August 2015 Part 4

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Hi all. I would like to announce the birth of Eva who was born at 9:10am yesterday (8/8) after approx 13 hours of proper labour. Water birth with just gas and air (but I was begging for a c-section by transition) got away with a small tear that didn't require stitches. She was 7lbs 3oz.

Congratulations Happygojo! What a beautiful baby. Sounds like a positive birth experience too (although I'm sure it didn't feel quite so good at the time ).

Dozy I really hope the sweep does it's thing and you go into labour (if you haven't already). I also hope you have been able to get some rest. Hopefully today will prove less stressful than the past few days for you.

mzzzf, it must be difficult to have no choice in how you feed your little one, but in the grand scheme if things, it really isn't important. What matters is that baby is fed and nourished, not where that nourishment comes from. You're doing such a fabulous job to look after your little girl and meet all her needs in the best way that you can.

Congratulations happy
What a beauty! Well done you. I hope you are recovering well and enjoying the snuggling. Thank you for sharing your news.

I hope you're alright dozy? And that the bp is behaving today? Dp really should be doing all of the jobs for you now.
Great news about your cervix - things sound to be heading in the right direction. You could still go into labour today. But the thinning and dilation will definitely give you a head start tomorrow regardless.
How exciting that you will have the little one in your arms soon. I'm very envious! I hope you have a restful day and don't feel too nervous.

Thanks for sharing your story mzzf. You've been so brave. I'm glad the c section felt calm and controlled, even in an emergency.
I hope you're recovering well, settling into your new home and enjoying your new born snuggles.
Can I ask you how the pooches are getting on with the little one? Do they seem ok? I'm slightly nervous about frolicdog feeling very put out when out baby comes to spoil her routine.

I hope you enjoyed the wedding OMC. Plenty of dancing should be great for getting baby into position.

Wow, equimum, that's an epic walk! I'm managing a few miles a day, but nowhere near that. Well done! I hope you're not too sore today and that it might have kicked something off.
My dh also seems to think he needs a bag full of rubbish food to help me through labour

I hope you're feeling less emotional today jockstar? When is your physio appointment? It can't be helping if you're in pain. Hoping you have a nice, restful Sunday.

Nothing exciting to report here. Not a single twinge! We had a lovely day in the sun yesterday and a gorgeous meal out last night. Today we're visiting some friends. I'm just going to concentrate on trying to do nice things with dh while it's just the two of us I think. Otherwise I'm going to go crazy waiting for the little dude to appear.

Happy Sunday everyone

Frolic I took advice and had them meet her really actually like anyone we have coming to the house. They were very excited to see me, as I'd been in hospital for days but their little noses were in overdrive. We took the car seat into the living room and let them have a bloody good sniff and that was literally it. If you're not nervous and precious about it, they won't be.
Since then they've been grand. I think I t helped that we didn't totally clean the blood etc off her head as she maybe smelled a bit more like me.

There's no escaping the fact that they have had less attention even though we consciously try and be the same, the fact I can't really walk or bend down means they're missing out but DH is taking them out today for a long one. If we hadn't moved we would've been using our dog walker lady to keep their routine up. See pic of our alpha dog and 'her' baby. She isn't happy if someone other than us picks her up and will stand staring at said person until she's been told to back off or makes the judgement that they're safe!

Dozy I forgot to add this last night but your DH needs a kick up the bum. Harsh as that sounds does he 'get' what you're going through in late pregnancy and what is just ahead?! Give his bloody head a wobble!!!! If you have a section he will HAVE to do everything as you'll be unable to do anything more than waddle 5metres at most!

Oh mzzf!!! That's so cute!!
I was thinking the same really about letting her sniff and just getting on with it. I'm sure she'll be fine. Dh will be able to stick to her usual walking routine and stuff. We'll probably have loads of visitors as well and she will love that. How cute that your big boy is being protective!

I'm super tearful today and I've no idea why! I've just cried because I dropped bbq sauce on my jeans

I know mzzf that was what was worrying me about his attitude that if he's like this now what will he be like after when I'm sore and if I need a section etc. I was not a happy bunny with him yesterday. He used the excuse of him not wanting a baby etc but I tried to explain that this is me that needs looking after at the moment not the baby so it shouldn't be anything about the baby, he should love me enough to want to look after me. Anyway, he's been better today. Like i say sometimes he's great but other times he really worries me with his selfish attitude.

Enough about that boring crap anyway, back to baby stuff.

Hardly slept last night because knew I was to be up early for hospital. They'd said to come in at 9 but check before hand. Rang up and midwife said come at 11. So then I burst into tears after I'd been on the phone because I'd gotten up early for no reason. Think all the emotions are getting on top of me today.
So went in at 11, bp up. Baby hadn't moved much I'm that morning but did a few kicks as they put monitor on. Ctg trace wasn't very good initially and with bp being up again they talked about inducing me today instead of tomorrow. But turned me on my side first to see if that helped the trace and it did improve and bp came down again so decided to keep plan the same and induce me tomorrow. I secretly thought since I was already there and had had shower and shaved my muff and straightened my hair in preparation that I wouldn't actually mind having it today but never mind. Makes more sense to do it tomorrow because dp needs to train some people at work tomorrow and only he can do it so at least if he gets that over and done with then he can then come home and concentrate on me and the baby. My mum will come with me until he arrives and it's not like they're gonna put the pessary in and then I'll deliver so it'll all be fine.

So had a nice day out instead watching an air show that was happening today with the red arrows. Kept active waking around to try to bring on labour naturally but no signs of it yet.

I'll keep u all posted as best I can with tomorrow's induction process. One of the Facebook ladies is not going well at all in that it just not working. She's been at it since Wednesday so hopefully mine won't be like that. Really feel for her.

Mzzf glad your dog's are ok with little baby. Very cute picture.

Frolic aren't the random emotions so frustrating! And they'll only get worse when our babies arrive. But then soon we'll be back to normal.

The random emotions get worse ladies! I cried at her cuteness yesterday and then at how lovely my dh was being in looking after me and her. Postnatal hormones are mental!!

Dozy I cannot believe your DH!! Fancy saying that about not wanting a baby at this bloody stage, maybe he's just scared or nervous but either way he really needs to get a grip, pronto!
You're s strong lady though so I'm sure you'll get it sorted and it's so good that your mum is around too.

Good luck tomorrow dozy. Will be thinking of you

I've just found my first stretch mark! My giant baby won't stop growing!

I hope you've all had a good weekend.

He's definitely really been upsetting me lately but I do think it's down to this whole life changing event which is terrifying him more than he wanted to admit initially. My friend was round earlier and I said in front of him and her that he'd been horrible and he admitted to her he had been grumpy so not as nice so at least he has realised.

He's going to be absolutely fine when she's here I'm sure of it, just need to get her out so he can fall in love with her rather than working himself up about it and making it worse.

Just put the moses basket put ready for when we come home. Can't believe next time I come home it will be with a little baby. It must be so weird that first moment you walk out of the hospital and bring them home. I'm so excited.

Ha frolic we posted exact same time then. Oh no to the stretch mark! Do u think he'll be big or is it just because you're small? I reckon mine will come out small but chubby therefore weigh more than people expect. But who knows. I don't have the biggest bump but I have wide hips so room for it to spread out rather than stick out.

Good timings on the x-posts dozy!
I'm only 5ft and have very narrow hips. My bump is over the 95th percentile. It's huge!
When I had the scan on Thursday, they measured him at being around 8lbs. The sonographer said he's chubby. If he puts on 1/2 pound a week and I go over by 2 weeks, I could be looking at a 10 pounder . Or they could be wrong as it's all guess work I suppose!

I'm sure your dp will be fine and dandy once little one is here. I think it's quite hard for them to get their heads around it because they're not actually pregnant iykwim.

How exciting that the next time you come home you will have your daughter with you. I hope you get some sleep tonight - it must feel a bit like Christmas Eve xx

I mainly lurk but occasionaly comment ,the thread moves too fast for me to keep up! Mzzzf that's an epic birth story & move as well! Dozy best wishes for the induction today I hope it all goes smoothly and quickly for you .

Good luck today Dozy!!

Hola hola hola! Happy Monday to all ladies, bumps and babies!!

Dozygirl: OMG!!!! Best of luck for today! You sound like you've been through the mill a bit these last few days, how exciting that you're going to meet your bubba soon! I'm crossing everything for you that you have a good induction and everything gets going quickly – although not too quickly ;)!!
Bit behind the times but glad you made it to the concert – what a pain re: rucksack, glad you got it back though!!

Frolicacid: How's you and those hormones this morning? I can't believe you've only just found a stretchmark! I'm so jel lol! Sun 09-

happygojo: CONGRATULATIONS!! Lovely name for an absolute beauty! Hope you're all doing well!

Equimum: Check you and your 4 mile 'stroll' out – hope you haven't ended up too achey from it!! I think I might need more snacks lol – for DH not for me – can't see me eating really? I've put some cereal bars and haribo in the bag lol – that's a balanced diet right?!

OMC1: Good luck with the MW today, hope all goes well!

mzzzf: What a birth story!! Thank you so much for sharing!! Just out of interest, how did you find the pethadine? I must say I think you're very brave watching your CS in the mirror, I think i'm a bit too squeamish for that! As I said before, you really do sound so happy and positive i'm hoping that I have that same outlook :D Loving the poochie and baby pic!

Joskar: how are you feeling? Did you have a good weekend? Your DD sounds super cute. Don't fret about what other people may think re: breastfeeding – you're doing what's best for you and your family!!

sianihedgehog: Hurrah for the move!! Boo for the state the place was left in!! I hope you're all settled in now!

pinkie87 Hope you had a lovely time in Brighton with your niece – perfect weather for the seaside!!

My hospital appointments on Friday went really well. Saw a lovely midwife who said baby was fine and dandy – although apparently she has a big bottom (poor child will be taking after me then!). Saw the obstetric consultant who was happy with the haematology plan and then the anaethetist who was also super great. I've told them i'd prefer a 'no' to a GA if I need a c-section unless it's an emergency and we discussed all the meds post labour so i'm happy with the plan now which is a weight off the mind. I sent DH out for the night so had a really lovely evening with my mum just chilling in the garden and a lovely dinner. Saturday was my birthday and I was absolutely spoilt rotten, so weird thinking this will be the last birthday that i'll be able to blow my own candles out on a cake/open presents without a 'helper' :). I basically ate ALLLL weekend and just relaxed etc. Feeling very happy and in a really good place, I just want little miss to make an appearance now!! Alas no signs of plug loss or anything so no doubt i'm going to go over...39+2 today, c'mon baby Fanby!! xx

Haha fanby that made me laugh, how can they tell how big the bottom is? Brilliant news from the appointment and that u have a good plan in place for all eventualities. Not long till baby is here with u now. Glad u had a good birthday. Enjoy eating all the food and cake, we may as well at this stage hehe. I had Chinese on sat and fish and chips on Sunday as my last weekend of treats. Also my friend bought me a reece's peanut butter Krispy Kreme donut which was absolutely AMAZING. I want to eat a million of them haha.
What a cute thought about the blowing out of candles. I'd never thought about that before.

I'm just sat here in hospital waiting for it all to start. There's 2 of us in the same bay being induced and midwife goes to other lady first because she made it in before me and then I've got 2 other women with babies. Not keen on bring in same room as babies but that's the way they do it here unfortunately.

She did it just from having a good feel I guess. Baby did also give her a good kick so I like to think she didn't appreciate the comment lol ????.
It's totally all about the food-you'll need lots of those doughnuts when baby is here, got to keep those sugar levels up! I've never had a Krispy Kreme...

I saw in fb about the mixed ward with ante and post - odd set up but has it made you more excited? I.e essssshhkk you get to meet your baby soon too!! I'm so excited for you, if a little envious that you're skipping a few days ;) you were due a day before me though so I don't count you as a queue jumper lol!! xx

Good morning!

I'm pleased your appointment went well fanby and that you have a good plan in place now. I'm about a week behind you and also very ready for baby to show up.
Hormones are much better today, thank you. I'm still lounging in bed at the moment, so that helps!
Happy belated birthday
All I seem to be doing at the moment is eating! It's not surprising that the stretch marks are appearing really. I'm meeting someone for lunch or coffee and cake every day this week

Crossing everything for a smooth induction for you dozy. How strange that you are on a ward with babies.
Reece's Krispy Kreme sounds like the best thing ever! I want one. The nearest place to sell them is about 80 miles away! WIBU to ask dh to go get me one ?

Happy Monday everyone! I wander how many of us will have babies this week?

Ooh is it Monday again? I lose track since being on mat leave. Not that I'm complaining!

dozy I'm following your induction progress closely on Fb! Hope it all goes smoothly for you and you get cuddles with baby very soon.

fanby that's really good news about your appointments. I'm really glad your mind has been put at ease a little bit. sounds like you had a great birthday too! That's super cute about baby's bum haha! Bless her!!

mzzzf thanks so much for sharing your birth story. It's really nice to hear how positive you found the c section, it is always painted as a bad thing so good to see how positive it can be. Love the photo of dog and baby too, how sweet!

siani glad you got the keys but sorry the previous guy was a total tramp!! Ew! Good luck with sorting it all but don't do too much yourself! On a positive note it may send you into labour, fingers crossed.

frolic sorry you found a stretch mark! Mine started at 34 weeks and appeared rapidly. I'm kind of used to it now and not really bothered hut finding the first one was traumatic. Haha. Enjoy the last couple of weeks of treats, I know I am! Glad you are feeling a bit better though emotionally.

So last night I went in for reduced movement. First time for me after having such a wriggler. After being on the monitor a while and changing position he got moving though and has been active today so I'm relieved. He's also 2/5ths engaged, so that's progress!

Think I lost the first bit of my plug on Friday too which I was surprised about.

Health visitor came today and it was all fine really, just chatting and form filling. She did reiterate my concerns about not having too many visitors in first week or two. Has been on my mind a lot as I know everyone wants to come immediately but I'd rather have time just the three of us at first so I can establish feeding and get naps in when I can. Just don't know how to tell people really.

Pinkie it's really tough getting what you need/ want regarding visitors after the birth. Can you try something along the lines of telling people that you are really going to need visits etc once you OH goes back to work? We have told immediate family that although we know they will want to see baby when it is tiny, we'd really appreciate some help/ linger visits once DH goes back to work. It might work if your friends/ family are more attune to subtle hints than mine (PIL arrive at a local hotel for ten days on Sunday, and DM goes on holiday for three weeks at the start of September, so ha pointed out that she'll come for a few days to help DH !!!!!!).

Frolic, glad you're feeling brighter today. Remember, scan can't always accurately measure weight, and bump size doesn't necessarily mean anything (although I can understand your anxieties ). DH keeps telling me we're having a 10lber, and although I don't expect to, it does scare me a bit (he was almost spot in with his prediction last time!).

Dozy I hope you didn't have to wait to long for the induction to start this morning and that you are already experiencing some progress. I hope it all goes smoothly and that there is some baby news soon.

Fanby, Great that feel more confident about your 'treatment'. Belated happy birthday. I'm glad you were spoilt and had a lovely day. Don't forget that sharing the blowing of the candles will also mean sharing the cake! I think my DS are the majority of my chocolate caterpillar cake this year (as well as having obviously chosen it!).

Happy Monday, ladies!

Dozy I hope everything is going okay for you today!

Had my MW appointment today, told her about the watery discharge so she gave me an examination, is definitely not my waters (although she's sent a sample off). Baby is head down, 4/5, but back to back - so am trying lots of better sitting positions this evening! That'll teach me for being such a slouch! If no baby by DD (Friday) she will be coming for a home visit on Monday and may give me a sweep then, so lets hope baby comes soon as I don't fancy a sweep!!

Off to catch up on what the rest of you lovely ladies and bumps have been up to!!

The visitors thing is hard pinkie. I think we're just going to play it by ear, see how we are and tell people to come or not at the time. Half of me thinks I'll want to hide away a bit, but the other half might want to show him off. I'm usually pretty assertive, so I doubt anyone will be surprised if I tell them to back off a bit.
I hope you're feeling re-assured after your monitoring. It must have been scary to not feel much movement.

I'm really hoping the scan / chart weight predictions are wrong equimum! Hopefully your dh is too. Although, people keep telling me that big babies are easier to birth for some reason.

I don't fancy a sweep at all either OMC. You can probably say no, but I guess when we get desperate enough, anything might be worth a go.

I hope dozy's getting on ok. Hopefully she's not posting because things are progressing nicely and we'll have her baby news soon.

Which Ina may book are you reading again jockstar? I've finished birth skills, so might try that next.

I hope everyone's had a good Monday? I've had a lovely day meeting friends for lunch and sitting in the sun all afternoon.
Going to have a bit of a bounce on my ball now. I can feel babies hands above his head, so assuming he's not engaged still. He was doing it in the scan on Thursday - it tickles and feels a bit like he's trying to swim down there.

Well today has been dull. Not much to report. Having period type cramps permanently that increase slightly but not sure if they are contractions. Guess I'd know if they were but they are uncomfortable so I'm not sure how I'm supposed to be able to sleep. Don't think I realised it would be such a long drawn out process. Just thought u got induced and then by the next day you'd have your baby but sounds like it can take longer than that.

The ladies who'd had their babies have been discharged thankfully so now it's just me and the other induced lady left. She's nice and chatty. She's in a lot more pain than me though and having proper contractions so I reckon she'll have her baby before me. I'll not be examined until 11:30 tomorrow morning to see where I'm up to.

It's weird that after being monitored for days and then being concerned about my bp that today when my admission bp was high they just ignored it and I had to ask to have it rechecked later on to make sure it had come down. All the other times they've done a full bp profile over an hour to make sure it's not staying up.

Got a tens machine on anyway just to feel like I'm doing something lol.

Ina May's guide to childbirth. The first part is all positive birth stories and then the second part takes you through various aspects of giving birth. It's quite American in places and a bit hippyish but I've found it quite revelatory. Spoke to a hypnobirthing lady today. Hopefully dh and I will have a few sessions with her to help us get our heads round it all. My main thing (I've come to realise) is that he's there, supporting me, getting me through, defending. I trust him and I don't trust the midwives. I think he'll keep me calm and get me through whatever kind of birth I have this time.

Excited for your new arrival, Dozy. Sometimes it takes a few goes I think. Fingers crossed it won't be days and you'll be getting cuddles tomorrow.

I don't believe any of the measurements. They can't know. Too many variables. Big bumps might just have lots of fluid and small ones might just be carrying up. One of the lassies at our toddler group had a bairn over 10lbs (vaginal, no interventions) and she is a size 10. Her bump wasn't huge at all.

I know how it feels Mzzf. My dd wasn't ebf until 10 weeks. In fact she didn't feed at all from me for the first three weeks. It was so hard and caused me so much stress and upset and guilt and rejection and pain. You are inevitably going to have an emotional reaction to feeding because it's such a primal thing. I was so angry that I'd been led to believe it was a straight forward choice between bf and ff when in fact there are so many more things to consider. I think it helped me to realise that the baby doesn't care about how it gets fed and formula isn't poison. I needed to bf more than she needed me to iyswim. Once I came to peace with ff with some breast milk (I only produced tiny amounts) then I started feeling much better. I was ff myself and so far haven't turned out with six heads or scales so I reckon formula is ok. My dd has been eating solids since six months and as I went back to work ft when she was eight months you'd think she'd be over it now. All that bloody hassle getting it going and now she wilnae stop!

Nothing to report here this morning. Pain intensified overnight but not proper contractions. Struggled to get comfy enough to sleep though so asked for codeine and that helped a little bit. Also using my tens machine.
BP went even higher last night probably because I was in pain but they just gave me my dose of meds early. Then told me they'd be in chare of giving me my medication now as I'd just been taking my own but they were late with my next dose and i had to go ask them. Also they haven't rechecked my bp this morning so kind of seemed pointless to give me a dose early and then be late with the next one.

Gonna be another long day. My 24 hours of the pessary will be up at 11:30 so then they'll take it out and examine me I think. Other lady opposite me had pessary just before me. Her waters broke in the night and she's getting strong regular contractions. Not jealous at all apart from the pain that she's in. I'm not looking forward to that part.

Oh dozy, sorry it's taking a while to get going. I hope you're not too tired today. I spent last Wednesday night listening to the lady in the next cubicle contract - doesn't sound like fun.
All the best to you today. I hope it goes smoothly and that it's not too long before you have your baby in your arms. Keep on at them about monitoring your bp and getting your medication.
Will be thinking of you today

Thanks jockstar. I downloaded and started the book when I couldn't sleep last night. Enjoying it so far. I hope you manage to get your hypnobirthing sessions in before little one arrives.

How is everyone else today? I've had a really crap night's sleep. I can't get comfortable and my hips feel weird. Not painful as such, just strange. I've also had (TMI) quite loose and uncomfortable bowels this morning. Hoping it's a good sign of prostaglandins getting to work. I'm trying hard not to analyse everything - this bit is like the ttc 2 week wait - but so much worse! I've got the midwife in a bit, so will see what she's got to say.

Have a good day lovelies, bumps and babies