Breathing through the scanxiety, putting all our faith in Jill and fantasising about illicit paddling pools and fanjo fans - it's JS grads thread 32!

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Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 32nd grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The thread we have graduated from is here in its 50th outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread here for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

Here is the stats list, please update your own spot with any updates.

JC I have back problems as well, the stretchy worked well in early days last time. Later I used a soft structured (Beco Gemini) as I couldn't hold and tie once DD got heavy. I think you live near where I used to - I can add you to the local slingmeet FB groups if you like? They have libraries to loan as well as meets to try out before you buy.

La with DD my plug went after I'd been contracting for about four hours. Didn't happen with Tiny.

sharing sympathy with you there toast! I didn't realise you where another NHS slave worker

niff my midwife called hospital at my 20w appointment for a copy of my booking bloods (across trusts) only to find that they had lost them .. and hadn't thought to ring me for more glad you got it sorted asap!

pud YES! me! I have been pretty lucky with the eczema for the last few years and then suddenly now I'm getting blisters all over my fingers and palms again. So itchy in this weather as well!

Got to say, I'm a bit worried about how my cat will react to baby. She's not particularly needy, but probaby won't understand that she can't sleep on the baby. Her current favourite place is on the changing mat, as it is perfectly placed to get the morning sun... Do any of you have 'cat nets' for the cot?

Just had a quick google of 'how to keep cat out of cot' and I can't believe how many people advocate 'just getting id of the cat'! Shocking that people see animals of something you can just 'get rid of'. Added to this the amount of people that say it is un-hygienic to have an animal in the same house as a baby.. I'm sorry, our lo will be coming outside and toddling around on mountains as soon as she is old enough, shock horror, exposing her to the vapours of the outside air.

Sorry. Rant over. Just made me a little mad and I knew you lot would understand my indignation!

My Plug came away in stages la (Clear dollop of snotty goop was bang on 38 weeks) and then I had Brown-goo-gate for about a week after before waters started to leak at 39/4 with added bloody show. I had lots of yellow, almost light green looking CM in the run up though, was going through 4-5 pantyliners a day.

Oh the joy!

Can I have a mini rant?? So, it has been necessary to tell a few people about being pregnant. Without fail, the response is "oh, should you say yet? But congratulations!"

Do they realise how that sounds? "Don't get your hopes up, it might die" is what I hear.

Don't get me wrong, I've had an early MC, I know all about them. But fuck me, how pessimistic are some people? Geeez! If I have made choice to tell them its cause they needed to know! Gragh!

Also, fingers on buzzers... Early scan, yay or nay?

People will say annoying and inappropriate things all the way through honey! Depends on what conversation had taken place before - they could be a bit worries you felt you had to tell them so it's almost an apology? If not, it's just thoughtless words from silly people. I'm torn on early scans. I rejected the idea for this pregnancy, I just went with ignoring I was pregnant as much as possible and waiting for the disappointment that thankfully never came.

I had a friend that got rid of the at a when she got pregnant mountain, she told us she was going to over a meal out and I couldn't look at her. I'm sure she is wondering why we haven't but it was never even an option!

Are there different vitamins for BF wil? Hadn't even thought about that!

I put LOTR on... That's how rubbish daytime telly is and DH hasn't set up my Netflix!

Honey how insensitive!! I had the same reaction from one person that we told. Others have just been close family, and we did preface it with "it's still early days so please keep schtumm until we know we're in the clear". That way it left no room for them to make such a comment. (though technically I guess you can never be 100% sure you're in the clear. Anything could go wrong at any stage. I am constantly P.A.R.A.N.O.I.D. about mc-ing, but praying that it's a sticky bean!)

I also had a fair bit of bleeding, so we didn't want to tell anyone until we knew what the situation was. ...which also leads me to your qu about early scans - I had one cos of the bleeding. It really put my mind to rest when I could see the heartbeat at 8 weeks, so at least I know it is alive! And in the right place (not ectopic or anything).
If you have serious cause for concern or are worried, you should go for an early scan just for peace of mind. Esp if you've had prior mcs around this time. Do they just let you have one if you ask?? Or does there have to be a 'legitimate' reason for it?

Oh and no bleeding all week! hooray! Hope that it's finally stopped for good.
I reckon it must have been baby snuggles with mini RM wot did it - sent happy sticky bean vibes into my womble or summat

Bloody cat has had a bird! It's still alive for now but not sure it will make it. Have put it in a box in the porch as it's cool in there to give it some time to recover and hopefully calm down.

Any other tips?

Roast it for dinner?? Or make into game pie?? ;-)
(jokes)
I don't know what they like to eat drink... maybe give it a saucer of water??

Haha. It's only a sparrow mae so barely worth the effort for the meat.

Yay for no bleeding though! Didn't mean to crash your post!

Thank you ladies and great news Mae! I've not heard from midwives yet so may ask at booking appt. But then it'll only be a few weeks anyway.

My concern is that it will be bad news. I woke up this morning to a mild cramp and my immediate thought was "oh, I'm miscarrying. It was nice whilst it lasted!" I was surprised not to see any blood on wiping. So I wonder if it would reassure me. Don't know!

Also, I am a pregnant woman and I am scared of cramps. Last time I was crampy the whole time, which turned in to "normal person" period style cramps, which then turned in to my type of cramps and a MC. So now, every time I feel one, or anything really in womb area, I'm scared!

I've had (mild-ish) cramps too honey. Whenever I'd been feeling crampy, next time I went to the loo, lo and behold there was spotting or blood.
So it's not always a sign of mc-ing, sometimes it's fine and it's just one of those things.
Lady who did my scan said she couldn't see any reason for the bleeding/cramping, and that it didn't seem to be interfering with the development of the pregnancy. She gave me a printout of the scan details (no pic sadly), and it said at the bottom "outcome of scan: viable pregnancy" -I was so happy when I read that!

You could always say that you've been cramping and bleeding (they didn't ask to see evidence), and they'd probably offer you an early scan. Especially if you mention prior mc.

Right, off to sit in the sunshine for my lunchbreak - so glad my workplace has a garden!

honey I'm quite often crampy. I think it's womble stretching pains normally. I get quite sharp pains when in badly bloated with trapped wind. For me the early scan was a big help to see bean had a HB. I won't lie though, I am bricking it for my scan Tuesday. I'm partly hearing myself up for bad news I think.

mountain I was worried about exactly the same things with my two cats so bought a net. It never got used! As soon as the baby was in the cot or moses the cat wouldn't go in it. Occasionally my female still enjoys a snooze in the cot so I keep the nursery door shut all day and when he was in the moses I would put a towel in it just in case but I think she only got in once. As for how the cats react, my female keeps out of arms reach, the male didn't give a shit and was too stupid to realise his ears being pulled isn't fun

Dulcet if cats had it it's not likely to survive without help as it'll either die of shock or it will have puncture wound (very tiny, very difficult to see). Can you take to vet?

You could take it outside and see if it flies away

I think it's gone la, it was panting and stuff but their little hearts can't take it. It's quite still now but will give it an hour to see if it's just testing - don't want to mess with it in case.

We actually have a bird lady nearby that takes injured wild birds and works with the vets to bring them back to health where possible. Was waiting to see if it was worth a all but it's too late. We took a pigeon there once which is how I found her.

There is no right or wrong answer honey as it is whatever makes you feel better. You could have a scan today and cramp tomorrow and still worry - nothing is certain. But it's what will help you feel better about it all.

Poor birdy they do tend to die of shock. I wring their necks because it's more humane

Aww RIP little bird, at least you cared enough to want to help dulcet.

We've just been and bought paint for the baby's room!

What colour bat?? Can we see??

I was worried it would go that way la, although not actually sure how I would do it. Bloody cat!

at wringing birdie's necks. I can't offer cat/ bird/ any animal advice, DH is allergic to virtually every furry animal and so I cannot have pets unless I divorce him

honey I forget how far along you are but as I understand it, once a heartbeat is visible the chances of mc reduce dramatically. So, yes, if an early scan will reassure you, go ahead but you may have to go privately. I had a scan at 10 weeks which was just what I needed as my lack of symptoms (yes, I used to wake up and poke my boobs to see if they hurt) meant I didn't feel pregnant for ages.

I was surprised at the amount of pain during early pregnancy - I wasn't aware of it at all - and so can understand your concern. It felt worse than period pain for me.

Just try to remember, today you are pregnant and worrying will not change the outcome

Personally I would go for early scan honey, I was lucky to have had a scan at 6 weeks and again at 9 weeks and have no idea how I would have survived without! The 9 week one was the most reassuring as the doc had said most risk was before 8 weeks.

I am on the app so can't post pics of colours but we've gone for pale grey and a pale aqua/mint colour. I want to do one wall in the greeny colour and another wall grey stripes

Right, I will talk to DH tonight. I think on balance it will prob make me feel better. And if it's not good news, at least I can find out sooner rather than later.