Thread #4 - TTC#1 the one where Stark joins the grads!!!!

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Welcome to another riveting instalment of TTC#1 grads.

We've got new grads POAS every day just to make sure, 1st Trimesters wondering if they will be hit by the dreaded morning sickness or not, those approaching the hollowed promised land of the second trimester where all is good and the glowing will prevail... Those who have reached the second trimester and are thoroughly miffed at the lack of glowing.
We have scan photos, bizarre symptoms and the joys of baby shopping, and very importantly we now have Stark!

All are welcome on the wild gas powered ride that is TTC#1 grads

Sorry to read you are having bad days soda and miley.

I echo what everyone has said - especially re bleeding after DTD miley, lots of us have had that so try not to worry too much. Has it stopped?

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Jam I would say take DH to the group session, that's what I would do (I wasn't offered any early bird sessions though). I didn't take DH to my midwife appt- wasn't mad on getting weighed in front of him, silly I know, plus it's just a lot of medical questions and as long as you know his family history you don't really need him there.

Thats a really good deal Indi, and at least you now it will be coming from a good home!

Jam, i didn't take OH to my booking in appointment. Personally, I think it would have been a waste of time him going to that. It was all just taking blood and wee, and medical questions. As long as you check with him beforehand to get an overview of anything important in his medical history, I would say there is no need for him to go to that.

Jam, I agree with not bothering to take your dh to the booking in appt. I can imagine he'll feel a bit of a spare part tbh. I was just bloods, wee, and lots of questions. Make sure you know any close family history of illnesses, but that's all.

Ok thanks everyone- will tell him to take a half day for the group one and bugger off for the midwife one lol. How lovely to have you wise old birds on hand to ask these things!!

Bloody hell. Who would dare to post a possible baby name on those threads here?!

Check out the Jayden one. Full on bitchy name calling, posts being deleted by hq and accusations of racism.

I am staying well and truly in our cosy bubble of non psychos.

And there's always one that goes "sounds like a stripper name" on threads like that irregular it's so rude and unnecessary, it's like, people have different opinions, that's ok!

I've been tempted for weeks to out a thread up saying "having worked in strip clubs for the best part of 10 years, actually, all your arsey stereotypical bullshit is incorrect and I know more strippers called Anna, Amelia, Charlotte, Georgia, Maria, Sophia etc than the Jade, Jayden, Crystal, Sapphire etc than are immediately denounced as stripper names. So all these lovely, strong, pure names that are touted on those boards are as standard in the clubs as the ones they assume sound "chavvy" and "cheap"....but I won't! Because it will start a bun fight!

Sorry and for everyone having a rough day. Much love and positive thoughts from the wolf den.

Lol, stark and Irregular once you leave our cozy little world there are some real nut cases on MN. It's just mob mentality half the time. A few people agree with one point of view then God help you if you give a differing opinion... Sometimes I make the effort to suggest an alternative opinion but 99% of the time it's just not worth it.
Like when I foolishly suggested that the woman who cried sexual assault because her husband touched her bum while masturbating in his sleep might want to actually talk to her husband about his feelings as well as hers rather than barking at him that she didn't want to be touched apparently it's ok for a woman to insist her husband is not allowed to do much as touch her for months on end but it's not ok for a man to feel any rejection or frustration at that. Indeed, his feelings don't matter one bit according to the MN mafia.

Ooo... I got that rant in a bit early this morning

Anyway, how are you all today?

Thank you everyone for your kind words. I did evabtually manage to calm down as I figures that would do more harm anyway. I know it's not uncommon but Christ when you see that blood it's absolutely terrifying OH was absolutely hysterical blaming himself and I actually had to calm him down and read your messages out as well as consult Dr Google to let him see its probably nothing. He's now put a sex ban up until October. I'm still going to call my GP today (we aren't seen by epu, we have to go to a&e which sucks) and hopefully they can bring my scan forward.

bunch yes, I'm starting to feel a little better I think! I'm managing to eat and drink a healthy amount and am only vomiting once or twice a day rather than 10 to 15 so it's a big improvement for me. I also don't hate all food. Just most of it.

Morning everyone,

Thanks for all your encouraging words. I didn't sleep too well and had to shove a progesterone pill up my bum this morning!! So I've had better starts to a day! But determined to be positive - they are looking after me well and doing the best things for bean.

pink - not naive. I believe there are 2 different types of stitch - a more permanent one and a temporary one. With me they'd plan to take it out at 37/38 weeks so I could give birth normally.

miley - how are you doing? And more bleeding?

Hope everyone has good days xx

I've only had one other experience outside this thread and I basically got eaten alive and my carcass then stamped on until nothing but dust. They're savages. God forbid anyone has their own opinion...

I do sometimes feel like posting an outrageous name just to laugh at them and then have a rant about how they're all self absorbed twats. stark you should. You have the knowledge and power to stop these people hah

Ooh runner it must have been hard not to rise on that thread. I'm still amazed we managed to walk away from the Doppler thread and I've managed to ignore any others that have popped up.
I wouldn't dare post a baby names thread for the exact same reason I'm telling no one our choices in real life. I don't want to hear a single negative opinion of their name and once he's named, no one can say anything unless they're full on knobs.

I hope everyone is doing better this morning.

I'm going slowly mad living in the middle of nowhere with no social life locally, and currently not working stupid oil industry and I'm officially on maternity from June until April. Yesterday was a physio trip and the vets, I did not stop talking. They must think I'm crazy! At least I'll be busy from August. Until then I guess I get crafty. Ooh starky how's the crochet collection building? I recently made a hungry caterpillar cocoon for a friend, I think I need to make one for Pip.

Cross post miley. Sounds positive if there's no more bleeding.

Is there not an EPU you can just go to yourself? When I bled early on my doctor advised me to go to A&E but I just looked up a local EPU where I could refer myself and just turned up.

Bunch, that caterpillar cocoon is adorable! I love it! I would actually buy that in a shop, you should sell them online.

Miley so glad you're not being as sick as much, hopefully this is the start of the end of it all. Have you bled since last night? Definitely try to move your scan forward for peace of mind but I'm sure your little Bean will be fine in there.

Feeling like a fat, flabby whale today. I've only put 1-2lbs on at 12+2 but I just feel big. My tummy feels rounder and I can't suck it in anymore, I'm used to having a pretty flat tum so even this 'food baby' look is annoying me. Sorry, I'm probably just hormonal and didn't sleep the best. I know I'm going to really struggle when the weight starts piling on I'm just hoping that when I get a proper bump I'll feel more pregnant than just fat. Moan over

Soda, if you do need one then, it would be good if they could take it out later so you can have a natural birth.

Loving the caterpillar Bunch! It looks really professional!

Miley, I think there is an EPU at the RVI. I'm not at home so can't check my notes to make sure, but something in my mind makes me think the midwife wrote the number down in my notes, and that you can go there even though it's a different trust.

I am also having the weight gain panic. I lost over 6st about 4 years ago and am terrified of putting even some of it back on, although I know I have to for baby's sake. I'm also conscious that post baby I then have to lose whatever I put on in time for our wedding

On the baby name threads, I do struggle to understand why people turn to a bunch of strangers to help them pick a name for their baby! If they can't name them themselves, how are total strangers meant to do it?

Did anyone see the one where someone was proposing to call their twins Jack and Jill?!

Pink I know how you feel, I want to feel completely relaxed about it all and think it's just for the baby, but it's so much harder than that.
I was in really great shape last summer and gradually put a bit of weight back on, I wanted to be back at my best before getting pregnant but got pregnant pretty quickly (which I am obviously very grateful for and feel very lucky) but still doesn't help with my fat whale feeling. When I hear other people say they're worried about weight gain though I want to say 'no relax, enjoy your pregnancy , you're allowed to eat what you want etc'..why can't I take my own advice

bunch that caterpillar is amazing! I'd buy it too.

Thanks pink, I'll go through my notes and see. I do keep forgetting I have them and they have actual numbers inside...

I'm feeling the weight gain too. I used to be really nervous about it but it'll be ok and I can lose it when I'm on maternity leave! I'm not weighing myself at all now as I lost a lot, levelled out and started gaining a small amount. I don't look massive and am still in my jeans so in my head it will all be ok... I think.

Morning girls ☺

miley and soda hope today is a better day (despite your start soda). I know it's scary soda but you are lucky they have noticed this early so nothing bad happens to you and your baby. I worked with a girl who had the stitch in both her pregnancies and now has 2 happy healthy wee ones ☺

stark im the same as you scared to admit this is happening. Just feel really anxious about things this time. A family member recently had a bad experience in pregnancy (don't want to say too much and scare anyone) but now I feel I see negativesome before positives. But iv been to the docs and I have my first appointment next week at 8+1☺ hopefully it makes me feel more positive about things.

It took me a while to post on MN because some of the threads in read were nuts! I'm glad I found all you lovely ladies here, it's great to chat without being scared to look at and replies 😂 miley sorry but your description of being shredded was too funny, mainly because it's true. it's what they seem to love too do! 😈

bunch loving the caterpillar 😊

Bunch just seen the caterpillar, it's adorable

I have an appt with my GP at 11.40 so fx all goes well. Not sure what my doctor will do at the appointment, am assuming an internal examination. Hoping I get to go for my scan earlier. I just want to know little butter bean is still doing well. OH has barely spoken a word this morning, think he's still feeling worried as hell.

stark as a fellow GAD sufferer I hate to be the bearer of shitty news but in my experience it has been with me my entire pregnancy. I understand exactly how you feel, it is so hard to focus on any positives when you think there is so much that can go wrong. Can I be bold and recommend you do go for an early scan at 8 weeks? Once you've seen a strong heartbeat it makes it easier I constantly read stats on mc and mmc after seeing a heartbeat at 8 weeks I know they're expensive but it really helped me. I also realised I had to try not to focus on the worry and stress as that would be no good for my baby either. Pregnancy is fucking difficult mate

Well i'm having an eventful start to the day. I read a post in pregnancy the other day from an op who's 15 weeks pregnant with really itchy bump and boobs. There were no replies yet and I just thought "yup that's me, hideous itching boobs bump and back and particularly at night", didn't bother replying though.
Popped back on it today and everyone is urgently telling op to phone the midwife as its signs of OC. Hmm thinks me, I'm sure there's something in my notes about that. Sure enough "call the midwives immediately if you suffer sever me itching".
I decided I'd call once in office hours just to check and prior to that I suddenly started feeling a bit rough. Thought I'd head to the bathroom just incase and didn't make it, had to grab a chair and sank to my knees with a weak "oh dear", I'd very nearly fallen over. Then managed to get upstairs where I got tunnel vision and made it to the bed before my legs failed me. Next attempt at being vertical got black dots in my vision.... Midwife is on her way for a house visit apparently. Sigh.

It's never dull being pregnant is it.

Thanks for all the lovely comments on the caterpillar. it took bloody ages to make as I had to make my own pattern in the end. Not too sure my moods could take making many more of them ha!