February 2016 - Will the chundering ever cease?!

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Gosh Mars, don't be silly. It is just a good wake up call that scans don't always lead to reassurance but can open up a can of worms. I was going to have one to get my dates in order but it might well make it even hazier. I'm a closet worrier .

My birth with DD was awesome. Don't anyone be afraid of an ELCS (breech baby) - do your research, take the painkillers and don't listen to anyone from NCT who tells you that sections are the devils' work. They're paid to scare you away from them!

I'm so tired! Nausea slightly better today thankfully though.

Been a long day as trapped inside with pox covered DS and we're both going stir crazy! Not got the energy for entertaining a sick child at the moment.

Nice to hear positive birth experiences, DS was born by Emcs 2 months early thanks to preeclampsia, so never experienced labour and it is weighing on my mind a bit! Would everyone recommend NCT or it a bit of a waste of time/money?

I thought NCT was a great way to meet people (I don't live in my home town), and I made some good friends there.

In terms of advice and information; you'll find better on here, and won't have to sit through excruciating "relaxation techniques" that just make you giggle. Although if that's your thing, great!

I'll be joining NCT but really to meet new people.

Am so tired, have been asleep most of the afternoon. I'm desperate to go to bed

We did nct with dd1 & I would definitely recommend it. It's a great way to make friends with other people in the same situation & it's really nice to meet up once you all have babies!

My birth with dd1 wasn't the best but everyone says the 2nd time round is easier... Don't they?

Purdie how are you today?

Mumof1sofar my second birth was loads better then my first. By terrible standards the first wasn't the worst it could have been but being induced wasn't fun at all. With my second birth I went in to labour naturally after a sweep and the pain was so much more manageable and it was all done in under 2 half hours just on G&A.

Yeah, NCT is a great way to meet affluent, middle-class, white women

Twin, I am not attempting to negate your wonderful and relatively pain-free birth, flower. I just wanted to reassure those who are scared of pain that, despite it being the most overwhelmingly painful experience for the majority of women, it doesn't last forever, and I can't wait to do it again, personally. I just despair when women go into childbirth believing wkmen like the obscenely bonkers Ina May, whose book 'Spiritual Childbirth' was the biggest crock of steaming shit I have ever endured. Orgasmic birth, anyone?

Brummie, thanks for asking. I have what feels like a permanent stitch in the area of my left ovary. Anyone else got owt like this? How are you, Brummie, flower?

I'm sorry for sounding snippy and cynical, everyone. I am worried I am losing this baby but I shouldn't bring my grumpy attitude here.

Purdie chick I have that feeling every single day, you've just gotta live with it, and we will. One day at at time - and we can do it together

I've struggled this week but it's the 8 week thing - it's really really difficult for me and I can't even be reassured by my scan as all I can think about is "this week last time, my baby had died and I had no idea" and I'm finding that a real struggle

But I'll be 9 weeks on Wednesday with next scan on Friday - just got to take it literally one day at a time.

I'm on no sex until week. 14 and the progesterone gets shoved where the sun doesn't shine ( tmi!! ) so as not to irritate my cervix and cause spotting.

At the moment not a dot so far but the dampness keeps stressing me out.

Feel like I'm the only 1 on here with baby number 1. Hah I just have stories of misery and sadness

Anyone else baby number 1??

brummie I'm a first timer too. Find it all terrifying!

Yesterday I had a good day, hardly any nausea, today I feel wretched again! I didn't really sleep last night and I'm sure it is linked.

I'm also baby 1 brummie. Pregnancy 1 as well (as far as I know), so very new to this game! Anyone not having an early scan? Personally I don't see the point as you only get a snapshot of right there & then. Is there something I'm missing out on? (And would also like to spend ~£100 on something more useful) loner

This is number 1 for me too Brummie (hopefully!).

Rhi I'm not sure whether I'd get an early scan if I had to pay for it. I get them included on my health insurance (it's obligatory here and I'm lucky I have a good package). I still think I'd be tempted to get one in the UK though, but you're right it really only is a snapshot in time.

Thanks bopoity, good to know.

Rhi, we're not having an early scan either.

Purdie & brummie hoping for sticky beans for both of you.

I am baby number one...I had an early scan as I didn't know dates (it was 6-7 weeks, am now around 9 weeks and I am still worried that something has happened in there that I don't know about! I don't know why but I'm trying to reassure myself that of something had gone wrong it's more than likely I would have some kind of symptom. I still have very few actual pregnancy symptoms other than hunger and tiredness!

Brummie, I think about you often and how much of a stoic you are. I know you are terrified, though, and you are sterling yourself for the worst. Let's just try to remember we are pregnant with different eggs this time

Rhea, if you've never suffered a mmc at 12 wks then you won't understand the urgency for an early scan. Never again do I want the horrible shock of being told, at my 12wk scan, that the baby died very early on. Yes, it's only a snapshot in time, but my scan last week ruled out a blighted ovum for me, and I was elated to know my mc rate had plummeted to 2%.

*sterling = steeling

Sorry Rhi, I called you Rhea, like the grizzled rock god.

I had an early scan for dc3, not sure why to be honest. Didn't have any early scan for dc1/2. Probably won't have one this time round as we hadn't planned a 4th, I trust that what will be will be.

Brummie, I'm a first timer. And Purdie, I've had that awful silence at the 12 week scan too, with my first pregnancy- desparate to get to Wednesday, when I have a scan at 9am and should be 6+3, to check that it's not a blighted ovum again. Terrified of that, hence being a bit quiet here!

Perhaps someone could answer my question here. I don't know much about it but I was wondering the other day whether a blighted ovum still causes your hcg to increase? Or would it stop/slow down dramatically? Got my 7 week scan on Wednesday but only saw a yolk sac last week. It was too early, I know, but can't help thinking there may be nothing there. Hcg is rising well though.

brummie first time here too and find it all overwhelming but this thread is a real comfort.

rhi not getting an early scan either - I'm over 35 but GP and midwife on the phone didn't think I was high risk enough for an early scan. I toyed with the idea of a private scan but DH convinced me to just let things run their course.

purdie I know it's going to bloody hurt but I just want to be reassured that it's not always like the nightmare stories of forceps and infected stitches 9 months later, etc etc. some posts paint a nightmare picture in sordid detail not just the birth but the recovery in the ward and with some midwife stories that could give Disney stepmothers a run for their money!

My older sister gave birth to her first DS when I was 22 and not wanting to go into detail all she said was it was like getting hit by a bus - it hurts when the bus hits you but you actually feel it more the days after.

Everyone deals with labour and the days that follow differently. We all have different pain thresholds, different bodies, different babies. I was back to childminding when dc3 was a week old, it would have been sooner but he needed to stay in hospital.

Abfab, I don't know I'm afraid- didn't do HCG levels that pregnancy as it was low risk. I had lots of symptoms- exhaustion, massive boobs etc, no bleeds- and the sac was growing normally, there was just no fetal pole in it. I don't know how normal that is, but have every confidence that everything will be fine on Weds- what time is your scan?