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Thread #3 - TTC#1 Grads thread. No TMI is too much, no question too stupid!

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Runner05 · 23/02/2016 16:47

Come one, come all it's the TTC#1 Grads thread! Everyone welcome so long as you're not put off by graphic descriptions of the lunch we couldn't keep down or the weird pregnancy symptoms we just have to share.

Our lovely ladies now span many stages of upduffedness from "woohoo BFP, now let me pee on 58 more sticks just to be sure" to "Oh my god, why don't they warn you what morning sickness is really like?" To" I need to pee 132 times a day but look at my cute scan photo!"

if you're looking for advice, banter and support, along with the occasional scan photo or rant, you are definitely in the right place.

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IndiX · 02/03/2016 17:50

Soda that's a beautiful little scan!

LaraG13 · 02/03/2016 18:22

Wow! That's an amazing scan soda! Beautiful.

Congrats cosmo!

lauren that's ridiculous! You're not a single mum by any modern definition. Crazy! And annoying.

Danni89 · 02/03/2016 18:37

Glad the scan went well Soda.. Lovely pic

Nevlet · 02/03/2016 18:56

I will catch up on all the nice goings on today but I have two words to describe my day and now the next two... Bloody OFSTED SadSad

00Bubbles00 · 02/03/2016 19:34

Sorry for slow reply - thank you for the nice messages about my hopeless GP/hospital. It is bit of a saga so apologies for the long post but I think there is a general warning for others on the thread in this.

My booking in appointment is Saturday when I will be 12 weeks. I have been told that I should expect the scan "a couple of weeks" after the booking in appointment. When I pointed out that they would be over 14 weeks and therefore very late I was told I was "exaggerating" and it is a "little bit late" but not "very late".

As you can imagine, that went down very badly. I have pointed out that the critical question is whether it IS late or not (which it is), not HOW late they have left it.

The position is that if a women is not given the nucal scan before 14 weeks, then they will be offered a different downs syndrome test from the combined test because it will be too late for the combined test. This means, you don't get tested for Edwards or Patau's until mid-pregnancy (at the abnormality scan) and for Down's they use a quadruple test (which is a blood test), the results of which take at least 2 weeks and probably 3 to come back. Which leaves you in the position of not knowing the result until (at the earliest 16 and more likely 17 weeks, assuming the original scan is does at around 14 weeks). Without wanting to open a debate about choices, that does mean that if it were to come back with a high risk, that women has been carrying a baby for over 4 months and will have had to tell family & friends the news. One of the reasons for doing the nucal test earlier is to give women the time to decide what their next steps are if the test comes back high risk. It also means that it isn't possible to work out the risk of Edwards or Patau until 20 weeks.

I'm fuming because whilst I have taken the decision to pay for a private scan and Harmony test, there are lots of people not in that position or vulnerable women who might not know when they need to have the various tests.

I spoke to the practice manager and set all this out. Her view was essentially that the risk is very low and therefore this is unlikely to be an issue in reality. That still isn't my point. If it were an issue, if I were to only find out at 20 weeks that my baby has Edwards because of an "admin" error at their end when I otherwise would have known at 12 weeks, that is significant. At that point she started backtracking on the administrative error and saying she is sure they did fax the referral to the hospital after my first GP visit but "it must not have arrived".

I chased the referral three times before I received anything back so finding it hard to believe.

The moral of this (long) story for anyone who hasn't heard about their booking in appt date within a couple of weeks of referral is chase and keep chasing.

00Bubbles00 · 02/03/2016 19:41

Co5Mo apologies, I am at the Fetal Medicine Center (based on recommendations). They have various package options. www.fetalmedicine.com/

Mileymoocow · 02/03/2016 19:48

co5mo congratulations on the promotion!!! Yay!

bubbles I feel for you. I'm not a teacher but I do remember my whole school going bat shit crazy when they were visiting!

I passed out at our booking in appointment today which was really embarrassing. My blood pressure was low and she got into the 5th vial...well I just flaked at that point! Anyway all is ok because we saw baby miley today!

Thread #3 - TTC#1 Grads thread. No TMI is too much, no question too stupid!
Mileymoocow · 02/03/2016 19:56

Oh soda how amazing! I can't believe how much changes in 4 weeks.

Nevlet · 02/03/2016 19:56

What a lovely scan miley! I know its mad all of a sudden everyone just goes nuts and gets really strange priorities like madly changing every display in a classroom and colour reorganising things that dont need doing rather than just getting on with the obvious essentials! Think We have done well tho both home and showered and dinner on by 8 (dp works at same school but as year 10 and 11 principal so will have a tough time the next few days!)

Pinklily1 · 02/03/2016 20:06

So pleased all scans went well and that babies are all progressing nicely - there are some brilliant pictures! I'm assuming there is only one baby in there Miley?! I know you were worried about the possibility of twins. How are you feeling now?

Bubbles, I am so angry for you. I would make a written complaint to the practice, and ask to see a copy of the fax they supposedly sent on the day they said the sent it. You usually get a confirmation with a fax that it has been transmitted or not. I know it won't fix the fact that your scan could be late, but I would definitely want a complaint on record it I were you. I would also complain about being told I was "exaggerating". Silly cow.

Shelb, is it the nausea getting worse? I'm still in the same situation - wake up feeling sick, feel sick intermittently during the day if I don't eat properly and then really struggle with nausea at night.

Is anyone else finding it uncomfortable to lean forwards? I'm starting to get a little bump and find it uncomfortable leaning forwards. It's only going to get worse I know!

Mileymoocow · 02/03/2016 20:15

Oops sorry nev! Tagged the wrong person. Lucky you're on the ball Wink your OH must have the patience of a saint, year 10 and 11 would be my worst nightmare!
pink yes only one bean! Was the first thing I asked. I was like definitely? You're definitely sure? There's no way it can be hiding? I feel really good, sickness isn't as harsh tonight luckily so I'm having some milky way cheesecake

BunchOfBobs · 02/03/2016 20:32

Ooh it's been a busy day on here . Congrats on all the lovely scan photos ladies.

pink I have found bending forwards uncomfortable for a few weeks. I swear my bump is getting noticeably coffee every day.

00Bubbles00 · 02/03/2016 20:35

Thanks Pink, that made me giggle. I reaction quite badly to being told I was exaggerating. I'm a lawyer (a litigator) and since I mentioned that I've had two calls from the surgery telling me they are looking into what happened and they understand that this needs to not happen going forward.

Planeteer · 02/03/2016 21:25

A bumper crop of lovely scans - hooray! Danni is it your turn tomorrow?

Bubbles I'm so sorry they're treating you so badly. Their indifference is totally maddening and would have me biting things if I were in your position. Maybe just mention the fact you're a lawyer into every single future conversation you have with them to lay it on really thick! When is your harmony scan?

Newmrs22 · 02/03/2016 21:25

Bubbles that's terrible. You may find they somehow manage to miraculously find you a scan date earlier.

Some lovely scan pics ladies.

I find bending forwards is uncomfortable. I'm definitely getting a noticeable bump. Although it still looks a bit fat, rather than obviously pregnant if you know what I mean

Runner05 · 02/03/2016 21:26

Indi glad the scan went well Smile

lauren I think being classed as a single mother just because you're not married would irritate me too.

Congrats on the promotion Co5mo

That's a wonderful picture Soda

Yay! Miley now you have a visual on who to blame when you're puking Wink

Pink yup uncomfortable leaning forwards... And backwards, and slouching, and laying on my back, sometimes even laying on my side Hmm

I think the second trimester may be marked by very painful trapped wind. Confused

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Danni89 · 02/03/2016 21:29

Yes planteer me tomorrow... Eeeekk!

Planeteer · 02/03/2016 22:21

Just got home and my booking in and scan dates have arrived. Preparing to ride into battle tomorrow as nuchal scan scheduled for 14 weeks, and my dates are seriously iffy so could be up to 14+4. Suspect an earlier scan won't be possible but it makes me a bit nervous!

LisaTheGreek · 03/03/2016 07:44

Lovely scan Miley!

Sodasoda · 03/03/2016 07:51

Thanks for all your messages!

Lovely scan miley, must favs been lovely after the tough time you've been having. I had an early scan too and yes, completely amazing how much it grows in a few weeks!

bubbles that sounds so frustrating. Well done for kicking up a fuss.

DH told me I woke him a number of times last night by trumping Blush Pregnancy is so glamorous!

Lots of luck for your scan today dann

IndiX · 03/03/2016 08:17

Only just seen your scan Miley lovely scan of your Bean X

Danni89 · 03/03/2016 14:49

Hi girls, scan went well but it was over so quickly, wanted to see more! But yeah the man said everything looks ok, so fx. All booked in for my 20 week scan at the end of April. Smile

Here's my little plum...

shelbTa · 03/03/2016 17:14

Lovely Danni!

Hi everyone X

Sodasoda · 03/03/2016 18:35

Yay danni! Lovely pic!

How's everyone doing today? I feel bloated, sluggish and massive! No bump to be seen yet I just feel huge all over!

shelbTa · 03/03/2016 18:54

I've just had a McDonald's tea followed by slab of cake. Jesus.

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