May 2016 babies - thread 2!

[GrouchyKiwi]

First trimester worries and joys. Test taking, morning sickness, midwife appointments and scans. It's all happening.

Can't believe we filled up a thread already. (I'll get this deleted if someone's already created a second thread, but I didn't see one!

Toffee that's lovely news :) very exciting indeed!

Peas I know what you mean. I have got DH to feel them (not in a pervy way) and he said "they are massive and like rocks". Dear love him being so deprived with my usual small b cup....he thinks a c cup is now massive! haha! I'm quote liking having the extra I must admit :)

Quite liking not quote! Doh!

Hi ladies. Would you mind if I join in this thread??
I'm 10 weeks today. Due May 3rd with my first baby. Feeling very sick constantly.. Been off work a week as can't really function. Feeling quite miserable!

I was wondering... When did people have their first midwife appointment? Im still waiting and wondering if I should be chasing it up. TIA.

Hi Billy and welcome. I had one at 6 weeks then another at 8, which was my official booking in. Up here (Scotland) the standard is to do bloods at 8 weeks and do the referral to the ultrasound clinic. Then ultrasound at 12-13 weeks, midwife for more bloods at 16 weeks, ultrasound at 20 weeks, then midwife roughly eery 4 weeks after that (I am a bit hazy on the exact dates of the other midwife appointments as I haven't really thought past 20 weeks yet).

Welcome Billy! Sorry you're feeling so sick at the moment but hopefully that'll start tailing off soon.

Have you been referred to the midwife yet? Either by yourself or GP? It's worth checking. I'd give them a call if you have a number and try and get the ball rolling.

I haven't had my booking in appointment come through yet but I have had my 12 week scan date so I know I'm 'in-the-system'. I think I'll meet midwife around 10 weeks if I remember rightly. Every where does it slightly differently.

Evening all! Toffee and mama I'm right there with you, mine are huge and they were big to start with (32DD) partner thinks it's hilarious and I'm just worried im going to end up spending a fortune on bras! My Facebook is awash with people announcing pregnancies and it's making me so excited to tell my friends even though we won't be announcing it via social media. I am worried though, I have a friend who lost a baby last year and it's all still very raw for her- any tips on how to break the news to her? I'm so worried about upsetting her

Grapefruit I think the best way to tell your friend is to tell her first and tell her face to face. Explain that you have been concerned about her and therefore wanted her to know so she isn't hearing from others. There is no right way I guess and she will feel pain but the fact you are being sensitive about it and considering this now shows that you are a good friend and have her best interests at heart and she will see that.

jeffro and everyone else, thanks for the reassurance. I wish I had real boobs at the moment, because there'd at least be that as a symptom.

Exciting news indeed Toffee!

Billy I'm in Yorkshire and my booking in appointment was last week, at 6 weeks. Nothing now until the 12 week scan, then I see the midwife again at 16 weeks.

And wow Grapefruit your boobs really are massive...to think DH thinks mine are at 34c haha!

Welcome Billy, gosh you haven't long to go at all for your scan and hopefully only another week or 2 of sickness for you poor thing!! Wish I was 10weeks!!! But then when I'm 10 ill wish I was 12 etc etc just wishing my life away until I see this little baby!!!!

Thank you mama that's my plan- hopefully tell her at some point next week (I'll be almost 10 weeks) so she will have a little time to process it before I tell everyone after the 12 week scan. How is everyone spending their Tuesday evening? Hope you're all well

Thanks so much ladies. That's really helpful and made me think maybe my referral has gone AWOL.
It's all been a bit confusing here. I live in East Yorkshire. Midwife appts. Don't come from the GP but from the midwives in our area. But when I rang them they needed to know which hospital I want to have baby at.. I had no idea! The lady spoke to me like I was a bit of an idiot for not knowing. Anyway after speaking to DH we decided on an out of area hospital so had to ring midwives for them to fax a referral through. That was 3 weeks ago! I rang last Monday and they said they couldn't read the fax properly so I had to then ring the midwives to send it on again. It all seems very bizarre and a bit complicated really.

How did everyone choose their hospital?! I've gone for a midwife-led unit but slightly concerned I won't have access to an epidural. I'm finding it all very daunting!

Anyway.. Thanks again for everyone's input. MN is amazing for getting answers and support!

Grapefruit I'm spending my evening deciding whether I'm nauseas or hungry. Only had a cheese and tomato sandwich for dinner as wasn't feeling anything else....but now I think I'm hungry. just popped 2 sausage rolls in the oven...will either be a very good idea or very bad idea....lifes problems eh?! haha! What are you up to yourself?

Billy I have a hospital 20mins from home so that's def where I'm going. It has a good reputation and quite a new maternity unit and is handy for all appointments. Suppose you just have to go with reputation of hospital and distance as well as whether you want mid wife led unit or other. Sounds like your referral process has been a nightmare though!

Thanks toffee I had it last preg so not worrying tom much - congrats on your friends engagement!
grapefruit - my FB seems to have loads of announcements too I just want to tell everyone! Regards to your friend maybe meet up or message before hand? She will appreciate that. Still must be tough :(
Welcome billy I've hyperemisis and feel rotten so not sure when it eases! Pregnancy sucks sometimes especially in the early days! I'm 8+2 and had booking appt yesterday so maybe worth chasing up?
mama I fancy saus rolls now and none here - gutted haha!

Welcome Fizzy you have the same due date as me!

I still haven't had any proper sickness. I've felt a bit queasy on and off for a few days since I found out, but nothing apart from that. I know that if I do end up with sickness then I'll probably be miserable with it, but for now I just want some proper confirmation that I'm actually pregnant and not imagining things.

Though saying that I did my 7th (!!) pregnancy test this evening- reassuringly the line came up instantly, very dark pink- darker than the control line. When I put all the tests in a line they get progressively darker, that's got to be a good sign!

I had to tell a colleague at work today as there's an aspect of my job that i can't do whist pregnant. I was nervous, but she was so lovely about it. Her face when I said I was pregnant was a picture, I think she thought I was going to say I had found another job or something! very odd that now someone else other than me and my DH know about it

Ah, I hope my boobs take some inspiration from you lot all growing- for once in my life I'd like to not be totally flat chested!

Billy I just spotted that you said you had to say which hospital you were going to give birth in- that seems crazy! When I rang the midwife to arrange my booking in appt I had barely processed that I was pregnant, never mind thought about that kind of thing! We have a midwife led unit just down the road though which has a good reputation, so I'll hopefully go there I think. though I would quite like a home birth, but not sure if they'd let me for my first.

It seemed crazy to be too Mollie! but when I explained that I didn't know how to make that decision she was very 'off' with me and told me to research. I thought that was what would happen at a midwife appt. they would explain the different types of birthing options etc. For me to be able to make an informed choice. Obviously not!

I've already had 3 scans at the EPU as I had severe pain when I first found out I was pregnant. So at least I've had reassurance from them that everything is fine.. Otherwise I'd be going a bit crazy now!

Billy that's good you have had reassurance scans and all is well :)

Icant, the sausage rolls have been a hit (so far) you should treat yourself tomorrow haha!

Billie when I first rang the midwives to sort my booking in appt the midwife I spoke to was really abrupt. She didn't tell me anything about the appointment, and seemed really taken aback and impatient when I was asking her about what would happen, whether I needed to do anything about the scan or if that would be arranged for me etc. Luckily I've done research about e.g. taking folic acid, food/other things to avoid, and doing pelvic floor exercises etc, but I couldn't help thinking that they maybe should be a bit more proactive at telling people that, not rely on people to google and go on mumsnet! It makes me worried that people might not get info about the first trimester till they're at their booking in appt which is nearly at the end of it.

I did ring the midwives again a few days later and spoke to a really lovely midwife, so I'm hoping I get her rather than abrupt lady for my appointment!

Mmmmm sausage rolls.

We have to decide what hospital straight off too as I think it depends which midwife team leads your antenatal care. Luckily where I live there isn't really too much choice and there is an MLU on site.

Got a bit emotional earlier as DS had his first proper tantrum and it was heartbreaking to see his little face so angry and confused. I try to parent as gently as possible and I think I dealt with it in the kindest, most loving way without backing down but I felt so sorry for him and I feel guilty as hell now. Hopefully just the hormones.

billy I was given the option of 3 hospitals when I went to the GP. One of them was a complete no, and it was a toss up between the other 2. In the end I went for the one that was a bit more further out but a lot of my friends and my Step Sister went there and all had good experiences. Do you have people in your area with babies that you could get a bit of an idea from?
I went to my mums for dinner today, it was just me, my mum and my sister. I went to the toilet at one point, came back and carried on chatting. I looked in the mirror and just said without thinking 'do you think my boobs look bigger?' (I'm already a 32G) as soon as I said it I knew I shouldn't have. My Mum asked me if I was pg and I said no to which she said 'me and Hannah think your pg' (they had been having a discussion while I was in the toilet). I denied it and my sister had a go at my mum for asking cos if I wanted to tell them I would. My sister then said 'I'm just saying cos we've got a lot of parties this month and you might need someone to help cover up the not drinking!' Which means she's now totally gonna be looking out for what I'm drinking at the parties we have this month. I really wanted to tell them that I was (even though they blatantly know and do not believe me at all) but I hadn't discussed it with DH and if we tell them it means we have to tell my MIL, BILs and SIL and I really don't want to do that. Also I'm a bit annoyed at my Mum for asking me, but I can't really moan at her about it especially as I'm denying it at the mo.

Aw I'm sure you did fine ODog, there will be plenty more time to practice ;-) my DS had a tantrum today because the bath water went away...aah two year old logic!
That's crazy you have to pick where you want to give birth already, that does seem a lot to decide so early on, especially for a first timer!
Ds had a late nap today so he has only just gone to sleep, argh just away to eat my dinner now and then go to bed!

I rang the doctor initially, said I didn't know what to do and they said to ring the midwife myself. So I rang her, one of the first questions she asked was which hospital I wanted to give birth at. She gave me two choices. One was in North Yorkshire, one was in West Yorkshire. No baby of mine is being born in West Yorkshire (rugby league fan) so it was an easy choice. After researching, it's the highest-rated hospital in the area anyway.

So after my posts this morning I got on the train and felt sick for the whole commute!! Managed not to vomit until I got off the train and could find a toilet, thank goodness. But I guess I spoke too soon about the symptoms disappearing completely.

Overall, there's no doubt my symptoms aren't as strong as they were a week or so ago, but I've found it really reassuring to hear all your stories and know that it can be normal. I read online that the placenta can start to take over as early as 9 weeks so maybe that has an impact too. I need to speak to the midwife anyway about hula hooping (!) so I think I'll still mention it to be on the safe side, but I'm feeling a lot less panicky.

Billy I had to say which hospital I wanted to give birth at at my first appointment too! Isn't it crazy? I had no idea so I just went for the closest, but when I looked them up I was a bit concerned - all three of the ones I was offered are considered "inadequate" according to the CQC! Have stuck with it for now but we need to decide what we're going to do.

Exciting news toffee!

grapefruit I think it depends on what kind of person your friend is - some people prefer face to face but I think I'd prefer to hear by text/email first so I had a bit of time to digest the news, if that makes sense? After my miscarriage there were a couple of pregnancy announcements and I found it harder when I had to put on a brave face and smile immediately. As I say though it does depend on your friend, she might be different.

mollie it all feels a bit more real when other people know doesn't it?? I told my boss a couple of weeks ago and I don't regret it, she's been very understanding and it's been helpful on days where I've felt really ill!!

Sorry I haven't been able to name check everyone, this post is already incredibly long so think I'd better leave it there!!

Hm. When I self referred the midwife asked me which hospital I wanted to use. Maybe it's because this is my third pregnancy so I'd have a good idea already.

Glad you're feeling more confident, 29.

Weird they didn't ask me then Grouchy, mind you I'm only 5 mins from the hospital so maybe they just assumed?!