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Thread #4 - TTC#1 the one where Stark joins the grads!!!!

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Runner05 · 21/03/2016 12:33

Welcome to another riveting instalment of TTC#1 grads.

We've got new grads POAS every day just to make sure, 1st Trimesters wondering if they will be hit by the dreaded morning sickness or not, those approaching the hollowed promised land of the second trimester where all is good and the glowing will prevail... Those who have reached the second trimester and are thoroughly miffed at the lack of glowing.
We have scan photos, bizarre symptoms and the joys of baby shopping, and very importantly we now have Stark!

All are welcome on the wild gas powered ride that is TTC#1 grads Grin

Thread #4 - TTC#1 the one where Stark joins the grads!!!!
Thread #4 - TTC#1 the one where Stark joins the grads!!!!
Thread #4 - TTC#1 the one where Stark joins the grads!!!!
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LisaTheGreek · 30/03/2016 17:00

Starky, I know it's a pain for you, but I LOVE your posts about your DH.

You describe it all so well and with such great comic value. It's brilliant to read! Wink

Completely get what you mean about being scared and thinking if, rather than when. I've been like that the whole way through. Even now, just after my scan, I'm basically convincing myself something will go wrong, or the bloods will come back with a defect. We've been planning TTC for so long, and while it happened very quickly for me (I was very lucky), I can't seem to let myself be happy.

However, when I read yours and Jam's posts, all I want to do is tell you guys to enjoy it and try not to worry. And it makes me think I've probably spent most of my first trimester not actually enjoying it (the sickness has helped with that), and that's actually a real shame. This should be such a happy time. All I can say is, please try to enjoy it as much as you can. I actually regret having not enjoyed this time more (not saying I'll be able to now, but I'm trying! Grin)

StarkyTheDirewolf · 30/03/2016 17:10

Aww Thank you! Have you read my blog lisa I started one a couple of weeks ago! shameless plug starkydirewoolf.wordpress.com . Thee should be a new post up by tomorrow, obvious have been far to busy nursing ignoring Dh today to finish it Grin

I'm determined that or the next week or so I will stop being so insular and freaked and actually start to type and enjoy it! I've got to turn my mental attitude round! Thank you! You're all such a massive help!

Morwenna1 · 30/03/2016 17:15

Stark it's difficult not to worry, at any stage (hence my mention of another reassurance scan) Just try to remember the odds are in on your side Smile Will check out the blog!

LisaTheGreek · 30/03/2016 17:21

Yep, I am already an avid follower, Stark! Grin

Newmrs22 · 30/03/2016 17:40

I'm really struggling to keep up with all the posts. We're a big group now! Grin
Just checking in. Hope everyone's doing well, feeling less sick etc.
My anomaly scan is next week and I am bricking it! No reason why. There's always something to worry about-- it's practice for the next 18+ years!

Pinklily1 · 30/03/2016 18:13

Hi ladies

Glad the scan went well today Lisa.

I totally agree about the worrying. I worried in the run up to the 12 weeks scan, in case something was wrong, I'm worried about hearing the heartbeat at my 16 week appointment, now I'm worried that I don't feel pregnant or look particularly pregnant yet, and I'm starting to worry about he20 week scan next week! It's constant!

I second what the others have said though Starky, get yourself to the doctors!

Sodasoda · 30/03/2016 18:40

Well done on the scan lisa

So I've had a very worrying appt at hospital today. I'm 16 weeks today and consultant led as I've previously had treatment on my cervix for pre-cancerous cells. I had a cervical scan last week and thought all was ok but apparently it's 'very borderline'. I've got some progesterone tablets to put up my bum! Blush And then have an urgent scan next week to check my cervix and if it's any shorter they're going to put a stitch in Sad

I heard the little one's nice strong heartbeat today but just feel very worried - I love my bean already Confused

(Sorry for self-absorbed post just wanted to offload)

BunchOfBobs · 30/03/2016 19:16

Soda if there's any place to offload its here. So I take it they're concerned about an incompetent cervix? The important thing is they've got their eye on you and are doing everything they can to keep your lo where they should be. You read horror stories of people not finding out something could have been done until too late, you're not in that boat at least. Fx the progesterone works but failing that you'll have the stitch to fall back on. Easier said than done but try not to worry too much as you need to keep calm and relaxed for your bean. Thanks

Mileymoocow · 30/03/2016 19:26

Ok, I'm in mega panic/shock/hysterical mode. Just had to call the birthing centre as we just dtd and I bled quite a bit after. Felt a tummy pain and went for my usual post dtd wee and there it was. Obviously I got told the usual see what happens and call your gp in the morning bollocks and I know there's nothing to be done if the worst has happened but I'm now terrified and feel guilty as hell.

Mileymoocow · 30/03/2016 19:33

soda also really sorry for being self absorbed Blush what a shitty thing to be told. Hopefully they will do everything they can to make it easier on you and your poor cervix. Bean will be fine, look after you both Flowers

IndiX · 30/03/2016 19:39

Wow this thread moves so quickly!
I completely understand about the worry I'm now 12+1 and have my 12w scan on Friday and I'm starting to get a bit nervous. I'm more excited than nervous atm but i think it's normal to feel anxious, I just hope Bean is ok in there. I still don't believe I'm pregnant!
Even though I said I wasn't buying anything until later on in my pregnancy...I've just bought our pram!!! I'm so excited, I've just found an amazing deal on an iCandy and DH said we couldn't NOT get it. I actually feel weird that we'll have a pram in the house, it's so unreal atm.
I hope you're all feeling ok this week, I'm so jealous of you girls who are feeling kicks- I can't wait for that stage.
Oh and my nausea has made a return after I smugly had been saying that I was completely over it. Nausea isn't as bad as before but still hits about 3pm and stays until bed time. The joys...

IndiX · 30/03/2016 19:40

Oh Miley I'm sorry I've just seen your post after posting mine. I'm sure everything will be fine, was it red blood? It's very common after DTD to bleed please try not to panic. Have you got any stomach pain? Sending you lots of love x

Sodasoda · 30/03/2016 19:43

Thank you bunch, just had a little cry after your kind post. Yes - incompetent cervix. I know you're right - they're keeping a close eye on me and at least I know there could be a problem in advance and they can fix it.

Thanks miley. I think if you bleed after DTD it's often a sign that the cervix is irritated rather than anything wrong with pregnancy. designated cervix expert here Is it red or brown blood? Are you having cramps? I'd see if there's any more bleeding over night / tomorrow and if there is then head to the early pregnancy unit (you should be able to refer yourself - I did when I bled at 6 weeks) tomorrow and hopefully they'll check things over for you.

Mileymoocow · 30/03/2016 19:44

Yes it was bright red and quite a but which is worrying me. I did have pain but it's gone now. I suppose I just have to sit and wait. Thanks for the love! Sorry your nausea has returned Sad it sucks

IndiX · 30/03/2016 19:47

Miley I second what soda says, it's usually just the cervix is irritated. Try not to think the worst I know that's the worst thing to say as you obviously are also I self referred at 8w when I had a bit of brown blood and they scanned me a few days later and Bean was very happy in there.
Soda I'm sorry to hear that, you have the best people keeping an eye on you though. Look after yourself, I'm sure everything will be fine x

LisaTheGreek · 30/03/2016 19:53

Soda and Miley - sorry to read your posts, you both sound so worried. Sending virtual hugs!

Soda, I know nothing about that, but I think I understand from what others have said, and hopefully it can be managed well. The idea of a stitch in there doesn't sound very nice, but hopefully the progesterone works it's stuff first. Fingers crossed for you!

Miley, that sounds so scary, I'm so sorry. All I can do is reiterate what others have said about how common it is. My friend had some bleeding during her last pregnancy after sex, and she basically told us she'd miscarried. We were all devastated for her, but when she was seen in the hospital, it was all fine. They didn't know what caused it but said it just happens sometimes. Baby is all fine now and healthy.

BunchOfBobs · 30/03/2016 20:01

Oh Soda. Sorry I made you cry.

Miley sorry to hear you're so scared right now but as others have said it can be normal after dtd. My SIL had bright red bleeds throughout all 3 of her healthy pregnancies. It must be scary as hell but it doesn't mean the worst. Do not be beating yourself up over it. On a slightly lighter most likely inappropriate note, surely that means you're on day 3 of feeling better?! I hope that stays and you start to feel less about everything thats just happened. (So Easier said than done).

Sodasoda · 30/03/2016 20:20

In a nice way bunch! Smile

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Runner05 · 30/03/2016 20:43

Aww Soda Miley you poor things!

Miley I'm sure the bleeding is just cervical irritation. I used to get it all the time. Just get yourself to the dr tomorrow to put your mind at rest.

Soda try not to worry. You're being looked after and have a plan so I'm sure everything will be ok.

I've been feeling a bit bunged up the past few days so I had a packet of fig rolls to try and shift it... Now the poop fairy appears to be visiting with a few of her friends!!! Shock

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Pinklily1 · 30/03/2016 20:43

Sorry to read your posts Soda and Miley.

Soda, I second what others have said - its good that you are consultant led already so they have noticed it early and can take whatever action is needed. Naive question, but would the stitch stay in for the duration of pregnancy?

Miley, have you bled since you went for a wee? Could you just go to the EPU or A&E in the morning, bypassing the GP?

ImpYCelyn · 30/03/2016 20:48

Yay for a good scan Lisa. Really happy for you!

Soda that does sound worrying. Hopefully it's on the right side of borderline though, and if nothing els they've spotted it pretty early, so at least they're on it! Thinking of you Thanks

Oh Miley that must be so worrying, but I think it happens fairly often, not that that helps with your worry. Try not to panic or feel guilty! Thinking of you too Thanks

Indi that's so exciting! I bought stuff quite early with DS1, good offers came up and I grabbed them Grin I'm only 4+3, but I dragged the baby clothes and maternity clothes out and started seeing what I have and making a shopping list GrinGrin I won't be buying yet, but I want to be organised. Sorry about your nausea though!

I haven't had bleeding today, so I'm starting to breathe a little easier, I'm hoping the bleed yesterday was because it was AF day and there was a little hormone thing happening.

Stark definitely call the doctor, that really does make it feel real SmileThanks

When did everyone else call? I was thinking that the 6 week mark seemed right, did anyone call earlier than that?

Pinklily1 · 30/03/2016 21:06

Imp, i called the doctor the morning after I had my BFP, so I think I was about 4 weeks pg then. Patience is not one of my strong points! I saw the GP and then the midwife called the next day to sort out my booking in appointment, which I had at just over 6 weeks (early because it was just after Christmas and they were really quiet).

Indi - can I ask where you found the good iCandy deal? We want a Peach, but i haven't found any deals on them yet.

Jamjar12 · 30/03/2016 21:16

Hugs Soda and Miley, thinking of you guys and hoping all is ok!

But if advice needed- I've been booked in for an introductory 'early bird' group session where I'm going to get a pregnancy pack etc in our local prenatal community centre. 3 days later I've got my booking in appointment with the midwife (I'll be 8+1). We're going to tell my parents that evening (eek!!) DH can only take one of the days off work. Which one should he go to really? I don't really want to do the group thing on my own but maybe that's not that important to go for him, or could he skip the midwife thing if it's mostly just standard medical stuff? Did your DHs go to both or either of them??

Jamjar12 · 30/03/2016 21:17

Bit not but!

IndiX · 30/03/2016 21:19

Imp I booked in soon after my bfp too so about 4w, I think my first appt was 7weeks.
Pink I found it on gumtree, well it's actually someone that I know who is selling her whole range of peach blossom (handy if we go for another baby) plus carry cots, rain covers, travel bag, footmuff..literally everything, for £600!!! So I know it's in good nick but I had to get a friend who knows I'm pg to message the seller (who doesn't know I'm pg) and make up that a 'friend' wants it..very confusing but basically I should be announcing to the everyone over the weekend so will be able to message the seller saying it was me all along! Sorry that was a very long winded, confusing story. Basically it was from a friend/GumtreeGrin
I can't wait to tell everyone, this secret keeping is hard work!