July 2016 (5)

[gnat99]

Right, this is my second attempt to start a new thread for us. Let the chat begin!

I've come to the doctors about my headaches (DH has forced me) and thirst. I know it's probably just hormones but the migraines seem to disappear when I eat??! Also going to mention my lost bloods and the fact no urine has been tested this whole pregnancy yet.

Midwife appointment for 16 weeks is week today though

mascara what did the GP say about your headaches?

Blood pressure and urine all fine, looked at my eyes etc. Gp was more concerned with this night thirst and feeling dehydrated in the mornings. Going to have more bloods done to rule out diabetes, could just be hormonal though, got to see what the midwife says Monday. Felt daft going but she was really reassuring that I did the right thing coming.

Good to hear there is nothing sinister behind it. I've been getting loads and really starting to worry about it. was planning to ask about it at my 16 week appt tomorrow.

Do mention it, I think the dehydrated feeling (even though I'm drink to a litre of water in the night) is causing them.

mascara this is sounding very familiar so watching closely. I wake up several times in the night with awful thirst/dry mouth, despite drinking 3L of water in the day.
Sorry to hear about the argument bluebell. Hope you managed to calm down enough to concentrate enough to get some work done.

Ladies On the note of the 'poo relief' - I'm adding a 'wind relief.' Oh my goodness how my stomach can deflate and the pains be gone thank goodness DH is at the gym!

And no I never left mine as babies to cry. And when you have other DCs and stuff to do the sling helps a lot. Little babies just want to be held/close

I've never left my babies to cry. Mine have all followed a similar pattern. Feed, change, sleep for 3/4 hours & repeat. All 3 have slept through 7 til 7 from 6 weeks old. I think that's more than just luck. I am a very routined parent. Possibly because of my first he is autistic which obviously wasn't apparent as a baby but he fell into & needed routine. Most of my friends hate my way of parenting as they are all pretty go with the flow. But it's worked for us. Even now my 11 & 9 year old go to their playroom or bedroom at 7 and bed at 8. They never complain. They've never slept in our bed apart from when very tiny or ill and none of them have ever asked. I guess it's down to my parents too. We were never allowed in their bedroom let alone in their bed & they always told us from 7pm is the adults time to relax. We've just carried it on I suppose.

mascara, really glad that they are on the case for you.

Cookies, it's all calmed down now, thanks! We are both quite fiery people anyway, but the hormones are REALLY not helping at the moment as I am extra sensitive to everything, and any arguments just make me want to take to my duvet and sob! And oh my god, I am SO with you on the wind relief. The size of my tummy the other day! And the rapid deflation!

Beautician, that routine sounds amazing! Nice to hear that it can be done. However, as DH is incapable of keeping his parents' dogs out of the bed when we dog-sit, I highly doubt that he will manage to resist the pleas of a small child... We shall see!!!!

Back to my mad commute tomorrow morning. I've got my lunch all set out ready downstairs, just about to do my hair (so that I just need to run straighteners through in the morning), and then it's sleepy-byes for me so that I can get up at 5.30! Wish me luck!

Bluebell everyone just adapts to what suits. My first two children are with a previous partner. He was absolutely vile and I was pretty much a single parent from day one. It's another story but he has nothing to do with the children and they call DH dad & he treats them just the same as our child together. With my ex I had no choice but to go back to work full time when they 3 months old. I needed sleep after long hours in a salon so my babies had to fit around me

Hi can I tell you about my day without judgement as I feel awful about it? Took dd to a soft play and like a total idiot I went down the bumpy slide after she told me it wasn't fast (she lied) I was upset for her cos she couldn't find another child to play with so I got all hormonal. Anyway it was ok but took a little bump to my bum at the bottom and now I'm worrying, feeling guilty and stupid. Had a listen on the Doppler and all was well and had a little flutter but just when I was relaxing into this pregnancy I go and do this! Didn't want to tell dh as he might be cross with me for being reckless.

Beaut I had a Zafira before the 4x4 which is my dream car, I'll just be gutted to see it go I'm ridiculously emotional today about the car situation, I sat at my desk at work crying like a baby while the staff around me tried to pretend it wasn't happening...I can laugh about it now but my hormones have gone crazy...it's a car ffs!!

Cookies I would keep my 5 seater if it wasn't for the fact I do school runs for my friend (she helps me out too) so I'll be transporting 5 children around.

Just to chip in on the poo situation, I've fluctuated between constipation and the squirts for weeks...lovely

Beaut I had a really strict routine with my two when they were babies with regards to sleeping and feeding. They both slept through the night from 6-8 weeks but it was very restrictive with the two...there was only a slot of about two hours in the afternoon when I could leave the house. Planning on being much more relaxed this time round and taking babies lead more so...and hopefully getting out of the house more!

Right, off to cry about nothing, have a good evening all.

14 + 4

Hey, minieggaddict, I'm sure you're both fine - they're really well protected in there. If you're worried you could call your midwife non- emergency number and ask for advice.

Regarding routine... My DS was poorly when he was born and was in SCBU for a few days. When we got home I was unnerved by how little he seemed to react to his surroundings and us. I felt it was due to the really rigid routines in the SCBU and the fact we could hardly hold him for a couple of days. It really freaked me out tbh. So I decided to hold him as much as possible and let him have as much contact with me as I could. We had a bedside crib and he had pretty much all his sleeps on me in the early days. We had no routine really, I just fed him whenever he wanted and he slept whenever he slept. Gradually a pattern emerged, which became more definite as he got older.

Anyway, my point is that routines are great but you don't have to stick to one if it doesn't feel right. Do whatever suits you and the baby - if that's a routine, great, if not, also great.

beautician I'm in awe of your routine! I hope to achieve something pretty similar myself although it's probably a pipe dream and knowing how much of a pushover I am it will probably all go to pot in the first few weeks.

mini I wouldn't worry if I were you. Babies are born in war zones all the time where there were probably lots of bumps and much worse during pregnancy. In my job I also see lots of domestic violence cases where pregnant mums have severe impact to the stomach and still go on to deliver perfectly healthy babies. They are well cushioned in there and very resilient.

just re-read my last post and realised it sounds a bit morbid general gist I was getting at (not very eloquently) was basically don't worry and everything is probably OK in there

Thanks girls, I feel things are ok I just freaked myself out with how easy it is to be a moron!

Blimey, Allthegoodnames, sounds like a challenging job.

Re routine, don't stress over it, in my experience it just happens and whatever works for you might not be for others.x

Beautician so pleased you had a lovely birthday. Spa this weekend sounds amazing too! Might have to think about something like that for me and DH. We're thinking of taking a week in March for holiday but can't decide whether to stay in the UK or whether to go abroad. If we go abroad I'd want it to be nice weather but March would likely mean heading somewhere further afield and with baby on the way we need to be careful where our money goes! Plus it needs to be March because of DH's holiday year.

We are also thinking of having our garden done (more expense) as at the moment it's not really fit for a child with lots of stone and steep stairs. It's not just about the baby though, it would be lovely to have it as an outside room whereas at the moment it's basically a car park!

I am just no where near thinking about a routine at this stage! Can anyone suggest any good reading on all of that kind of thing? Managed to get DH into Mothercare for all of 25 mins which seemed to be 20 minutes too many! I think I will try to get him interested in logistical things first and then routine can come later...

16 week midwife appointment today. Is it a pretty normal one ie they don't really do much?! Just hanging on for the 20 week scan now...can't wait.

Have a good day xx

Morning all. Hope we are all well. Sorry I've not been saying much here, I struggle to keep up with you all!!

Good luck with your appointment Bel I think you get to hear the heartbeat today.

I'm feeling pretty emotional today, not really sure what's wrong but feel I could burst into tears over the smallest thing. Gonna try to keep busy.

We've been doing a lot of discussing the things that need to happen around the house before baby comes, and DH has started work on the bathroom. Next is the spare room then the nursery. We've also pretty much decided on the buggy and car seat we want, only one more shop to go look at. Probably way too organised but we're both a bit anal about researching everything we buy!!

We're hoping to go away somewhere in the uk for DH's birthday in May. Not sure where, but it'll be nice to have a last trip away just the two of us... and the dog!

Hope you all have a lovely Tuesday!

mascaraisamust glad to hear they are looking after you. Like a few of you I have terrible thirst at night too.

BelOfTheBall79 My 16 weeks was more of a causal chat as well. They couldnt even book me in for my 28 weeks as its miles away (I don't think I have a 20 as its my second). Nice to hear the baby's heartbeat though.

SunnyScot89 hope the day perks up for you

Bel - I found The Baby Whisperer to be quite helpful. It's not Gina Ford-fascist but it does advocate a routine of sorts around the acronym EASY: Eat, activity, sleep, you-time...

Like some of the others, Ted has always been a good sleeper though I think this is so much down to luck...having said that, listening to your DC and beginning to understand the difference between hungry cry and wet nappy cry and tired cry etc is really useful.

For those with thirst, and as someone who had gestational diabetes last year with Ted, it's really not so bad if you end up getting it, it's so common these days even if you have no family history, low BMI etc. Symptoms for me were thirst and very bad thrush (as your body can't process the sugars so well) but I was able to control it with diet alone (i.e. no drugs, but I did have to prick my finger 6 times a day to test my blood sugars) and I have a great high fibre muffin recipe which got me through the irritating last few weeks when I couldn't eat much sugar or carb.

I've got a glucose tolerance test (GTT) booked for next week so I'll soon find out if I've got it again. If any of you do get it, I would say to lay off the Haribo and fruit juice and up your fibre and exercise!

Speaking of which Cookies - going to preg yoga today for the first time!! Will report back.

I had an awful dream about miscarrying this baby, having to birth it and say goodbye :( god it was horrible!! Hope it doesnt mean anything

Sorry for the bring down so early.. But I know some would understand with having weird dreams! I didnt have anything sugary before going to bed, so no idea what got me to have such a nightmare!

Actually thats a lie.. I had a milkshake.. (Craving of mine) woops

Weird and vivid dreams are a side effect of pregnancy. I had all kinds of odd ones last time.

Whenever I manage to get into a deep sleep - which is rarely these days - I have the most vivid dreams. Some are similar to the kind of dreams I had before I was pregnant - like being back at school or at an old job but they are much clearer and I can remember conversations etc when I wake up. And also most of the time although they are more vivid, I do realise I am dreaming, therefor can control the emotions I am feeling at the time. All very strange.
Beautician, I am hoping (and dreaming) to have a similar routine with our little one but I'll just have to see how it goes I suppose. I was thinking of booking in a pre-natal treatment with the spa at the hotel in Dublin. Just not sure of which one to get - They are all a bit pricey too. Was thinking if they can still do an indian head massage I will just go with that.
Hope your appointment goes well Bel.

Had 16 week appointment today, was talking about sleep issues and she asked if ive been anxious, i said no b4 oh popped up and said err about from he grandad dying a few weeks ago, it hadnt even crossed my mind to say it, of course afte that lovely dr talked to me about it and i couldnt stop crying, i seem to have been bottling it a lot and not really grieving properly.

After i had calmed down we head babys heartbeat and hes still quite low, she then did blood pressure which after crying etc she expected a slight raise and its very low, which now explains why Ive been feeling very dizzy. ive been told to sit down as much as possible at work esp if i feel dizzy as she worried im going to faint and hurt myself and or baby. Also if im carrying my toddler or at home alone with him, not good, so need to take it easy, i hope the levels improve soon

16 + 3

scase I'm a huge babywearing fan and a close caboo is definitely a good place to start, it's a pre tied stretchy, so it's even quicker than a stretchy (though they are mega easy too). I've got one for this baby after using a stretchy last time. Stretches are good for a few months but then aren't supportive enough, luckily they've got good resale and There are then loads of other types, woven wraps, buckles like Tula, Connecta, Ergo etc.

I would advise against a Baby Bjorn or similar narrow based carrier (where the babies legs hang down in front of you instead of wrapping around your waist to the sides) purely because they're so much less comfortable as all the weight is on the front of your body. They definitely don't help people with current back neck or shoulder problems. A buckles carrier like I've mentioned above is called an ergonomic carrier and because the baby's weight wraps around you it spreads it across your back and there's less pressure on specific spots. There's also stuff linking narrow based carriers to infant hip problems, not sure how true that all is (I've read other stuff saying that only in infants who already are predisposed to have hip problems) but they're not as comfy for longer periods for the baby so you might as well have a comfier, ergonomic one