Jan 2016 #4 - heading for the end of the 1st trimester with dating scans and wacky dreams

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What a nasty thing to say fish I appreciate it's a job to them and they see loads of women a day, but good grief engage brain before opening mouth!

We've had the awkward 'was it planned?' convos too. It was, but happened MUCH quicker than we thought it would (DS was the same so think we just assumed we couldn't get that lucky twice!) but, whatever, we're thrilled and very excited!

Had a lovely morning at the beach with DH and DD but shattered now. Also had to put on my pj bottoms and clothes are getting tight!

Some people seem to lose all sense of appropriatness around pregnant women. Last time a male colleague came up to me at the photocopier and put his hand on my bump - apart from the fact I was only 12 weeks and didn't have a bump, I was just a bit squishy. It was a very odd moment.

my baby was planned but because im only 22 ( 23 when due) i feel people will think i planned at the wrong time so i lie hey ho haha

Well I had my booking appointment this morning - lovely midwife, very friendly, and I felt thoroughly welcomed and taken care of (until she sent me to reception to book my next appointment, only for me to discover the building was literally deserted as the staff were all on lunch!).

Highlight of the appt: listing my (very distant) history of recreational drug use, feeling a bit embarrassed and apologising, and the midwife telling me never to apologise for anything I've done in life, or put up with being judged by anyone, because it's experience which makes a person. Almost made me cry at a very inappropriate moment!

Fish the Dr at the EPU told me that once a heartbeat has been registered, the mc rate drops to 2%, so not at all "extremely high", I don't think the doc you saw today was very well informed (or tactful)!

Oyster you dream! I have had a really bad day at work and your comment from this morning had made me smile again. Keep those gorgeous comments coming .

Valancy smt made me cry today. Can I come and work at your school? They sound much nicer.

i didn't realise they as them kind of questions at a midwife appt lily what else do they ask!? she's right though everyone is different no one can judge!

MissMartin that was the only question that leapt out at me - it's now embarrassing amusing me greatly to have my little list printed in my official record...

The rest of the questions were pretty much as expected, and they even let me lie down to have my blood taken as I've developed a weird fainting reaction to needles since meeting my complete wuss of a husband

They also asked me about recreational drug use!

omg im so nervous about the blood test... arghhhhh! i actually put off calling the midwife office to book my first appt as i don't want it

I definitely wasn't asked that. I did get asked however if I was a victim of FGM (I'm a white middle class Brit so not your classic profile...) and then if I was going to breast feed. In fact that was basically the first question which felt a little ahead of time at 9 weeks pregnant with my first baby! There is SO much overwhelming about pregnancy I want to talk about, not ready to think about the practicalities of actually having a baby to deal with yet!!!

I have my 12 week scan tomorrow, keep you fx!

Just tell them you're nervous MissMartin and they'll make sure you're comfortable - I have to say it's the least stressful one I've had in years because I let them know in advance I was likely to pass out or something else embarrassing

I guess as with all the other less pleasant things you'll have to go through over the next few months, remember it's all to make sure you and your baby are healthy at the end of the day.

Ooh good luck joey!

I had the FGM one too, and the midwife seemed slightly surprised that I didn't know where I want to give birth. I haven't really thought about it yet - I think I'm putting off any 'serious' plans until we have the 12 week scan as otherwise it feels a bit pre-emptive...

Still crying about my day at work. I hate this

Last time, I was asked if DP and I were related. And if DP is a carrier for sickle cell (again, white British!)

What happened with slt, b&w?

What's up B&W, what happened?

Bee- go on all fours and just draw your abs in and then release. Or feel like u are hugging the baby. That is perfect for pregnancy and all u need to do apart from pelvic floor.

So had my scan today all ok but got moved from 11+4 weeks to 12 weeks which is odd since I knew when I ovulated and got bfp 9 days later??? Also but anxious as the nt score was high. Have to wait for bloods but might have to consider harmony testing? Xxx

b&w are you ok?

Hope everyone is ok this eve :)

hope your okay B&W x

i know yeah lily I'll do what ever for the baby no matter how much of a softy i am.. I'll just faint then tell her to do it fast!

frozenfairy good news on the scan but sorry you're concerned about the NT measurement. Can I ask how high it was?

B&w hope you're OK. Do they know you're pg? They shouldn't be making you cry anyway (HA! Yeah right! Bitter ex teacher here!) but definitely shouldn't be putting you under undue stress during pregnancy!

So I had an interview today for HoD (bad timing! NB they don't know I'm pregnant). After a serious of ridiculous questions they brought up something inappropriate and when I pointed out how unprofessional and inappropriate they were being, they insisted, until they made me cry. Not just pregnancy tears either, I spoke with a colleague after and they were horrified too.

Wish I could just walk out, but can't. But it's made up my mind that after ml is over I will be actively looking for another job. I've never been made to cry in a job interview before.

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aww black thats horrible! dont let the nasty fuckers get to you they dont deserve ur tears.. put ur feet up and have a relax x