It's the dream combo of carbs and couples massagers, welcoming pukey newbies and teffrifying norks, it's GTTs a go go on JS Grads 41!

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Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 41st grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The 40th grads thread is HERE

The thread we have graduated from is HERE in its 55th outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread HERE
for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

HERE is the stats list, please update your own spot with any updates.

sky I think it's all just such a big change and so full of uncertainty, its easy to get stressed ...I can't wait to be a 'kept' woman for a bit

gouda how can u have put on 2 st and only just need mat jeans?!? :) the only old trousers I can still fit in are pj's and gym trousers! !

Popping on from lurking to wave hello at all the new grads - congratulations!

Also to say try not to worry about weight gain. Obviously don't go nuts on cake, you need to eat healthily as much as possible. But you are growing a wee human and weight will be placenta, baby, fluid etc. 4 months after DS birth I've lost 3.25 stone of the 3.5 stone I put on and it has gradually come off naturally with bf, exercise and eating tonnes of cake at baby groups.

Try not to worry - your bodies are amazing!

Can't believe so many of you are in final stretch I'm so excited to see your wee bubs!

Hi La, lovely to see you and we'll done on the weight loss! It feels funny to be talking about weight loss, not weight gain!

Mermaid that is a lovely idea about the Xmas gifts.

Oh dear Sky, have some my love. I am a mega feminist and will go back to being the main bread winner after we are done having babies, however I am very much enjoying maternity leave so far, so embrace the concept if you can, I'm sure DP was trying to reassure you - and well done for getting rid of the stressful client; life is too short!

I slept until 7am, wohoo! My hips are too painful to sleep on my side so I just got all of the pillows and slept upright - ha!! I really hope I don't have a CS as I am so looking forward to being able to sleep on my stomach again!

I'll second third fourth whatever everyone else says about weight gain.
It feels like we're pregnant FOREVER, but we're not - it's really ok to let go of your usual habits for a few months, because that's how long it is, in the grand scheme of things.

I had just got into running when I fell pregnant with DS, and in my head I was like oh well, that was nice while it lasted
But it didn't turn out that way and now I run more than ever - well, not the last few weeks anyway!

And stretch marks are a total pain! I don't have any yet, but with DS I was certain I'd got away with it. Until he was born, and suddenly I could see the underside of my belly and there they were! I reckon they appeared around 36+ weeks for me.

Ah sky I, glad you've managed to out a positive spin on things - being a kept woman ain't so bad . But I've always been a homebody with no discernible ambition so it suits me perfectly.

Huzzah for sleeping til 7am pud!

Pukey viroids have my sympathies. Just eat whatever you can manage and sod everything else. I can't remember who asked up thread but tiredness definitely makes it worse, so just take it as easy as you can.

DH felt baby move for first time last night. We then had a chat about how it seems strong to him but he can only feel a few of them compared to me, and they'll just get stronger as baby gets bigger. "Oh! I guess women aren't exaggerating then!" was his thought. No sweetheart, we aren't.

Morning!!

New house is taking a while to get used to but we will get there. We've now got so much baby stuff it's quite exciting haha! Bought a maternity Xmas jumper yesterday

I've not gained any stretch marks on my belly but my norks are ruined. Covered in dark red lines. Oh well!

First appointment with new midwife today. Hopefully she's more efficient than my last one!

waves hey la :)

31 weeks today. Where is the time going!?!

Thursday - same here! I was all smug thinking I had no stretch marks but they were hiding underneath.

Honey that's lovely! Glad your dh got to feel baby :)

Thanks for the reassurance, however, weight gain cannot be far off. After 15 weeks of feeling dreadful, yesterday was a revelation. I ate: a slice of ginger cake, a cheese and ham croissant, a hot chocolate, some watermelon, a scone with cream and jam and a massive room service croque Monsieur. I am vile.

Today is a new day!!

Sky I'd have also thrown a tantrum. DH dared try to suggest I take another day off to rest - he, who works 70 hour weeks and last had a sick day in 2007! I took this as an indication he was saying my job was unimportant and bellowed that just because I'm pregnant DOESNT MEAN IM JUST GOING TO STOPPPPP WORRRRRKINNNNG WHENEVER I GET A SNIFFLE. I ruined the effect by getting into a coughing fit halfway through. Ah well.

I second what Pud said. Try to reconcile with mat leave and letting DH want to look after you for a while. And good job ditching the knobby client.

Lol Feathered Our poor DPS, thinking they are saying something nice only to be hit by a torrent of hormentalness! Glad you are feeling better though, and your diet yesterday sounds fine to me!

Sky glad you've got a positive spin on things

Well he's definitely not coming back. Spoke to him last night. Wasn't even willing to try counselling or talking to third party or anything. Just all decisions made by him without my input at all. Need to remember that really. Trouble is, because I didn't get to decide I still have a whole load of feelings and am still getting flashes of feeling sad for him that he'll be alone without his kids on Christmas etc. It's a very weird situation in that regard and wish I could just switch them off. No sleep last night, chesty cough and razor blade throat today, can I just hibernate for a bit?! I know amidst everything me and the kids will be fine, just wish I could fast forward on this horrible raw and very sad bit.

Now...does anyone know how to change name on Facebook? Can't seem to do it on phone?

Oh Molly I'm so sorry. It really sucks that you don't get to make any of the decisions at the moment. Do you have the Facebook app on your phone? On mine you go to settings> account settings> general> name.
Grrr to stretch marks... I still have them on my hips from my teenage transformation from beanpole to curves. Hate to think what horrendous squiggles pregnancy will bring.

Oh of course, settings thanks fruit!

Stretch marks are a bastard but I got some on boobs during puberty so sort of knew I'd end up with them despite best efforts. They do fade but my tummy has ended up looking a bit crinkly

Ah Molly that sucks. But you are so right that this is not your decision, so the consequences regarding how HE feels are fuck all to do with you. Focus on DS and yourself, everything else will fall in to place overall.

, and Molly, you are handling such a tricky situation so so well. I know what you mean about getting past the raw bit. It will get better though and it's brilliant that you can see that in your future. It is also totally normal to empathise with DH (even if you don't want to!) You have cared about him for a long time and you don't 'have' to hate him even though he is a turd Big love to you.

Molly that's really shit and I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Do try to remember that this is his doing and not your decision. Like Honey said, he's got to live with the consequences of his decision and that means being on his own at christmas, without you and his two babies. Think you're sounding immense though - you can see a future for yourself and the kids and that will see you through the raw part as best as possible.

Thank you. Just want to stop crying!

Molly sending hugs x

Molly it sounds like you're handling a rubbish situation with dignity. Your dcs are lucky to have a strong mum like you. This feeling will pass and you will be ok.

to all the I'll viroids. Hoe you're feeling better soon.

I was woken at 3am by the horrid cramps and backache again. Only lasted 5 mins again and no blood or anything but they can do one, I'm very much over them now!

molly not much else I can add but I hope this difficult part passes soon for you.

Just met my new mw, she's lovely. A lot nicer than my old one, and she told the student with her I had strong stomach muscles so top of uterus is harder to find. Win

And despite all the cake I've eaten I'm still low risk!

Molly - I missed the beginning of whatever you're going through, but I can take a guess. I'm sorry you're having to go through this - it's okay to need time to work out wtf is happening. If you can, try to make sure you let him lie in the bed he has made. It can be tempting to try and protect people from the consequences of their actions, but it will only hurt you even more

5hell - I've just been wearing maternity dresses and leggings up until now is all! I'm quite excited about them actually....(loser...)

Sky and Feathered - it's amazing what can set off a hulk rage reaction during pregnancy! Although I personally think at least 50% of the time. Probably...

On that note, what the hell do I do about this?

DH actually suggested - in TOTAL seriousness - that we go on a skiing trip with his friends in February. With a (roughly) 6 week old baby. Sharing a house with 10 other people who all love having big parties, and two toddler children. The idea seems to have been that since I am not a big skiing fan anyway, I can look after the baby whilst he goes off with everyone else to ski.

The very fact this would have even entered his brain as a reasonable thing to suggest pretty much floored me. Pure shittyness of leaving me alone with the baby all day aside, there are SO many problems with this idea that I can't even believe it entered his head. He dropped it after a while but I don't think he "got it".

molly I'm sorry try not to feel too bad for him re Christmas etc. It's his own stupid choice xx

gouda is he crazy?! In what way does that sound like it would be fun for you?

Sooooo sick and tired. Soooooo bored of feeling sick and tired.

Kate if your cramps and back ache are bad enough to wake you up I would be tempted to give your mw a call, that doesn't sound like very much fun.

Ha ha ha ha Gouda your DH is an idiot! Foolish man. My DDad wants to organise a family skiing trip for his 60th in Jan next year. We will then have a just one year old! But DH and I could share a lift pass and do mornings/afternoons so it should be fine. I think that even by European standards 1 year old is a bit young for skiing!

Properly bored of painting chairs now. They are going to need 3 coats each (7 chairs plus a table). Why did I think this was a good idea?!

Yey for low risk and stomach muscles Jelly! I have mw this arvo too.

Kate I cried at about 10 weeks because I was so tired and bored of feeling tired and sick. Just lay on the sofa and let my face crumple. It will get better. Try to rest as much as possible (I know that doesn't help the boredom) and get a good book on the go. I'm 15+5 today and although still easily knackered and a bit drained feeling, it's a million times better than even a couple of weeks ago.

I have an awful JS confession to make. Speaking of feeling a bit better, I need to get back into some bedroom action. We haven't done the nasty since......I conceived. No joke. We've done other stuff but generally I've felt so sick and tired the idea has been laughable. The worst upshot is that now DH is worried that his willy will somehow hurt the baby (arggh) and is anxious our bonking will cause something terrible to happen.

Advice viroids.

I don't think I've been without sex for this long since losing my v plates

Hello everyone waves manically Just been doing a mega catch-up as I've been off the thread for so long! Hello to all the newbies, looks like there's been a lovely clutch of bfps recently! Looking forward to a pre-Xmas baby boom too. That stats sheet is looking pretty scary to me.

Molly I'm so sorry you're having such a shit time. I think you're being amazingly strong, and I'm glad that you're able to see that you will be fine in the end. It's horrible to feel raw and be crying all the time but it will take time and you've every right to ask people to do whatever they can to make it feel a bit less bad for now. Including baking you cakes, taking you out for walks and cuddling you whilst you watch shit tv. Sounds like you've got good family and friends around you so I hope you are getting whatever version of these things helps. Big virtual hugs.

I have rib flare. It really fucking hurts. I've been really lucky so far on the physical side, which is bloody lucky really considering all the international housemoves. I am pleased to report I have bought the last set of new pillows, loo brush and washing up bowl I will be buying this pregnancy. I now have these things in 3 different countries. When my DH arrives in this country next week with the crib, I will be ready to have a baby. Well, as ready as I could ever be for something that involves pushing a large thing out of my poor neglected fanny.