born. I was thinking this would take longer than it did too so thought she would be a bit older. The idea is taking a bit of getting used to.

We told my parents tonight, but only because they are staying with us and we wouldn't see them for another 6 weeks otherwise as they live a couple of hours away. We will tell PIL next week when we see them, again we only see them every few months as they live in Northern Ireland.
We told both sets of parents at about 8 weeks with DD, but I had already had an early scan at 6 weeks showing a heartbeat after bleeding so I was happier telling them early then.

Same here, 12 weeks or later, depending on when we see different family members. This is our first and without sounding mean, I know my parents will turn it into a circus and will suddenly be on the phone every day asking a million questions. In laws will probably send a huge email to all their friends - they love to brag.
To me this is a very private time, me and dh starting our own family, and I want to keep the nosy people out of my uterus for as long as possible!
Wow, I do sound mean.

hiding I missed your introduction yesterday, I also wanted to to say how sorry I am about your dc1, and wish you a trouble free pregnancy

Hello everyone,
BFP this morning - eeek! Tentative EDD of 11th Dec. I tested as i always feel extremely weepy and down and burst into tears at the slightest thing when in early pregnancy, all my problems seem insurmountable - and I had a very upset and sobby day yesterday - I knew that I was being silly and hysterical.
I have 2 children already aged 8 & 6, who will be 9 & 7 by December. I had a m/c (my first) at 5-6 weeks in November 2015 so fairly anxious.
I haven't told DH yet and won't for a few days unless he guesses. He's off abroad (to Europe) in a few days with his band, just for the weekend so I might leave telling him until he's home. I like a few days for the news to sink in first. We weren't trying but weren't preventing.
If all goes well, we won't be finding out sex and I'll be hoping for a home birth like my first two, although I may face some barriers as I have a high BMI and am now 36. In terms of telling people, well definitely wait until after 1st scan (if we get that far, for family anyway - happy to wait longer for others. I don't have FB though so that rules out that complication!
I will attempt to find the latest list now and copy over with my info. Nice to 'meet' you all!!

StarkyTheDirewolf - EDD 25th Nov to 1st Dec. Team yellow.
Duxb - EDD 28th Nov onwards. Team yellow.
ScottishGirlx - EDD 28th Nov. Team yellow.
Orchidnap - EDD 30th Nov - 1st Dec. Team yellow.
MrsJoJo - EDD 28th Nov - 2nd Dec. Team yellow.
Thisisbonkers - EDD early Dec. Team yellow.
Fiddlesticks123 - EDD 2nd Dec. Team yellow.
KitKat1985 - EDD 2nd Dec. Team yellow.
Theaks - EDD 2nd Dec. Team yellow.
Devgal - EDD 3rd Dec. Team yellow.
SolomonDaisy - EDD 4th Dec. Team yellow.
Nuttypops - EDD 4th Dec. Team yellow.
TipBoov - EDD 6th Dec. Team yellow.
NotAClue82 - EDD 7th Dec. Team yellow.
LittleBear01 - EDD 7th Dec. Team yellow.
User1459543334 - EDD 7th Dec. Team yellow.
Sunnydays321 - EDD 8th Dec. Team yellow.
shopaholic85 - EDD 8th Dec. Team yellow.
ChoChang - EDD 9th Dec. Team yellow.
HidinginPlainS1ght - EDD 9th Dec. Team yellow.
BabyBumpHopeful - EDD 10th Dec. Team yellow.
Azure83 - EDD 11th Dec. Team yellow.
lilydaisyrose - EDD 11th Dec. Team yellow.
MrsMushrooms - EDD? Team yellow.
pocketsized - EDD? Team yellow.

I've hopefully added in everyone correctly since the last update. If not, please copy and update!

Oops, sorry, missed off my EDD - 9th December, if all goes to plan. DD was 10 days early though, so might end up being November!

Congratulations lily

I just took a CB digital and it has moved on to 2-3 weeks which is exactly right as I'm 4+1 today. However, I've had a small amount of red blood this morning (spotting up to now has been dark brown) so I'm kind of stressed about that now too. littlebear when you said you'd had some bleeding in your last preg and this, was it red or dark? (sorry for the tmi ladies)

nuttypops if this pregnancy works out DD will be 1 and 9 months. I'm getting a bit terrified about the practicalities already. She's a rubbish sleeper, and I had quite a hard time when she was a newborn so quite nervous about doing it again!

Hi pocketsized,

I have a 22 month gap between my eldest two and it has worked out brilliantly - they are 8 & 6 now and best of friends. In some ways a close age gap can be easier.

Hi ChoChang,

At 4+1, your spotting is likely to be implantation. Fingers crossed.

When I m/carried last November, it was initially light brown and very stringy then red blood & clots (@ 6w pg) a few days later.

Thanks lily

That's what I keep telling myself, and I didn't want a huge age gap, but wasn't expecting one quite this small.

DD was poorly though, and I had pnd so it was a pretty stressful time. I'm really feeling a lot better now and I don't want to ruin it!

Also, I only returned to work from mat leave this month! That's going to be an interesting conversation!

Hi Lily. I've had brown spotting for the last 8 days, but red this morning. So sorry to hear about your m/c, I've m/c before too and I know if it goes to clotting it's game over, but also the CB has moved on to 2-3 weeks so that gives me a bit of hope. Nothing to do but wait and see, but so anxious/frustrating.

Pocket, how are work likely to take your news? I wouldn't worry, we've had tons of people at our place coming back off mat leave and announcing pregnancies v quickly.

Choose work will probably be really lovely about it, but I will still feel a bit silly! I am loving being back at work too, and getting stuck into some projects that I now won't see through. I know it doesn't really matter, but it's taking a while to sink in.

With my last pregnancy I had a bit of red spotting, just on wiping. With the mc there was no mistaking it, turned into heavy period bleeding with cramping quite quickly. Keeping my fingers crossed for you that everything's ok. I know how frustrating and worrying it is not knowing and not being able to do anything about it.

I'm a bit worried about work. I come off mat leave for DC1 next week but straight into leave. I won't actually be back in work full time until August due to leave and phased return. Not sure how they'll take this pregnancy (if it works out)

Cho I think if the red blood was related to miscarriage your Hcg would have already started to dip, so the weeks indicator is a very good sign.

Hello everyone, Just wanted to join the club as I've been reading this thread this morning! Had my first positive result last Tues 29th, then another yesterday when AF due, which was also positive but with a slightly stronger line. Getting a DD of 10th Dec! Very new to all this, been TTC since NY and thought this would take a little longer due to my age (34) so possibly not as prepared as I should be! I noticed many of the ladies posting are continuing to test after a few positive results. Should I do the same? Is clearblue digital the most reliable?

Hi all, only been away a day and so much to read. Welcome all newbies and CONGRATULATIONS!!!
Kitty I asked the same question as I only tested once. But some of the ladies have used the CB which indicate weeks to show that hormones are increasing as the weeks increase! Never thought I that and makes sense. I haven't done anymore tests since my positive last Sunday. I'm going to try and trust.

Thanks v much! I think I might just get the digital one, even just to make it seem more real. Still a bit shellshocked!

I did two, but only because the first one was quite early and you really had to squint these anything. The second one was very clear so I am not planning to do another.

Yes I had one very strong so didn't want to do anymore! They not cheap!

Pocket, I know what you mean about worrying about the small age gap a bit. Two in nappies, in cots etc still is going to be tricky BUT I think a small age gap as they grow up is hopefully going to be lovely. The sleep thing petrifies me, I felt horrendous with DD because of it but hopefully it is easier second time around. Sorry to hear you had PND, I hope they were able to help with that quickly. In some ways, hopefully having the small age gap will help with sleep in that it is over a shorter period that we need to deal with it? I live in hope!

Hey guys...hope everyone is doing ok! Just wondering if my husbands reaction to our pregnancy news is normal! He was shocked,as was I that we became pregnant so soon! We have both always wanted children and wanted them sooner rather than later! He is however airing on the side of caution as we're only 4weeks + 6 days and saying its early days and we shouldn't look too far into the future. I've rarely talked about it but when I do he says he feels I'm running too quickly...I only mentioned the possibility of paying for a private 7 week scan for peace of mind as I'm anxious and he responds with 'one step at a time'! Now I feel I can't talk about anything relating to pregnancy with him and as he's the only one who knows I'm feeling very isolated X