Jan 2016 #5 - Scanxiety, sickness and sweet relief as we approach the second trimester!

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So sorry lil, thinking of you

Now I know I'm over hormonal and over sensitive.... Cleaning the flat and smelled DH's aftershave (my fave one) and burst into tears

FFS!!! Lol!

So sorry lil, lets hope your fears aren't realised.

fisherman I am intrigued by your island snorkeling. Sounds awesome. Are you in some marine sciency role?? I only ask because I always thought most employers were very over-cautious about fieldwork if you were pg. At least in this country.

Am so glad that first trimester is over. I'm loving the return of my energy (to those not there yet, don't worry it will happen! I'm 12+ 5 now) which means I can actually get things done. Also looking forward to having a bump that starts growing more noticably so I can look visibly pregnant instead of being at that horrible in between stage.

Still fx for a good outcome liliana look after yourself.

Yes aloha I'm a marine biologist. Had to tell employer I was pg really early so all risk assessments could be reviewed etc and certain work 're allocated. Was weird them knowing before most of family! Last few days was mostly boats and island birds, which was lovely if exhausting at 11 wks. Feeling a bit daft for pulling out of the snorkelling (it was only really a gentle pootle). But I just had this weird feeling of being vulnerable in the swell. Being pg has made me all protective!

I'm stuck in front of comp most days but it does mean I've had to pull out of a few surveys later in the year (spending 2 weeks on a trawler at 28 weeks pg in late Oct doesn't sound such a good idea!).

Totally ready to have a proper bump, rather than looking like I've gorged on takeaway for weeks.

Lil I'm really sorry to hear that. Hope you've got lots of support in RL. Take care of yourself

lil Sorry to hear that - keeping my fingers crossed for you.

fishermanswife I did Marine Biology at Uni - ended up going into teaching Biology as I decided that there were only so many barnacles I could count on a sea wall in my life (ahhh semibalanus balanoides and chthalamus montagui, my old friends!) - your job sounds pretty cool though!

I hit 11 weeks today, don't have my scan until 12+6, and I am really starting to get worried about it. OH thinks I'm crazy, as everything seems to be going smoothly and no issues, I am still having nausea and morning sickness on and off, but I can't shake the horrible feeling that something has gone wrong, and we'll find a missed miscarriage at the scan. This has absolutely no basis in fact, and I know it's quite rare, but I am just worrying so much over it all. I've been quite chilled out up until now, but I really just can't shake this stupid worry. Did anyone else feel like that, or am I just a crazy lady?!?!

I think preg hormones just make you crazily anxious Valancy. I didn't obsess too much about my scan, but as you know, had plenty of other outlets for my worrying! You'll be fine.

valancy you are not crazy - well if you are then most of us here are too Despite having three scans, a developing belly and boobs, and all the symptoms i am still petrified that we will got for our 12 week scan on Monday and it'll be a mmc. My rational brain thinks the rest of me is hilarious!

fish your job sounds so much more exciting than mine.... I'm an accountant/financial risk manager so a spreadsheet is about as exciting as my life gets at the moment, and most of the time i'm knee deep in european legislation dreams about a career change

Valancy I've been having that too despite still having symptoms.

My SIL was asking about our scan the other day and I said I was nervous in case there wasn't anything in there when we have it.

She said:
"I know this is a stupid question but you have done a test haven't you"
Me: ummmm 4 actually
Her: "and you be not had bleeding/serious bleeding/pains eye
Me: nope
Her: "then I'm damn sure there'll be something in there the only thing you need to worry about is if there's 1 or 2.

Even though MMC's can occur she kind of put me at ease a bit.

Oh god.... Clearly my spelling has deserted me

Sooooo many mistakes!

lil I'm so sorry to hear things don't look good, I hope you have lots of support in RL

valancy we all feel like that I'm sure. I have my 12 week tomorrow and panicking about mmc even though I saw a health bean in there less than two weeks ago. We worry because we care do much... And the crazy mental hormones.
I font think I could stare at barnacles either. I'm a birds and dolphins kinda gal.

Kep funnily enough, despite the different title, I see similarities. I jumped on the training course this weekend as I haven't been on a boat for months! I'm the manager of the surveys so most of my job also entails battling through huge spreadsheets and making sense of EU monitoring legislation. Yuk.

Today I feel like I wish my days largely just involved sitiing in a paddling pool with ice lollies. Thats the dream

Liliana I really don't know what to say, but I am thinking of you

lil I am so sorry

lil I'm so sorry, please come back on here if you want some virtual support.

valancy totally normal to be nervous I was so anxious before our 12 week scan last week and we'd only seen the baby two weeks before at 10 weeks.

Had my low risk letter for the Down's syndrome screening today, yey! In my health board they don't give you the risk figures, which I'm quite glad about actually as I would only analyse. The phlebotomist said I could ring and ask for them but I've decided against it - low risk and no further testing needed is good enough for me

Those still struggling with first trimester symptoms, it does get better! I couldn't imagine it as I felt so awful but today I'm 13+5 and feeling much better, not 100% but a massive improvement. Hang in there

Valancy Yep I totally feel the same. I had to tell some friends over the weekend (well, they guessed since I wasn't drinking which is unheard of unusual) and I was trying to tell them it wasn't definite since there might be nothing in there! Monday's 12 week scan can't come soon enough, I'm very jealous of all the ladies that have had early scans. Although seeing a baby in there will make it suddenly seem very real I think!

Thanks all, sorry it was brief earlier DH was taking me to see Jurassic park. It was actually just what I needed - dark, didn't need to talk, not much concentration needed and kept my mind occupied for a couple hours.

I know it's over for me, I'm just hoping it's finished by next weekend as I'm being a bridesmaid for my sister and I am not ruining her day.

Thank you so much for all your support and I really hope you all go on to have very boring pregnancies and lovely babies at the end. Good luck everyone xx

Oh Lilliana so sad to hear your news. Hope you're ok thinking of you.

Valancy I was exactly the same. Barely slept last night for worrying. We can't help these irrational thoughts though,eh?!

Miss Martin glad to hear you're feeling reassured :-)

So sorry liliana

I'm so sorry liliana, I know nothing really makes sense in that situation but I am glad that you have support from your DH. Please take care and do come back for our support if you need it. I have been there.

Another spreadsheet botherer here. My brush with European legislation also involves lovely VAT and customs issues thrown in. Back to work on Monday - I've been off for a year on maternity leave and dreading it! Will have major Sunday-itis and can't even calm it down with a glass of vino.

So sorry Lil Look after yourself.

Jane I feel exactly the same. I wish I'd had an early scan now. I'm not quite 10 weeks and still don't have a date for my 12 week scan. We'll get there.

Hi ladies, is it too late for another one to join? I have been lurking but after an awful mmc in jan (and another back in 2011) I have been too anxious to post. Had a lovely scan today though putting me at 10wks (just ahead of LMP) so I feel like I might be able to start enjoying things a little more (although in reality I won't really relax until baby is in my arms!). This is baby number 3 - I also have a 20 month old and a 3 year old.
I recognise some of you from the ttc after mc thread (waves to brickie and kep)

Hi & welcome romeo, I know it's hard to relax isn't it. I had an MMC in Jan 2013 and in my following pregnancy I lurked on the July 2014 thread the whole 9 months without ever posting. This time I jumped straight in...it's better out of the closet.

So sorry lil

Welcome romeo

Fisherman I know what you mean about telling work. I am/was also marine bio doing lots of survey work. Had to tell my boss at about 6 weeks with DS as I had a bleed and was told to avoid heavy lifting. As I was expected to lug around heavy kit at work it was a dead giveaway. With DD I tried to hold off telling him for a while longer but then I was expected to drive a small boat with smelly diesel engine with hideous morning sickness! This time I'm a stay at home mum, so no boss to tell except DH!!

And yes kep even as a marine biologist most of my work revolved around spreadsheets too!!!

Good luck returning to work crumble. It must feel funny going back in and already be working towards the next maternity leave!