Best Christmas present ever - September 2016

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Hi ladies,

I've been TTC2 for 1.5 years and I've just found out I'm pregnant 1 day before Xmas eve! Best present ever! Anyone else celebrating a bfp this Christmas? I've already had to dodge chocolate mousse, champagne and Stilton...all worth it though!!

Thanks all, I think it's pretty unlikely I'll go to the US again but who knows, it can be a bit random. I am supposed to be going to a festival in Spain at the beginning of June (bought tickets and accommodation) so will have to think about that nearer the time!

Welcome womb I still have daily contact with my MN mummy friends from DD antenatal group on FB too.

True story: my antenatal group from when I had DD found out I was pregnant before DH did 😳

Still talk to my last MN antenatal group every day on Facebook too. Definitely couldn't have raised a baby without them!

Hi everyone. New to thread after poas this evening. Have spent most of the evening blubbering. I'm having a bit of a panic if I'm honest. Supposedly due around 19th September. And I currently have a 13 month old. My previous antenatal group have saved my sanity, so thought I'd get my arse back on MN for this one

kitkat I'm the same craving something then being sick but as I'm sick most evenings /mornings I might as well eat something yummy right...🍕 mum

thats I have 18 month old too so be interesting to see how they cope. My friend who had 1st baby at same time is due end of January so if I ever feel panicked I just think if they can cope I will!

Welcome womb and other newbies. Mn antenatal and postnatal groups are sanity savers that's for sure!

Mine too womb!

Welcome catface is there any particular reason for your panic or just the usual 'it's actually happened how will I cope panic?' If so don't worry you'll be fine and your DC will change a lot in 8 months.

It's snoooowiiiinnngg!!! Exciting I'm excited today. 2 more weeks until I see the midwife and potentially 3 weeks until I have my dating scan unless there is a massive backlog!! In my head I'm already starting to think about how and when I will tell people There's only one person I am dreading telling and that is my older sister. She's still looking for a boyfriend and time is not on her side to have children My dS is very fond of her and I try and share him as much as possible but sometimes I have to draw us away so that she doesn't find it too overwhelming or sad because I know how much she wants her own kids. It's very unfair because I would love to share having kids with her but it just hasn't happened. Anyway, I think my news will be very difficult for her. Ideally I'd love to just text her but my other sister did that once and she said herself that she would have preferred to be told face to face so I can't even hide

Peardrop. I had a similar thing with my business partner who has been ttc for 5 years via ivf etc. And there's me tries for 2 weeks and conceives. But she was wonderful when I told her yesterday, very supportive (despite baby due at our busiest period). I felt pangs of sadness/jealousy when my little brother announced him and his wife were expecting a few years ago when I had just come out of a long term relationship and was very down and very single. But mainly I was massively happy and excited and wouldn't be without my wonderful nephew now. You should tell her when your ready but don't hold back, she will very likely be over the moon for you.

Lilliana, I just don't feel ready. I wanted to ttc from May. I know 4/5 months isn't much really but it feels huge. My little girl will only be 19 months when baby 2 comes. I had a rubbish pregnancy last time and have to have C section again this time so am worried about recovery and how I'll cope. My DD is still so little, she's my everything and I don't want to miss a second of her growing up because I'm distracted by another littley.

Also nervous about telling people. Last time we told family straight away and they were super excited. Don't want to tell anyone yet as I'm scared that their reactions won't be as positive

Butterflies - ouch, that must have hurt your business partner. I know it's just life but it still is really icky when you know your happiness will be a sting to someone close. Good on your business partner for not showing any bad feelings in front of you. That's incredibly strong and kind of her under the circumstances!

I think it's because I've was Ttc dc2 for 1.5 years so I know that sting when people share their happy news and you soooo want to be happy for them, you do feel happy for them but this cloud of sadness gets in the way. You do your best to put on a brave face but once you get home you shed a few tears etc. I think being as blaze and playing it down with my sister is the best option possible. Not expecting her to be excited and just dropping my news into our conversation is how I will go. I might even do it with DH about so that I feel his support too. At the end of the day I get it...she's got lots of nephews and nieces from other members of the family too, she doesn't need another one, what she really wants his her own. I know she will be happy that I'm happy but it will be masked by a cloud of sadness that it's not her turn. I really hope it's her turn soon

Catface - I understand your anxiety. I've watched all my friends go through the same process as they all have small gaps between their two dc. They're all happy now and their little ones are starting to interact with each other. They've all survived so you will survive too. Try and focus on the idea of giving your girl a playmate that she will hopefully have a lot of fun with throughout her life. All age gaps have their ups and downs. I'll have a 3 year gap and that comes with different challenges. I think you'll look back and appreciate that it was a blessing you managed to conceive so quickly again and that you gave your daughter the best gift ever.

Wonderful positive thinking peardrop thank you.
Hopefully in a few days when it's all sunk in I will feel much better. Until then distraction is the way forward.
Sorry for being such a negative-face!

Congratulations to everyone in here :)

Catface I'm the same - my DS will only be 16months when baby arrives and I'm so worried about it and about people's reactions. I'm also worried about DD who will be almost 5 and starting school so I need to be there for her too!

Catface, my 2 are 19 months apart (9 and 11 now!). I felt awful for my ds when dd came but it turned out the be the best present ever for him. They get on so well and are so lucky to have each other.

Hello All, my pains are much much better today. It's been swapped by sickness. Can't wait for my next scan on the 28th. Will feel much better. Still freaking out about the whole situation. Was not planned in the slightest and feeling like my life is over! I'm sure it will be fine!! X

Cat-face - don't be sorry! We're all here to support each other

I've experienced being sick for the first time today. I don't mind but it was a strange experience. I've always wondered what it would feel like. I had a strong hunger pang at 11am, strongly followed by an urge to be sick. Felt a bit hot and clammy and then felt better after being sick. Is that how most feel with the sickness? Odd to feel so hungry and then be sick straight after. Perhaps if I had eaten quickly I would have been able to avoid it?!!

Last pregnancy I had to constantly keep nibbling to avoid vomming!
Feeling pretty normal so far (but I reckon I'm only 3-4 weeks). No sickness anyway. Knew something wasn't right though, which is what made me poas. Really sore nipples and I actually thought I had a urine infection as discharge and wee smelt unusual. Little did I know.

Thanks for the support and positive tales of small age gaps :)

Anyone else have days where they just don't feel pregnant? Barely a symptom today (only the sore boobs) and I feel a bit stressed that I'm not more symptomatic? Exactly 7 weeks today too, I think I'd just like reassurance that everything is OK in there.

Yes KitKat I had many days like that last week

Thanks pear I will try not to stress.

I have been feeling a bit better most of the day, although the nausea comes back when I'm hungry. Have been craving citrusy things like orange juice, lemonade, lime juice the last couple of days. Have gone off tea, chocolate and bread. When I was pregnant with DS I couldn't bear cheese, salad and fish, but didn't really have any cravings (apart from raspberry frozen yoghurt which I couldn't find anywhere!)

Still feeling ridiculously tired so I think it'll be an early night again tonight. Got a busy week ahead, birthday Tuesday so got a half day off work (yay!), planning to watch TV all afternoon as DH will be at work and our TV only tunes to sport when he's home! Midwife appointment on Friday and then out for dinner on Saturday so a few bits to look forward to.

Hoping work isn't too stressful this week. It was very stressful last week and I found it harder as no-one knows I'm pregnant. I think people might have been a bit nicer if they did know (or maybe that's just wishful thinking!)

Hope everyone is doing well and feeling ok (or at least not too rough).

Hi everyone. I've got quite a few faint positives on internet cheapies (I'm too embarrassed to say just how many!). My cycles have been quite irregular as I'm still breastfeeding DS1 but I have a due date of 25 September but will jump back and forth between the September and October groups as DS1 arrived 2 weeks after a similar EDD.

I'm waiting to get a strong line before I tell DH but I'm pretty excited already.

Yes KitKat and after reading the full thread now I feel paranoid! no sickness, no nausea, no cravings, no cramps. Just sore boobs on and off (had worse from pmt), a few twinges and a bit of tiredness. I did another test on Friday and got a strong line though.

Of course I've probably jinxed things now and will likely feel like crap next week !