Thread #4 - TTC#1 the one where Stark joins the grads!!!!

[Runner05]

Welcome to another riveting instalment of TTC#1 grads.

We've got new grads POAS every day just to make sure, 1st Trimesters wondering if they will be hit by the dreaded morning sickness or not, those approaching the hollowed promised land of the second trimester where all is good and the glowing will prevail... Those who have reached the second trimester and are thoroughly miffed at the lack of glowing.
We have scan photos, bizarre symptoms and the joys of baby shopping, and very importantly we now have Stark!

All are welcome on the wild gas powered ride that is TTC#1 grads

I'm a bit late to the sex talk but I've totally gone off it. We've only DTD twice since January At first it was because I felt so ill, which lasted a while, and now it's because I'm just not interested.

Last time we DTD though it then made me desperate for more, I almost had to wake OH up through the night for round two But then the following morning, I wasn't interested. So I think once we get going its good, but I just need the enthusiasm to get going! I want to try and get as much in as possible before I get a big bump as OH has already said sex with me having a bump will freak him out - he thinks it will hurt the baby. Men!

Nev, pleased the poop fairy has been! 5 days is a long time!

pink - you've described me exactly. Amazing when we do it but it's just summoning up enthusiasm in the first place!

nev - I really feel your pain! I'm compared going to the loo with giving birth I'm probably in for a bit of a shock!!

miley / runner - not sure if I'm odd or not but the smell came way before nausea for me and was actually a bit of a pregnancy symptom before I knew but it went away around 6 weeks when the nausea kicked in.

I've got my 16 week check tomorrow with the consultant. Anyone know what to expect?

Soda my 16 week check was with the midwife, rather than the consultant. But basically she just asked how I was feeling, took some blood, tested my wee and also used a Doppler to listen to baby's heartbeat for the first time.

I think I have heartburn. It's like a burning sensation just behind my left boob. I've never had it before so if anyone can enlighten me that would be great!

Yeah that's heartburn! I've got it recently X

Thanks pink. I'm guessing it'll just be like a 16-week midwife check but the consultant will just cover my other issues too. Glad they'll listen to heartbeat!

I finally have a shiny bed OH and I put it together last night but I was then too exhausted to post about it. It's lovely and I now have no more painful shoulders, hips still ache but not nearly as much because I don't have to sleep with my bum hanging out the bed
We got about half way through putting up the bed and OH looked at me and said "I can't believe you're only half way, you look ready to drop" err thanks

With how busy and active I've been the past couple of days I haven't felt Potato half as much I keep worrying that my running around or bending over so much has hurt him and I have to keep reminding myself not to be mental. I also keep worrying that I have mistaken muscle twitches for kicks, then he kicks me and I think nope, definitely a kick... Five minutes later I'm back to worrying. It's driving me mental.
I can't wait until I'm at your stage Bunch where they're so strong you can see them.

Good luck with the consultant Soda no idea what it will be like as I've only had one consultant appointment.
Is it odd that even though I'm now consultant lead my midwife still wants to see me after 20 week scan? It might be because I told her I need my Mat B1 ASAP and my consultant won't be seeing me again until after my 28 week growth scan.

Has anyone else been reading the "things you never want to hear from your midwife" thread? It's very funny but also a bit scary

Yay for your new bed runner!

Haven't been reading the 'things you don't want to hear from your midwife' thread, but I have one. I was my sister's birthday partner. As the doctor was stiching my sister back up she signed and said to the nurse 'I'm sorry, I've made a right mess here'. We all heard and looked horrified and she realised what she had said and reassured us that she just meant she'd dropped the tray of instruments everywhere. An alarming moment for my sister though! 😳

*birthing, not birthday, partner

Lol, yep, that's the sort of thing they're talking about.

My OH dad was talking about his birth the other day. Apparently his mum had a tear and the idiot Dr stitched it up and accidentally put a stitch through a pile apparently she was in agony until she went to her Dr, he took the stitch out. Scary!

Whoop for a good nights sleep Runner.

I too am in a similar position re: dtd. DH has yet to admit the bump is the issue but I'm certainly feeling it. Whenever I try and get all close and amorous I suddenly get a hump rub and "hi Pip". Can't make that hint any clearer really. Problem is I'm on bloody heat all the time! Sigh.

It is lovely seeing it Runner. I don't think you're far behind me try watching your bare bump when trying to coax a kick and see if you see it. I keep trying to video it but the little sod is camera shy. Also re: the thread I was reading it but didn't like the horror stories any more so I've stopped.

Morning ladies

How is everyone?

Ah can't wait to catch up to where you are kick wise bunch and runner. I Deffo felt some swirling again last night but I'm still in two minds as to whether it's wind!

Omg - stepped on the scales this morning, I've put on 8 pounds!!!! I know it's baby and fluid blah blah blah but bloody hell!!!

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Bloody hell Lara! Not what you want to hear at all!

Shelb that sounds about right for now? You had a lovely neat bump in the photo you posted

5+1 here and time seems to be passing so slowly! It feels like 12 weeks is forever away!

Shelb I smile to myself and say "baby is growing". Literally every day I'm putting weight on, it is piling on the last couple of weeks. 5kg in total (10lb) and every day is more. Join me in my mantra

Haha, I might bunch x

elle the time goes soooo slow doesn't it. Hope you all other new grads (jam, stark, imp and others) are getting few the worrying first few weeks OK.

I'm just bored lara lol I've still not phoned the doctors. I probably should as I have a feeling I either ovulated or implanted earlier than I think I did. But I don't suppose it makes much difference at this stage! I'm sort of feeling in limbo with the next couple of weeks.

Suggested to dh about an early scan, he says he knows where the place is so we're considering it but I don't know if we'll go for it.

I have no personality today I'm so tired! Dh woke me up three times between 12 and 6 and then I've probably had about 20 minutes kip between 6am and now. 😢

I'm quite scared of the weight gain. I lost a couple of stone quite effortlessly after meeting DH after being slightly chunky my whole adult life and am so worried about getting bigger. I've not even been exercising as felt too crap to do so. I thought giving up alcohol might help for a bit but all I want to do is drink orange lucozade. I guess it will come off again on mat leave but I am having a bit of a wobble.

Thanks to everyone who sent good wishes for my scan this morning. They clearly worked!

All went well and measured two days ahead of where I thought, so now 13+2 and due 3rd October.

Took a while to get measurements though as the silly little thing kept moving around and refused to face the front. The sonographer made me do a few jumps to get it to move around.

Nuchal measurement was 2mm and he said it was normal. Will hear back in 3 days if there's bad news in the blood tests. So if we haven't heard by Tuesday I think we will tell everyone.

Hope others have good news too!

My last post made no sense whatsoever 🤔

What's stopping you calling the doctor starky? Are you really scared about things going wrong, or just don't believe it's real? It's weird isn't it because we tried for months to conceive, and I really felt that once I had that BFP I'd be ecstatic, but when it happened I felt so petrified that I barely felt any joy. You must be a couple of weeks in now though and the chances are everything is going to go perfectly for you, so it could be time to pick up the phone. I felt better after my first midwife appointment. I think it was because I had been thinking in terms of 'if I have this baby' and she was saying 'when you have your baby' - her assumption that things were likely to end in a baby made me start to believe it too

Hooray for your scan lisa!!

Aww Stark you really should call the dr and get your midwife appointment booked, it will feel a lot more real then.
Are you past the date your period was due now?
Realistically more miscarriages happen before you even know your pregnant. Once you've got those two little lines chances are you are going to end up with a baby how many weeks do you think you are now? If you're lucky (HA!) when you get to 6 ish weeks you'll get morning sickness and then you will be in absolutely no doubt that you're actually pregnant

Lara so glad your scan went well. Are you going to post a photo???

I'm feeling pretty rough today. I think I probably over did it yesterday with the bed. I really want to go back to bed and I've done next to nothing work wise.
On the bright side we should have a buyer for OHs house by the end of the week (buyers are apparently like busses, none for a couple of months then half a dozen at the same time) so I have my fingers crossed that we can get the flat sold and buy a new house before the baby arrives I just hope it doesn't take us too long to find something. Very excited!

It takes forever Elle!!!

Thanks for the good wishes Lara :)

Stark, we are both 6 weeks tomorrow so you should phone the doctors now! I think I'd be going crazy if I didn't have my appointment booked in, I'm literally on a T- kind of countdown til the first appointment on the 12th. I think I'm actually worse than when I was waiting for my wedding to come round!

I've now kept the secret for 2 weeks, which is so huge for me. I can't normally keep a secret to save my life. A friend looked at me today though and just went hmmm.... Then wouldn't say anymore. Haha! Maybe I'm not as subtle as I thought!

lara I think it's anxiety/fear mixed in with disbelief and a side of 'if I don't think about it then I can't get excited and then I don't have to think about the possibility of something going wrong. I've been pleased obviously, I'm made up. But I can't shake the feeling that it's not quite real yet. And because we haven't told a soul, it sort of feels like a big scary secret yet! That if I tell, the worst will happen. Completely irrational, it's my anxiety playing tricks on me!

runner I'm about 6 weeks. Somewhere in that area. Af should have been 24th, which would have been about 21 dpo as it was! I know I'm sat on the precipice of getting past my first lot of anxiety, I'm just not quite there yet. And I don't "feel" pregnant today. For 3 weeks my boobs have been tender, they still are, they just feel less tender! I keep waking up expecting to feel rotten but I'm just having slight acid reflux if I dont eat small meals regularly.
But if there's one thing I've been praying not to get...its morning sickness! I might ring tomorrow morning.

This is all because I've not slept properly. Dh was up and down ALL night, he decided he's got a fever (he ate too much spicy food yesterday and it's disagreed with him) but he is SUCH a drama queen, but does it so subtly! So he won't eat anything, he won't let me near him, but is playing the whimpery soft arse and sitting in a darkened room with a blankie on. The big fucking Jessie! And he won't help himself, had to force paracetamol down him and now I'm in the conservatory enjoying the sunshine. I'm clearly a horrible wife! It's a regular thing that he has a bad belly though cause he stuffs himself on nights off!

Hi All, just checking in! I'm hopeless, aren't I? I blink, and there's 8 pages to catch up on....hope you're all as well as can be expected! Stark I found getting the wheels in motion with the GP/midwife helped me feel more in control if anything. Also, don't leave it too late as you could be booked in for appointments/scans later in the system. And I was told to call about booking on various free courses early as well as the spaces go quick.

Hi newbies!

Bunch and Runner I'm at the stage of noticing kicks now...if I'm running around busy then I don't feel a thing most of the day, it's usually when I sit down around 6 - 6.30 that I start getting prodded! Reading about this, we're still early for definite patterns, it's just good to be aware of when the LO is most active. I had toffee popcorn at the cinema the other day and LO went nuts!! That and easter egg chocolate DH has felt a few kicks through my tummy now though which brings a big smile to his face.

It feels like an absolute age now until the main event....I'm debating whether to book in for another private reassurance scan just to keep my sanity (not bothered about 3D ones, just a normal one).