Christmas and New Year's Babies - thread 2 (20w scans right around the corner)

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Enjoy the new thread ladies. Have put a link to the spreadsheet here so always easy to find. (Sorry can't get the linking to work automatically).

docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1OSdzg17qg9VY0CYhoGvKuTrF-GLnHCTFqc7NPUfAYVc/pubhtml

For all newbies, this is a thread for ladies expecting a baby around Christmas or New Year, feel free to join in.

shake and sherbert sounds like you've had a stressful weekend. Hope your baby keeps cooking as long as possible Shake will be thinking of you both .
How you both feeling this morning?
We cant move until my maternity leave in the last week of November and that's provided the sale goes through on time. I have got a car seat here though just in case and will have to buy more if the sale takes to long. We're fine here though im going to find it weird not having so many people around once the baby arrives.

Shake and Sherbert I hope you are both keeping your feet up and being spoiled!

Argos is having a baby event if you need something to fill your time with ;)

oh also has anyone or is anyone hoping to breastfeed and express got any advice on pumps and bottles. Thinking of buying some soon. x

I've been recommended the Ardo calypso.

Oh shake and sherbert I am so sorry to hear things are getting so dramatic for you both. I hope you aren't getting too bored on bedrest. Shake I'm sure your little girl will stay put for a good long while, if it's helpful to hear my friends sister just had a very healthy early little boy, after her waters started leaking at 19 weeks. Not sure how many weeks he was when he finally arrived bt it was over 30.

Sherbert I'm glad baby is doing fine, but I hope your are OK too. It must have been so scary.

Right we need to get some distraction going in here for our two ladies on bedrest. What colours of travel systems and buggies are people getting? Ours is bright red as I was so paranoid with dd I needed to be as visible possible. Obviously a giant buggy wasn't visible enough without it being bright red with reflective strips . I was so uppity about how visible it was too as if it were some kind of boasting right.

I have some embarrassing stories of my life in the postnatal haze. I'm happy to share if it helps keep you guys entertained. I had ocd after my daughter and while it was a bit crap at the time, I can really look back and laugh at the funny things I did now(it's OK to laugh cos I'm fully recovered now)

Thanks for your kind thoughts everyone.

cth your comment made me laugh! Bed rest has lead to some serious baby hauling today. The bank balance is looking a bit sad now, but I can justify it... This is our first and we literally need everything! Plus I've had lots of time today to research best prices etc so I feel happy that I've not paid over the odds.

Cuppa we've gone black because we don't know the sex. But I really want to hear some embarrassing stories now!

Argh wrote a long post and lost it! Now have only 2mins to say wishing both sherbert and shakes a much improved week, and really hoping the little one stays in just for a little longer Shakes. Thinking of you both xx

Queasy I have done that so many times it's the worst!!

Sherbert I'll happily share, it all made.such sense at the time too. One thing was I had this obsession I had to look perfect and super feminine everyday or people would think I was a bad mother. So everyday high heels. Short floral floaty dresses. Full hair and make up. I am not a girly girl at all, so that was weird enough in itself. Only it was so over the top I honestly looked ridiculous, like I was trying to be a 50s housewife meets celebrity chique meets primark. I was convinced this made me better than every other new mum too it didn't.

As a new mum, a few things stopped being a priority. Like the laundry pile was a bit neglected, which lead to going comando quite a lot. Another thing I neglected was lady garden maintenance, because who needs razor rash and sleep deprivation. I remember waltzing around town thinking I was super glam and classy looking in some new trousers. I had dd in the baby carrier and it wasn't till I got home that I realized my fly was totally open, displaying my mini amazon rainforest right between dds little feet. You would not have been able to miss it especially against the contrast of the khaki trousers. To this day I am thankful I didn't run into any friends.

I did a lot of other weird stuff. But I never know if it's genuinely funny or just funny because I'm relieved to not be back in the world of logic. I had this odd fixation that I had to leave the house everyday and get dressed every day, or I'd be a failure of a mother and everyone would know. So even if it was tipping it down, blowing a gale, freezing and we had nothing to do. I would drag tiny dd out and make a big deal of it so everyone knew I was a capable mother. I was the Hyacynth bucket of the pfb world.

Relived to be back in the world of logic I mean.

Sherbet and Shake sounds like you are both having a worrying time, do hope you're being well looked after and that the bed rest isn't too boring...

Is anyone else here diagnosed with placenta praevia? I've got a partial preavia and have felt like the contents of my uterus are going to fall out for weeks now. Midwife not being much help an no scan booked until 32 weeks. No idea if this is a symptom of the praevia or just second pregnancy pain... What with everything being weaker. Add to that worsening SPD and piles... I'm a delight at the moment!

Still, very excited to have this one on the way, and it gives me an excuse to start Christmas shopping already (I LOVE Christmas)!

How is everyone else feeling about Christmas/New Yr timing??

I'm actually not to bothered by Christmas baby timing HOWEVER I have said to close family that there will be none of this join present nonsense - the baby will just have to be like a queen - an official and unofficial birthday!

enjoyed your stories cuppa I'm sure we will all do something similar at some point in the early days. We're going for the petrol blue buggy think its only just unisex enough but i love the colour.
mama I normally start Christmas shopping around the end of the month anyway but all i can think of is babies so its not going great this year.
I'm not thrilled about a Christmas day due date think I may have to do a 'half birthday' party in the summer once the babies older. however i think a new years birthday would be good fun so plan to cross my legs for a week.

oh musn't forget to ask how bed rest/shopping is going shake and sherbert hope your being spoilt and babies are doing ok x

Haha! Cuppa amazing! I would absolutely die if I walked around with my lady garden hanging out for all to see.

Bed rest has been pretty boring tbh Hope. I'm so used to being up in my feet all day, so it's been tricky. Nice to have a rest from work though I suppose, especially as (touch wood) the bleeding has completely stopped.

Just got back from my 28 week midwife appt and she seemed quite happy and even mentioned that they might induce me a bit early. I'm convinced that I'll go over and need to be induced for being late which will mean baby will be here around the 26th. I'd much rather they came due date or before if that's what they decide. Everyone I know with birthdays Christmas week hate it.

Hi Ladies how is everybody doing this week?

I've got this week off thanks to bloods last week and my 28 week appointment next week. Baby is jumping around pretty happily at the moment still wondering what what up the little bugger is though!

Lying awake at 3am heart burn, sickness, back in agony, an emotional reck. Had to phone in sick again then the baby started kicking and got this amazing sensation that it's all going to be worth it. Sorry for soppy post just thought if anyone can understand this feeling it's you guys xxx

Aw Hope can definitely relate with all of my dramas recently. Hope you're feeling better soon

Hope definitely, we're at a really difficult stage right now. Then end isn't in sight, but we're getting all the later pregnancy problems. It's a slog, but we'll get there. You don't have to enjoy pregnancy, its a really difficult physical challenge and it doesn't mean you don't love or want your child even if you don't love the process of creating them. I mean I love eating cake, but hate baking. Sure they aren't the same thing, but similar principle.

My waist is nearly gone, last time I still had an hourglass figure from the back. Now I'm just bleh. Not loving it. But the very few ladies in the office I have been put in are very grateful for a pregnant lady to fuss and talk babies too. Female company at work is just amazing.

Sherbert has everything settled down for you? I hope so.

Shake in really hoping your little girl has stayed put and is continuing to grow strong.

Hey Cuppa, touch wood everything has settled now.

Anyone else finding bending down painful?

Glad to hear it! Here's to 3 more quiet months for you!

I'm getting a lot of pain bending over, picking up DD is difficult and I'm getting lower back and public bone pain. It's annoying as hell!! It's not too bad though just achey at the end of the day if I overdo it.

Hi all. Sorry dropped off the thread for a bit. Sorry to hear it's been a bit hairy for sherbert and shake but hope it's all settling down now.

I hear you cuppa and hope , it all seems so LONG at the moment. DS is acting up a lot (he's 19mo, so think it's just par-for-the-course) and I'm exhausted.

I plan to start mat leave at end Nov (was going to go up to Xmas, but can't face it now) and have a week off in a couple of weeks, really looking forward to some rest. Had a minor meltdown yesterday as was v sore after a walk and chasing DS around local park. I'm frustrated I can't keep up.

Roll on Christmas say I!

Oh yes! I cannot wait for Christmas at this point! I got so excited tesco had a Christmas aisle I swear I heard someone's horror as I giddily run DD down it. DD is getting quite difficult at the moment too Tango, its bloody difficult at the moment. I'm glad you're having a bit of time before baby comes along, you wont regret it!

I'm starting to get excited about the work Christmas party, it seems they planned the day around something I could join in with which is just lovely. Normally it's a meal and lively piss up. This year we're going to a race day at ascot, they even sorted tickets with good seating so no standing around. It's the end of November too so I won't hopefully be at the 'not even maternity wear fits anymore' stage. Really touched by the thought. I have about 10 dresses saved on asos already.

Anyone heard from shake? X

Not seen any posts from her, I hope she's OK. Sending if you're reading this, shake.

Does anyone want to help me with my Christmas plans?

My official due date is 30th Dec, but DS was 6 days early and a 4 hour labour from waters to baby. (absolutely no warning pre-waters). For that reason I'm planning a home-birth (assuming no placenta praevia - pending 32 wk scan).

My nephew's 1st birthday is on the 19th of Dec and my DBro is planning to celebrate at my DDad's on the day. So T-11 for me. It's also the (17th) anniversary of DMum's death and my DSis and DBIL are going too, so a pre-xmas family get-together. DDad is a bit sad this year, as none of his 5 children will be at his for xmas itself (all either abroad or with in-laws) so this is our xmas.

HOWEVER: it is 2 hours (and a lot of M25) away from my home. If I go we will definitely want to stay overnight rather than coop a toddler up in the car for 4-5 hours on the Saturday before xmas.

Is this a risk I want to take? i.e. potentially going into labour miles from home. (DDad delivered me, a 20 min labour, so he's handy!). It is still 10 days before my due date, and I'd love to spend the time with my DFam... but DP doesn't want to risk it. What do you all think?

Not heard anything from her either. Hope you're well shake.

Tango I don't think you can plan at this point. It's not unreasonable to say this is what you hope will happen, but obviously you could drop out even on the day. Will it cause a lot of difficulty if you drop out last minute for others? As long as they won't be majorly effected it's not unfair to let them know you might drop out last minute. It also depends how you feel, you don't want a long car ride if your spd is bad again.