April 2007 - an Easter surprise

[Katy44]

Morning everyone!

I think that the evil x was shocked at SS2 violent reaction.

The fact that he was trying to hurt all of us, may in some backwards way make her decide that all her backstabbing and bitching is not helping him, and she may have to reconsider her bitterness, and start acting like an adult.

We can hope

1b3, what a nightmare for you. Dont have any wonderous suggestions but {{{{{HUGS}}}}} to you. Maybe just concentrate on you, dh, dd and your two wonderful beans for a while and leave them to stew. Bloody teenagers!!

I really hope so 1b3..now go and have a cup of something and some chocolate or cake or something you fancy

I am going to open the huge tin of minature heros and scoff a few dozen.

Thanks for all your support.
LOL x

......have you finished that tin of chocs yet 1b3? sounds like you deserve the whole bloody lot after your scary weekend.
That is very bad. No matter what the situation, or the individual stresses your ss should never have gone so far as to put all your lives in danger like that. but you don't need me to point that out do you?
Sounds like a good idea to get some outside person without vested interest or emotion involved. The situation isn't going to change, no matter how badly either of them behave, and they need to realise that. Maybe they think they're acting our of loyalty to their mum and their 'old' family - but that doesn't exist anymore - sadly for them. But there is a new family that they are welcome (?) to be part of - as long as they behave as part of that family. Your twins aren't a suggestion of what might happen - they're going to happen! You shouldn't be made to feel for a second like that's not the best bews ever!!!!
Sorry for the rant, but I had a step-mum too, and I knew from my dad that behaving badly just was not an option! He was happy with her, and that was great for all of us.

I hope this week sees an improvement in the whole situation, and I hope you get a chance as a new family to get excited about your new babies.

your virtual family here are very very excited for you!!
HUGS
xx

wow loads of chat again!

1becomes3 - Really sorry to hear about your terrible weekend. Step children can be so difficult I have 2 of my own!

It really is something you have to take a step back from. Your DP and his x have to sort it out. I know it's easier said than done but you need to be selfish and think of yourself and the beans. Hope things improve for you and that you've taken all the chocolate medicine

wow loads of chat again!

1becomes3 - Really sorry to hear about your terrible weekend. Step children can be so difficult I have 2 of my own!

It really is something you have to take a step back from. Your DP and his x have to sort it out. I know it's easier said than done but you need to be selfish and think of yourself and the beans. Hope things improve for you and that you've taken all the chocolate medicine

Hello all.
Happy Bday WCL - hope you are having a good day.
1becomes3, I was so sorry to read your post - what a dreadful time. So much jealousy going on. I have no experience of this or how to handle it, but I wish you well and hope that you can try and relax and look after yourself.
How is everyone else?
Any scan news?
Things here are goods. Had an amazing nights sleep last night after a crap weekend of no sleep, so feel quite upbeat.
GGF, hilarious visions of your surfing in the sea at Exmouth or thereabouts!
Anyway, at work, so had better close. Catch up later sweets. ss

Hi Girls,

Happy Birthday WCL, hope it´s a good one!
1B3, so sorry you had a shitty weekend, it sounds like a hard situation. I agree with those who say that you just need to focus on yourself and your DD and babies and hope that dh and his x can tackle this problem together. But it must be very hard, thoughts to you x
Our housewarming went very well in the end, saggy tortilla and all, and the last people left around 3am, although I had snuck off to bed an hour or so earlier. This week I am only working 2 days and then off to UK to see friends and family for 10 days. I can´t wait!!!
My wee one has been giving definite kicks when they happen but are quite infrequent still, although s/he seemed to really enjoy, or really hate, the soup I was eating last night. Seemed like every time I took a bite I got a little nudge. felt really disappointed when I had no more soup to eat..hehehe

1b3 - 16&18 eh? Talk about difficult age. But, like you and everyone else has said, SS2 overstepped the mark by putting your lives in danger.

I worked with teens for a few years and i think the suggestions about seeking some help & support for them are good, but i would suggest maybe their dad having some time with them by himself first and trying to chat things through. This may be something you've tried already though? They really sound like they are feeling abandoned by their dad (which is prob not the case) but their feelings are out of control to a certain extent (esp with evil x stirring things up) and maybe some reassurance would help.

I think what bugmum(?) said about the numbers game - twins putting the balance of kiddie-power firmly with you - is also a real factor.

But the main thing you need to worry about is you and your beans at the mo. Hope that the choccy helps all 3 of you!

lots of love

hey maveta!

glad housewarming went well!

Am confused... so what country are you in now?????

Haven't had a chance to read everything, and must rush off as DD is standing on the stairs shrieking "Mummy have you finished on the computer" at me!!

Had scan this morning and all well . Baby is actually measuring less big for dates than earlier on, so am shelving fears of giving birth to a whale! My placenta is low (as well as anterior) so I need to get that checked later on. She also found what she said was a 'placental lake', which worried me slightly as she inadvertently referred to it as a clot, which is worrying as I had a large clot in my vein in my last pregnancy and am on medication which is supposed to keep my blood nice and thin. I think it may just have been an unfortunate turn of phrase though, and I'm trying not to worry about it too much. They will check it out at my next ante-natal appt on 14 Dec. I don't think the thing in itself is a problem or very uncommon, it was just when she called it a clot it flagged up paranoia going "well if I have one there, where else could I have them"! It's so easy to get paranoid!!

21+1

bramshott...AAAAND?? is it a boy or girl/don´t know/not telling?? Glad it went well though.
Eca - I live in Spain and haven´t been back to the UK now since April so looking forward to it heaps

Hi everyone...have just about got caught up with the gossip.

Happy Birthday WCL!!!

1b3 - so sorry to hear about your weekend. I haven't any advice (other than what everyone else has given) but am thinking of you. Take care!

Bramshott - congrats on the scan. Hopefully your mind will be put at ease when you see the midwife. I wish I could be more reassuring but as a first timer I'm a bit clueless.

Argh...my pgcy brain has set in and I can't remember anyone elses posts so sorry to anyone else I should be mentioning.

Poor DH has had some shocking news today. Last week he was assigned a student person to help with his work and when DH got to work this morning he was told the guy had had a heart attack and died on Sat night (he was only 24 - same age as DH) so I think the whole office is in shock.

On a more positive note, baby is taking over the house already!!! The spare room is full of stuff. I bought some tights from Mothercare on Sat (i know everyone says they're crap but it's the only place i could find affordable ones and i'm only wearing them once for DH xmas party). Anyway I also got some breast pads and some maternity pads (thought i'd spread the cost) they came up on buy 1 get 1 half price offer....so got some more on Sun!!! They on Sun night saw a baby moniter for £10 (reduced from £30) on Kiddicare.com and also a bouncer for £13 (reduced from £30) and bought some terries nappies too as mothercare have a terries starter pack I'm gonna buy next week. Have decided I'll manage with terries day-to-day and use disposables if visiting family (so don't have to take all nappy stuff with us - also MIL doesn't like us using washer cos it costs money!)

CD - I know this is a stupid question ...BUT....In the terries starter pack there are some nappy sacks...are these for putting the dirty ones in if I change baby when we're out and about???? Also will 30 terries be about the right amount? Thank you so much for your help!!!!

WCL - Happy Birthday.

1B3 and Wilderbeast - sorry for your bad weekends. It is annoying when we look forward to them all well when they don't turn out to be such fun isn't it? Mine was uneventful but pleaasant enough and we didn't have as bad weather as they predicted which was a pleasant surprise so had nice dog walks etc. in the autumn leaves and sunshine!

Good luck for scans this week.

oh and is anyone else ravenous the whole time?! I just can't seem to stop eating!

Good god - you lot can talk!!

Happy Birthday WCL

1b3 - don't really have any wise words of wisdom, but am hear to listen and give virtual (((hugs)))

We had a lush weekend! Dh didn't work at all, so was lovely just pottering round the house (and being made breakfast in bed!)
Bump is definatley making its presence felt. Can be a bit uncomfortable though, but nice at the same time iyswim.

Have finally got my appt with physiotherapist about my spd/pelvic pain - not til Jan 11th though Still, they did say that if it gets dramtically worse to call them straight away.

Btw - does anybody know, or have an idea of when they are starting their maternity leave? I was thinking about a week before due date, but nearly gave my boss kittens when I said that to him

Well I've caught up on my work, so time for a quick visit!

RH - I usually aim for a week or 2 before my due date as so far I have always gone way over, and it is so annoying sitting around at home, too big to do anything, waiting for the tardy LO to arrive! Also that gives you more the other end IYKWIM. Your boss will just have to cope!

Doghouse - sadly me too with the eating - which is probably why I end up so huge by my due date....

NG - Well done with the efficient shopping. I can't do anything like that, not because of bad luck or anything but because I would definitely have misplaced the whole lot of it by next April. We will buy a pack of newborn nappies a week before the due date and wing it.... Although of course I do have my lovely cradle!

Bramshott - DO YOU KNOW WHAT COLOUR IS YOUR BEAN??? Weren't there more scans today? I need news and I have to go and fetch DS1 by 4.30!

felling somewhat better from the choco-therapy.

Maveta RH- glad to hear you both had great weekends.

Bramshott- congratulations on the scan.
Is anyone else having theirs today?

1becomes3 - big hugs xxoxoxoxoxox

nuttygirl - the mothercare terry pack is a good buy but the wraps in it are crap - you might be better buying the terries, nappy nippas and bucket etc in mothercare but going online to get some decent wraps - would recommend motherease small rikki covers - come in print or plain - try teamlollipop, little green earthlets etc. I am going to get 24 newborn terries, 6 nappi nippas, bucket and sanitiser from my local lollipop advisor - was going to get my sisters motherease nappies but have convinced her to carry on using them until her ds2 is potty trained (he is only just 1).

And went for my scan today...

1becomes3 - big hugs xxoxoxoxoxox

nuttygirl - the mothercare terry pack is a good buy but the wraps in it are crap - you might be better buying the terries, nappy nippas and bucket etc in mothercare but going online to get some decent wraps - would recommend motherease small rikki covers - come in print or plain - try teamlollipop, little green earthlets etc. I am going to get 24 newborn terries, 6 nappi nippas, bucket and sanitiser from my local lollipop advisor - was going to get my sisters motherease nappies but have convinced her to carry on using them until her ds2 is potty trained (he is only just 1).

And went for my scan today...

At last!! Well??? Go on then, CFK!

ooppss!

Its a boy! - thought would be disappointed having another boy but very excited and happy. He was curled up in a little ball with his bum facing my bladder and would not shift - was about to be told would have to come back when he stretched his legs out and they managed to take the rest of measurements - esp the heart one which they wanted - obviously - and all is great - feeling very proud.

But - do have SPD (went to see midwife in tears fromt he pain) - have literally been tubi-gripped from hips to under bust and awaiting physio appointment - going to try and get a bump belt thingy which will hopefully be a little more attractive - but when midwife put on tubi-grip it was like instant relief.

So everything happy here...off to wash all the blue baby stuff! DH is mega-chuffed about having another boy!

Really pleased everything went well for you CKK!! Another blue one to add to the list!!

CFK - Well done on blue bean!! I have 2 boys and think it's absolutely fab. Was sort of hoping this would be a third but pink won out!

to hear of your agonising SPD. I have never suffered from this [fingers crossed emoticon] so can only imagine what it must be like. Sounds like you're getting all the help there is.

Yay! Another blue bean for the April thread!!