Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Birth clubs

Connect with mums-to-be with similar due dates to share experiences and support.

August 2016 number 4 - bumps popping and scans happening, we actually have babies!

995 replies

PickleBot · 11/03/2016 11:39

Looks like we've nearly filled the last thread, so here is a nice new one for you all!

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Thread gallery
44
Christinedonna · 06/04/2016 16:29

picklebot with you there! Get this baby out of me at the safest available convenience!

Christinedonna · 06/04/2016 16:33

On top of the hot sweats, horrible discharge, heartburn, reflux, nausea, sickness, dry skin, spots, no sleep and everything I already had going on I now have dandruff! Can someone just finish this pregnancy thing off for me😔 I would take labour twice over this!

Kstar8 · 06/04/2016 17:23

Picklebot and Christine: I'm with you both! Up until Sunday, I thought the second trimester was great and pregnancy was quite enjoyable. Just spent two nights in hospital with cramps and contractions as I probably have an "irritable uterus!" Petrified of it kicking off again now. Don't think I'm going to relax back into it which is a shame. Seeing all the other women on the ward makes me feel like there is a lot to worry about that I didn't consider before.

Kstar8 · 06/04/2016 17:25

Christine I noticed dandruff weeks into being pregnant. Never had it before, still there now. Been using head and shoulders which does bugger all.

FourForYouGlenCoco · 06/04/2016 17:25

Pickle is it your first? Pregnancy is definitely not for everyone! The end result is so totally worth it though. You may even end up back for more Wink
Christine wait til you're in labour, haha! Re discharge - midwife will probably refer you back to GP as midwives don't have the power to prescribe meds, it has to be a GP. If you can, get them to make you an appt rather than trying to make it yourself, it'll be less hassle for you. And you are within your rights to ask for student midwives not to be present. You're right, they should ask if you're ok with them being there. But they do all have to learn somehow, and as an ex-student midwife, I can say they do appreciate being able to be in observing/doing!
Mslg great link, good find! Really interesting. Amazing how early they develop. This baby is going to come out with a terrible coffee addiction I think Grin oh and don't worry about the weight gain (or not) - it's different for everyone and as long as baby's happy and growing well, then no worries. Your bump looks lovely (and you don't look overweight at all!).

Well I managed to get my next midwife appt shifted a week earlier, feel better as the original one fell right around our potential moving date, and if I'd missed it I'd have gone 15+ weeks without seeing a mw. This way I can get BP etc checked, and hopefully she can explain the artery resistance business!

FourForYouGlenCoco · 06/04/2016 17:27

Oh and yes another one with dandruff here! Never had it before, head & shoulders makes no bloody difference. It goes beautifully with my dry face skin and crappy nails! Growing this boy is not making me bloom!

Christinedonna · 06/04/2016 17:48

I would never use head and shoulders. I know a lot of dandruff sufferers that say it makes it worse (so you keep buying it) read good things about tea treat and mint shampoos so will be trying those

quitecrunchy · 06/04/2016 18:02

Pregnancy really is a joy ain't it?!

Christine they really should check you're ok with the student. Do tell them you 'd rather keep it one to one with the midwife if it makes you feel uncomfortable.

Kstar sorry you're still having a tough time. Who even knew irritable uterus was a thing? Have they given you any meds or got you resting up or something?

Chiana hi and welcome! How's the pregnancy treating you so far?

Had my 20 week scan today and all was well Smile

Sophia1984 · 06/04/2016 18:25

PickleBot Mine loves music and also when I'm in water. I also think he is going to be in musicals as he likes to do a 'du-DUM' kick/step as if he is finishing a show tune with jazzhands!

Christinedonna · 06/04/2016 18:31

The thing is though il never get the chance to say I don't want a student there..as there's always one there. And she's the kind of person that ignores her phone and is impossible to reach so if I text her if she'd only pretend she didn't see it

Sophia1984 · 06/04/2016 18:37

Christine Do you see your midwife at the GP's? I'd tell them at reception that you'd prefer not to have student midwives at your appointments.

hgleslie89 · 06/04/2016 18:39

pickle my DH was so pleased when I grudgingly agreed to watch Frozen and the little one started dancing around. It also likes Belle and Sebastian and the Eagles.

Thanks everyone who suggested reusable nappies. I think we'll be going down that route, just need to get organised now!

Christinedonna · 06/04/2016 18:41

No it's at a dingey little children's centre. Il get over it, just a tad annoying that I was never asked

Christinedonna · 06/04/2016 18:42

In regards to the dandruff, I've never considered taking the lint roller to my hair so much before

Mslg · 06/04/2016 19:43

My baby isn't arsed about music or water but does seems to like chocolate/sugar Confused

Chianablue · 06/04/2016 20:51

mslg ye this is my first. So excited! Though bit stressed as I'm in the middle of buying a house aswell.

quitecrunchy so far so good, lots of sickness in the beginning but that's stopped. I've also stopped passing out since they put me on iron tablets.

Dileas29 · 06/04/2016 22:25

hgleslie i LOVE belle and Sebastian!! Saw them live last year (second time) and they let loads of people on stage with them to dance, biggest regret not being fast enough as it would've made my year!!

Dandruff here too ffs has anyone had really bad stomach ache like you are really gassy? Had it for most of this afternoon it is very uncomfortable. Thank goodness it's my day off work

PickleBot · 06/04/2016 22:27

Nah second coco but I didn't know I was pg until around 22 weeks with ds, and once it sunk in I hated it then too!

OP posts:
PickleBot · 06/04/2016 22:30

And joy of joys, the are cheek cramp is back, it had a spasm just as I pressed post. Last time my right buttock kept cramping really deep in and I could not stop it. So, so, so getting a physio referral!

OP posts:
Mslg · 06/04/2016 22:39

Pickle pregnancy is literally a pain in your arse!! Chocolate for you

PickleBot · 06/04/2016 22:49

It really really is!

OP posts:
Belager · 07/04/2016 09:28

Hi all,

Sorry I've been very quiet, think last time I posted was at 12 weeks, but I have been lurking.

Ive suffered from depression in the past, was hospitalised 9 years ago, but I've managed drug free since. I do get periods of depression, but I am capable of managing them, JUST!

Around the 11 week mark I was feeling low, I was getting terrible morning sickness, still hadn't slept properly and it was affecting all aspects of my life. I attributed it to the pregnancy and so started to resent the baby. To the point of hoping nothing will show up at 12 weeks. I couldn't tell family or friends this, I fear being sectioned again, and felt it insensitive to put up here so I struggled alone.

16 week midwife app, I broke down. I'd been stockpiling painkillers for a week, thinking I couldn't go through with this pregnancy and if all was healthy I couldn't continue. I look back at this thinking "how over dramatic" but that's how I felt.

Abortion or adoption were not an option as DP is over the moon about this pregnancy.

My midwife referred me to GP which led to a psych consult.

I'm now undergoing counselling and on antidepressants (which makes me feel like a failure because I'm 'drugging' my baby). But I am feeling more positive.

I'm lucky to have such a supportive partner, but I must say its you guys that have really helped.

Reading things that I'm going through has helped me to see I'm not abnormal.

Thank you all. I hope I can contribute more in future.

Flowers belager

PickleBot · 07/04/2016 10:44

Belager I'm on antidepressants too. I have been on and off since ds was born in 2011. He was a very unexpected baby (only found put at 22 weeks), it was a long hard labour that didn't go according to plan (wanted a home water birth, ended up with 36 hours in hospital, dodgy epidural and an emcs followed by a 4 day hospital stay), breast feeding never really worked for us and I gave up at 8 weeks, ds had horrific reflux and wouldn't be put down, so no naps or sleep at night, then was diagnosed with pnd. I wasn't properly monitored and just stopped taking the drugs and it all spiralled into clinical depression. Looking back now I can see that I was unlucky but at the time I felt like the crapest mother ever. I'm still on the drugs now as I don't want to risk stopping them and feeling like that again. I suppose my point is that we are expected to assimilate so much change in such a short period that it's hard on all of us. I'm glad you are getting the help you need now and if you need the drugs to be a good mother that's better than an unhappy depressed mother. Xxx

OP posts:
Belager · 07/04/2016 11:11

Thanks pickle

Your experience and words mean a lot.

Christinedonna · 07/04/2016 13:31

Just off to drop off my swap that the midwife gave me. Then have to ring the hospital on Monday for results. Pleeeease hurry Monday!!