The relaxed grads.

[lostindubai]

Joining from the relaxed TTC-ers. Hoping to see everyone here soon

My stats:
Age 36
DS 29 months old, still bf once a day at bedtime.
Currently 7 weeks pregnant.
History: had a mc at 9 weeks prior to DS - also had bleeding while pg with him but all was well.

Been feeling constantly ill for a week now! Last time I ate to feel better but it doesn't make any difference this time. Only actually been sick twice though. Had to fess up to the parents/PILs already as so off colour. Started taking spatone sachets today to try and increase my energy levels. Looking forward to speaking with a midwife to see what else I can do, if anything.

Huge congratulations Reebok that's wonderful news so glad you are starting to feel better already!

I popped on quickly to check for updates and to share a photo of our precious little boy taken this morning on my tablet

Thanks apple and rocksie. Aww he is absolutely precious!

These afterbirth pains seem to be getting worse. Not managing to sleep even when dd2 does because of it. And also sore down there from the tear so struggle to sit/lay down. Ah childbirth eh!

Here is a pic of dd2. Hopefully it attached!

Gosh I am loving these photos Rocksie, your boy is gorgeous and seems to be waving at us! He looks like a very chilled character. How are you getting on?

Reebok, what a smashing reward for all your suffering. She's a beauty, and looks so alert and certainly doesn't look like the hg adversely affected her! I hope the afterpains are reducing now and you're getting some sleep.

I imagine InFrance is in hospital still, since we haven't heard from her yet. Thinking of you darl, and hope to hear from you very soon x

Hello all,
Sorry for the epic radio silence, wonderful little daughter arrived just BEFORE induction, being born on morning of 29th, but since then everything has been very busy with family here (not unwelcome!), plus I even had to do more work in the first week unfortunately, so have been knackered. Have barely had a chance to get online, and I don;t have MN on my phone so can't update from the bed in the night

Well as I said, she kept us waiting long enough, but decided to get things going at 3:30am with waters breaking the night before I was due to be admitted. It turned out it was only forewaters but contractions got going, and then ramped up, until I asked to be checked and was 7cm. The midwife however wasn't expecting that the hindwaters would then go very dramatically, and within 40 minutes she was born! I kept telling her "I need to push" but until she saw the hair she thought I wasn't ready
So it was all pretty fast, definitely just as painful as first time, I still managed with TENS and vocalising but was definitely thinking about epidurals when they were threatening me with the drip before the "proper" waters broke! Also, she was bigger, nearly 9lbs 3oz, so there was no 'slipping' her out, really had to push even though only 3 contractions worth.

She's beautiful, and thus far a better sleeper than her big sister thank goodness. Have had lots of breastfeeding problems however, my not-so-good nipples combined with her poor latching meant I lost a layer of skin and had bleeding etc in the first week but its settling down a bit. She still won't open her mouth wide enough though, and that video I posted is not help with that either!! So feeds are painful but bearable. She is VERY boob fixated though, so DH is struggling a bit to bond with her unfortunately, which is stressing me out. DD1 is being just fantastic, she loves the "babby", and I'm trying my best to still be there for her as much as I can. Family all left now, so wish us luck for adjusting in the next week to life as a team of 4!

Reebok I'm so so glad you made it through and are now enjoying the fruits of all your travails, your DD is a gorgeous little pixie

Ahh good to hear your update InFrance, congratulations on your new little daughter!

So glad you avoided induction AND the dreaded epidural! She was quite a size, well done you

Your poor nipples I hope things have improved a lot now with the feeding. My dd is latching a lot better now she's grown a bit, hopefully yours will too. Is she letting you sleep much at night?

Hope your dh is managing to bond now. That must be so difficult. My dp struggles to settle our dd when she's hungry (obviously) but he battles on valiantly, especially if I'm dealing with ds' bedtime or something at the time. It makes me feel terrible actually. Would your dh try babywearing? I wonder if that might help. I had my consultation yesterday and hired a couple of different options (ring sling and stretchy wrap) in the hope that dp will get on board too. Just need to get to grips with it myself!! Lots of YouTube videos to keep watching, I don't want to get it wrong.

Hope everyone's getting on OK. By the way if anyone wants to keep in touch we can always carry on this thread? I'll certainly keep checking it anyway. Now I have a constantly feeding baby, I actually have more time to update

Congratulations InFrance on your DD arrival at last , she was a clever baby avoiding the induction after all! Hope you are managing now your relatives have gone home. I think your DH is at home so hopefully that is a help. It's a lot more hard work with two on your own or so am finding.

DS is doing well and putting on weight. Have got to get to grips with expressing and trying him on a bottle which he will need for shared parental leave and haven't yet introduced. Health visitor advised to wait until breast feeding firmly established.

Like lost am interested to hear how everyone's doing? and think it would be good to keep the thread going, as certainly have more opportunity to go on MN with all the round the clock feeding

Sorry for the silence. Keep getting locked out of mn. And dd2 and dd1 are keeping me busy. On my own as oh didn't get paternity leave so on top of trying to recover, been running around after a toddler and newborn.

Infrance, congrats! What lovely news. Also glad you escaped induction. Hope you're enjoying cuddles. Funnily enough the 29th was my due date but dd2 arrived 2 days later.

Anyone suffering from piles? Sorry tmi...it's making my stitches ache more. I'm in so much pain. Otc Meds don't seem to help and can't get a gp app.

Also re maternity towels, have any of you started using normal sanitary towels like always? Finding the maternity ones so puffy and uncomfortable. Can't remember when I started using normal ones last time.

Apple glad to hear ds is thriving.

Lost, I'd also like to keep this thread going. You're all a wonderful group of women so would be nice to stay in touch.

Hey everyone sorry I have been so quiet just been trying to adjust to being a new mum. I am struggling to find time in the day to do anything other than feed and change DD. I'm sure I will adjust soon. It doesn't help that she hates the crib my poor OH stays up all night to watch her while I get some sleep so I wake up at 7 and he sleeps during the day hopefully she will start going to sleep properly soon.

Congrats Infrance so happy to hear about your DD's arrival well done for escaping induction glad you are both doing well X I too have had breastfeeding problems the hospital never showed me what to do so for the first few days she latched totally wrong and I was left with sore cracked bleeding nipples I was in so much pain but HV showed me how to get her to latch properly and apart from some fussiness we are doing well now.

Reebok I think I have piles I'm not sure I have never really known what they are but going to the toilet is like torture it hurts so much that I actually cried the other day. It deffo makes my stitches hurt worse sometimes after going to the toilet it hurts to walk about for a while I told HV she wasn't concerned.

How is everyone else doing? I love hearing your updates we have all been on this journey together and it's so exciting that all our babies are here now
I deffo would love to keep this thread going.

Oh no! Sorry to hear you're suffering down below Reebok and Sally. My piles disappeared within a week (along with all the other swollen bits e.g. feet, hands, calves, erm 'lady bits' ) so I guess I was lucky in that respect. I do remember first time around though, not piles but problems with my stitches being so close to my back passage. It was so easy to 1 stretch the healing area, and 2 get an infection there, which happened a couple of times. Please make sure you get your stitches checked if you're in lots of pain. I've had some slight stinging (while weeing) recently, but it hasn't developed into anything more problematic. Again, I do feel lucky in this respect.

Reebok you're still within 28 days of birth aren't you, so could you call your midwife back in, rather than wait for a gp?

Sally that's strange your hv isn't concerned. I'd look for a second opinion if I were you.

Re maternity vs normal sanitary pads, I've just moved on to the latter and unlike you Reebok, I prefer the puffy ones! Especially at night. I'm only bleeding lightly now so don't need the big ones, but I'm tempted to buy some more (and I'm pretty sure they're cheaper too!)

Apple, when are you returning to work, have you already set a date? Sorry if you're not wanting to think about that yet! Just wondered how you and your OH are splitting the parental leave.

Sally it's great to hear bf is going well. Your OH is amazing staying up with her at night, but I expect you're still having to wake up to feed her? How often does she wake you? Mine is only a couple of times a night, but we seem to be up for at least an hour and a half each time! I'm still trying to nap in the afternoons if I can (on the days when I don't also have ds).

My dd had to have a urine and blood test yesterday as she's still showing signs of jaundice. Poor thing had to have two needles in her hand. She didn't like it very much but was very brave.

Things seem to be settling down for us as a family. I've been less tearful but my hv is still keeping a regular eye on me. I thought I might find it annoying but it's actually nice to have the extra support. She's given us some great tips on managing ds when he plays up, which he does a lot more often now. I'm interested to hear how other people's older dc are adjusting? My ds is such a caring big brother, but he's being much more obnoxious with us lately. I totally understand why, but it's draining! I also find getting the three of us ready in the mornings is really tricky. My dp leaves for work at 7.30 so I don't get much help unfortunately. Sally I know what you mean about constant feeding and changing. We also have the added delight of puking - this girl is hard to wind! She's way less settled than her brother was at this age and it's come as a bit of a shock.

I've just been in to check on ds and had to lift him back into bed after finding him asleep on the bedroom floor. Think I'll have to get him one of those bed guards as he does fall out occasionally. Obviously didn't wake him up this time!

Going to try for some more sleep now. Hope you're all well ladies x

Thanks all! Here's a pic finally!
Feeding is improving, nipples have healed (copious lansinoh use), and even though latch is still pretty crap, it's often much less painful. She's still a massive boob monster however, and won't go with other people for too long, which is making DH feel a bit left out sadly. I want to weigh her again though as I'm slightly paranoid the poor latch might mean she isn't getting milk efficiently, although I can hear her guzzling it!

I'm SO glad DH is here, have no idea how those of you with a toddler plus newborn are coping! I think just making sure everyone is fed and clean would be a major achievement, and that goes for first time mums too, I remember that feeling very well. Using the sling is excellent tip, she won't go in it if she's awake at the moment (too close to the boobs!) but it's great for naps as she definitely sleeps longer in there. I tried a ring sling but found it awkward, wovens aren't nearly as hard as people say they are, I much prefer them.

I think I have a slight piles issue, although did before the birth too! Tips for stitches pain when going to the loo- hold half a sanitary towel/pant liner against the stitches to support them.
Re: maternity pads, I actually like the big cushy things but have run out now and am on overnight always ones, but TBH they aren;t great for ventilation, and lochia is much less now, so might go back to my normal natural cotton ones.

OK baby waking up now, best to all, and will also keep checking back to hear how everyone is, always useful to ask each other for tips too! My random tip of the day is that changing the baby very slowly, so she can get used to your movements, while talking to her, seems to result in less/no crying

Thanks all! Here's a pic finally!
Feeding is improving, nipples have healed (copious lansinoh use), and even though latch is still pretty crap, it's often much less painful. She's still a massive boob monster however, and won't go with other people for too long, which is making DH feel a bit left out sadly. I want to weigh her again though as I'm slightly paranoid the poor latch might mean she isn't getting milk efficiently, although I can hear her guzzling it!

I'm SO glad DH is here, have no idea how those of you with a toddler plus newborn are coping! I think just making sure everyone is fed and clean would be a major achievement, and that goes for first time mums too, I remember that feeling very well. Using the sling is excellent tip, she won't go in it if she's awake at the moment (too close to the boobs!) but it's great for naps as she definitely sleeps longer in there. I tried a ring sling but found it awkward, wovens aren't nearly as hard as people say they are, I much prefer them.

I think I have a slight piles issue, although did before the birth too! Tips for stitches pain when going to the loo- hold half a sanitary towel/pant liner against the stitches to support them.
Re: maternity pads, I actually like the big cushy things but have run out now and am on overnight always ones, but TBH they aren;t great for ventilation, and lochia is much less now, so might go back to my normal natural cotton ones.

OK baby waking up now, best to all, and will also keep checking back to hear how everyone is, always useful to ask each other for tips too! My random tip of the day is that changing the baby very slowly, so she can get used to your movements, while talking to her, seems to result in less/no crying

That's a gorgeous photo InFrance what a cutie and she looks so cosy Glad feeding is going better, how is her weight now?

I have been trying the ring sling every day and can't seem to get to grips with it. Doesn't help that dd is so unsettled, she doesn't make it easy! I've not even bothered with the stretchy as I know it's even more complicated! I've only hired them for a month so might try a woven next time. Sigh...

We have been very lucky in that people are giving us loads of baby girl clothes (new and pre-loved). My house is drowning in bags of clothes and I feel like I'm constantly washing!! Will save us a fortune though. Need to sort out dd's photos so we can use them in her thank you cards. We're so tired in the evenings though I don't know when that'll happen.

Is everyone still entertaining lots of visitors? Dd is over 4 weeks and I still haven't had all my buddies over to meet her, and haven't taken her into work yet either. I know there's no hurry but I think I'll relax more when these things are done.

Beautiful pic of you and your little girl Infrance glad to hear feeding is improving.

Am impressed by those of you using the slings, I would love to get to grips with them as have seen mummy friends using them and they look so cool. Have just got the NCT close caboo and it is ok but am a bit paranoid his head is flopping around/ not well enough supported.

Things going ok, DS feeding very well, very greedy and feels like I am feeding non stop. Am looking forward to building up time between feeds esp. at night (!) 3 or 4 hours would be nice instead of 1 or 2...

After handling the new sibling thing really well DD has been a bit overwhelmed the last few days had a few meltdowns which is to be expected for a 2 year old. Nursery have noticed it and she has been challenging at home, uncooperative and wanting mummy not daddy so impact of family changes being felt we feel.

Haven't thought about taking in DS to work yet or sending out the thank you cards but guess they will be on the agenda as we resurface from the newborn bubble. A bit of me feels sad that even this tiny milestone is coming to an end & they are so many ahead. He has grown out of his newborn stuff already it goes too quick

Dammit! I wrote a long message and lost it before posting. Will try again when I don't have a 6 week old thrashing about at my breast!!

Hope all is well with you all x

Hello everyone, great to see you here. I;ve been quiet due to combination of family being around, then on 18th we had a bad few days as baby caught DDs cold, and got a fever, which resulted in hospital trip, admission for 2 nights for observation, and a hellish experience with no sleep for me, very painful blood tests and other things for her, and total exhaustion afterwards physically and emotionally. She's recovered fine, and really I think was in no real danger, but they don't take chances with 3 week old babies...
I never want to go to childrens hospital again, I'm sure those who work there try hard, but it was so miserable, sad crying children all night, me feeling frightened and getting told off by nurses for having the baby on the ned with me (totally safe with guards up) rather than in the horrible metal cot.

Since then I struggled to get back on track, did some more work, had my brother over which was nice, and then spent a few days with my parents as DH flew to UK with DD for his dad's birthday.
So now we are all at home again and feeling like I need a rest!

Feeding here is also quite frequent, I am not timing it at all, just on demand, and she is gaining weight very fast so things are ok. Feeds definitely improving, latch still sloppy much of the time, but sometimes we manage good ones. Nights not bad, she averages waking every 2 hours, but goes to sleep again wonderfully fast, compared to how DD used to be, I can just put her back down on the bed next to me and she won't jerk awake, makes things much easier. Sling is great, even DH is learning, he will have to take care of her more as she gets older and I work more too. I bought a ringsling and couldn't use it at all, woven wraps by far easier for me.

DD seems to be a bit more tricksy than normal but it might be all the other upheaveal of having people here to stay, then going to the UK (although she loved the plane apparently!), and also teething her last molars we think. She does still want to stroke, kiss and hold the baby all the time, not been aggressive or anything towards her so that's good.

I'm off now, going to try and work a bit before dinner and hopefully some TV. The amount of chocolate I've eaten in the past 5 weeks is truly shocking

Hiya all,

Sorry to hear about your dd's hospital admission InFrance how scary. Glad she's OK. Unfortunately we've also been in hospital (hence my silence), only for one night but I agree it's miserable what with hearing crying children in the night. At least we had our own room as she hasn't had her immunisations yet, but we had to leave our door open overnight. Anyway she's been having occasional difficulty breathing (last 3 weeks or so) and had noisy breathing and feeding (and reflux) since birth. They've checked her for sleep apnoea but all seems OK on that score, also ECG and chest X-ray OK. They think it's something called 'floppy larynx' but waiting for an outpatient ENT appt to confirm it. In the meantime I've ordered a breathing monitor which clips to her nappy to hopefully give me some peace of mind. She's otherwise fine but obviously I've been quite anxious!

Ds' behaviour has taken a turn for the worse, with uncontrollable tantrums, been trying to sort his own health issues to try and help him but I'm pretty sure jealousy is at the root of it. Trying desperately to get one on one time with him at any opportunity!

The stretchy wrap has made my left shoulder so sore that I have made a doctor's appointment to try and see a physio. She's not even 12lb yet, I must be doing it wrong!

Despite my tale of woe I'm keeping busy and relatively chipper! Seeing plenty of my friends and family and getting on with things in between appointments. The house is a complete mess though which is driving me mad! All I seem to do is wash clothes.

Sally and Reebok, I hope you're both feeling better now?

Hope everyone is keeping well x

Hey everyone nice to see some new posts again sorry to hear about babies hospital visits hope they are both 100% recovered soon X

Sorry for being so quiet still adjusting to life as mummy she is a very hungry baby and feeds what seems like constantly sometimes so finding it hard to find time to even go to the toilet some days but thankfully she seems to be settling a little bit more so maybe I will have more time soon Thankfully my parents are amazing and take her for an hour or so so in that time I can sleep ,eat or shower lol

Im not complaining too much though as I just love her so much and the fact she is feeding means extra special mummy and daughter time that's just for us

How are your little ones for sleeping? My DD doesn't want to be put down ever she hates the bedside crib,Moses basket bed nests etc the only way she sleeps is in my arms or in the bed nest on the bed with me still holding her curled around the nest while she sleeps. I love the cuddles and sleeping with her cuddled up to me but I'm wondering if it will cause problems when she's older.

lost sorry the stretchy wrap has hurt your shoulder have you got the bits over your shoulders open wide and everything untwisted at the back?
I looked at my boba wrap and it said suitable up to 36 months I think that's false advertising I couldn't imagine carrying a toddler around in a stretchy wrap I thought that's what the proper carriers are for!

I have a question my DD has her first injections next week and I'm so scared what can I expect will she be OK after?

Hope everyone is doing ok take care xx

Hi Lost and Sally,

Really sorry to hear you've also had health worries Lost, ours were very scary but at least over fast; I hope you get positive diagnosis soon and you can put your mind more at rest.
We're also finding DD1 has become quite prone to being upset at very small things. We think it's a combination of the new baby, plus visits from lots of peopple, travelling and also she's learning a lot e.g. potty (we're doing it slow and gradual, all praise-based, seems to be working well as she slides round on it even when not 'going'!). We try to deal with her tantrums by remembering that when toddlers are at their most "difficult", it's because emotionally they are struggling, and that is when they most need our help, support and love as parents, not disciplining. At least, this is my approach based on child psychology.
The wrap issue you have could be positioning, I would recommend posting on the FB group Wrap Jedi, friendly people can take a look at a selfie and advise. Or you might need to try a woven, plenty second hand bargains, they are way more supportive for you than stretchies.
Great you're feeling cheerful though. Our house isn't too bad surprisingly (for our standards, anyway!) but then there are two of us at home, even if I'm not doing hardly any housework!

Sally that's really wonderful to hear how much you are enjoying mummy life. I made the mistake first time round of feeling trapped by the constant feeding, this time I'm just rolling with it and it's much more fun as a result. Although actually this baby feeds less, probably as she's much bigger and doesn't need to fill her tummy as often! Means more settled nights too which I'm very grateful for.

My advice about your two Qs:
First of all, don;t stress too much about this, it's easy, I did it first time. Bed sharing if you do it safely and are breastfeeding is super beneficial for your baby, they receive close comfort, easy feeding, and your bodies actually attune e.g. breathing, pulse, waking rhythms, it's amazing. Don;t worry about squashing her, you are VERY unlikely to do that if you sleep in the correct position e.g. see this science-based advice site, they also do an app! www.dur.ac.uk/resources/isis.online/pdfs/ISIS_bed-sharing_2014.pdf
If you sleep with the baby now, it doesn't really matter about later in my opinion. They are small for such a short length of time, they will eventually sleep alone. Currently I am in the double bed with baby, husband sometimes starts the night with us, but DD1 is in her own room on a double futon, and DH goes in with her at some point as she still wakes up once most nights (she's 26 months) and needs a little comforting to go back to sleep. We think she benefits from knowing someone will always come in with her if she needs it, even though she starts the night by herself now (she goes to bed pretty easily most nights with books, or just lying together until she falls asleep if very tired). She went into her own room at about 18 months, before that time was sleeping in a cot next to our bed with bars up after night-weaning which happened sometime around 12 months. I still fed her to sleep if possible until 14 months, it was easiest by far, I put the bars up though at that point as she would often roll around and wake me up in the night. When she still had night feeds, I had the cot side taken off, and I would just roll in and lie next to her to feed, we would both go back to sleep like that.

About the vaccinations: remember why you're doing them first, it's for her life-long health, so you're being a good parent to her. We were recommended by our paediatrician to give a little bit of sugary water just before the injection, as it stimulates dopamine release in the brain which is a pain-killer, and then to offer her to nurse straight after the injections are done, as sucking does the same thing.
Another good thing to remember is that babies who are crying but being held show much lower bodily stress patterns- your hugging really will calm her down, even if she is still screaming. Good luck.

Better go now, thinking of everyone else too, hope you're all coping and managing to practice mindfulness and enjoying the moment, it's so precious. Can;t believe my baby is 6 weeks already! xxx

Mini-update: think baby is developing reflux, so goodbye to the easy nights lying down together to nurse

Hello all, sorry for the silence. Been struggling a lot with dd1 and dd2s health. DD2 has had thrush (so have I) and has been diagnosed with reflux. On medication. She won't nap in the days unless held and even then it's cat naps. Impossible to do anything.

Dd1s reflux has gotten really severe. She's almost 3 and the doctor thinks it may be a hiatal hernia causing it which can't be cured. Only controlled with drugs and diet. The poor baby is constantly in pain and as a result has lots of tantrums.
She's not sleeping well so nor am I. Currently surviving on an hour or two of sleep if that. I cried at her nursery today. The manager is amazing and could see I'm at breaking point so she's been allowing dd to do full days since yesterday for free. She had chicken pox recently and missed lots of days. Not getting any help or support from dh so I feel really alone and cry daily. Sorry for the rants haven't got anyone for support in rl.

So sorry to hear how things are for you at the moment Reebok that sounds really tough! it is so difficult managing two different sets of needs! let alone with additional health problems. Glad that the nursery manager is being sensitive even if your husband is not ( any idea why he is being like this?)...

Sorry to hear of Lost and Infrance paediatric scares, how frightening for you both. Glad you are home and things seem ok now.

Sorry for radio silence too, again been adjusting to the ups and downs of life with two adorable but little & needy babies. Like many of you older DD has been a bit challenging since her brothers birth, how much is jealousy and how much is normal two year old defiance I don't know.

We are co-sleeping with DS, tried to get him in the Moses basket but he wasn't having it, prob easier for breastfeeding anyway, which seems all the time, definitely every two hours at night, DS is now in the 91st percentile and a right chunk.

DS had his 8 week jabs yesterday, I can't lie and say it's easy. It is tough seeing them cry with pain, but you just have to remember why you are doing it, agree to nursing them after to calm them. You can give them 2 month+ calpol, in fact the nurse recommended it to bring down post immunisation fever. Be prepared that they may be grizzly and unsettled for 24 hours after the jabs.

Life is certainly more hectic and harder work with two but so worth it, thinking of you guys x

No idea Apple. He's just been a bugger lately. He struggled to understand my hyperemesis when I was pregnant and wasn't much help then but did improve. And now he's an arse again. Things have gotten worse...dd2 has chicken pox. Caught it from dd1. Today has been tough as hell. Had to take her hospital to get the immunity shot as she's only 7 weeks and doctors were concerned. She's been crying like mad today as expected and won't let me put her down. And dd1 keeps crying from reflux, having tantrums, driving me mad, I feel like crying too.

Apple poor ds and poor you, I hate the jabs. Think it's harder on us than the babies. Lol with dd1 I cried more than her after her jabs. Going to have to cancel dd2s jabs now until she's better. Re tantrums I think it's 50-50...part being a toddler, part jealously.

Lost and infrance sorry to hear your los have been so unwell. Re floppy larynx...dd1 had that as a baby. Side effect...reflux! She did grow out of it but the reflux didn't go.

Sally my lo won't sleep in Moses. Only sleeps in the pram when it's moving or on me. The minute I put her down she wakes up so shes having cat naps and it's driving me mad as she gets so tired and cranky. And I have another dc to look after.

In all honesty I'm finding life really difficult at the moment. This will pass...right?

Hello all,
checking in here. happily what I was frightened was reflux was in fact very odd early cold symptoms, she was vomiting, choking and stuff, but only last week then started coughing and having a running nose. Am obviously very relieved- and very sad that you DO have this to deal with Reebok. You situation sounds really bloody tough, and especially if things aren't great between you and DH. We've also had a lot of stress, but in different context, as he's at home and so am I trying to work, juggling the baby between us, having disagreements about parenting DD1... there's just so little time to have any space to relax a bit and talk reasonably. We did manage to have a couple of trips to a cafe with the baby while DD1 was at morning playgroup, which really helped us. Can you and DH do the same, he could take a morning off work (or even a sickie if necessary) just to give you some time together? And do you have a sling or wrap to help baby sleep, she will be upright so good for reflux too?

Baby had her jabs yesterday, was very brave really, cried but quickly comforted, and just a tiny temperature overnight, nothing needed except calpol.

Tough thing is trying to work at home, and give time to DD1, who sometimes seems to be playing up with jealousy, others is absolutely lovely; I feel like a bad mummy for her, although she's with her dad all the time. However I am totally in love with DD2, and enjoying the time I have with her, she's incredibly smiley and full of laughs too, really delightful.

Good luck all, plunging back into the fray now!

Hi all, sorry I haven't been around. Worried sick about my dd and it's not even the breathing issue at the moment (which has actually taken a back seat just lately). She apparently has a blocked tear duct and has a lump under the skin next to her eye. I have a thread in children's health about it. She's under the eye clinic but I'm going to call them again tomorrow as I can't see it resolving, only getting worse.

So much more I want to say but don't have time right now. I will update properly soon but I have skim read some of your posts and want to say Reebok, please dm me where you are as if you're anywhere near me I'd like to meet up with you and commiserate about our dps over a nice cuppa and huge slice of

Thinking of you all x x

Hi All,

Really sorry to hear about the breathing and now eye issue with your DD Lost how stressful. Hope the clinic can sort these out ASAP.

Also for you Reebok with chicken pox, what a nightmare. Kids get it all the time at nursery and am dreading DD getting it.

Feel that we have been very lucky so far with DS. He is continuing to feed well and currently on my boob as I type. Am really enjoying my boy as he seems a relatively easy baby and now is smiling and starting to make sounds, it's all very cute.

Anyway am thinking of you all and hoping things get easier with the sick babies and useless DP's