March 2016 Babies #9 - we're on the final countdown!!

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Maybe - that's a disgrace. I literally just got off the phone to docs booking 38 week routine check - I wasn't expecting to get an appointment because they are usually useless, but the receptionist said pregnant ladies always get priority and I should just call whenever and they will always fit me in! Maybe you need to phone back and lay it on thick - I had a uti in my last pregnancy and ended up unconscious one Sunday lunch time in a restaurant before I even knew I had it. Do you have walk in centres near you at all? There is one in this area that I have heard is good.

Everyone who commented with advice on my birth partner dilemma - thanks so much. I don't feel like it's just me being an evil premadonna now! I think asking if he actually wants to be there and explaining that I may just need to be left alone for some/all of it is probably the way to go. He's going to be upset probably but better to cope with that now rather than in the middle of labor.

Sher I think Pug was being induced this week? I'm going in on Monday so not long here.

I've turned into a burping farting snoring monster today. I woke myself up twice snoring, I am burping so much I am ashamed of myself and holy mother of god the farting is atrocious!

Have sex the midwife said... yeah! Cause who wouldn't fancy a bit of me today! Ugh!

Maybe I'd be seriously considering rocking up to maternity triage and demanding to be seen, particularly considering you've had a fall.

Maybe Have you got a mw you see for all your antenatal appointments who could help sort this out for you (and the worry about reduced movements)? Or does your gp do telephone appointments? mondino's suggestion of a walk in centre is also a good idea if theres one near you.

I really think you should put in a complaint both about not recieving immediate help from gp for uti and not being seen due to concerns for reduced movements as well.

Maybe that is outrageous! UTIs can bring on premature contractions (don't want to worry you more, but when I was in hospital before having Zach I met two ladies who had developed contractions due to UTI). I would definitely call the drs back and lay it on thick, I can't believe they are not treating you as a priority. I hope you're feeling ok after the fall too.

NewmrsD, good luck. It sounds very scary what you're dealing with but I guess at least you have some people with experience to call on for advice. Hopefully everything stays settled for a while yet but really good they're monitoring things closely.,

Marmite how exciting about the pool! Fingers crossed all goes to plan and baby arrives in there in your living room.

Charley, that's a nightmare! I hope you either manage to get an app with the consultant or get some clarity on if you can have the birth centre birth. Can't believe they missed that for you and that's it's only been spotted so late.

Mondi, if my DH was complaining about me being slower/fatter etc because of pregnancy I'd rip his head off (not literally obviously). I think the advice everyone else has given is good. I'd lay it all on the table and say this is the way you want it and if he doesn't agree/care then best off he's not there as unfortunately the birth is all about you and what you want/need. Good luck!

Better news here. Zach managed to maintain his temp overnight in a cot (with no additional help/heat). Yesterday they had him in an incubator with the temp turned up so high he was basically cooking. His heart rate kept going sky high and I said to the nurse it was because he's too hot and could they trial him back in a cot to see if he could maintain his temp. She said no they'd have to have say so from the drs but I took him out anyway to cool down and, lo and behold his heartrate came straight down. It's been weird as we're on a general children's ward and so the nurses are not neonatal specialists, I seem to know more than them after 11 weeks spent in neonatal but it's really hard to say that they are maybe not doing the right thing! In the end the night nurse came on and said he didn't need to be in the incubator, put him in a cot and he's been fine. We're still waiting on the results of his septic screen which is looking like tomoz now so we're probably spending another night in here..boo! I think the likelihood is it's a cold that he's caught from DS1 or me and it's just affected him badly. He's off all monitoring now, feeding really well (every 2 hours again, think he's making up for calories lost!) and looking back to his normal self. Fingers crossed we can go home tomoz.

Hope Pug is ok, it's been a while.

Scared, hope you and baby girl are well. Keep us posted when you get a moment (yeah right, like we ever get a moment to ourselves again with a newborn!)

maybe that's appalling. I had similar problems with my surgery getting an appointment with the GP about my iron levels but that isn't so much of a concern as a UTI. Can you ask to speak to the Practice Manager?

Hope you are ok MrsD and Missi hope Zach's improving now.

Cross posted with you Missi! Glad he's showing signs of improvement.

indom we've got virgincare too loads of glossy, blodly head noted leaflets handed over, most of which seems to say nothing. Red book is much thicker than dd's was. A real push to give online feed back of the visit too.

Not suprised to find that our named health visitor is no more/has another role within the team now and the new lady who is now named for dd and bump works part time, as apparently most of the local hv do. Got on really well with her, as her other work is teaching lots of early years theory and lectures around europ on 'baby wellbeing'. Spent a few minutes updating her paperwork and the rest of the time talking about baby wearing, new born devlopment and the the '4th' trimester!

missi glad to hear zach is improving. Hope it is just a case of him catching the cold you've all had.

maybe surely you need the uti treating asap, it's rediculous they expect you to wait for an appointment. They know what's wrong with you, in my surgery it would simply be a case of confirming where I wanted the electronic prescription sent! In your position, I'd be calling 111 and laying it on thick about uti in once the gp surgery has closed in hopes ooh would sort it out. If you're still worrying about movement make sure you ring back as offten as you need. It really doesn't sound like you're getting the best of care.

Another lurker coming out of the woodwork.

Big hello and thank you for all the chats and advice I've been following of late. Glad to hear the babies are arriving too, and so pleased they both are doing so well. I still have a while to wait for my little bundle as am 34 weeks today. In UK my due date would be 30th March but I live in France and they use a different system here. So officially my due date is Apr 8th. Doesn't really change much, baby will come when he's ready.
So great to get all the info about the nhs that I don't get here. Last week I booked my compulsory anaesthetist appt and found out that the first thing they'll do to me on the Labour ward is stick a drip in me, so it's good to hear about what would be happening to me back in the UK.
Was prompted to post by mond´s message on her OH. My pb is my other half doesn't want to be at the birth, although I want him there. Luckily, he is still agreeing to be there, but I'm a bit worried now that I'll regret turning down my mum's offer to be my birthing partner. She wouldn't be a very good advocate as she doesn't speak French and I'd really rather have her round once the baby's born. But I don't really fancy going through labour alone as OH flicks through a magazine and wishes he were anywhere else.
Or are all partners prone to being a bit useless when you're in labour?

Welcome denise. My aunty had one of her chidlren in France many moons ago, the child recently turned 20! She loved the French health care system around childbirth particually the aftercare, physo to help get pelic floor back into shape as standard. How are you finding it so far? As a family we have quite a few hysteric memories of french health care thanks to my grandad.

I'll be having a drip fitted as soon as I'm admited, as I've had a previous c-section. If they do it like they do in my arean into the side of the wrist, I'd definantly want it early on as it's quite a delicate procedure and can have messy results if you're struggling to keep still. My hospital also use the same bit to take blood which means you don't feel like so much of a pin cussion.

My dh wasn't keen on the idea of being at the birth or as it happened to be elcs with dd. He'd have prefured for me to have my mum with me. But it really was him I wanted with me so he agreed, although he was worried about getting through it which his mum's medeling didn't help with. This time, despite it being scary and unknown, he wouldn't want to miss it. He really felt it was magical bonding with dd when she was first born and certainly made him feel more comfortable setteling her when she was tiny as he was one of the first people she met.

Glad that he is looking brighter, Missi. Good news!

That is terrible about the uti, Maybe. They are horrible things anyway, but obviously in pregnancy they need treating asap. Hope it gets sorted soon.

I had my MW appointment today. All seems ok, but Diastolic BP was 88. I know they class 90 as high, but at booking it was 65, so a fair rise. MW was not concerned, but as you know she has been borderline negligent this pregnancy! Looking at my notes, she put me down as 36+3, when I am 37+2, so I have stopped relying on her for anything!

I have a home BP monitor, so I will keep an eye on it. Only one more appointment with her (next week) and then baby will have arrived two weeks today, unless he would like to arrive earlier (please,please,please!)

I am having a curry, in the vain hope that baby would like to come sooner. Two more weeks of these pains are not appealing to me!

maybe I second advice about going to the out of hours dr; they should be able to see you ok.

mrsBen Your mw sounds appalling. I found scrubbing floors brought on ds1 (although he was already v late by then), but hopefully curry will do the trick.

Mond My dh is the most dreadful nurse whenever I am ill; he let me become dehydrated rather than think to offer me a drink when I had a norvirus and was too weak to do anything for myself. He hates blood, needles etc and quite frankly would be a liability in the delivery room. I let him stay until things get interesting, then when I go to the delivery room, he stays behind. I can then focus on doing the job in hand without worrying what he's up to (passing out etc). I have successfully delivered 2 ds this way and can honestly say I didn't miss him! He turned up again to share the newborn experience (when I really wanted him again) and bond with the baby. He is loving and considerate in so many ways, but this is not one of them and it's much easier just to get on with things on my own. I fully intend to follow the same pattern of events again.

Missi so glad Zach is doing better again. Hope he can go back home tomorrow.

38 weeks today. Hooray!

Ds2 came rushing into the kitchen today saying "Mummy, change my nappy!". Me: "You haven't got a nappy on" Ds2: "oops!". He'd forgotten we were trying to get him to use the potty and had pooed his pants in spectacular fashion. Aaargh. Think we may have to suspend potty training for now.

Ha Shield. Bless your DS. We are currently trying to potty train our DS, but it is a half-hearted effort on my part as I find it too much of an effort to empty it once it has been used!

Can't get over the fact that you have a uti and are not being given antibiotics yet maybe
And Mrsben contracting on and off for weeks here too . Sort of walk round the house like I'm In labour and worried when it actually happens nobody will believe me .
My Bh contractions are definitely painful now as well as strong but they always taper off.
Paper are you being induced on Monday ? After all the excitement with scared this thread needs a new baby now before we go on to thread #10. Considering the volume of traffic on this group were quite a slow moving bunch with the exceptions of fab little zach and scareds baby!

Sher I am slightly concerned that I might actually go into labour before section date but I won't realise after all the false starts!

mrsben if I remember correctly youre not too far from me, if your midwife Is based out of jcuh she may be the same as mine as she's been absoloutly bloody useless throughout and just kept trying to sign me up to paid classes rather than giving a damn. Not once have a heard the baby's heartbeat, and every appointment she asks 'do you feel ok?' Then ticks a box saying 'full mental health assessment complete' in my notes.

Hope you get something sorted with the utI 'maybe'

Wont be long now until we are all popping out our wee ones. Looked in the mirror tonight and it would appear in the space of 24 hours I have gained a patch of stretchmarks under my belly button - thought id escaped unscathed damn it!

Q, we are close to one another, but I am delivering at NT. Must be more than one useless MW in the region!!!

Rubbish handling of the UTI maybe, my docs wrote a prescription on the strength of the lab confirmation, no need for an appointment. Is that a possibility at your surgery? Or could you get a nurse appointment at the surgery where nurse could then get prescription filled? Either way MW in community or antenatal unit should be helping emphasise need of prescription asap. Is there a local walk in clinic you could approach instead?

mondi hope chat with your partner helps, he may be a bit put out that you are considering whether it is best he is not there for the whoke exoerience but better to discuss now rather that exile him on the day. My DH has an armed forces medical background and can be very blase about illness/pain. Im yet to see him in birthing partner action so to speak but he was suprisingly good (calm, concerned, supportive) when I had recent bleeds so he may surprise me. If he was to have a go about me being fatter/lazier in pregnancy he'd get a poke on the eye So he has reined it in to calling me lumpy.

missi glad to hear Zach is rallying, fingers xd you'll be home again soon.

Wow busy thread yesterday so I won't try to reply to everyone, but I am reading along and thinking of you all.

maybe I agree with others you should be insistent about getting antibis sorted. Try the surgery again today maybe and say it's urgent.

Sorry to hear about all the false starts sher and mrsb, must be really frustrating and v odd! I do get a few BHs but they're not painful at all, quite a novelty though as didn't get them at all in my first pregnancies.

Those of you worrying about neglecting your older ones, I think you're all doing great! I've tried to do one decent thing each day - yesterday we made these salt dough fossils which were VERY easy and DCs loved it www.bbc.co.uk/cbeebies/makes/presenters-making-a-fossil
But aside from that we mostly lay around watching tv / playing Lego.

I am feeling rotten with this cold and cough, and keep spiking fevers. DS is now on day 5 of high temp and I keep hoping it will break soon! I get the most horrible coughing fits which are highlighting the weakness in my pelvic floor and in my random slightly hallucinating moments of high temp I panic I'm going to cough he baby out. DH thankfully home now and looking after us.

Happy Thursday everyone, and let's have another baby soon please!

Maybe that's terrible! My midwife phoned the GP while I was sitting in front of her and told him to write me a prescription which I could collect that afternoon. Definitely try them again! Can't believe they can be so useless when they're supposed to be our wing-women during the most important/stressful thing we will ever go through! Hope you kick some ass get it sorted soon!

Magpie I'm trying to do the same, but failed miserably yesterday! Today were either going to make a cake or head out to a stay and play centre. Will ask him when he wakes up. The rest of the day will be spent indoors playing with his toys and maybe a movie. You sound so unwell! Try to take it easy and get better soon

Glad to hear Zachary is doing better Missi! His mummy knows best! Will you both be allowed back home soon?

I might be joining you in the false starts club Sher and MrsB! Had back pain the past few days but put it down to being pregnant. Then had a really "upset" (see shitty) belly 3 times yesterday. Then some bh's, followed by more shitty upset belly this morning. Now starting to think it could be signs of early labour? Or could be wishful thinking! Stomach is definitely having a clear out and back is hurting low down but I realise both things could just as easily be nothing. I'm 37 weeks today!!! Here's hoping there isn't another 5+ to go!

Also looks like csc was pretty empty last night did we all have awesome sleeps?

Sadly I was in CSC last night! I just didn't post as I didn't have anything interesting to say!

Two more days of work to go ... I am soooo ready for my mat leave to start! I did have a nice leaving lunch with my team yesterday. And they warned me to expect some kind of presentation today as most of them are off tomorrow

I'm 37+6 today and absolutely zero signs that this baby might want to put in an early appearance except that my bump is definitely dropping - I don't think he is fully engaged yet though. I'll ask the midwife at my 38 week appointment next week. Second time mums, at what point does the midwife start doing internals and offer sweeps? I'm assuming I don't need to worry about this yet for the 38 week appointment but would just like to mentally prepare myself in case!

I don't think I was in the csc last night, but I definitely feel like I was this morning!!!

37 weeks today and about to head to the midwife to get measured - if no growth since last week (when there was no growth since 34) I'll have to have a growth scan. Fingers crossed!

me, I'm not sure as I had ds right on my due date, but I think they offer a sweep at your 40 week appointment. I just realised us second timers have to wait until 41 weeks for our next appointment!

me I'm a first timer but midwife here does a sweep at 38 week appt, one at 40 wwek appt and induction at 41 weeks. Don't allow you to go more than 1 week over.

Thanks for the support everyone! Well I just tried my GP again with no joy but I'm going to call the antenatal unit again as I think the midwife I spoke to is one who made me feel stupid for coming in with reduced movement at 26 weeks. Every other midwife I've seen there has been lovely - it's London so I don't have a named one, I see a different one at every appointment.

Feels a bit better today anyway, but I'm still annoyed I was fobbed off as I thought utis cought induce labour. Maybe they think that's less of an issue now I'm at term.

Good luck suz - I was also measuring 34cm at my 37 week appointment on Tuesday, but I'm having growth scans anyway (next one on Wednesday).

Appointment didn't go well. She didn't even entertain the idea of booking in a home birth. I wanted to do it as more of an insurance policy in case I go into labour before my induction date. I'd rather give birth at home with a midwife than in the car on the way to the hospital...!

I asked her what she recommends if labour starts and she said "call an ambulance as soon as you have your first contraction" wtf?! That doesn't sit right with me. And who the hell would watch the kids?! So I'm going to ask the consultant on Wednesday if we can bring the induction forward. I know she'll say no but surely that's better than potentially taking an ambulance off someone who's dying?