Avoiding accidental golden showers and unsolicited bump touching while enjoying the gamble of the poo-lottery and apparently getting more massive by the day - JSer grads 31!

[DulcetMoans]

Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 31st grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The thread we have graduated from is here in its 49th outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread here for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

Here is the stats list, please update your own spot with any updates: Stats

Not for the foreseeable, Ga. DH on a 3y post and is only a year into it. We have tenants in our place (allowed pets but don't have one ), so we'll see what needs doing when we move back. No doubt more than we anticipate! If I get pregnant reasonably quickly, I want to stay here to deliver too. I know what care I'll get and I'm happy with it, and I don't know that the NHS would cope especially well with what I want... I also want to leave here with happy memories, not to rush back and have a cloud over what is actually a really nice place.

Ahhh, what a beautiful kitty mountain!

Thanks for the furniture advice. DH also suggested a cot top changer and I guess if we're more creative about furniture options then no problem getting a more useful chest of drawers rather than one specifically for a changing table. I likey.

We've bought paint tester pots and wallpaper this morning for the room and now queueing for miiiiles to get into town to go to ikea for meatballs and the baby shops etc.

We have friends who moved a month before due date but baby was 2 weeks early so they were still unpacking boxes when she went into labour and carpets were being fitted the next day. She was kept in a few days so managed to miss the worst of the chaos.

Chat that's a positive way to look at it that you want to have happy memories of where you are when you leave. You sound so strong.

Lily is beautiful! My boys are my family and we had to pay extra £500 deposit to have them in this house, but it's worth it! They totally love this house and are so much more chilled here, we won't move unless there's a really good reason now.

chat that's pretty understandable. The care in Belgium is meant to be excellent. You seem pretty settled there too.

Aww thanks for the lily love guys :) my other daughter! She's just been flirting with the midwife hussy, she bites everyone else!

Sounds like the best decision chat, are you hoping to get pregnant again soon?

Aw, sharing the raised by grandparents love jelly! I've not heard from my mum since I was 6 but that's probably easier than having that weird false relationship.

Sounds like a plan chat, are they still seeing you for follow ups etc?

That is so sad pud, were they handing it in for good or just until they got sorted? I didn't realise common law wasn't a thing until we were getting married. We weren't going to either, we were going to have a baby instead! Solves some problems at least. Good for you though ga, buying a house is a pain in the arse at the time but worth it when it's done.

Ikea, on a Sunday toast?! You must really want meatballs.

Ikea on a Sunday - are you mad?

We only moved into our last place so that we could have a cat as I really missed not having one, having grown up with them. We ended up with a pretty grotty house though but allowing pets was high on our list when looking, and we knew it wouldn't be for long. No cat flap so we had to let her in and out the door, luckily she's not much of a roamer and we kept her in at night and when we were out at work etc. when we moved we put a catflap in for her but other cats were invading! She was really unsettled for a while until we upgraded to one that recognises her chip and now she's happy as Larry.

Yes, turns out we're mad. It's hell. I think I've only ever been on a weekday evening before. The queue is loooong but DH is apparently too hungry to wait until we find somewhere quieter later. Thought I was the pregnant one! So we're queueing for meatballs.

Gosh Toast, good luck!

Lily is a pretty kitty!

Chat I'm glad you have a plan, can you put it into action yet? Are you likely to stay longer than the 3 years? You do sound very positive

There are some arsehole parents out there. I'm very grateful mine are pretty normal apart from some of the 1970s advice!

DH wasn't raised with pets so he's really not keen. I had cats when I lived on my own but had to re-home the last one - he got very stressed by my ex moving in so my friend took him. should have chosen the cat not the cocklodger
Purplecat now lives the life of Riley with small boys who love him to bits and give him all the attention he needs
If I'm ever at home all the time I would love a dog though. DH definitely not keen!

So far today we have removed all the mould from around the window in the nursery - it was hidden by the blind. All I can smell is bleach now. Lakeland mould remover is the dogs bollocks.

We've put the cotbed together and worked out where it will all go. DH has sent me for a sit down while he does the chest of drawers.
I wish we were decorating but the baby will get its proper room next year when we extend the house. There's just no point decorating a room that's going to be demolished

I haven't got the curtains and light fitting yet as work are giving me vouchers so it could end up waiting til baby arrives. The light in there is ok and there's a wooden blind which is staying

I need to get on the laptop and see this cat don't I...

Yes, still being seen a lot - my consultant emails me fairly frequently with updates. I have the last battery of tests (hopefully) with Haematology next week, and obs appt the following week. I'll need more if Tiny had a chromosomal problem but I don't really think he did.
Really hoping to get pregnant quickly, Mountain. Emotionally I think it will help me heal, and fundamentally, I just really, really want another child. It's that simple. Not to replace Tiny - he will always be DC2 - but to add to the family. Also, from a practical point of view I have to consider my career - how I'll cope going back into NICU and onto labour ward...I resuscitate babies for a living - and we don't always succeed. I think that would be easier if I had a successful pregnancy behind me, rather than still to come. I'd also be an unreliable team member if I got pregnant and need very frequent checkups!

I don't think I'm any stronger than any of you - it's just thankfully I'm the only one who has had that strength tested...

Three weeks, Purple I'm not counting I've no idea if we'll stay longer, I'd be fine with that, I'd equally be happy to come home. Wherever we go next, the deal is I need to be able to work - my French is not quite good enough yet but could be, but working in English is easier!

Ikea on a weekend? No meatballs are that good!

chat you do sound so strong, I could imagine it being really hard at work in that situation.

dulcet it's the best being raised by grandparents eh :) they have all the experience of raising kids already and you become their favourite grand child

Completely understand that chat, I was thinking about you when I was in resus the other day and how hard it would be for you to go back to work. Both my Grandmother and my mil lost babies in the second tri and immediately got pregnant again, my Grandmother always said it was the only way she could survive it (she went on to have in diagnosed twins later down the line and always said my mother was 'popped back in'). Sounds like the Belgium system would give you more support too

So strong chat You are amazing!

Broke our 14 week sex drought this morning, I so needed it!!!

Also what does it feel like when the baby moves? I'm 16 weeks today and I was doing my pregnancy relaxation cd and felt this kind of pop, like something hitting my bladder and then a couple of seconds later another lighter one. It was similar to the feeling of wind but not the same. I'm not sure......

Oo exciting if it was the baby moving jc!! :)

Having another symptomless day today! Scanxiety kicked in but it's not for a week and 2 days lol.

Ooh JC, that's exciting if it is!

I am still symptomless Jelly. 5+5 today, so not surprising I guess!

I can't remember who was asking about a wee sample but I have to take one to every MW appointment. They leave some pots on the reception desk and I just do it when I get there.

chat I really admire you. I was only talking to my mum the other day about her first child who was stillborn. It has been 40 years but he is still discussed in our family. She is very paranoid that we check for movement and have a late scan etc. I took her with me to the MW so she could hear the baby's heartbeat.
It sounds like you are receiving better support in Belgium and I can see what you mean about raving with good memories.

I have no idea how you did your job anyway, let alone after your own personal experience.

BBQ today rained off and then the bloody sun came out!! I did eat half a tub of ice cream though

Sounds like it jcandy!

I'm currently trying to persuade my lazy girl to do a bit more dancing. She's moving, but not as much as I would like

Ooh JC, that's exciting. I keep feeling 'things' and wondering if it is the baby, but have no idea really it may well just be wind I was just thinking of you this afternoon, how are you feeling?

Mountain I hope she starts dancing for you soon.

Try not to worry Jelly.

That's totally it JC, like little flutters. Exciting!

It's amazing what we are capable of enduring when we have to Chat, but you do seem to have a very positive outlook which I'm in awe of.

Dulcet that made me laugh about your stickers. I spent an AGE trawling the internet for MiniWil's room to find a tree which wasn't teeny in relation to the animals. I got totally obsessed with it. Eventually found a set which were bloody expensive. I talked my mum round into buying them as an early Christmas present for the baby .

I hope it is I felt it the same earlier in the week too but just thought I was going crazy.

Aww pud thanks for thinking of me I'm Ok. Got my midwife appointment and GP appointment on Tuesday so going to see what other help is available and find out whether I should go back to work. I don't really know what to do to be honest, I start to feel a bit overwhelmed when I think of work but I can't stay off forever! There isn't much stress at home so I have no idea how I will cope with it. Physically though I'm much better. Still having to nap sometimes and still feeling nauseous at times but completely manageable which is good

Gah viroids! I've got back from holiday to a letter from the hospital telling me they've moved my 12 week scan from tomorrow to Tuesday!! This is not ok - we've both taken tomorrow off work, and it clashes with a meeting I really need to go to, and which has been organised around the scan. Bastards bastards bastards!

Aaaargh! I'm raging. But I don't think there's much I can do. I hate feeling impotent in the face of useless bureaucracy.

All this talk of moving house is making me nervous. I'm moving to a new continent at 28 weeks. Eeek.

Right, I'm off to the website to look at cat pics... We have my parents dog with us at the moment (parents too). She's ace, but she's old now and deaf as a post.