Due in July - Part 2!

[Chooster]

Hello everyone - Just starting a new thread for this... Will send a message in a mo.

justbeme_ I've not heard heartbeat either.

Because I had no idea how pregnant I was, the first appt (where most people see dr to say they are pregnant) I saw midwife who had a feel and listen but couldn't hear anything. As it happens at that point I was only 5 weeks. I then got my booking appointment for a fortnight later which was only 7 weeks and the week after my 12 week scan. From my first contact with midwife we weren't expecting an early scan, but think they must have panicked when. they saw I hadn't had a period for so long.

So my dating scan was 8 weeks and saw NOTHING but a few flickering heart cells. They didn't even bother charging me for the blob on the photo. The next time I get to see a midwife is week 24, although I do get a 20 week scan. After 24 weeks it's 28, 32, then 36, 38, 40.

I will see my midwife at my dr's surgery until towards the end when she will probably come to my house (unless she is really booked up) because I'm having a home birth. Even then I will only get my own midwife if she is on duty at the time of me going in to labour...... That was fine last time though.

I am really amazed at how midwife care changes from place to place...here
we book in at 8weeks,
then 12week scan, then MW at 16weeks,
then 20week scan,
mw at 24 weeks then,
mw at 28weeks,
then 30weeks,
then scan at 32weeks,
Then weekly mw appointemts till 40weeks,
If not delivered by 40weeks we have another scan, and CTG done, then another 2 ctgs with in that week.

I was given a booklet to say at what stage each visit is and what that visit is for..

I would love a home birth but not sure if we are allowed in the army quarters..

I think I am going to go for a water birth, am going to discuss this with mw later I know I am getting ahead of myself.. 3of my friends from Cyprus and I were on MSN with each other on a 4way conversation the other night, and they all said I have to go for another, c-section so that they can be here for the birth!!..lol

Jennster, your appointments sound totally normal and what I had with DS. Am only being monitored more this time as I had pre-eclampsia last time. If you are worried go and see your GP and say that you feel stressed by the lack of care and not having heard the baby's heartbeat and I'll expect they'll listen to it there and then for you.

Oh I'm not worried abgirl. Just it seems unlikely I will get to hear the heartbeat until really late. Trying to reassure people that you won't necessarily hear it so early. Personally think those personal sonicaid type things will worry you rather than reassure you. It's dead easy to hear your own heart beat and not the baby's anyway.

Morning!

Justbeme - I'm 17 weeks and have still not heard a heartbeat. Like Jennster it appears I'm not likely to until 24 weeks. I had my booking in appointment yesterday and the MW wants me to see the consultant at the hospital in relation to an operation I had "down there" when I was about 18. Without going into details I had some sort of dividing tissue (a septum I think it was called) that had to be removed but I can't remember many of the details, and the MW wants to double check that I don't have 2 uteruses (sp?)!!! I'm sure this would have been picked up in my first scan though. I suppose I get an extra scan and should at least see the heartbeat!

Appointment generally went well and was relieved at only having one needle!!! Booked into parentcraft classes in June, so have got a long time to work on DH and persuade him to join me in at least a couple of them.

Typhoonsmum - just echoing others - all thinking of you.

Morning all, can I please start with a big moan? (Thanks!) I cried this morning because I felt fat and ugly and was incapable of putting together an outfit for work! After missing one train I settled on the same trousers as yesterday because they are the only ones that felt comfortable! Have spent the entire morning feeling like I want to cry! That was until someone in work fainted and pulled me out of my misery!
I am ecstatic to be pregnant but just cannot get it together today!

Im not weight obsessed at all (and rarely stand on scales) but I have put on 10lbs! That seemed like a lot to me until I heard a friend (18 weeks) has put on 30lbs...I guess we are all different and its going to vary wildly.

I am secretly pleased today because my DH doesnt like the look of the bands playing at the concert he was going to go to! So he probably wont be going! wooohoooo! Seems we are all celebrating little victories alround!

Knickers - Still cannot get my head round having to lose my g's....not sure whether to just call it a day and go and buy some new ones and be done with it or continue kidding myself that these are comfortable!

Hope you all feel okay today.

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Myfairone - don't dispair! It's a bit of a transition stage at the moment. I'm having the same feelings as you - and will follow Firststar's suggestion and invest in a few key pieces for work this weekend that will hopefully grow with me over the coming months. They will all probably be black ....

By the way, I can't remember who recommended the "I'm Pregnant" magazine recently, but thanks!!! I bought it yesterday and although it's quite pricey (£4.99) you only need to buy it once and it's packed full of everything. Health, fashion, product reviews etc - and all are really up to date. I'm sure I'll refer to it loads.

Thanks for sympathising ladies....had a really bad start to the day but its got better as the afternoon has gone on.

I have had two people compliment me on how I seem to be 'glowing'! Really not sure I know what they are referring to but it kind of helped and was nice especially after the way I felt this morning...

I have decided that I need to buy more trousers. I have maternity tops which are fine but its 'bottoms' I am missing. So I'm going to go surfing for some.
As for the knickers have decided to look for something more suitable. Am getting sick of this damn gstring panty liner sticking to my butt!

Gotta laugh haven't you really!?!

Thanks for the support ladies..hugs.

p.s going to get that mag tonight.

Myfairone - hope you find some threads that make you feel nice. I felt horrid until I got some clothes that actually fitted me! If you have a chance to pop out to any shops I can recommend New Look and TopShop for mat stuff. I picked up a few things in the sale (all for work) and I instantly felt much more comfy and much better.

Pants wise, I am still in my normal thongs for now... mainly I think because I shrunk/shrank? them recently. Oops.

Like others I've started to feel a kick... and even more weirdly/excitingly something came through on my tum last night. I was tapping it and then there was definite action at the top of my bikini line. Amazing!

Sorry I'm not good at keeping up with everything and everyone's posts. Chooster hope things are ok at home - I would have felt exactly the same way as you. Sometimes they just don't think do they...

Little non pregnancy related question.

Is a four year old too young to go to a funeral. She was very close to her grandad and I feel she should go. DP thinks seeing grown up's cry will be too muchy for her.

typhoonsmum - sorry for you and your family's loss. thinking of you all. I don't think 4 is too young to go to a funeral. If you decide she shouldn't go when she is older she may feel like she wasn't given the opportunity to say goodbye. Maybe try speaking to her and see what she wants to do, if she understands.

typhoonsmum, I agree with your DP on this one and think 4 is a bit young to understand what's going on at a funeral - it could get very overwhelming. Could you have a seperate 'Goodbye Grandad' ceremony, where you can talk about the happy times your DD and her grandad had together, and maybe see if there's a special photo of Grandad and your DD together that you could put in a frame?

HTH

pantyliners - I think bobyform do some really little ones in a little blue plastic box, which just cover the gusset (I hate that word). they are normally fine in thongs & g-strings, without sticking to your bum
see link

firstar - understand feeling uncomfortable. have just ordered some clothes as I am struggling to find anything in the shops that fits. Next do quite a good range of sizes, but they don't tend to have much if anything instore. Isabella Oliver also do really nice clothes, but they are a bit pricey. Happy shopping!

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So sorry to hear your news Typhoonsmum. I was 5 when my grandad died and I went to his funeral. I don't remember the funeral but I do remember the wake (Irish tradition) and I remember standing on my tip toes and putting my 'glow in the dark' virgin mary into the coffin (!). So even though it was really sad, especially as I was close to him, I think it was good to go through the process. I was much more pragmatic (if you can be pragmatic at 5!) about that than when my other grandad died when I was 10. I think at that age the loss was much more raw. Whereas you tend to go with the flow when you're little. In terms of seeing grown ups upset - I don't think that's a bad thing. They feel sad when they lose something/someone so it's easily explained from that perspective. A funeral is just a way of getting friends and family together to say 'we love you and goodbye'....

Anyway, this is only my personal experience... you'll know the best thing for you and your family. So sorry about your loss though....

Typhoonsmum- so sorry for your loss.
Hope you DP, and mIl are ok. I thikn it is a personal choice, about a four year old going to a funeral..
When Imy great uncle died my cousin (his dd) took her dc with her and they were yoing one was a bout 3 or 4 .. The one thing I would ewarn you is that your dd may well become obsessed by death, and start asking all sorts of questions.. My DD was 5 and we took her to the wake afterwards, she was asking what had happened to her uncle, I explained as best I could about the cremation etc.. To which she said "oh they have made him into an ashtray!!!!"
Children can help to lighten the situation and help people to realise that life goes on etc and also to help them realise what life is about... I hope this makes sense!!!!..

So sorry to hear the your Father in Law passed away Typhoonsmum - hope youre all keeping ok . Theres so much to do and its difficult being the "outsider" . I remember going to my Grandads funeral when i was about 11, but I only went to the church service not the actual cremation and then back to the house for the wake. I can remember standing in the Church looking at the coffin, what I wore that day and then being totally fascinated with an elderly aunties Hilda Odgen type lipstick . Its funny what sticks in childrens minds!

I've explained to her that Gaga was very ill and has now gone to heaven to be with the angels. Daddy and Naine are very sad and we have to look after them both for a bit. She seemed to understand that. She told her best friend at school that "Gaga is in heaven. He went straight there from the hospital."
DD takes everything in her stride and I just feel that she'll feel left out if she can't go. MIL thinks that she'd be ok there it is just DP who doesn't. I can understand his point but I just feel that DD needs to say goodbye too.

hi everyone, thanks for your welcome. sorry typhoonsmum on the news.lots of kisses. I havent been on for a while as i had a bit of a scare on thursday morning, i woke up to a sore belly and i was bleeding. i got taken to hospital by ambulance and then waited for one and a half hours to be told to go home, rest and wait for a scan!!! So i went home scared out of my wits and was stuck in my bed for the day. The bleeding stoped that day so i felt a bit better in the evening. untill friday when it started again, i rang the midwives this time and they said to go to the hospital and demand a scan. So off i go again this time a diffrent doctar came in and said i cant have a scan but she will see if she can hear babys heart beat. Lucky after a while of serching i heard it for a while and cryed with joy. Lol. anyway had my scan on monday and baby is fine and kicking away. I was told it was probably a burst blood vestel and nothing to worrie about. so now im back on my feet and thankfull im out of bed (never thought id say that.) And in answer to firststar yes it feels like ther is a pice of string atached to each bone in my pelvis and they are allpulling in different directions, very painfull .

love safxxxxxxxxxx

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