June 2016 #4 - 12 week scans, seeing tiny feet and hands!

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Happy new thread everyone :)

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We are quiet today ladies, I may not post often but I feel sad without all your updates! Glad there is a generally improving health feel though,sorry for those who are still sick :(

kezod I wonder would it be worth sending her a message first? I have also been there and my instinctive reaction was always tears, perhaps give her the chance to get her head round it and say it is up to her whether she brings it up so she has control? Just a thought, obviously you know her best x

Well late night for me so let's hope the dreaded insomnia stays away and how to see people tomorrow :)

kezod I've been that person! DH and I were trying to conceive for over 2 years and during that time several friends have fallen pregnant. I'm sure she'll be absolutely fine. I'd actually tell her fairly early on during your meal as then you can discuss all things TTC. I'm sure she'll be jealous, that's only natural but I'm sure she'll be over the moon for you and keen to talk you baby plans through with you. That's the good thing about those of is who've been trying for a long time. We're even more baby mad!

On a completely separate note... What are you ladies taking for constipation? It's been days and I'm feeling very uncomfortable to say the least Any advice would be much appreciated.

So I'm 11+2 today. Scan is booked for 12+5. I am absolutely desperate to tell people now!! I cannot wait as absolutely no-one knows apart from DH (and you guys!!). I haven't been drinking for a while anyway due to being on fertility medication so I'm convinced that none of my family or friends have any idea. Oh I can't wait to tell my mum xx

Well ladies, I finally slept the whole glorious night until a blissful 7:30am, no stupid 4am insomnia. The only thing I did different last night is we had sex, haha, maybe this is the answer?

Also had a good nights sleep (but no sex!) our DD genetics tests came back all clear so that's a big weight off. 13+1 here next scan in January and I reckon with Christmas etc it will fly by.

11 weeks today yay, nearly at the magic 12 week milestone!! Ihaven't felt sick for nearly a week (although I keep worrying now that symptom has gone - never happy lol) my boobs still feel bruised though and my little pointy bump is still there so I'm sure everything will be fine :)

Thanks for the advice regarding petite maternity jeans I shall have a look today. Hope everyone else is doing ok xxx

13 weeks today :)

Talking of sex, does anybody.know if there are any particular positions to avoid in pregnancy. DH always asks after as he worries about putting too much pressure on my tummy but I always forget to research it

17caterpillar I'm 13 weeks today too!! 😃 ....and going thru the same thing with hubby 😁

I've noticed it's quiet here recently too. I thought it might have been because some people have started to feel a but better (including me) and therefore we have less to talk about!
I'm afraid I've no info about the sex positions...
I'm in maternity jeans today but if I'm honest despite a little bump they are too big and I should probably still be in my normal ones. But wearing these makes me excited!!

Great to hear about more positive scans though sorry about the injections Kezod! It is difficult with your friend too, though I'm sure she'll be really happy for you. I ended up texting a friend of mine who had a mmc recently, we have lots of mutual friends so I texted her before I told other people- I thought that if she found it difficult it would be easier for her not being face to face (or finding out through word of mouth before I see her next). She's so lovely that I'm sure she'll be nothing but positive when I see her, but I didn't want to put her in a tough position having to put a brave face on with me right there if she found the news hard.

I slept ok last night too though I did see in 4am as usual. But straight back to sleep till 9am, which I consider a definite win!

Well I just fainted at work! My poor boss was all flustered and worried! They sent me home and told me to call NHS 24 and see what they recommend. I think it's just because I've been so sick there's nothing left though. What a rubbish day!

I'm in a similar situation kezod quite nervous about telling her, I really don't want to upset her but I feel like if I leave it too long she'll not have time to prepare herself when everyone else starts talking about it!

Oh magic I hope your taking care of yourself? You're really not having an easy time of it. Will you be able to have some time of to try and recover a bit more thoroughly?

Somebody asked me the other day if I was enjoying being pregnant. I think they were quite shocked by my quite negative answer. Don't get me wrong I'm delighted to be having a baby but this pregnancy sucks! I have sworn to DH never again!

thanks ladies, what positive messages, I think I'm going to text her so she can get her head around it first, we only recently bonded because we both lost our babies and I suppose there is a chance she could burst in to tears (hadn't actually thought of that!) so I think that's the best solution! Off out to brave the wind and rain, its awful here!
Magic hope your ok, I nearly fainted yesterday a while after my injection, I think we feel we can do more than our bodies want to let us sometimes, by hubby banned me from going out for the rest of the day lol, I got the duvet and films- it was great!

Oh no magic! I hope you start feeling a bit better and manage to get lots of rest.

biking I always feel like I'm being really negative too! I just feel so awful, and it just seems so endless. We were saying that twins would have been the way forward- get it all done in one go! Though we did breathe a sigh of relief that there was only one in there on the scan- I can't imagine even looking after 1 baby, let alone 2

My SIL is struggling to conceive so i asked MIL to let her know about baby no. 2. They originally wanted us round for Christmas this year but are now making other plans. I don't think she can cope with the toddler and the bump. I can't blame her

I agree, happy happy happy to be having a baby, but not thrilled about the journey to get there!

And scan day tomorrow (finally)! Excited and nervous!

Arghhhh more bleeding and cramps - this is so stressful, I've called the midwife and she's booked me in for a scan tomorrow - I can't help feeling doomed and to top it off tomorrow is the anniversary of mr obsessed's dad in a horrific sailing accident 13 years ago. They never found him.
Sorry for the moan

Sorry of his dad's death.
I am so scared.

Oh obsessed I'm so sorry to hear this, I hope everything turns out ok for you, my thoughts are with you and your DH

My SIL is going through IVF so that they can do genetic screening as BIL has a genetic condition. She is hellish to be around at the best of times as our DCs are the same age and she never respects the boundaries on giving opinions on parenting decisions (!!) so I am dreading Christmas with her as she is very obviously frosty with me at the moment being pregnant.

Good luck for tomorrow Torfhinn!

I'm 11w today and this is the worst day yet! I've come to Spain to visit my parents and I can't even get out of bed. They've been looking after DS all day.... I wonder if the journey has taken its toll. I wouldn't normally bat an eye lid at travelling to Spain but I feel like I've flown half way around the world - so tired!

obsessed sorry to hear that, hope everything is fine tomorrow xx

I'm 12 weeks today and am absolutely shattered. I was sick again yesterday - it seems to only happen after "big days" so think I did too much on Friday. The food show was good though, typically this year there were more stands if British charcuterie which I always go for but not this year.

Today is my wedding anniversary and I think I must have the best husband ever! He sorted out the shopping and made me soup for lunch - it was an effort for me to even be dressed by lunchtime! I did manage to go out for dinner but am back in bed now (alone!!).

Thanks Mrsmugoo and cautiousoptimist I feel quite calm now, not sure what to think really, it's such an emotional roller coaster - I'll be 11+4 tomorrow, so close to the 'assumed security' of the sacred 12 weeks.
Someone I can't remember who was saying that they felt bad for saying that they were not enjoying the first trimester - I totally get that, it's hideous.
Love to you all - I'm going to try to get some sleep now, thank you for your support and thoughts xxx

Sorry it was Mrs Lewis

17 re your question re sex & positions to avoid - there is no guidance if you dont have complications. However from last time I can tell you that you reach a point where some positions.... well, they just dont work!!!!!!! causing much mirth & hilarity and generally ruining the moment

do what works for you and your DP.

I think there is general guidance which suggests after a certain point in pg that we avoid lying on our backs for too long. I cant remember why but seemed important... not sure if it was to avoid cutting off the blood supply to the placenta or somewhere else.