February 2016 babies - the chundering continues

[twinsandapenguin]

The thread has filled up!

Zeriously- sounds like it's not the same group, how disappointing!

I'm not sure that's what Isla meant (although she may correct me) I understood it to mean that there are concerns on both ttc threads and antenatal threads, just different ones. Mostly people keep the relevant concerns within the relevant thread. I think.

Purdie - you should plan some things over the weekend to keep your mind off worrying, it might help. I will keep my fingers crossed for all the scans

Hope the drugs help Purdie thinking of you with the scan fear.

It's a horrible vulnerable feeling. I've got to wait 2 weeks on Friday for my follow up one

isla and brummie i also feel quite upset as somebody who has commented on how terrified and anxious i am about things that could go wrong with the pregnancy. As a first timer with nobody to talk to (and not even a midwife yet) - you lot are my support, i dont want to feel guilty for asking for help incase i 'bring down the tone' for an entirely different group.

Id have though a ttc group would be a bit less judgmental tbh

Purdie it appears that they are reading THIS thread and then commenting on their TTC thread that we are all moaning and this is depressing them.

Afraid I'm going to confirm the May TTC notion of the thread

I've got a scan tomorrow morning at EPU as the infertility clinic thinks I'm over 6 weeks. They're wrong, there's no way I'm more than 5; more likely 4+4 (I'm going from ov, not LMP like they are) and I am shitting myself that they're going to tell me it's all gone wrong again, scan in another 10 days, another MMC. Symptoms aren't particularly strong, only vague nausea and slightly hurty boobs, but POAS line has only been getting darker. Talking sense into myself worked up to a point, now would appreciate some handholding please!

The first trimester is often referred to as the silent trimester. And its true. So having this group means a hell of a lot to me. Who else would I talk to about huge boobs, piles, spotting/bleeding and other such lark?!

Hand holding Monkerina ????
I'm with you, scared stiff, but I don't even have a midwife yet, so no one to ask. I had a MMC at Xmas and am scared stiff it will happen again. They say the baby stopped growing at 5 weeks but I didn't MC till 10+2!
My main fear is that I will get to the 12 week scan and there will be nothing there. Also not many symptoms, but my poas line is also darker
Still we have to get on with it don't we. I will be thinking of you tomorrow.dont get disheartened if you don't see anything tomorrow, might be a little early if your dates are right xx

Isla, what??!

I am totally with you AbFab on the rage. Kids and DH were driving my nutty last night and I could barely keep my cool. It's like I have really bad PMT!!!! I'm also really exhausted. It's my day off today and I would normally be out and about with DS2, shopping, cleaning etc. But I haven't left the sofa for most of the day...just been watching Tom and Jerry and DVDs. Can't seem to find any motivation for anything other than food or sleep.

Handholding monkerina and lilymog too

I hope all goes Ok at the scan tomorrow. Loads of people have successful pregnancies with minimal symptoms, we'll get there!

purdie yep....

I just had a cheese toastie to stop myself puking and now I can't stop crying.

Ffs. Must pull myself together before my mum arrives in half an hour to mind DS. I'm not going to tell her until after scan etc.

Mars I was sick with dd1 (girl) but not so far with this one so maybe it means I'm having a boy!

Birdbrain glad all went well with the appointment. Lucky you - only 4 more weeks of the 1st tri!

Good luck for the scan Purdie.

Thinking of you monk & hoping for a healthy & sticky little bean.

Sorry ladies- I was horribly ill with both my boys. My easiest pregnancy sickness wise by far was with my girl. Just to throw a spanner in the theory.

I wasn't sick with DD either. It was A LONG TIME AGO but I was living in London, doing temping work and going here, there and everywhere on the tube no bother at all.

I would not want to face going to a new office every few days now.

With DS I had to eat non-stop to keep nausea at bay.

I have just discovered ready salted hula hoops reduce nausea. Wonder if the NHS should do some research...

I agree with primarynoodle this is my first pregnancy and I have no idea what is right and what is wrong, you ladies are my support.
We are all going through this at the same time and its great to get advice off those who have been through this before.

We rock

Monk, bless you. Who says we won't have gloriously simply pregnancies after the horror of mmc? Don't let the demons tell you that you are broken: this pregnancy is a new egg with new sperm and a new womb lining. Everything is different. Believe

Isla and Purdie, it looks to me as though the ladies on the May thread are saying that the anxiety being shared on here (quite understandably, I'm bloody anxious myself) is making them feel more anxious themselves and they have had to come off this thread in order to not think about it too much.

For some people everyone sharing feelings will help them, but for other people it just increases their own feelings and it all becomes too much. I say if anyone wants to leave this board because of anxiety then that is fair enough. Different stokes for different folks (and all that). It doesn't read to me as though they are criticising anyone on here or saying anyone is "moaning"...

This is just my 10p worth... I'll shut up now...

Purdie, you made me cry Thanks v much for the handholding ladies- feeling slightly more sane now. Back to work!

Banana, yes, we must all be in a place that feels safe and not scary. I'm happy to share in the angst of other first-trimester preggos; it's just wilful hysteria that's unnecessary and unhelpful.

Purdie well said.

banana thank you. No one was being judgemental or moaning at all