Gosh so much to catch up on. So hard to follow it all now that I'm back at work!
Pinsey - hugs to you. Bluebell is absolutely right about the percentages. Hope the midwife is helpful tomorrow, and you manage to get the harmony arranged quickly.
Magickal - I think you need to do what's right for you and protect yourself - although I know that's easy to say and hard to do without fretting! If you want the job, take it, and deal with the pregnancy thing separately. I recently started a new job (Day 4 today) and was really anxious about how/when to tell my boss that I was pregnant. I told her today, and it's a real relief to have it off my chest. Personally I wanted to tell her at the earliest feasible opportunity once I'd had my scan (which was this Monday) because I didn't want to feel that I'd kept her in the dark, but you're perfectly entitled to tell them later if you want. Tricky if (as you say) your pregnancy can't be public knowledge yet - and I can see why you feel awkward about not wanting to mess them around (I felt the same) - but if you're not ready to tell them yet, then don't. Also worth making sure you've got a job offer in writing before telling them...?
I must say I thought my boss handled the news pretty well - I needn't have worried about it as much as I did. I requested a specific "personnel" meeting with her and prepped her by opening the conversation with "I've got some News that I expect you'll have a mixed reaction to..." before explaining the situation. I think that gave her a bit of a heads-up and meant that she responded with very smiley congratulations, before then asking for details for business planning purposes.
Anyway Magickal, good luck with your decision, and rest assured that whatever you think is right for you, is the right decision.
I had my 12wk scan on Monday (sorry not to have posted sooner) and everything seemed to be fine visually, although I need to wait for the blood test results before I know for sure and have a 1inSomething figure. We've told a few more people the news but I'll probably hold off with a few more until I've got those results.
My DH had quite a big day at work yesterday - he announced the pregnancy to his whole office (which surprised me because he's pretty nervous about the whole fatherhood thing), and he also handed in his resignation! He has to give a whole year's notice, so there's plenty of time for him to work out his next career move, but it's pretty daunting to have so much change all happening at the same time. I think he's feeling like a rabbit in the headlights - needing to find a new career and get used to being a father! Poor chap.
We also met our friends' new baby on Monday - he's a fortnight old. So tiny! Made it all seem suddenly quite real...
Someone mentioned NCT and other pregnancy classes etc. I'm planning to go to my first pregnancy yoga class this weekend - looking forward to it. Not sure about NCT - we've heard fairly mixed reviews (lots of friends have said that it's great for meeting local people but not many friends have raved about the content of the course - apparently some of the class leaders can be quite judgemental/opinionated e.g. about Caesarians, bottle-feeding etc) so we've been looking at alternatives. There seem to be some good alternatives to NCT but not in our part of London - and I'd like to go to something local where we'll meet people who live nearby, so we'll probably end up sticking with NCT. What do others reckon?
Sorry, this is quite an essay. I'll shut up now.