Morning all and happy Christmas. Hope everyone had a lovely time and managed to get some sleep.
Scared, sorry to hear about your tingly leg problem. It really sounds like it's getting you down. I'd definitely agree that preg yoga could be good for you and could help your sleep and relaxation and like Suz says to meet people and ease the worries you've talked about before about your lonely mat leave. From my experience it attracts a certain sort of person who are all welcoming and everyone is in the same boat (plus you have a ready made conversation topic in your pregnancy/babies!) I met a couple of ladies when I did it with DS1 who I still see regularly now 2.5 years on. I think if you can find some other mums to hang out with it will make it a really nice experience for you. The yoga class I did also did mums and babies yoga which was a great follow on from the preg yoga and again made it easier to then meet up with people afterwards to go for a walk or a coffee.
Beautiful, so sorry to hear about your problems with the baby and that your home birth is off the cards. I will be keeping all fingers and toes crossed that baby stays in until at least 34 weeks. It's amazing now that having an extremely prem baby myself looking at babies who are born at 32 weeks plus they look pretty
Much full term to me and I think 'if only I'd been able to hold on to him that long!' I know if you had a baby then it's not ideal but rest assured they and you would be absolutely fine. It would obviously make things difficult with looking after your other DC (maybe DH would have to take time off to look after them?!) but you would cope and come out even stronger at the other end. If I could help at all if you do end up having baby early then let me know.
Marmite, the vaccination situation with DPs brother is a tricky one. Could you bring it up in a casual conversation so as not to let on you've read the red book but to find out if they have had her vaccinated? Maybe just like asking what jabs you'd need to be taking baby for as you have no idea? I agree with your views on vaccination for sure but know a couple of people who are really anti.
We had an interesting Christmas. DS1 was bought far too many presents for a 2 year old. Really we should have just got him one as after he'd opened the first one - a wooden train set - they was it, all he wanted was to play with that and had a melt down when we suggested opening any others! It was really sweet seeing him checking the carrots, mince pie and Baileys (his choice!) had gone and seeing his excited little face.
We made it to the neonatal unit just in time to see Father Christmas before he left and he'd delivered all kinds of gifts to both us and Zach from the 'Friends of the baby unit' who fundraise for it. There were outfits for Zach, a little knitted Santa hat and booties for him, chocolates and smellies for us, so heartwarming and lovely.
Zach has had a rough few days leading up to Christmas and had developed an infection in his blood which he's being treated for. The unit called me (never a good sign) on Tuesday to say he'd had a bad night. they did all kinds of tests including a lumbar puncture to check for meningitis and started him on some pre-emptive antibiotics. They also upped him breathing support and put him nil by mouth for 36 hours as every time he had a feed he would have heart rate drops/apnoeas/oxygen desats. We've not been able to hold him since then and plus I've been feeling a bit rough since Christmas Eve and haven't wanted the possibility of transferring anything to him do aside from 2 hours on
Xmas day by the incubator I've not been to see him since 23rd. DH has been up but it's heartbreaking not to see him. Thankfully he seems to be responding well to the antibiotics and when DH went yesterday he was able to get him out for cuddles. This has been the first proper big set back and time I've felt scared, it's horrible and you feel so helpless. Thankfully he's now on the mend it seems.
Sorry for the essay!