June 2016 Babies - Thread 2 - The first trimester, first scans and seeing little heartbeats

[JellyBaby26]

For all babies due June 2016

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Sorry I've not been around the past couple of days. I've just been really worried, all my pregnancy symptoms have completely gone for about a week now even down to a lack of discharge. I did a poas Thursday and was still showing a strong positive but the last couple of day I've been getting stomach pains. No bleeding though. I've booked myself a private ultrasound for tomorrow afternoon, and I'm just hoping it's not a missed mc. Will be 9 weeks tomorrow so just hoping it's good news.

Thank you sliceoflemon I'll be on the look out for one these sore boobs are driving me crazy, DP is not impressed he can't touch them either it will come in handy for after the birth too (Boulder boobies)

After the birth feels way too soon to be saying that!

Fingers crossed for you snowflake I had period like pains throughout my previous pregnancies, it seemed to be when I would have been due on every month xx

Absolutely shattered, I'm still in my dressing gown. I need to get motivated but I just can't even bring myself to get dressed never mind get the chores done I think Legoland tired me out yesterday xx

Fingers crossed Snowflake

Good luck with your scan snowflake hope it all goes well!

I can second that feeling beano...not been able to do anything today, still in my pjs, made some new slippers but can't muster anything else!

Although my nausea has been better again, cutting out coffee seems to be helping, which sucks as it was my favourite thing in the world! Haha clearly our little beany seedy thing doesn't agree!

I was feeling a bit dizzy walking round Aldi earlier and nauseous - it went after I had my lunch. Been trying to keep busy and keep my mind occupied as if I sit down the tiredness kicks in!

Fingers crossed snowflake I thought the constant symptom spotting would ease when I actually got pregnant but it's so much worse !

This exhaustion is crazy! Just being so tired is making me feel awful! I have mild nausea at times but am so shattered. I'm with my in-laws today (who know I'm pregnant) and I think they think I'm being a bit precious and OTT when I say how tired I am. But it is really a horrid feeling!

Good luck snowflake for tomorrow, be thinking of you x

I feel incredibly anxious and tearful. I'm only 4+2, and I feel like all I have ahead of me is a dark tunnel of worry.

What if I miscarry? What if I get into trouble for being so overweight? What if there's something wrong with the baby? What if my previous cervical surgery means my cervix is incompetent? What if I get GD? What if something goes wrong during the birth? What if I'm not cut out to be a mum?

I just feel really overwhelmed and scared.

Good luck snowflake, I'm sure everything will be fine, it sounds like lots of people's symptoms come and go and it can be normal to have pains as well.

The (rubbish) doctor referred me to the midwife 2 weeks ago but I still haven't heard anything so will try and chase them next week. I think unless it's their specific area of interest doctors don't seem to be that fussed about pregnancy!

I told my sister today as I couldn't spend the day with her and not say anything, she cried and get face was amazing! Still trying not to get to excited yet though but it's hard!

Definitely agree with the sports bra!

Good luck snowflake. I am exactly as far alog as you and my symptoms seem to have eased off a bit too. Hopefully its just our bodies getting used to all that Hcg swirling around.

Biking - mine have gone up a cup size too. Its horrendous. Already had big ones. At this rate, I'll look like a cow by the time this baby pops out.

Youandme sorry to hear you are so worried, it is really overwhelming and I have definitely felt like that too, it seems like everything changes really quickly and suddenly you feel like you're in a situation you know nothing about and you terrified you will do something wrong. I think everyone feels like that though with their first, but try to take reassurance that people have been doing things for a long time with much less knowledge than we have now :-) maybe it would be worth going to the gp now though about the health related things to try and put your mind at ease? If you ask for a female doctor they're probably more likely to be nice and understanding xxx

(Also ignore my previous comment about doctors not caring- I only had the experience of one and I'm sure if you explain it's causing you anxiety they will be very willing to listen) xxx

Youandme - try not to worry. If anything happens you just deal with it! Am sure it will all be fine.

It wasn't for me in my last pg but you just cope.

The thoughts you are feeling are all very normal and it will get easier the more pregnant you are I imagine.

I have been In hospital with dd over the weekend so the Facebook group has taken a back seat. Fear not I will get on with it soon.

Sorry you are feeling like this youandme I know I have worries too, I think every pregnant woman does. Medical staff have seen pregnant women of all shapes and sizes with lots of different illnesses or complications but ultimately they are there to help you have a healthy successful pregnancy. I guess all you can do is be honest about your concerns & worries with them, then you're all on the same team, with the same aims...a healthy baby and mum xx

Hope your dd is ok jellybaby?

Good luck for tomorrow snowflake

youandme its normal to worry about things, hormones exaggerates feelings, I've done nothing but cry all this week over something I would normally just deal with. It's hard for my oh cos I'm normally really strong but this week I've been a blubbering mess !

I went to bed for a few hours and then had a lovely bath, I feel a little brighter now, we're being a bit naughty food wise and having a Chinese takeaway tonight - I've only had a slice of toast today so oh is trying to tempt me with all my favourite foods haha

youandme I'm sorry to hear your so worried, it's a very scary and exciting and overwhelming time, but you will get through it, I think the other ladies are right, maybe go and speak with your gp, might just help to say it all out loud. Hope you start to feel better soon.

jelly I hope your dd is ok!

Also I'm feeling the sports bra.. I'm only 4+5 and mine are already a cup size bigger and so sore.. Not a surprise to me as this happens with af too but not this big!

youandme I'm fat too, and if it helps, I had a very positive conversation with the mw at my booking in appointment where she was matter of fact but didn't make me feel at all guilty/bad for daring to be fat and pregnant. When I was in hospital this week, everyone was really lovely to me and no-one was awful about my weight. So you may find that people don't treat you as badly as you fear.

The other thing I think you could legitimately say if someone is laying on the guilt is that yes, you are fat and pregnant, but there is pretty much fuck all you can do about it at this stage, so you all have to find ways of having a healthy pregnancy nonetheless.

I feel pretty overwhelmed at times about how much is going to change. DH and I were talking earlier about booking a last holiday for just the two of us, and I got really tearful - I think having your first baby is such a huge unknown and I think everyone gets pretty freaked out about it at times. It is the end of something, your previous way of life and how you are now, as well as the exciting beginning of a new life!

Perhaps try to speak to your GP about how you are feeling - they may well make you feel a bit better about it all.

Hi, can I join please? I've updated the stats sheet.

I had a BFP this morning. Am in total shock. We didnt think we could have any more (DS is 3 years and 5 months and I've been ill with an auto immune condition flare up for the last year) and we had been trying on and off for 2 years but right now is about the worst possible timing I could ever imagine.

I've been living in South Africa for the last 18 months but DH could not find work so has returned to London. When we conceived DS I was in London and DH was working over here!!!!! Anyway, after a trip back to London in July I was offered a role in London with a competitor of my current employer. I finally accepted it on Friday, to start mid January....... talk about bad timing. & of course DH is in Europe right now so have no one to rant at.....

I really cannot process this right now. Real mixed feelings. On the one super stoked that we have managed to conceive again but on the other wondering what the hell I tell my new employer when I swan into their offices in mid January approaching my 20 week scan - there will be no hiding it!!!! & of course also cognisent of the stats that say 1 in 4 pg ends in mc or stillbirth. Am terrified!! A SiL has had 2 mc this year. Another SiL had a mc a while back and has lost 2 children due to a genetic issue (another reason why we had delayed trying for another beyond DS 2nd birthday).

Of course on top of all this I am terrified about my age (about to turn 39) and last time I had PE right at the end,which was not nice!!!!!

The other weird thing is I have absolutely no symptoms.... last time I knew straight away, before I was late and without doing a test. sore boobs and needed the loo more often. This time...... nothing. What does it mean?!

to add to my woes I am worried about one of the drugs I am on. it is a bit different over here in SA but in the UK barely anyone knows about it. It is used to treat AI conditions not responding to other treatment (in mine I have high antibodies which are linked to tiredness & brain fog but also to an increased risk in mc, stillbirth during pg and ADHD/Autism in the child from that pg). I am feeling great so clearly those antibodies have come down. The problem is that I dont know anyone in the medical profession who would prescribe it during pg. I have seen there is one fertility specialist who uses it in Ireland but cannot find anyone else..... not sure what to do about that so will have to ask my GP. (drug is: Low Dose Naltroxene, in much higher doses it is used to treat alcoholics and heroin addicts)

Phew. nice to get this off my chest ladies. best of luck to those still on here and best wishes to all those falling off the list now.

nehagarg I remember crying into a glass of something whilst breastfeeding DD that my boobs were enormous and I was like a cow. And that I could fit her head in one my bra cups! I console myself now by knowing they get smaller again when the baby weight comes off.

snowflake good luck for tomorrow, I'm sure everything will be fine, and hopefully after the scan you can start to enjoy being a pregnant a bit and look forward to the things to come.

jelly hope your dd is ok.

you and me if we're honest there are lots of things that are worrying in pregnancy, particular the first time when when it's more difficult to know if things are normal or not, or how things will be. But you will be fine. try to be honest with your midwife/doctor about how you feel and they will be able to give you realistic answers not just the crazy stuff off google And as to be being ready for a baby, no one is. Not really. It's only becoming a parent that you realise what is needed and how you feel comfortable raising your child. But it's trial and error. Nobody knows what it's going to be like unless they've been through it. So don't worry. You'll find your feet.

Thanks everyone. I feel a bit better now I've had a cry and a rant!

I know it will be fine (and that I will cope if it isn't). I'm a very anxious person generally, so I'm finding all the uncertainty associated with TTC and now pregnancy difficult to deal with.

Glad you are feeling better, YouAndMe

It is an very anxious time, but it's not worth worrying about things that haven't happened yet, or that you can't change. And whatever happens, whether it be happy or sad, you'll work it out as you go.

I've been feeling awful today, made a million times worse by DS making me get on a roundabout. For anyone feeling ropey, it's definitely something to be avoided!