Thread #4 - TTC#1 the one where Stark joins the grads!!!!

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Welcome to another riveting instalment of TTC#1 grads.

We've got new grads POAS every day just to make sure, 1st Trimesters wondering if they will be hit by the dreaded morning sickness or not, those approaching the hollowed promised land of the second trimester where all is good and the glowing will prevail... Those who have reached the second trimester and are thoroughly miffed at the lack of glowing.
We have scan photos, bizarre symptoms and the joys of baby shopping, and very importantly we now have Stark!

All are welcome on the wild gas powered ride that is TTC#1 grads

soda fx everything is ok and you don't need to go through it. I wish I was enjoying the sun but I live in sunny north east and it's raining and grey! Vomiting seems to have stopped around 1pm so I'm eating crap and watching films with the log burner on and for some reason frantically googling nub and skull theory. Maybe I do want to know.

My hair is growing at a mega rate. It's almost back down to my waist and needs cut. My nails are so strong and long, too. Maybe this pregnancy thing isn't all bad!

Except, y'know, the belly flab. I'm at the belly flab stage.

Great news leonie!

Tell me about belly flab!! I had a pretty flat stomach before. I've put on about 2lb but it looks like I've put on about 10lb in belly fat! I know it'll turn into bump soon but it's kind of disconcerting. Wish I had the nice hair and nails miley. My hair is greasy and I'm getting loads of spots. I don't mind though, really.

Lovely scan pictures girls!

Does anyone have any advice/experience of weight loss in pregnancy? I've weighed myself this morning for the first time in ages and I am 3/4 stone overweight so my BMI is 26.4 . I am really annoyed with myself-it has been a stressful time at work and we are in the process of moving house too. I really want a healthy pregnancy especially as I am almost 35 (elderly primip!).

Should I just try to eat sensibly and up my gentle exercise a bit (walking, planning to start swimming and do exercise DVDs, was running but I get really red and sweaty and I would rather do something I can continue with safely throughout)? Any advice welcome

elle I think it's advised that you don't actively try to lose weight. I'd definitely stick to walking/eating a well balanced diet and worry about it once baby is here

lara I'm exactly the same. My hair is greasy too, I'm having to wash it so much more. Belly flab is awful, I had a flat stomach too but it's just gathering there in big jiggly rolls!

I am going to look so much further along than I am as it is all around my middle thanks Miley, that's what I was thinking too.

The week before my BFP, I had loads of spots! My hair is definitely greasier than normal too. Lovely!

Agree with miley that you don't want to worry about weight loss during your pregnancy elle. BMI is only a guide anyway, and I'm sure you're perfectly healthy. Best thing you can do now is eat as healthily as you comfortably can (but not get hung up on it) and just keep on with the moderate exercise when you feel up to it. You have a baby to grow! Diet can start in January!

Thanks Lara, I feel really guilty for letting myself get out of shape while TTC. I will focus on being healthy and not eating too much crap. Hoping morning sickness won't be so bad I can't exercise!

Elle I'm similar to you. I put on about half a stone in my first year of marriage and then about the same again over Christmas and our lovely holiday, and then I fell pregnant so the weight has never gone. I was a stone overweight at my 12 week appointment but the midwives didn't say anything to me about it. I wear a size 10 so hopefully I'm carrying it well... I'd like to say I've been keeping active and eating well but haven't really done much of either. My meals are healthy but I have a really sweet tooth at the moment! I am trying to focus on cooking healthy meals and when the chocolate and nice things from Easter are gone, I won't be replacing them so hopefully that'll help me stay on track.

I'm told that you can do Slimming World while pregnant if you focus on maintaining your weight and your midwife agrees.

I think as long as you don't skip meals and eat 80% healthily you'll find it easier to lose it once baby is here (plus you use up to 500cals extra a day breastfeeding feeding if that is what you're planning!) When I was weight training and looking into it seriously as competetive I had a lot of muscle definition (I had a 6 pack) was around 15% body fat and was incredibly lean. My BMI was something like 24.8 which is just in the ok range. I hate BMI, it doesn't take into account muscle/water/anything that isn't just a number on a scale. I always tell people to look in the mirror as it's a better way to judge than being defined by a number. I had an eating disorder when I was younger and was so hung up on weight I vowed never to be controlled by it again. I don't really know where I'm going with this other than just to say please don't worry about a number!

Shelb - we are going to get an Ikea chair to use for nursing (the poang). It doesn't look as nice as a 'proper' nursing chair but is a fraction of the price of the nursing chairs we've seen. We'll either do that or get an arm chair.

Sorry to dive in me me me but - tmi warning, I've got a bit of bleeding, nearly 19 weeks. It's darkish blood so I'm not panicking, but I've been have pretty strong cramps for 24 hours. Haven't DTD for over a week...

What you reckon?

X

shelb after bleeding here on Wednesday I'd say call your nearest epu for advice and if it continues go straight to a&e. Doesn't matter how many people tell you it's normal it doesn't help until you've seen an actual doc

Shelb hope you're able to get some advice tonight-can you get to a doctor?

Thanks Leonie and Miley (15% body fat?!). The mirror says I'm not carrying it well and I have a gut . It has definitely got a lot worse in the last week or so, so hoping some is bloat.

Thanks ladies.

I'm not sure what to do really - it was (TMI) the kind of blood when you very start / end your period, dark brownish. It's not 'coming' out, just when I wipe, and only if I wipe then wait half and hour / and wipe again.

I might ring the epu. I know it sounds ridiculous but - if we go in now (beer I clock) on a Saturday night to hour hospital we will be in there all night won't we?

X

Shelb, if you go now you might get in before all of the Saturday night drunks.

I'm sure it's fine but at least if you see someone tonight it will hopefully put your mind at rest.

Shelb that was exactly the same type of blood as I had at 8w. I'd say go in just to put your mind at ease but I'm sure everything will be fine. Mine ended up being a little clot outside the uterus, no reason why it was there but sometimes it can just happen. I think you may miss the drunks if you go in now plus you'll surely be higher priority?!

Thanks ladies. I rang the MAU - she said if it goes red to go in straight away and ring back in two hours anyway. :-(. Trying not to worry.

X

Thinking of you, shelb

Hugs Shelb

Hi everyone. I've had a lovely day with family and lots of food, I'm feel so much better.

Shelb. I hope you're okay and not worrying too much

Hi everyone, checking in after a stressful couple of days. Yesterday I got more bleeding and really painful cramps. Bleeding stopped this am, but still cramping hard. I phoned the gp here in France yesterday and they were so unhelpful! Told me they don't believe a HPT and I have to have a positive blood test before they'll treat me as pregnant, that I couldn't get a blood test until earliest Monday morning, and that's if they have any appts for new patients, who can't call before 10. I asked if I could just go to hospital and they were like "well it's hardly an emergency is it?". I get that I'm not gushing blood, and so early in losing the baby could just happen, but a little bit of sympathy would have been nice! They told me there's nothing they can do and I just have to wait - I understand that, but how long? I don't want to go to 12 week scan for bad news. And I don't really even want to wait the time it would take to get back to uk and contact epu re bleeding!

And my symptoms have gone. No nausea, no faintness, boobs and nips back to normal. Just super painful cramps. I just need to know either way, because I feel sick I'm so worried, and the hanging on unsure is awful

Sorry, self-indulgent rant over.

Shelb so sorry you've had bleeding. It's really good they're getting you to check in after 2 hours! I hope everything settled down quickly for you.

Yesterday's scan photos were lovely but I can never see a nub lol !

Imp stuff them and go to A&E! what a stupid, thoughtless way for them to treat you.

Shelb I'm sure it will be fine but get yourself seen as soon as possible if only to put your mind at rest.

Well, I've been making the mistake of posting on other threads and have finally felt the wrath of MN. Posted a comment in response to a relationships thread and as a result have been called mean, spiteful and not very nice I'm just going to slope of and hide in a dark little hole until all the scary people forget I exist.

Have decided to name change. No more posting outside the pregnancy topic for me!

August
11 Mor
13 Bunch (boy)
16 New
27 Potato (or any time after 04/06)
30 Pink

September
1 Shelb
4 Nev (boy)
12 Danni
14 Soda
14 LittleBelle
17 Bubbles
28 Leonie

October
1 Lauren
5 Lisa
6 Irregular
8 Choc
10 Miley
12 Indi
13 Co5mo
14 Lillian
20 Planet
27 Lara
30 First

November
6 Bellini
8 Pyxie
11 Peaches
11 5tar
12 Rae
21 Canters
25 Stark!!!!!
25 Jam
29 Elle

December
6 Impy

Imp, I agree. Go to hospital if you're worried. You shouldn't be left to stress for two days about what may or may not be happening, it's not fair.

I hope everything's ok x