April 2007 - Ladygarden? Ladytropicalrainforest more like

[Katy44]

CFK - I couldn't resist!

Lol at man job comments
I have to be fair to my dh and say that he is actually better than I am at the washing up ALTHOUGH he is banned from going near the washing machine. He has managed to dye all of my clothes lilac- looked like a milka cow, grey - looked like a dustman and avaocado green - looked like an elf
No washing clothes for him in this house
All this talk of food is making me very hungry, early lunch for me and ds I think, also trying to decide if I have time to nip to Sainsburys for some raspberry cream puffs???? All this talk of cakes.

The blankets/grobag debate I am with most of you on this one. I never used grobags during the warmer months prefering blankets (and never used grobags at all in the moses basket) but found them a life saver in winter to stop dcs waking up cold in the night. I do agree that all babies are very different and each one soon lets us know what they like - cant wait!

Glitterkitty my dhs birthday in 22nd Dec and I always make sure that he has a party and is fussed over - hope that you were fussed over too.

Just x posted with loads of you - must v slow at typing.
1b3 you must be so disapointed Is the wedding far from where you live?

1becomes3, I would be a bit pissed off too. I appreciate she may have already booked the date before knowing you were pg, but to only be invited to the evening do is a bit off imho. Strange.
Flumpo - I would see this as a good opportunity to go and buy some new clothes if they have been "ruined" by dh's attempt at the washing! My dh hasn't got a clue either. He understands the concept of matching colours, but not material. So would put cottons in with wool stuff etc. so shrunken jumpers!!

sospl - now you say your dd's age (for about the 3rd time this thread!), i realise that i knew that already!! sorry

1b3 - i would be pissed off too! Maybe she thought in her child free innocence that the evening would be easier for you to leave the children with a babysitter (ha!) than either have to find daycare or take them with you? How old will the DTs be? I am constantly amazed at how much people without children "don't think" but then I tell myself that you "don't know what you don't know" iyswim - maybe I'm just tooo generous to people!!!

Used to hate my birthday when I was younger. Often complained about it to my parents! Worse was when family used to wrap gifts in Christmas paper Me and dh made a decision that we would not plan to have a Christmas child unless fate interverned (sp?)

Hotlips - ds birthday is 4th May, he'll be 2 this year. He seems to be doing something new every day. I can't keep up!

1b3 - at your friend. Although, maybe she thinks it'll be easier for you to find a sitter for the evening, instead of the whole day iyswim. Especially if she's having a "no babies" wedding. Bit off though, not talking to you about it before sending the invite out, esp as she was your bridesmaid.

sol, glad to know there are others who guard their washing. I decided that my dhs aim was to make my wardrobe look like a giant bruise and then banned him from the machine FOREVER.

rh - x posted with you there!

I know what you mean - I can't keep up with my DS either. But this is such an adorable age - they are so funny, DS is a great mimic and turned round to DH over the weekend when DH told him to stop pulling the loo roll out with his finger pointed and shouted "Stop it Daddy" right back! He's very cheeky but also says things like "I love you" back and asks for kisses. So cute!

Am slightly concerned about the 23 month age gap but many before me have coped...

HLM - know what you mean about the cheekiness! But they are so very cute. Last night, just before he went to bed, dh was giving him a cuddle and asked for a kiss. No problem, but afterwards, ds called for me, gave me a kiss, and then pulled up my top to give bump a kiss too! It's not the first time he's kissed bump, but it really melted my heart last night.

RH - what have you told DS about the bump/new baby etc? Mine has good understanding and communication for his age but not sure he really gets it. We've told him there's a baby in mummy's tummy but he's much more interested in my "boobies" at the moment What a lad!!! Actually I think its just because he thinks that word is HILARIOUS rather than anything else...
Anyway have ordered "There's a House inside Mummmy" plus other books from Amazon which am hoping will help get the message across... He's actually very kind towards other babies (not toddlers so much tho!) and always hands over toys, his biscuit etc to little ones, fingers crossed he keeps that up!!!

so leaving the water in the sink after washin up may be a gender thing?? I have lost count of the number of times I have so calmly and WITHOUT NAGGING asked him to please, PLEASE empty the sink after he´s finished, citing bacteria, lack of higiene, pure ickiness and he seems to have a complete mental block. And this is a guy who is verging on obsessively neat, tidy and clean in every other aspect of his life. So odd.

Finally got the cats in the cages and off to the vet and am now the recipient of resentful glares all round even though it turns out I was right to take them, they both have fevers and one has a UTI!! Good lord I swear I have the most high maintenance, pathetic cats in the land. What happened to cats being self sufficient, take care of themselves etc etc?? One of mine even has gingivitis and a permanently leaky tear duct. Poor wee thing.

Anyway, I am knackered now. Just about got time to go get hubbie from work for lunch and then looking forward to a long siesta. Going shopping for cots with Mum this p.m.

Very of those already on maternity leave on on countdown already, although I guess it is made up for by many of you already having kids to look after...all evens out in the end! I only work 3 days a week at the mo´ but am being so unproductive, last week I acheived very little workwise but did so much baby dreaming during work time. If only that counted....

We haven't made a big deal about the new baby to ds. He climbed over me when I first started to show, and dh just said, you can't do that anymore, because mummy has got your little brother or sister in there. He didn't seem to mind, and now instead of trying to climb over the bump, he just pats it and says ahh! We've asked him if he'd like a boy or a girl, but he usually replies "no", but then then smiles One night when he was in the bath, me and dh asked his opinion on names. Was quite funny really because he actually said yes to the boys name we like (William) and no to everything else! Didn't like any of the girls names though....
His words aren't very clear, but we can have a conversation, iyswim. His latest phrase is "whats that", although sometimes it sounds more like the blokes from the Budweiser advert methinks dh has something to do with it...

I know it is quite a trivial thing this wedding stuff, not sure what to do.
I want to phone her and have a go but I don't think that is the right thing to do also don't want to burst into tears over the phone, I could email her but things never sound right in email's or I could just send her the RSVP saying no and hope she calls me?

On the cute children note, DD know's where the babies are and give's my bump a kiss, she is not much of a talker, mainly her own language but when I ask her is they are her babies she say yes. doesn't sound much but it is so cute.

1b3 - I always think its best to talk these things through so would call your friend. If she was your bridesmaid then, hopefully, you should be able to sort it out without too many tears! Esp as the reason why you are upset is because you want to share her day. Hope she isn't a "Bride-zilla" type ...

1b3, I agree with HLM. Give her a call. If she is a real mate she will understand your surprise at an evening only invitation especially as she played such a big part in your day. I would be miffed too.

My ds, who is 3.8, cant wait for the baby to arrive. We are totally stuck on names though, and the only one I had for a boy - Dylan - has just been used by BIL for his new baby. GRRR!! Do like Ffion for a girl but have no other thoughts whatsoever. Ds wants to call baby Scooby Doo. Tried to gently explain that I dont think we will be using that name! Bless him!

Wow...so much to catch up on - I've been reading for an hour.

My DH is no better with the washing up. He's forever leaving water in the sink or not wiping the worktops. I also bought a plastic tub for the sponges/cloths etc and he keeps forgetting to put them in it meaning they constantly fall into the sink (usually when he's left it full of water!). With regards to washing clothes, DH sorts it into so many different loads that he'd spend all day & night washing them and never finish - v inefficient, but at least I don't worry he'll dye my stuff!

Not been feeling great the last couple of days, think I maybe overdid it a bit over xmas & new year so am trying to take it easy today. Parents coming tomorrow so will be 'on the go' for another week just want to be able to sleep & sit on my bum all day!

Also getting v stressed about mw appt on Thursday cos I think I'm due a blood test. Absolutely hate them, my veins are crap so it takes them ages to get the needle in one and even then they can't always get blood out of it.

Argh - can't remember anything I meant to reply to. Sorry!

Talking of little boys and boobies ds (3) was in my room a while ago and called out "mummy i found your boobies"! I thought 'oh good, ive been wondering where they'd gone since i stopped breast feeding him' but turns out he just had my bra!! And asked him a couple of days ago what he thought we should call the baby and he thought a minute then said "Jesus"! We're not religious but think he quite liked all the baby jesus talk at christmas. Actually talking about jesus might have to go and start a thread cos dd is in year 1 at school and learning that god makes the weather and the seasons etc etc which im more than happy for her to learn as something that some people believe along with learning about other religions too but dont like the idea that she's being taught it as fact.

Anyway on the grobag debate when dd was born they were only really just coming out so not in many shops and very expensive so I didnt bother and so didnt bother with ds either but my sister (whos baby will also be 2 this may!) has used them and thought they were great and i think she might be giving me a few and i do plan on using them this time but not sure when. Tried swaddling with dd but she hated it, also hated being held lying down like you expect to hold babies, she always wanted to be upright. And ds was meant to sleep in moses basket by the bed but didnt sleep for more than 3 or occasionally 4 hours at a time til about 8 months so i used to bring him into bed with me to feed him and just fall asleep. Both of them were pretty much permanently attatched to me for the first few months, or thats how it felt anyway!

Popping in quickly as DD's are unusually quiet - Sinister!!!!

Mmmmmmm .......

Glad you had a fab B'day Runny - your "Home Spa" sounds amazing - v., particularly as I am completely allergic to all smellies in the entire Universe. I think Martha Kate is a gorgeous name!!

GlitterKitty and 1B3 - I think I may well be married to the same man as you two as well!!!!! "Half-Finished" Jobs R Us around here, trust me - Argh!!!

Yes, you just put the Witch Hazel (they say a "few drops", but I found pouring half the bottle on helped more....) on to a maternity pad and pop it in your knickers - instant relief - Sooooo niiiiiice!! Didn't find it stung at all to TBH and I had a third degree tear with DD1 - ow, ow, ow!!! However, I can reassure you - there is SUCH a good supply of blood to "that" part of your body, you will be surprised how quickly you heal up, even if you have a bad tear like I did. I was sitting on the floor, moving around as normal etc within a week of my tear. Tip: Deilvering the head as slowly as you possibly can is recommend from the DippyCamp - DD1 SHOT out and I got third degree tear, DD2 was delivered slowly and was v.controlled - No tear - That was really all I cared about 2nd time round. I was like, instead of: "Wow, my baby, how is she??" ; "Sod the baby, did I tear, did I tear???"

So there you go ......

Hotlips, I'll have a 23 month age gap between my youngest and Bump too. I have 14 months between my 1st and it was HARD (and still is!!) My girls are VERY close and love each other to bits. I love my age gap, but I wouldn't recommend it to anyone and I wouldn't do it again, if that makes any sense!!? Think the biggest problem with the 23 month age gap is going to be little one being "too affectionate" with new baby - Smaller age gap and sibling couldn't give a crap, bigger age gap and sibling can join in, in a more gentle, helpful sort of manner (and get v.v.v., I expect....) Anyway, we can find out together Hotlips, eh!!?

Anyway, friend will be here with her LO's in a mo, so best go and do a bit of damage limmitation downstairs .... ekkkk ....

Blimey - what a busy morning on mn! Taken me ages to catch up. Glad your birthday went well runny

DS2 just thrown birthing ball down the stairs - have confiscated it

I am stuck on boys names too - despite books and websites....nothing seems right/appeals at all.

Just had yummy prawn & advocado sandwich - off to snuffle some thorntons chocs now

I got a third degree tear with my first aswell CD and that is one thing that bothers me this time around. The doctors were concerned that I would end up incontinent because it was nasty (right round to my bum and a muscle there too - ouch! Sorry if TMI). That said, all healed quickly. I was pouring the witch hazel like it was going out of fashion. Dh was sent on several missions to tesco late at night when I was running out of it! Definitely never stung me and my nethers were rather bashed to say the least. Only ever wonderfully soothing. Definitely something I would recommend everyone to get a stock of!

I had a rather large episiotomy last time - the thought of tearing that badly makes my hair stand on end I will get witch hazel, arnica and tea tree I think - asked a while ago about homeopathy during labour - anyone???

Blimey, you lot can talk. I logged off for a bit as am at work and come back to a plethera of posts!

Loving the continued chat about husbands and their "ways"!!

Maveta, also loved the chat about your cats! I have 2 cats also, and it is just the same. Tho to be fair, I think they kind of understand why we go to the vets, esp. if one of them is feeling rough. One of ours has gingivitis too, and his breath is minging! He had to have some teeth out - fortunately covered by pet insurance.

Dd is v excited about the baby too, although not sure how she will be when baby arrives. She will be nearly 4 by the time this one comes, and has been used to all the attention. She keeps asking when the skin will come off my tummy so she can see the baby! Also, when we said she could help with feeding and changing, the smile on her face actually made me cry!! She was soooo excited by the responsiblity of it all. Love her.

Anyway, off to a meeting - at least there will be decent tea AND biscuits!!

Don't post too much - I cannot keep up!

Before I go, I too had an episiotomy and that is my big worry this time too. Didn't know about Witch Hazel, so thanks for that tip. I took arnica pills which were recommended and I think they helped.
Must run........... well, stagger ..

I got an episiotomy but still tore badly anyway. Ds was born by ventouse as my contractions just went off and he was stuck high up. I think the tear happened because he just got pulled out very quickly. It happened as his shoulder came out (he was quite big at 8lb 11oz).

Hope I havent put the shits up all the first timers. Apologies if I have. At the end of the day the labour and delivery is only the start and pales into insignificance when you get given your baby. I suffered for a bit after due to the tear but ultimately its all healed and I am doing it all again!! Its true that you do forget, and actually it wasnt particularly traumatic at the time either. I just went along with what the midwives and doctors were telling me and everything was very calm and controlled.

I had ventouse too - had an epidural so couldn't feel anything at all! DS heartrate kept dropping so they literally pulled him out...he was 10lbs, 62 cm and head off scale (ouch emoticon!) - but I was so pleased for him to be out and not to have had a section that the episiotomy/ventouse didn't worry me - in fact I didn't know they did an episiotomy at all til they started to stitch me up - they just said the word ventouse

Its all worth it in the end