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August 2016 number 4 - bumps popping and scans happening, we actually have babies!

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PickleBot · 11/03/2016 11:39

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PickleBot · 01/04/2016 17:07

Jw We are here if you need us. X

Glad to see so many bumps and scans going well. And a huge well done to Lily's cervix!

My pelvis pain is much better today, I slept with a rolled up duvet under my bump and between my legs and it really helped. I'm off to my mum's with ds at the weekend, there is a memory foam topper on their spare bed so I'm looking forward to trying that out. If it's good I might get one. I went into town with my mum today and she brought loads of really cute little clothes for the baby, including a yellow dress with zebras on it! So cute!

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Christinedonna · 01/04/2016 17:32

21+1. Who said black was slimming ay?

OwlinaTree · 01/04/2016 17:47

Hi, another good scan here. Baby in an awkward position so I had to go out and drink more water then go back in! Luckily she then managed to see everything. All was well, we are still team yellow, and I don't think the scan gives anything away! But feel free to guess!

Glad to hear all the good scans here and the lovely bump pics. I think I'm enormous, I'll do a pic soon when I've got the energy. I've done this twice before, but finding pg really tough this time. Keep getting colds and I think it's the looking after a toddler as well!

Thinking of you jw.

MrsZumbaDancer · 01/04/2016 20:08

owlina I had a cold last week, then got a horrific toothache, trip to dentist for temporary fix, now full of cold again! Damn you winter germs!

MrsZumbaDancer · 01/04/2016 20:09

Sorry if this posts twice, said t posted but can't see it now!

Deliberately team yellow Sophia, didn't find out with my DS either

Feel free to guess though Smile

August 2016 number 4 - bumps popping and scans happening, we actually have babies!
OwlinaTree · 01/04/2016 20:12

Oh, I didn't attach the picture! Try again

OwlinaTree · 01/04/2016 20:13

I'm going to guess boy zumba. Do you have a feeling either way?

quitecrunchy · 01/04/2016 21:13

Hi everyone, just back from a few days away and catching up with the thread. So so sorry to hear about your sister jw. Will be thinking of you and your family Thanks

Congrats on the good news lily and others on the positive scans and news about who's got girls and boys on the way. Lovely bumps too! Mine is finally starting to come on a bit more (19+4 currently) but I still have a weird double tummy going on. Never thought I'd say it but I'm looking forward to losing my waist.

Dileas29 · 01/04/2016 21:55

Take care of yourself jw Thanks
lilly that's good news things have improved you will be relieved.

I just fell down the stairs and bawled like a baby, to which DH laughed and said get up...! Thankfully it was all on my (already sore) back and bum but I think it was the worry of what it could've been and holding DD or falling on my tummy. Nice to have sympathy from my husband anyway, not!

quitecrunchy · 02/04/2016 08:53

Dileas I'd have cried too from the shock! Hope your bum's not too bruised and that you made your DH feel suitably guilty for laughing!

strandedabroad · 02/04/2016 09:05

Owlina I think your baby looks just like mine! I'd hazard a guess we're having the same (boy/girl) or we're long-lost relatives

21+4

Christinedonna · 02/04/2016 10:24

Everything's really been getting me down the last few days. The OH just seems really switched off and like he's not really here. He had stuff to do the other day and kept checking his watch when we were shopping for baby bits after just finding out its a girl. Making me feel bad for taking up his time. I asked him to get me the controls last night from the other side of the bedroom, I'd just got in for work and my feet and back were killing me so he threw the covers off him, got the controls and threw them (meaning to land them on the bed) but they hit me. He got into bed and went to sleep and a laid there all night with a lump in my throat. I just want to feel a little bit appreciated and loved and he doesn't do that like he used to now. I realise I'm probably a lot harder to be around lately with my hormones but I just feel like he should be a bit more understanding. So this morning I told him not to sleep here tonight and to go and stay with his parents for the night. I've really been avoiding having to do that as I don't want them to think the worst or like I'm being a bitch but I need a night off. Just can't stop crying today

Sophia1984 · 02/04/2016 10:52

I've been ridiculously hormonal Christine and can't stop crying either. I started a thread about things that have made me cry on the Pregnancy boards - there are some hilarious thins on there if you need cheering up!

I'm so sorry things are tough with your partner. Do you think him checking his watch was definitely linked to you finding out your having a little girl - maybe he was really anxious about how much stuff he had to do? I think men can get really stressed out when they're expecting a baby (especially if it's their first) because they feel a lot of pressure to 'be a man' and 'provide for the baby' - and it's hard for them to talk about because our society makes men think that's not a 'manly' thing to do. Has he been able to feel baby kicking yet? Maybe take him to your next midwife appointment so he can hear baby's heartbeat. It took my DP a while to get excited and I think it's something they have to do on their own time.

I could be wrong and he could just be being a dick though! In which case, some time apart at the weekend might be nice. Do you have family or friends you could visit so you would avoid worrying about what his parents think? It's also really nice to go somewhere and be taken care of! On the other hand, if he goes home, his mum might give him a good talking to about taking better care of you!

xx

Sophia1984 · 02/04/2016 11:02

Owlina and Zumba My little boy has the same headshape and profile on his ultrasound as yours Wink

Christinedonna · 02/04/2016 11:13

It's nothing to do with finding out its a girl it's just that that's when i expected him to show a bit of excitement. And he was pre occupied with being home in time to sort stuff for work. It's understandable as he's stepping up to management (something he wouldn't be doing if it wasn't for the baby) so I'm sure he does feel a lot of pressure but I just feel like I get nothing from him. We have a Doppler and he has no interest in listening to it. He felt the baby kick the other day, I told him to give me his hand so he could feel it and he was too busy sending a text so missed it. Then it was my fault because I didn't tell him it was important. So while I'm holding his hand in the right place and waiting for another kick I'm just laid there thinking "why do I bother?!" He said "I felt that one" and that was it. He shows no excitement or emotion towards the situation at all. Then I feel like a dog wth a bone for not letting it go but it's my feelings that are hurt and I can't not say anything. We live with my dad and I don't really get on with any other family members too well. I had a meal out with my sister the other day and he pestered my phone the whole time I was gone. But not in a way where I felt like it's because he missed me. It just feels like a control thing.
His mum is very supportive and if she knew the situation she'd give him a telling off but I suppose he can tell her anything he wants, he's not going to go home and say the truth that he's a nob! And again I'm not going to say anything to her because it puts her in an awkward position and makes it all worse. Ahhh I just want to run away for a while or press pause on everything so I can have some me time.

Sophia1984 · 02/04/2016 11:24

I think mums can be more intuitive than we give them credit for. Even if he tells her things from his perspective, I bet her women's intuition will kick in and she'll tell him to shape up!

Remind me how far along you are? DP has only really got interested in the last couple of weeks.

The controlling behaviour doesn't sound good :-( Is that a new thing with the pregnancy or has he always been like that? Make sure you keep seeing your sister and friends even if he is a pain in the backside about it.

Maybe you could sit down when you're not feeling as emotional and have a discussion about how his behaviour is making you feel (rather than when you're feeling upset)?

In the meantime, have a lovely day to yourself - find something to bingewatch on the telly, maybe get a takeaway (sometimes I get the supermarket ones as they're cheaper), have a nice bath. If he's not going to treat you, treat yourself!

Christinedonna · 02/04/2016 11:30

I'm 21+2. And we were only together a month before I got pregnant. So we were all over eachother and he treated me like a princess in comparison to now. Also another reason why he's struggling so much as he's gone from me being a kinky 5 times a night girl to an aching moaning pregnant woman. Il try to spend as much time with my sister as possible but I don't have any friends. Again, probably why everything he does gets to me so much as I have no outlet and no one to talk to about it or distract me.
But anyway! I'm going for a late breakfast with my dad, maybe a dog walk on the beach and then I have work 6-11 tonight. And tomorrow👀 But il make up for it on Monday and do nothing!

MrsZumbaDancer · 02/04/2016 11:59

sophia yes it looks very similar to my ds's scans.. When I've seen the baby on screen I've thought girl but seeing the still pic I think boy. I can only picture us with 2 boys so who knows!

bexh83 · 02/04/2016 12:28

Christine I cant wait for my OH to go see his mum - whatever shes saying to him he comes home with a little more kindness, interest and patience each time!

Also had our scan on wednesday. At OH's request stayed team yellow, but he was wetting himself to tell me the sonographer started calling it "he" from about half way through... I really wanted to know and already thought it was a boy, so was particulary impressed with the excitement.
Sonographer was lovely & funny, explained everythign I wanted to know - baby never stopped moving and he showed it was heads down onto my bladder which explains a few things.

August 2016 number 4 - bumps popping and scans happening, we actually have babies!
hgleslie89 · 02/04/2016 18:38

Christine My DH is absolutely lovely, really excited about the baby... And I still can't stand him a lot of the time. I find myself getting unnecessary upset when he doesn't immediately rush to feel the kicks or want to talk to my bump. I have to tell myself that it's the hormones (woke up crying this morning because I dreamed my kitten had died Sad) and that while my life at the moment revolve around being pregnant his doesn't. It's quite possible that your OH is trying to prepare for being a dad and getting all the necessary stuff out of the way now rather than later. Any chance of talking to your mum? Mine's been keeping me sane as none of my close friends have children yet so are either grossed out or overly supportive in a slightly clingy way.

We bit the bullet and got a pram and car seat today! Made the most of a deal at Mothercare to get Cossato ones that we've had our eye on for a while. I think all we need now is a chest of drawers (or similar) for the little one and to decide whether we're going to use cloth or disposable nappies. I'm tempted by washable ones (with disposable as an option while we're out and about), but have faint memories of, aged 6, being horrified by my sister's terry ones. Anyone here got advice for/against reusable nappies?

August 2016 number 4 - bumps popping and scans happening, we actually have babies!
hgleslie89 · 02/04/2016 18:39

Whoops, meant to say I'd attached a 23 weeks bump shot.

OwlinaTree · 02/04/2016 20:08

I use washable nappies. I don't find it too much of a hassle tbh. I use tots bots nappies. Just stick them in a bucket with a net, then when it's full chuck them in the machine. I stick a bit of napisan in with the washing powder as it seems to help with the smell. If you can line dry them even better, as the sunlight bleaches the poo stains when they are really little, so they come out white again! My nursery agreed to use them as well. I've got about 25ish tots bots which is about enough, I've got a few Closer too which I use if I've run out, but they are not as good IMHO.

Downsides are they are bulkier to carry round with you, you need wet bags to carry the wet ones, you are always doing washing, what with baby clothes too. Have to change them more often than a paper nappy. Might not be cheaper if you are planning to use childcare who won't use them.

Upsides are cost. It does work out cheaper, especially if you are planning more than one child, and it feels cheaper to me. I spend about £180 on 20 nappies, a bucket, couple of nets, few other bits from the baby show. Then I buy the napisan, liners, had to buy a few wetbags, but the running costs seem small. They seemed to leak (poo) less than paper when he was new born. Obviously less waste and environmental impact.

Hope that helps!

OwlinaTree · 02/04/2016 20:09

Oh, another advantage is you can use washable wipes as well, which saves a lot of cash and waste!

LotsofDots · 02/04/2016 21:15

Another washable nappy user here, with similar experience to owlina didn't find it too much hassle and have used them for both my previous 2 from about 3 weeks (I seem to have skinny babies so find that my all in one nappies didn't fit until then and didn't want to buy lots of new born ones). I mainly have bum genius ones which I have been very pleased with. A friend is passing on hers to me too so should have a huge stash!

OwlinaTree · 02/04/2016 22:16

No mine didn't fit right from birth, can't really remember how many weeks he was when they fit, but not many! I've never used bum genius but only ever heard good things about them.