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March 2016 babies!

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Herewegoagain31 · 17/06/2015 08:55

Anybody else out there??! Just got my faint BFP on a first response test! Only 9DPO so shouldn't really have tested - I told myself I wouldn't till I missed my period! - but was just feeling very pregnant. My due date is showing as 1st March. This would be number 2 for me, I already have a little girl, 20 months. Only symptoms so far are very sore boobs and a snuffy nose first thing in the morning!

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QforCucumber · 14/07/2015 22:06

Never that simple though marmite I know legally im allowed the time off but after previous mmc wasn't really wanting to tell my workplace until I knew all was ok. Already got 3 appointments booked and just turned 5 weeks, looks like they'll hAve to be told.

Missdee2014 · 14/07/2015 22:23

Indomitable, I'm 5+1 just but called and booked in as soon as I got my BFP. I suffered with high blood pressure during my other pregnancies so thought best to get in and monitored from as early as possible. I've not been preg for over 8 years so no doubt loads has changed. I'm off for a fortnight after next week so I'll be off work for my next appt anyway.

Embolio · 14/07/2015 22:50

me624 the only thing they wanted my dh for at booking in last time was his blood type and that was because I already knew I was rhesus negative (but he's neg too so there was no issue), I don't think they asked what anything else about him.

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Me624 · 15/07/2015 06:52

marmite I know you're legally allowed time off but like Q says I haven't told anyone at work yet and don't plan to until 12 weeks. I think I'm going to take half a day's holiday for my booking in, my boss is normally easygoing about doctors appointments and things but mine's in the middle of the morning and other ladies have said it goes on for an hour so bit different to me being half an hour late in because of a ten minute appt which I'd normally arrange for first thing.

I have a lot of commitments and meetings and things too, which are not always easy to get out of! Hoping my scan date will be at a convenient time!

Indomitable · 15/07/2015 07:30

Morning all. This is a bit of a brain-dump, sorry.

If all goes to plan, I should be able to get booking in done over the summer hols. It also means I can avoid work for the majority of the sicky bit. I know how lucky I am for this!

I'd forgotten how ridiculous this pregnancy brain thing is. Yesterday, before BFP, I made some utterly daft mistakes at work. This morning I've already poured cereal into my mug. Anyone else done this kind of thing?

I can't remember a lot of my first pregnancy, but it's amazing how different this feels already, in terms of the sheer terror at what we'd done. Both were planned, but I didn't expect the first to happen so quickly. We were taken by surprise when it did. This time, I feel happier, that I know what to expect.

I'm getting ahead of myself, though. Need to rein in my thoughts! AF is due Thursday. It could all go wrong yet.

badgerpillow · 15/07/2015 07:57

Can I join? I'm 4 weeks at the moment and exhausted!

Been doing similar things Indomitable. I normally put my keys in the same place but over the last few days I've found them in the fridge and the cupboard. Complete memory blank because I don't remember putting them there!

Pregnancy was a bit of a surprise. We were trying, but it took so long to get pregnant with DC1 I didn't expect to catch so quickly this time!

Rosieblossom123 · 15/07/2015 08:21

So I went to my gp yesterday to tell them if I could have an early scan (6 weeks today) given the history of miscarriages I have (2), and she kept saying I don't need one, 2 miscarriages is normal, really? has anyone had this before? just want to put my mind at ease :(

maybebabybee · 15/07/2015 08:45

rosie that is pretty sensitive of your GP but sadly she's not incorrect, 2 miscarriages in a row is not unusual and doesn't generally mean something is wrong. my mum's best friend had 5 miscarriages in a row before her 2 healthy pregnancies - they did all the tests and there was nothing wrong with her at all, it just sometimes happens.

I'm sure yours will be fine this time but I'm just trying to explain why the GP said that. That being said I think she should have offered you an early reassurance scan - that is what mine is doing as she knows I'm anxious due to my previous MC. If she really won't do it, could you afford to pay for a private early scan? Might be worth it to put your mind at rest.

maybebabybee · 15/07/2015 08:47

I told my boss already - I know that if I do end up having a MC this time I'll need to tell her anyway as I'll need the support. I told her previously and when I MC I was glad that I had.

Embolio · 15/07/2015 08:47

I think they don't usually investigate until after 3 miscarriages unfortunately. I think the NHS would be unlikely to do an early scan unless there was pain or bleeding, I'm sorry your GP was so unsympathetic Rosie. Have you thought of booking a private scan? Sounds like it would put your mind at rest a bit?

maybebabybee · 15/07/2015 08:54

Sorry I meant insensitive, not sensitive!!!

Rosieblossom123 · 15/07/2015 09:16

maybebabybee and Embolio thanks for your replies girlies, that's what I want to do but do you think it'll be early at six weeks to do a scan? It costs about £100 but it's worth it as I will hopefully reassure myself. She done an internal examination and urine test and said there is nothing that's worrying her at all and there is no bleeding but I kept explaining to her how terrified I am every day and driving myself mad with testing lol my midwife app (booking app) isn't until the 3rd August, feels like a long way to go still.

maybebabybee · 15/07/2015 09:21

rosie technically at 6 weeks they should be able to see something but if you can bear it I would hold out to 7 weeks as they're more likely to see a heartbeat then and once you've seen a HB the risk of MC goes down considerably.

I am in the same boat as you, I will be 7 weeks on the 26 July and will be trying to get myself an early scan ASAP after that. I did consider doing it next week when I'll be 6 weeks but I know that if a HB is not seen then I will freak out, probably unnecessarily as it will just be too early.

QforCucumber · 15/07/2015 09:38

I have my initial form filling appointment tomorrow morning - 5+3,

hoping all hopes that they'll let me have a reassurance scan at 8/9 weeks, lost the last one at 8 and know I'm going to be a paranoid wreck.

Fingers crossed.

Rosie our local private scan place do offer a 30 min full one for £100 or a 15 minute 'quick scan' like a reassurance one- for £39, maybe worth checking if you could get something similar just to put your mind at rest?

Indomitable I didn't think I'd done anything silly yet, until I came to work today and my colleague asked where some files were, and I'd put them in the kitchen on the shelf, no idea why, vaguely recall going in there with them too. oops.

Me624 · 15/07/2015 09:39

maybe I wish I had that sort of relationship with my boss! I am a lawyer and women going on maternity leave is widely considered to be a nuisance! There are plenty of women in my firm with children but I happen to work in an all-male team, the only other women are the secretaries who have grown up children. So there is just no precedent at all and I am soooo worried about telling them - my boss in particular hates babies, if someone else ever brings one in he starts huffing and puffing about the office not being an appropriate environment for babies Confused

maybebabybee · 15/07/2015 09:49

Me that is terrible, your boss sounds like a grumpy arsehole!

mine is completely fabulous, she gave me a big hug when I told her I was pregnant again and she keeps checking if I'm feeling ok and letting me go earlier to avoid rush hour...she's just great, I'll be sad not to see her every day when I go on mat leave to be honest.

Rosieblossom123 · 15/07/2015 09:59

maybebabybee yeah it'll be hard to wait another week but you're right, if I don't see a heartbeat I will freak out big time :( I'm 7 weeks on the 22nd July so I'll just wait until then I guess. keep me updated so will I if we do end up getting early scans

QforCucumber Yeah i'm gonna research and see what's available in my area, all I want is reassurance. It's hard when a lot is happening inside and you wanna be a bit nosy and make sure bub's okay haha

LaraNotCroft22 · 15/07/2015 10:00

I'm also worried about telling work! I've been there part time since oct/nov so not a huge amount of time. I have to wear a fitted dress as part of my uniform and sooo uncomfortable already! Swear you can see a bump! (Currently 7+1).

I'm having a private scan a week today, So may tell them after that when 9 weeks (I'm off next week).

Just hope they understand!

Hopefully for all of us worried it will be better than we think and we'll feel better when it's all out in the open. X

LaraNotCroft22 · 15/07/2015 10:01

Rosie, my scan is 22nd July. Fingers crossed for us both. X

Me624 · 15/07/2015 10:10

Lara I'm sure I've put on weight already too but our scales are broken so I can't check for sure! I've been steering clear of my very fitted dresses!

My boss is actually really nice in all other respects and I always feel like he has my back. DH is convinced I'm worrying about nothing and they'll be absolutely fine. I hope he's right!

Good luck for the early scans, mine is on the 25th.

dobbythedoggy · 15/07/2015 10:25

rosie before you decide if you want to go private for an early scan it might be worth having a look at images online of what you might see. At epau yesterday they'd have prefured to wait to scan and felt that the positive pregnancy test was a good enough sign to wait a week or two so long as there was no pain or more spotting. They did scan because I asked, but took lots of time to explain it was likely to be too early to see anything, but that wouldn't mean anything yet.

The lady who did the scan did actually laughed when she was able to find in the baby in a few seconds. There really wasn't much to see and I wouldn't know what I had been looking if I hadn't already looked at similar images.

I think you'd see much more if you can manage to wait a little longer. But only you know if you could cope with the uncertainty if a scan couldn't find a heart beat yet.

So sorry to hear your gp isn't very sympathetic. I've been lucky enough to only come across understanding doctors, two locums and my usual gp at my surgery. Any chance of being able to see someone else at the surgery if you're still so worried.

Rosieblossom123 · 15/07/2015 10:29

LaraNotCroft22 keep us updated, everything will be okay! How much are you paying for it if you don't mind me asking hun?

Me624 I actually told my boss yesterday he was shocked but really supportive afterwards and he said please let me know if you need time off or leave early. I was surprised from his reaction, I thought he would've been slightly disappointment that he's gonna have to find someone to replace me but I guess not haha

maybebabybee · 15/07/2015 10:33

good luck to all those having early scans!

I'm so jealous of everyone who is 7 weeks + - I'm only 5+3 and feeling like the next few weeks are going to go ridiculously slowly. I MC at 5+5 last time so am bricking it this week. I know I can't do anything. Just wish I had more pregnancy symptoms, they'd make me feel more reassured.

Rosieblossom123 · 15/07/2015 10:34

dobbythedoggy I will definitely try and wait as long as I can, I go away for my bday end July so I thought It'll be nice to get reassurance before I go away.

To be honest my gp she's not nasty she just said to me that there's no pain or bleeding so for me to take it easy and not worry and that 2 miscarriages are normal, but she didn't understand how much it would mean to mean to have reassurance that's all I want you know.

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