Breathing through the scanxiety, putting all our faith in Jill and fantasising about illicit paddling pools and fanjo fans - it's JS grads thread 32!

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Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 32nd grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The thread we have graduated from is here in its 50th outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread here for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

Here is the stats list, please update your own spot with any updates.

Thanks girls. I do need to let go. I'm glad it's not just me
I've never had more than 3 weeks off before - it's very weird!

Enjoy your fanjo wax la

It was just something that happened to me on my first day having school dinners la. I used my spoon for the beans, the kids all thought I was mental and some of them would still remember it now. I always use a spoon at home, I didn't understand!

When do people think they will tell their parents that they are in labour? Just upset my Dad by saying we wouldn't be telling him when I go in because it could be hours and hours later. MIL not happy with that either. Don't want texts and calls every 10 mins but then DH wants to just tell them once baby is born and think that might be a bit late...

My grandparents will be coming with me to the hospital (because DP can't drive) so they will know as soon as I need to go in! PiL will probably get told a similar time (and then phones turned off)

We have already told people that close family (parents, siblings) will get a message to say I'm in labour then we will update again with a call when baby is here. My mum gets a call because she needs to jump on train from York to come look after cats. We've told people they are strictly NOT to tell anyone or put anything on social media. We will then tell other family and friends when baby here, followed by Facebook post. I have seen too any people have their baby's birth announced by other folk on social media so wanted to make sure in advance that won't happen.

Also because we've told them they will get told that stops the 'have you had baby yet' phone calls

I had a convo with DH about the whole "when to tell parents" issue. As DSis is due a few weeks before me, if she goes late it would make sense for my parents to be up with her to look after her other two munchkins. So they might not be around anyway.

As such, BFF will be 2nd birthing partner if all works to plan. We will prob tell both sets when we are going in, and then when baby is born. But then both sets aren't the sort to camp out in the waiting room.

Has Wiggly popped yet?

Dulcet commiserations on your lack of painless childbirth in the night. It would have been lovely! Unfortunately it looks like you'll have to go for the agonising and undignified fanjo expulsion instead. It's a good sign though I think, all twinges and tightening are good signs in my book :)

Ga I am very jealous of your school dinner, although I hope you get bigger portions. My local hospital where I'll be having the baby does very school dinner style grub. I spent almost a month in having DD and the dinners were definitely a highlight. Chocolate pudding and custard is possibly my all time favorite dessert.

La enjoy your wax if that is even possible.

Congratulations Country, after the excitement of a bfp it's mostly waiting and worrying until the 12 week scan. It's nice to see so many new bfps after the run of babies we've had it's good to keep numbers up.

NFMA is piles I'm afraid. Horrible piles. It hurts to walk. I have cream which has helped a bit but I barely slept all weekend because it hurt so much. Don't ignore them if you have them viroids, get cream on the buggers because they get bad quickly.

I'm 26+2 now. Can't believe how quick it's going. Very much looking forward to the school holidays so I can spend more of my morning in my pyjamas and have more quality time with the little munchkins before I get too immobile for day trips. I can't wait

My mum was randomly at my house when I went into labour Dulcet so that cat was out the bag . Not sure if MrWil told his parents or not before baby came. I probably think not as there was such little time. First time was being induced so everyone knew I was going into hospital. We didn't have any rules or anything beforehand - hadn't really thought about it. First time I did tell my sis not to put anything on fb after baby arrived but someone else wrote something congratulatory on my page a few days after i had the baby when I still hadn't put anything up. Didn't bother me though, I'm not worried about announcements really, but can see it would annoy some.

We have been discussing when to tell people too.

I don't mind them knowing I have gone in to labour but I do not want them to a) either turn up at the hospital before I am ready or b) continually call/ text for an update.

My MIL went straight to the hospital when SIL went into labour with my niece. She stayed in the waiting room for 18 hours with her suitcase (she didn't live locally to my SIL at the time) until the baby was born - she went into the room when my SIL was being stitched up . She then stayed with my SIL and BIL for a week.

I have informed DH that this will not be happening to me.

MIL now lives near to SIL. The plan will be for SIL to drive MIL to us when the baby is born and so I think we will let SIL know in secret that I am in labour so she can be prepared.

My mother can be a law unto herself. I am not sure how we are going to handle her, she doesn't live far from me but she is going on holiday right before my due date so she may not be here.....

Minifleur has been wiggling away today as usual, I don't feel as though anything is wrong but I will speak to the birth centre midwife I am meeting tomorrow about it as the kicks are definitely not the same as a few days ago - it could be down to a change of position, my bump has dropped over the same period.

Another one here who has completely forgotten about work! I live close to my office and often worked from home or popped in at weekends to "finish things off". My emails used to be on my phone too but I asked for our IT dept to auto delete any external ones (they are all being forwarded to my boss) but keep the internal ones so I can keep in the loop. I check it every couple of days.
I have also popped in for the odd coffee with my work friends but more for a casual catch up.

Dulcet - I didn't realise that people told family members when they went into labour!! We will just tell people when the baby is born and then contact them properly a week later when I'm out of hospital and ready to receive phone calls (our families are far away and there's no way we're having visitors staying with us afterwards).

TBH I don't really see the point of telling people when you're in labour, unless you specifically want them at the hospital. Most (all?) hospitals don't allow phones to be switched on in the building, so you can tell people you're in labour, then basically leave them hanging on a thread for potentially hours and hours before you can give them an update!

And a huge hello to country!!!! The first weeks are a bit shit, because you tend to be really nervous about it all. Enjoy it if you can, but don't stress if you are worrying. One thing I would say is avoid getting into a POAS obsession. It honestly doesn't help, and I've seen a few people drive themselves into really rather weird places over them.

My school dinner was roast beef, Yorkshire pudding, roast potatoes, peas and cauliflower. Pudding was flapjack and custard. Here's a pic for those that can see them.

We will just tell family and close friends the section date, and let them know when we have a baby and also when they can visit.
I think I'm ok with immediate family visiting hospital, definitely grandparents. I'll probably tell people to check before they set off just in case.

Everyone knows I'm having a section at 38 weeks but that date could change

Ga that sounds amazing, can't see the pic though. (Why is this app so useless? Does anyone actually know?)

As for telling people when in labour, I would let people know and then hand my phone to dp so he can screen calls. My sister lives in London and I'd like to speak to her and my Dad will want to know too. Neither of those are going to be rushing to see me until there's a baby though so I'm safe. My mother probably would have camped out at the hospital but she's been designated babysitter of DS and DD so no chance of that now. DPil live in France so they'll be told too so they can get packing and sort out a trip back to see the baby too. I'll most likely have a house full of people staying the week I get out of hospital but I don't mind that. We're lucky to have a big family that want to be around and I'll be taking all the help I can get

Looks ok Ga, disappointed about the lack of spam fritters and mint custard though not in the same bowl

Well I definitely will be telling my close family when I'm in labour. I can't imagine not telling my mum and sisters that I'm about to give birth! And we will do the same with DH's family. But both sides will respect our wishes and won't be waiting outside while I'm crowning well they better bloody not be

gouda plenty hospitals allow the use of mobile phones, some only in certain areas. There was guidance published in 2009 which recommended that patients be allowed to use mobile phones when it is safe to do so. It depends which hospital/MLU you are in as to their policy.

Yes we were allowed phones. In fact we got free wifi.

Yeah, I have noticed that hospitals tend to be ok about mobiles now. Unless it's ICU or whatever. Think ours has wifi too.

Lots of different approaches here then - interesting! I am happy to let the parents know I am in labour and on way to hospital if I can guarantee they won't turn up/call all the time/say anything on social media or to those that might say something. Maybe I need to lay out some ground rules! It's MiL I am most worried about just turning up. I don't want people waiting in the hospital - happy for them to come when I am ready and at visiting hours! The situation you described fleur would be my nightmare!

What is mint custard purple? Does this exist?!

How did you rate the dinner then ga? Will it do?

my hospital allows phones :) maybe it's a france thing?

Shit the bed - gaggia that sounds amazing! So jealous

Our hospital definitely allows phones - I'd thought most do now.

My family haven't a hope in hell of turning up at the hospital. Dhs folks in Scotland, sil in Leeds, my dbro in New York they've got no idea where hospital is or how to get there, even if they wanted to which they wouldn't. Pil have already said they'll only come visit when we tell them it's ok to and my DM is only coming down to look after our cats as a favour, she's got no intention of coming to the hospital.

We want our family to know I'm in labour because they would love to know. We'll send them a wee message on way to hospital and then phone when baby's here. I doubt any of them would phone to ask how things are going, they're not like that.

I'll not bother to tell my dad though until baby's here as I don't think he'd be interested

Foof is waxed and ready for its close up! MiniLa you can arrive now!

Hurray La

Am I so old that I'm the only one to remember chocolate sponge with green mint custard?

I remember the white sponge cake (coconut?) with hundreds and thousands and pink custard

Oooh I remember the coconut cake! And the chocolate cake but it had chocolate custard that was cold and gloopy